This whole saga started because my husband took my last name. A couple weeks ago he got his workplace to change it, and his coworkers found out. About half of them think this is the funniest thing ever and about half are deeply offended. Brenda is in the offended half, and has made that clear.
He and I are in a group chat with his coworkers where we organize carpooling during the pandemic. It is very helpful to us, so we can't leave the chat. Since he changed his name, my husband and I have been dealing with a lot of dumb jokes in the chat, which we have been mostly ignoring.
Yesterday Brenda, his coworker and I got into a bit of a spat. I messaged the group asking if someone could take my husband home since I wouldn't be back from work until late and needed the car. One of his other coworkers agreed, and I thought that was that.
Brenda messages the group saying "maybe if you spent less time at work and more time being a wife, your husband wouldn't come into work with dirty shirt... keep reading on reddit ➡
For context I’m a black woman and my husband is white. I have 4c hair and I wrap my hair in a satin scarf to go to bed. For those of you who don’t know what that means, basically my hair curl pattern is really tightly coiled so my hair texture is kinky and easily tangled and easily breakable if not taken care of well.
I used to sleep on a satin pillowcase when my hair was shorter and had a lower chance of tangling while I tossed and turned in my sleep. But recently I’ve added oils to my nightly routine and since my hair is a bit pass my shoulders now, the chances of it tangling are higher and I don’t want my pillowcases to get soaked with oils so I started wrapping my hair up again.
First night I wore it my husband said that I looked like a slave which- ok was a little bit funny and a little bit true in my scarf and nightgown combo so I let him have that one. But since then, it’s the little comments when I get into bed. Like “are we doing the slave tonight?” Or “should I help you i... keep reading on reddit ➡
Sometimes it’s just exhausting to be a woman
I (22F) recently started to DoorDash in order to earn a little extra cash. I figured it was an easy way to set my own hours, and hey I love driving around in the evenings so why not get paid for it?
So earlier this evening I pull up to a pizza place, cut the engine, and then hear a voice calling “Hi!”. After glancing over I see a man sitting in his car two spaces over, windows down, waving enthusiastically. I shrug it off, give a polite nod and head directly inside keeping my eyes down on my phone.
As I pass his car I hear him call out “woah!” and feel him staring at me as I quickly slide into the safety of the tiny pizza place. At this point I’m mildly uncomfortable, but it’s not like having strange men call things to women is anything new. I tell the teenaged employees the name on the order and stand off the the side to wait on the food.
Then his headlights turn off... and then back on. Off, then on. Then his brights, back to normal... keep reading on reddit ➡
I was born blind with Lebers Congenital Amaurosis, a rare inherited form of blindness. I've travelled fairly extensively, including living in Spain, Colombia and the United States (I'm from the UK).
For proof here's my social media Twitter: http://twitter.com/catchthesewords YouTube: http://youtube.com/c/catchthesewords
More information about me for proof: https://www.linkedin.com/in/holly-scott-gardner-84194011a/?originalSubdomain=uk
Yes blind people can use computers.
I see a lot of posts on Reddit of people whom have gone through traumatic experiences in their lives; be it war, rape, suicide, depression, that sort of stuff.
Usually, 50% of a comment thread consists of 'man up' and 'X can't happen to men!'. It's annoying as all hell, and yeeah often those comments do get downvoted, but not enough to send them straight to the bottom of the list.
EDIT: Holy shit this blew up.
EDIT NO. 2: As said by u/Zap__Dannigan:
> Context is important, which it seems many people don't understand.
>If I say "Man up" to my buddy who is trying to talk to me about his emotional needs, that's pretty shitty of me and is perpetuating a harmful stereotype.
>If I saw "man up" to my buddy working up the courage to go on a roller coaster or ask out a girl he's interested in, it's just harmless chat that means "be brave right now".
Couldn't of said it better. The first is what I am meaning by 'man up' here.
I'm part of a Facebook group which is exclusively for women. Topics are financial stability, investing into funds, stocks, but also taking care of your own financial situation. Today I read a post there. It was by a group of women who lamented that lots of advice in that forum is for a very "privileged group" only. Naming: young women who are working full-time and have no kids. Not having kids is not a "privilege". It's a decision I made for myself. I wrote a comment and I'm getting attacked by the breeders.
Not having kids is not a privilege I was born with, like being white. It's a simple matter of using birth control and being responsible. I can't take this bullshit of "oh yeah you don't have kids, you are so lucky" - well it's very easy! Getting pregnant and carrying a pregnancy to terms is an active decision. If you choose differently, please stop saying that I am lucky and such a privileged person because of a conscious decision literally everyone is able to make.
Edit: holy... keep reading on reddit ➡
“Thank you honey,” she says, “Is there anything I can bring back for you?”
He laughs, and says, “An Italian girl!”
When the conference is over, he meets her up at the airport and asks, “How was the trip?”
“Very good,” she replies.
“And what happened to my present?”
“Which present?” she asks.
“The one I asked for - an Italian girl!”
“Oh, that. I did what I could. We’ll just have to wait 9 months to see if it’s a girl.”
Seeing so many people supporting things like Cardi B + Megan Thee Stallion's new song like its so cool and edgy. It's not. It's not art. It's an insult to artists. It's not interesting. It's not cute when men do it either. It's just, gross.
Before the whining about "mansplaining" begins, I'm a woman, so don't waste your nail polish.
I hear too often how women "can't tell him" various things bothering her, because "he has a fragile ego." No, you can't tell him these things because you're attacking him and being hateful when you tell him.
You also can't tell him things because you only tell him negative things. You're ungrateful.
If you tell a man, "I like it when a guy gives me chocolates," he'll probably give you chocolates. If you snap at him that maybe you'd forgive him if his lazy ass got up off of the couch and got you some chocolates... You're likely to get only a big argument.
If he gets you the wrong kind of chocolates, and you tell him so with all the fury in your rotten little soul, you're to blame when you get no more chocolates.
If you tell him how much you appreciate how hard he tried, and actually, you know, appreciate that he DID try... And then say that your favorites are X type, but you will enjoy the... keep reading on reddit ➡
The woman asked the doctor about her baby.
Doctor: You had twins, a boy and a girl. They're both fine. And, you're brother named them for you.
Woman: No No No! Not my brother. He's an idiot! What did he name the girl?
Woman: Ohh, that's actually a nice name. What about the boy?
Doctor: deeply sighs Denephew.
Post in question is here
If physically going to someone's home, pointing lasers at the eyes, insulting and many other things is what justice has become, I may reconsider what being a good person or being right is.
Yes, that person is despicable and deserves as much hate as anyone else, but gathering a group to assault her home and attack her is absolutely despicable too.
She was not confronted, she was attacked. If you think doing this will change someone's opinion, you're dead wrong.