When someone's sharing something difficult that they're going through, so many people get this urge to "empathize" by replying with similar struggles of their own. This is one of the worst things you can do when someone is trying to get something off their chest to you.
Instead of talking about yourself, just listen to them. Make them feel heard. Ask questions and help them work through it themselves. More often than we realize, people just to need to feel validated and heard when they're going through something personally difficult.
Years ago, I suffered a great loss, and turned to one of my friends for emotional support. His immediate response was, "Oh man, I'm really sorry to hear that. Because I remember when I had a similar loss, it was really rough for me. And what I felt was... etc." My friend wasn't trying to be insensitive or rude, but it reminded me that many people accidentally do this when dealing with someone else's grief.
I felt that my problem that I was tryin... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve read that in early hunter-gatherer civilizations, people would work & sleep in shifts. Some were awake during the day, some at night, and some in between. This was to ensure the safety of the group, and likely to maximize productivity as well. This seems to be why humans have evolved to be either “morning larks” or “night owls”.
Since these traits still exist in humans, our societies should reflect this. Many people I know are total night owls, and find it very difficult to get out of bed & function at the hours that society demands. Yet they are full of creativity, energy & drive at night, firing on all cylinders & getting some fantastic work done. I believe that if society were to operate in shifts, many of these types of people would choose to work at night & sleep in during the day. There are some jobs that offer night shifts but there are not many, and there are basically no options for dining/shopping/activities/etc late at night.
If this system was p... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’d like to leave as much as possible for my wife without her accruing any debt. All the cards are in my name, and I’m in Ca if that makes a difference.
Feeling pretty hopeless right now. I’m a felon with no trade or degree. My jobs are limited to 10 dollar an hour factory jobs. I have a daughter and a few thousand saved up. I would get a second job but it’s hard enough even finding one. I sit here and think about all the expenses that are going to come as my daughter keeps growing and it just feels like I’ll never make it. Anybody have any tips/success stories? Thanks in advance
Edit: holy cow thank you everybody for the kind words and taking time out of your day to make somebody feel a lot better about themselves and stop that sinking feeling I’ve been having. A lot of these comments give me a lot of hope and some of these things I have wanted to do for so long but just didn’t think that I would be able to. Just hearing it from you guys is giving me the push I need to really start bettering myself thank you a million times over
Edit 2: I’m blown away by all the private messages and comments I mean to respond to every single one ‘it... keep reading on reddit ➡
If you are ready to get married to your partner, speak frankly and honestly with them about it BEFORE you start planning a proposal. Have a real discussion about your future together, the big items that affect a marriage(finances, family, kids, careers, etc) and decide if you are BOTH ready to get married to each other.
It’s a huge decision, and nobody should be put in the stressful position of having to decide in a single moment, or say No and hurt someone that they care about.
Once you know that they’re on board 100%, you can plan the most elaborate or intimate or special proposal surprise that you know your partner would want. You can purchase the ring and know it won’t be wasted. You can build up the tension for as long as you want until the big proposal day arrives and you both can enjoy it without anxiety or doubt.
The engagement should be planned so the proposal can be a surprise!
He goes on to say:
> Donating all salary? Money isn’t a issue, if you are a broke NBA player, that’s your own fault. No such amount of money is enough, and why is it an NBA player's responsibility to commit funds?
> Kyrie is stating that at this exact moment, the world is watching and we are forcing them to listen. Kap gave up everything to try and fight, Maya Moore continues to fight, but because the NBA is a leader in fan engagement, we should just return to work.
> The weird part about this is there's no clear cut path to justice, this formula has been tried and tested numerous times, mainly because the system was never made with us in mind. There will be decisions that will need to be made. NOBODY took a knee in the NBA for Kap...
> The system wants everyone to just fall in line no questions asked. Even think of all the companies that “pledged” or have given money, that have already established themselves after already profiting off of black culture. it’s like givin... keep reading on reddit ➡
Original Title was: 'I think the Karen meme being popular is really scary' but mods dont like that
For context: There was a post on PublicFreakout today with about 50k upvotes. I won't link it but it's pretty easy to find. It was a man stenciling a political message onto his retaining wall, and a couple interrupting him. You can go watch the video. Reading all the disparaging remarks got me thinking.
Here's my problem: That video really wasn't that bad. The lady behaved quite politely. If the person recording the video had simply said "Yes I own this house" it would have been fine. And from what any of us can see, this wasn't a ra ce issue. He wasn't black. She clearly stated it wasn't because of the stencil. But the child army that is reddit descends upon these kinds of videos and loves to make jokes at the expense of the woman.
These sorts of videos and the comments to those videos can really, genuinely, ruin someones life. At the very least, it will affect their mental healt... keep reading on reddit ➡
Some people come on this sub with strange ideas about cyberpunk genres, they blaming artists and writers of sexism and other stuff: Now, if you're accusing Cyberpunk of discriminations, sexism etc well..
YOU'RE IN THE WRONG PLACE OF REDDIT.
Cyberpunk is dystopia, Cyberpunk is dark, Cyberpunk is about drugs, bad words, gangs, rapes, discriminations, slavery, sold bodies, terrible technology, awful corporations, no respect for human life for bodies and for nature. Cyberpunk background is made of a dark polluted big city life full of rats and homeless people where only the stronger and richer can survive
If you don't understand the importance of this fictional sci fi and how is showing us a possible negative future please go away this isn't the right place for you because we don't like to see our favourite sci fi genre destroyed by bigotry, thanks.
I (26M) have been with my wife (25F) for 8 years and married for 3. We are both on the same boat that we want to start a family soon.
My wife is extremely beautiful. She in on another level of beauty its surreal. She once opened up to me about how she feels her only worth comes from her beauty as that's all people see her as, so she is very scared of becoming unattractive to me and in general. I, of course, did not marry her for her beauty. She has a lovely heart and soul and I would be with her if no matter how she looked.
We were discussing pregnancy and she told me she wants to get a surrogate. I was suprised and asked why, but she got defensive and wouldn't tell me why. I asked if there was a medical problem she was keeping from me, and she didn't say anything. I got concerned and said maybe we should go to the hospital to see if her body's fit to carry a baby. She said that wasn't necessary and went to bed, near tears.
I was so confused. My wife and her sister are very close an... keep reading on reddit ➡