My girlfriend has always had a hot streak in her for social issues. Normally this doesn't bother me at all, I agree with her on most issues.
Yesterday we got into a fight because she saw an article about police violence and how it was mostly perpetrated by men. She said that men were "failed abortions" and we wouldn't have these problems if they were born women. I took offense to that and we ended up in an argument where she said that she clearly didn't mean all men and said I was being oversensitive. I felt like it definitely crossed a line, and it hit particularly hard because I've had some questioning of my gender identity and haven't always wanted to have been born a man (I've been open with her about this and she's usually supportive).
The argument simmered down after a day or so and now she's trying to walk the statement back and be apologetic for it. I'm having a really difficult time getting it out of my head and I'm not sure what to do.
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Sorry to have been a while with this, it's been a bit crazy here but here's the update. It's long but there's tl:dr; at the end.
We left off while she was trying to apologize to me about the statement she made about saying all men were failed abortions. One of you commented something that really stuck out to me - that if she was apologizing at me it was a lot different than apologizing to me.
Luckily it seemed that she was trying to apologize to me. I had told her I needed some space so when I came back I kind of interrupted her apology and said I needed to say some stuff. I was pretty honest and brutal with her.
I said that it really hurt to hear what she had said. That it was really difficult to process someone who tries to promote equality in their life making what I felt was a hateful and unnecessary blanketed statement. I spent a lot... keep reading on reddit ➡
About three years ago my dad was injured in a really bad hit and run car accident. He broke just about every bone in his body, and left him paralysed from the waist down. Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfortable.
In November I’m getting married. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and he and my dad get on really well. Naturally the discussion of who was going to give me away came up in the family group chat, and I kept silent after I realised my dad would be in a wheelchair. We always talked about him giving me away and having a dance at my wedding and I don’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been at my wedding. I messaged my mom privately and told her I want my uncle to walk me down the aisle as we’re incredibly close.
She naturally asked why and I told her that my dad being in a wheelchair would add complications to the wedding. The walkway would have to be widene... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am sick and tired of the horror stories I hear of men and women trapped in crappy relationships and friendships, too afraid to speak out and defend themselves because the other person is severely depressed and “too fragile” for criticism. But then that same person will be treating the people around them like absolute shit on a daily basis, then playing the victim when confronted.
People who do this and outright refuse help, do not deserve your time and effort because they have chosen to be a martyr. All they will do is drag you down like an energy vampire and you do not need that kind of negativity in your life.
He sits down and orders a beer, and asks the bartender "what's the deal with the steaks?"
"It's a competition. If you can jump up and slap both steaks at the same time, one with each hand, you win the bar. If you try and fail, though, you pay for everyone's drinks for the rest of the night"
The man sits and thinks it over, and a couple minutes later the bartender asks if he wants to have a go.
"Nah, the steaks are too high"
An infinite number of mathematicians walk into a bar
The first mathematician orders a beer
The second orders half a beer
"I don't serve half-beers" the bartender replies
"Excuse me?" Asks mathematician #2
"What kind of bar serves half-beers?" The bartender remarks. "That's ridiculous."
"Oh c'mon" says mathematician #1 "do you know how hard it is to collect an infinite number of us? Just play along"
"There are very strict laws on how I can serve drinks. I couldn't serve you half a beer even if I wanted to."
"But that's not a problem" mathematician #3 chimes in "at the end of the joke you serve us a whole number of beers. You see, when you take the sum of a continuously halving function-"
"I know how limits work" interjects the bartender "Oh, alright then. I didn't want to assume a bartender would be familiar with such advanced mathematics"
"Are you kidding me?" The bartender replies, "you learn limits in like, 9th grade! What kind of mathematician thinks limits are... keep reading on reddit ➡