Work

My girlfriend and I both work in tech, she's a safety validator for software, working at a consulting firm, and I'm doing network infrastructure support.

When we both worked in different offices I didn't know much about her day to day life at work.

I knew she made a lot more than me, 120k to my 66k, and she credits a lot of that to job hopping, she's 25 and has had three full time jobs since college. I've been at one place since college.

But since we've been working from home, I've seen a lot of her daily schedule. And hers versus mine are really different.

She gets up at 9:15 to drag herself into the home office for her 9:30-10 daily meeting.

After the meeting she goes and showers and has breakfast from about 10 to 10:45, answering a few slack messages and emails on her phone but mostly just listening to podcasts and eating and doing her morning routine.

Then she works till noon, and takes a lunch break from noon till 1. Then she works from 1 to 4, often having meetings or working on her own stuff. And at 4 will spend an hour or so doing household chores and stuff while keeping an eye on her phone to answer emails.

And outside of 9 to 5 she blocks work related messages from her phone.

So basically she actually works about 4 and a half hours daily, and does her own thing for about 2 hours, just paying enough attention to reply to emails that come in.

I basically work nonstop 8:30 to 5 or 6 pm, working 8.5 to 9.5 hours a day. I don't take breaks in the workday to shower or eat breakfast and lunch or do household chores.

And a few weeks ago I got kinda frustrated with her for basically hardly doing anything for her job at all. And that they were overpaying her if she was spending half the day slacking.

She got frustrated with me and said that they hired her for her knowledge and it wasn't my place to say what her time was worth, that if her boss and ceo saw the work she produced and chose to pay her what they chose to pay her that it wasn't my place to undervalue her because i was being jealous. And that she picked her job instead of one that might pay better because she wanted a good work life balance, she was sick of wasting her life away at work that was a lot more demanding.

I said that she was being a little privileged, not a lot of people can just choose to make six figures and wander off from work for practically half the day, and that all I was saying was that she was working half as hard as a lot of people who earn a lot less.

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Staying up late feeling like you got all the time in the world the night before a day off is 10x better than the actual day off where you need to be asleep by a certain time to get up for work the next day

I am a 25 year old woman and my roommate is a 30 year old man. Were just roommates, he's not really a friend. He found out a few months ago that he has a 7 year old child with a woman he had a one night stand with years ago.

He has partial custody and I was planning on moving out when the lease is up in April because I didn't really want to be living with a parent or family, I had been looking for a roommate who's a quiet young professional because I work from home 3 days a week and like a quiet space.

Yesterday, my roommate asked over text if I would be home today. I said yes. He asked, could look after his daughter today. I said no, I had work. He said that I wouldn't have to do much, his daughter was pretty independent and I wouldn't have to take time away from work. Just be there in case she needs anything. I said that I didn't really want to split my attention. He said that she wouldn't need hardly any attention, and I dropped it there because I didn't want to argue.

So I thought that was resolved, I thought he realized I'd declined.

This morning, I was expecting to work from home but I got an urgent call from the office, they needed me there ASAP. So I grabbed my laptop and ran out the door without stopping for anything, didn't stop for breakfast or even a shower.

I saw his daughter in the living room watching TV and I didn't see my roommate there but I didn't think anything of it. He spends a lot of time in his bedroom so I wasn't surprised to not see him there. Honestly it barely registered because I was stressed and preoccupied with the thing going wrong at work.

I went to the office for the morning and my co-workers and I resolved the issue in time for everyone to head home for lunch. And when I got home, my roommate was there and he was mad, saying I had told him I'd be home all day and then he comes back and I'm out and I've left his daughter home alone after he asked me to look after her.

I was baffled and said that I'd said I couldn't babysit. He said that he thought we established that I wouldn't need to babysit, just be present just in case.

I said I didn't agree to that and I had not tried to lie to him, I had to go to work urgently because something unexpected went wrong.

He was mad at me for being so "head in the clouds" for seeing a little kid alone when I'd already knew she might be home alone, and he'd already asked me to just be there in the apartment, and just running out the door.

I said I had enough going on I didn'

Hey folks. I'm trying to scratch that Gran Turismo 3 itch. So far i've tried Forza Motorsport 7, but it's not the right stuff. You start out with sick cars there, instead of working your way up, and it's not what i'm looking for.

Anyone have any suggestions for progression based driving / racing games? I'm not looking for super realism, i'm only looking for progression stuff.

The List:

• Emulate Gt3 / Gt4 / Gt 5
• FlatOut 1/2 / Ultimate Carnage.
• NFS Most Wanted (2006).
• NFS Underground.
• Grid 1, maybe 2.
• Dirt games - potentially.
• Project Cars 3 - potentially
• Burnout games.
• Midnight Club LA ( Emulator. Was so good).
• Blur (Ps3)
• Test Drive unlimited 2.
• Test Drive Unlimited 1 - with Project Paradise Mod
• Car Mechanic Simulator
• Gas Guzzlers Extreme ( Steam)

Games that didn't fit ( from my experience):

• Forza Motorsport 7 - You get handed sick cars from the beginning so it skips progression
• Forza Horizon 4. - Same as FM7, you get handed the cars after every second race, skipping progression.

The fact that there are franchise that have a salary cap, the fact that there is playoff, the fact that when you'r team is bad you can usually expect better because you'll have high draft choice, is really really awesome compared to how pro sports works in Europe.

For us, there is only the financiary power of the teams that makes you competitive or not. Not decision making, not smart move on transfert market (maybe in a little extend). For instance, if your city dont care about soccer/basketball, you'll never ever be competitive in any way. In my country (France) the PSG is winning and going to win the championship every single year because they have more money. I know there is small markets that are not as competitive as big markets and there are difference of power but it feels like with smart management, every team could win the Superbowl. So now I barely watch any soccer but i'm every sunday night watching NFL because not only the sport is awesome in itself but because that I really enjoy the mechanics of US sport in general.

Thanks guys.

Edit : A big thanks for the awards ! I posted this before going to a trip in the forest and when i'm back there is 700 comments, you guys are crazy !

You are a number in an equation. If they need to balance the equation they will remove your number.
I am posting this based on the number of people I see who buy into "corporate spirit/culture". You should always keep your options open for a better opportunity and don't NOT take it because of misplaced loyalty.

So I just spent the last two and a half months working for a company as seasonal labor. Customer service during the busy time of the year. Over the past couple months all 13 people who were hired as seasonal have been told that 3 full-time positions would be given out to those with the best performance.

Now that the the date for our temporary position is two days away they have sent emails to people informing them of whether or not they received a position. the email stated that there was only a limited number of full-time positions and unfortunately you were not the one chosen.. As if they thought we would not talk amongst ourselves we found out that all 13 people were told the same thing.

In other words there were no full-time positions.

One person in our group was the smart one. When they got hired on they asked to see details of pay, benefits and the likely schedule of the potential full-time position. The job recruiter could not provide this at all. She said that they dodged this question multiple times and she knew right then and there that there would be no full-time positions given to anyone. Because the position did not exist.

So from now on when I get hired on a temporary basis with an expectation that it can lead to a full-time position I will be asking for the details of that potential job and you should too.