I'm writing this post for a couple reasons:
First, let's define CHA. It's not necessarily being loud, extroverted, flirty, or the party face. CHA is how accurately you can control the social temperature around you. To help understand this, think about how WIS functions. Insight & Perception are about sensing actions & discerning true intentions. The social uses of WIS, in a sentence, are how accurately you can sense the social temperature around you.
WIS & CHA are two sides of one coin; WIS is the thermometer that tells you the temperature of the room, and CHA is the thermostat that lets you change it. If your thermometer is broken, you can't tell what's actually going on. If your thermostat is broken, you can't accurately change what's going on.
That said, let's look at some examples of CHA that defy stereotype a bit.
Extrovert with low CHA
This is the outgoing dude at parties who really sucks at telling stories. In D&D, imagine a rambunctious fighter asking a merchant for a discount. He fails, and the merchant decides to increase the price for wasting his time. The fighter was outgoing, and he did in fact change the social temperature of the situation...but not in the way he intended. Broken social thermostat.
Introvert with high CHA
This person sits back quietly while everyone argues, and when they finally speak, they sum up everything and resolve the situation in 2 sentences. Back to our merchant: The Bard, fed up watching the fighter making a fool of himself and really wanting to get back to practicing, pushes the fighter aside and whispers something in the merchant's ear. He goes pale, and he gives the party a discount. Social temperature accurately changed.
Note: the player doesn't have to say what the intimidating thing was! If they're not comfortable improvising, they can just say, "I whisper something intimidating into his ear." If the roll is successful, the DM can describe what the player says, just like they might describe a successful perception o... keep reading on reddit ➡
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Yes this post is just to blow my own horn but I’m proud for saying no :)
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