I am Male and I love to read Books and watch film and tv about rance and occasionally fantasize about finding love. My question is am I a wuss for liking romance as a genre?
So I've been living with my roommate/friend for like half a year. I think I'm a decent enough roommate (I clean up after myself, help out, blah blah blah). Anyway I was making dinner for us. She chopped up the pasta sauce ingredients and I made the sauce and pasta. So basically I used too much pasta for the amount of sauce I had. Honest mistake I think (tell me if I'm wrong please!). She got frustrated and lashes out. Essentially calling into question me as a man and as a cook. bottom line was I got hurt and ended up crying. Now this worries me for a few reasons. The last time I was too sensitive about being insulted was around the time I had a breakdown. Basically it felt like my emotions were sunburned and any little negative comment pushed me over. Also those kinds of things attacking my manhood and pretty much anything negative about me has been a sort of depression mantra when I'm upset (lots of negative thoughts rolling out at once). My question is this: is it possible I'm too easily triggered? Or maybe the particular subject matter was a significant trigger? Or maybe am I just a wuss and therefore not much of a man?
So, after waiting 20 years, I've decided it's finally time to dive in here. Visited the shop today. Will likely book my appointment for this weekend. Before anyone offers unsolicited advice, I'm trusting the opinion of the professionals at the very highly regarded studio. With that said, the piercer said he'd be totally comfortable starting me at 4g, so that will very likely be what I do. I'm also planning for glass plugs over steel.
There's not much info online about the pain / healing process, so I figured I'd ask here for 2 main reasons. 1. I'm a nervous scaredy cat and 2. I hope this post will be useful to others in a similar situation in the future.
I've never had any piercing before, but i have been tattooed on non-sensitive areas. I know they say that the anticipation is the worst part, which I believe, but that doesn't do much to ease my anxiety about showing up. Generally, I get the impression that the initial lobe piercing, regardless of size, is basically the same and really not a big deal, maybe kinda pinchy but your last tetanus shot was probably many times worse. However, knowing that it's going to hurt like a bitch is fine with me, too. I'd just like to know something, ya know?
Can anyone with larger initial lobe piercing(s) share their experience? Did it hurt? If so, how bad? After the initial poke wears off, what are the next few days / weeks like? A friend told me the worst part is actually adjusting to the weight. Any validity to that?
Thanks in advance 🙏
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Adding to this to maybe help other people in the future.
Went ahead and got pierced at 6g with an immediate stretch to 4g. The initial pierce wasn't not painful, but not bad at all. I personally didn't feel any of the "sharp" stabby sort of pain you might expect, but it was more of a chunky pressure with minor stinging. Would say it's on the scale of an annoying bug bite that gets your attention for a second but you can quickly forget about, the kind of bug bite that would grab your attention during a conversation enough for others to ask but for you to quickly shrug off as a stupid fucking fly bite and move on. Placing the jewelry hurt more, due to the stretch (I imagine getting jewelry placed at the same gauge as the piercing wouldn't hurt at all). But again, not bad just a little more annoying than the first poke. This was a stretching / stinging / pressure kind of pain, and after the first instant dulled quite a bit but remains to a minor degree now hours late
... keep reading on reddit ➡So when I first tried on an Oculus in Best Buy, they set me up with the Unforgiven (or some magic game.) I played for five minutes, then a (tutorial) lady appeared within two feet of me, I shrieked, and pulled the headset off. I went back later, and stuck it through that and a giant flaming three-headed snake that spewed fireballs at me. I was terrified and badass all at once, and it was exhilirating.
Now? I can't manage it. Blocky wolves run up to me in Skyrim and I immediately log out. GLADOS takes a look at me in The Lab and I shut my eyes and cower on the floor. I own Half-Life Alyx out of solidarity to Valve and the advancement of VR, but I haven't dared to even start it up. I bought Pistol Whip last week, just started it, and made it through half a mission before guys were popping up in my personal area and I freaked out.
It seems to be mostly proximity or size that freaks me out. I can deal with lots of stuff so long as it stays outside a two-foot radius. I can deal with the monsters in Rec Room, but then they're pretty obviously fake (and I think it took me a while to get used to them too.) I think it also contributes that I live alone and play VR alone, and am worried about getting terrified and bolting on instinct.
Any tips? It's really hampering my ability to enjoy games. I realize I probably just need to suck it up and tough out feeling uncomfortable, but I'd take any advice.
In this text for horror games I'll refer to horror games with little input from the player and where most of the gameplay is running from enemies (SOMA, Observer, Layers of Fear, Outlast). Games like Dead Space, Resident Evil, etc, have action at its core, and would lose a lot if a safe mode was inserted.
In my experience, I've come to play a lot of horror games because of the story or aesthetics, only to find that I can't appreciate neither of these because I constantly have to be hiding from something. I was replaying Observer the other day, and I was loving it: the ambience, the music, the little stories, the plot, everything was great. Until I had to hide and wait for an enemy to roam past me so I can continue with the story. 5 times. I get it that, in most instances, these games want to make you feel vulnerable as part of the story, which is fine as long as narrative goes. However, when you are not there for that kind of experience, it just becomes a chore to play.
I did beat SOMA when it came out in its normal mode. I thought it was amazing. However, upon replaying it some months ago, I turned on the "safe mode" so I could play with a friend and enjoy the story together. We became very invested, exploring the levels and piecing together what happened and whatnot in the game through environmental storytelling and other stuff like notes and logs. It was a phenomenal experience. The thing is, the developers added this feature because the most downloaded mod for the game was the wuss mode, that disabled encounters, so developers know there is a big portion of people who don't want to play hide and seek.
Then, as I said earlier, upon replaying Observer, everything was alright until those bits where you need to hide. They just become an obstacle in the way of the story in my opinion, and could very well be bypassed and replaced by some other script to tell the player "you are in danger", and not much would be lost in the translation.
Because most horror games rely on a heavy narrative and often don't ask the player to learn complex mechanics, why don't have a mode that ditches these segments and fail states all together and let the player enjoy only the stuff they like, which usually is the story and aesthetics? I don't think it would be a difficult feat (just disable AI or stop enemies from targeting the player) and it would open these games to people who just want to experience a story and not be actively hunted down.
Do you agree? Do you think some
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Am I a wuss for saving before battles and missions? Is this the kind of game where you die and do multiple play throughs? Or do you save allot and work it like an RPG?
Once Denozo is gone, they really cranked up the tears and whining from McGee. Can't imagine Gibbs putting up with his crying so often.
The writing and acting got so much worse for his character. I guess trying to counter balance the alpha males, so he is the little beta.
am bored and dont rlly talk to anyone atm obv am les lol, go by they/them 😽 am 16 I like anime/manga, art, cats, girls 💕, music, wtv hmu if u wanna chill pm for snap ig ^~^ (btw no one younger plz i prefer same age or older)
If you're like me you're probably sick of hearing about self-improvement 'life hacks' like morning routines, intermittent fasting, journaling and the like. While I can’t speak for the validity of these things, I can tell you that cold showers actually work. Because they have significantly changed my life.
