I originally posted this as a comment on another thread, but realized it needed its own limelight.

I worked at a company that gave out exorbitant amounts of vacation. Anyone who worked there for 25+ years received 8 weeks of vacation and 2 weeks of personal time. This was a family owned company, but rather large. We ran 3 shifts totaling 250+ people.

Enter Jimmy. Jimmy was a grissled old man, he started at the company when he was just 20, now he was 63 and gave absolutely zero shits. Jimmy also knew how to make a specific part for our product, him and one other higher up in the office.

One day the plant owner comes out and announces he's selling to a corporation. He's older and ready to retire, he promises that there will be very little change and wishes us all well.

The new company comes in and immediately goes after many of the great benefits we had. The first thing they do is cut everyone's max vacation down to 4 weeks, and do completely away with personal time. Anyone who's maxed out had until December 31st of that year to use it up, and they wouldn't pay it out. They then go into the office and clean house, firing anyone who's close to retirement. Including Jimmy's back up.

But they also do away with one very important rule. You no longer have to get vacation approved, you can just call in and take it.

Jimmy is pissed, and they know it. They realize he's the only one in the building that can do his job now. So they hire a new kid for him to train, most likely to permanently replace Jimmy. So Jimmy does what anyone would do. He calls in the first training day for the new hire, and lets us know he's going to use all of his PTO at once, and promptly takes 10 weeks off.

We had a back stock of parts he had made, so it wasn't too unnerving. But for 10 weeks, Jimmy went and applied to other jobs, found one, and started.

Fast forward 10 weeks, Its the day Jimmy is supposed to return. He doesn't. For two days they try calling him, and even go to his house. He's nowhere to be found. Finally on day three he calls and resigns, and they lose their shit. The parts he makes are specialized and patented by the original founder, you can't just hire someone off the street to make them. What eventually happened was they had to contract the original owner to come in a teach some new hires how to make them, and when he found out what all they had done it pissed him off. The last I heard he charged them a 7 figure contract to teach them how to produce the pa

As per the title. I hear a lot of people going through the loss of a pet and not being able to take a vacation for a few days so they can properly grief.

You spend years of your life with your pets, they're closer to you than most family members and still, some bosses would not give a vacation for the fact that "The death of your pet is not an important enough event for which you would not be able to work."

I know for certain that when and hopefully not soon my dog will die, I would be devastated. Going to work would be the last thing I would like to do in that case.

Edit: Thank you for all the awards!

Also, there's a ton of people talking about pets that die quickly. Nothing stops you from buying 50 hamsters. But this applies more to pets that you actually share a bond with, small rodents have a rather quick lifespan and is not as devastating as losing a dog, cat, rabbits, reptiles and other pets that are for years by your side.

I spent a lot of money on an all inclusive luxury 10 day vacation to Grenada. We have a small villa with a butler, a private pool and hot tub. It’s for my husband’s 28th birthday and I spent over a year waiting for it and we leave in two weeks. Anyway, my breeder cousin (26f like me, with 2 kids by her loser high-school boyfriend) called me “absolutely disgusting spending that much on a trip” and “you’ve changed since the book and movie deals...you’re not the girl I used to know.”

Mind you I only told her this because she asked me to watch her kids and I told her I’d be out of town. She asked where and I told her, then SHE asked how much that would cost and freaked when I told her. She said she could feed her kids for months with that kind of money. I told her I understand that but I made the decision not to have kids and to save my money wisely on a daily basis so I can afford to take extremely nice vacations twice a year.

I’m so tired of no one in my family being happy for me. Ever. Even though I don’t brag. They all have more kids than they can afford and little to no disposable income as a result, even the high earning ones.

So please childfree let me brag for just once.

I bought myself a 4 bedroom new construction home, with no help from anyone. And I’m going to Jamaica in Jan for 2 weeks and am dropping 14k on that. So I guess I’m going straight to hell 🤷🏽‍♀️

No one is happy for you when you’re 26, high earning, happily in love and child free. 🙁

I (23f) have been with my boyfriend (28m) for 4 years now. For context, these friends were friends with boyfriend for years before he met me. Over the years they have become my friends as well as we’re all part of the same circle now (about 14 people.) For obvious reasons, I’m not as close with them as my spouse is.

