We’ve decided that if you’re unvaccinated, you’re free to come visit with a mask on indoors or we stay outdoors— still socially distancing. If you want to hold my LO, then we are waiting til he’s 3 months (he’s 6weeks now) and you still have to wear a mask. I feel so bad saying this to any friends/fam who isn’t vaccinated (there’s only a small handful). I cringe when i type the text bc after all, these are ppl i am close with. But then i realized, they should be the ones embarrassed to not be vaccinated. They’re the ones who seem dumb right now, everyone where we live are vaccinated. It’s not unpopular where we are. Why should I feel an ounce of discomfort? Why do I feel sad? Why do I resent them for putting me in this situation where i have to make them feel like they’re a danger or a threat? Anyway. That’s just me and my underdeveloped boundary setting skills. This is going to take practice. Lol.
EDIT: wow didn’t realize this post would have this much activity. Ultimately, for whatever reasons i feel that those who are vaxxed are safer to be around than not, ppl here don’t need to feel offended bc idc about your/the general public’s decision to vax or not. I’m personally targeting my friends and fam, which i can do since they’re in my life, and impact my happiness. I think they’re crazy, they think I’m crazy. So I’ll leave it at that vs responding to those who want to discuss facts or whatever about how my boundaries/masks/vaxxes don’t make sense to you. This is a parenting thread not a covid vax thread
Especially if the kid doesn't really know the person visiting.
It's awkward as fuck. They always ask stupid questions that make the kid uncumfortable and if they have kids over, then the kid is forced to play with the visitor kids and bring them into their room and then the visitor kids want to play with the kid's stuff and if the kid doesn't let them play with their stuff then the visitor kids go crying to their mom about it and when they do play with the kid's stuff they end up breaking something.
My mother-in-law bought plane tickets for her and her husband to come visit us after the baby is born without running the dates past me before the purchase. Come to find out she is planning to be here two weeks after our estimated due date. Then invited niece and nephew on trip to visit too (ages 12-15) without asking me if that would be okay.
Love the family and want to see them, but they are planning to stay with us in our house (1,000 square feet and only one bathroom). I'm stressed about sharing such a small space with six people while also trying to bond and learn about our newborn (first baby) and recover from birth. Not looking forward to being confined to bedroom for breastfeeding and waiting for people to take turns using the bathroom. Husband is dismissive of my feelings on this matter and telling me "don't worry" and "we will have to figure it out" / then goes back to scrolling on his phone. To my knowledge, he does not think this is going to be an issue at all and has not talked with his mom about it.
I wish she asked if I was comfortable with those dates and the whole group coming before up and buying plane tickets. Would be so much better if they were visiting a month later when we had a routine in place or at least staying in an Airbnb so I could have some space/privacy during what I anticipate to be a potentially stressful first couple weeks.
Am I being selfish or overreacting? Or does this situation sound as miserable as I think it will be?
Neighbor is a Winnipeg cop and he and his Family have not been following the rules. They have not been great neighbors to us but feel if I call them in I will be harassed. What are my options?