Now here’s where it all starts. Back in February 2019, my boyfriend and I decided to spend a weekend at Disneyland. It was originally going to be just us 2, but he had asked if I would be okay if he invited some friends (about 6 of the 14 people, of this 6, 4 were guys and 2 were women and they were girlfriends of 2 of the guys.) These 4 guys are my boyfriend’s closest friends in the group. I agreed since I thought that it would be fun, but I was wrong.

They (referring to the 4 guys) didn’t want to go on any rides, or see any of the shows. They only wanted to eat at the various Disney restaurants. To be frank, I don’t care much for eating theme park food as tasty as it may be. The food is overpriced and I just don’t feel comfortable eating so much fattening food. The other women in the group didn’t care much for the food either, but they sat along while their partners ate.

This would have been fine if they let my boyfriend and I go off and enjoy ourselves, but they guilted him into not leaving them behind “we want to ride x ride together.” I did not enjoy my Disney weekend very much. Fast forward to this past weekend, the original Disney 6 were at our place. My boyfriend brought up that we’re planning a little getaway near the end of summer.

One of the guys said he’d love to join us and the others followed. Before I could say “actually it’s just a couple getaway for the two of us” my boyfriend said “Sure! Sounds great!.” I paused, and then said to the group “To be honest, I would prefer if you all didn’t come.” My boyfriend’s closest friend asked why I didn’t want them to come and I said “I just think we have different holiday priorities. As evidenced by Disney.”

He then followed up with “Oh you didn’t have fun at Disney?” I said “No, being gluttonous is not how I want to spend a vacation. It’s okay if you do, but it’s clear we’re just not compatible to holiday anymore.” The rest of the night was awkward and quiet. After they left, my boyfriend said I was being a diva and out of line.

The usual, TL;DR at bottom, on mobile yada yada.

I am a social worker with a moderate sized nonprofit compared to the city we are in. We serve individuals with disabilities in a variety including on site and in the community.

About a year and a half ago, our exec director retired after 15ish years. They were an awesome person, but due to age and some health problems, had kind of checked out or running the organization. The new director came from a much larger for profit organization, and seemed to feel that money is king, and the only way to be respected is to be feared. She was a Monster in every sense of the word.

Now, being a nonprofit, our pay isn't fantastic, and the benefits aren't stellar, but the one thing they were good at was the vacation roll-over. We were allowed to keep 200 hours of roll-over, and while it took some time to build up, those of us that had been there a while tried keeping our hours somewhere around there (this is our vacation and sick time put together). New director decides that our entire vacation policy is too generous, and 1, cuts our accrual rate (I personally lost almost 2 full weeks a year), and the major kicker, tells us we can only keep 80 hours of roll-over.

Again, I get it, COVID hit us hard, everyone has to be expected to make some cuts somewhere, but see, the problem is, she told everyone this the first week of October, and we had to be down to 80 by January 1st. Anything over 80 just goes away. We tried negotiating, we tried offering alternatives, we asked for exemptions by a few months. She would absolutely not hear it, and finally said the next person who asked about our PTO policy would be walked out of the building. So, my coworkers and I came up with a plan.

Enter the compliance. I will admit, this only worked because the rest of our administration team felt the director was horrible, and Also lost their PTO time too. We All put in for vacation at the same time. Even those that really didn't need to because they were closer to 80 hours anyway. We literally had 85% of our staff off for weeks at a time. We worked it out amongst ourselves that we had just enough staff to ensure work was done to keep us compliant with the state, but anything above and beyond that ground to a halt. I also need to clarify that we are Not an emergency service, so the clients we serve did not lose our on essential supports.

Well, our board meeting comes around in December, and the new director has to try and explain why there wa

This is going to be in the same vein as a lot of other posts here, but it still sucks that it happened to me.

My vacation leave credits expire next month, so I requested 5 days off hoping to go home to my family and get some rest. Only 1 them got approved, and it's in the middle of the week. Reasoning being that we're short-staffed, as usual.

I suddenly had a very bad flare up of arthritis in the beginning of last week. I could barely sit up, and walking up the stairs to get to my workstation (I work at home) is out of the question. So I took a day off, and my boss said okay, that's fine, but we're going to have to cancel your vacation leave, since you're going to rest anyway.

It's not like I had any rest when I was writhing on my bed in pain. Spite empowered me and I managed to get to a hospital with the last of my strength (and my boyfriend's help) to get my fluids drained. I felt a lot better, but I was in so much pain in the beginning that my doctor seemed to take pity on me and gave me 5 days rest, and he told me to just contact him if I need more.

I was only planning to rest it out for a day or two more, but I ended up having a whole week (or more if I feel like it) to myself feeling much better. I was even able to go home. The best thing is that it's all paid since I also have plenty of sick leave credits left and there's nothing they can do about that.

I (24F) live in California while my sister (29F) lives overseas. She loves to travel and also loves California so she’s been dying to come here for the past year. She’s finally coming here in June. This will be the first time I’ve seen her, and hell even talked to her, since December 2018.

On that note, I don’t really get a long with her and I’m not super excited she’s coming here. Growing up with her was hell because she always demanded things go her way, and would have screaming fits (even in her 20s) unless we do things her way. From a young age, I was in charge of micromanaging everything to make sure everything’s swell for her and it was exhausting. Because of that, I don’t think she’s ever learned to compromise. She visited California twice in 2018, and both times she stayed with me in my apartment. And it was complete hell. She treated me like I was a guest in my own apartment, insulted me and my friends multiple times, would have fits if I didn’t want to do something she wanted to. She also “borrowed” my car and put 1000 miles on it in 2 weeks, put 87 when it needed 89, and went through a toll road without telling me so I had to pay the penalties. It was complete hell having her over. She was supposed to visit in June 2019 for my college graduation but canceled after I told her she couldn’t use my car.

Anyway, I’m already getting in trouble by my parents for not letting her stay in my apartment or use my car while she’s here in June. They’re trying to say that it’s been a rough year for her (spousal issues and custody drama) and she deserves a break. I’m finally standing my ground and saying no. She texted me asking if I could go to Hawaii with her or San Francisco, and I told her no. Not only do I not want to take time off of work for her (I’d rather spend my time off with my bf or friends) but because last time I took a trip with her, she promised to split the hotel room and I ended up paying the full price of the trip. Both her and my parents are calling me AH for not wanting to go with her to Hawaii or another trip. I still don’t want to go but maybe I’m being insensitive to everything she’s been through? I just know it’ll be drama if I go.

UPDATE: thank you for the overwhelming response! I don’t use Reddit but my husband (this is his account) urged me to post because I felt a lot of guilt and I am feeling much better. In fact, I feel quite angry over how I’ve been taken advantage of. I wanted to answer some of the questions that were asked.

Yes, I can definitely see now how she is taking advantage of me. There have been other instances as well. Last week I was supposed to watch the baby but I had an emergency with my oldest child and had to take a last minute flight out to Fort Lauderdale. I called her and told her she needed to find another sitter for the next day because I had to be at the airport at 1pm which is an hour away. She said “well can Mark (my husband) or your dad watch him?” I felt bad for leaving her high and dry but this was a legitimate emergency so I went and got the baby and took him to my dad. My dad does love the baby and only agreed because it was only a couple of hours and 3 of my children were there to help. She called me while I was boarding to tell me she was going to be late getting him from my dad because she was going to buy a swimming pool.

A few weeks ago my husband and I planned an at home date night after our kids went to bed. We were going to paint canvases to hang in our home. I told her all about it. An hour before our “date night” was to start she called and asked if I could keep the baby for just 2 hours while they had a softball game. I reluctantly agreed. We still had a date night but I had a baby in my lap the entire time, whom I also helped paint a Mother’s Day picture for my friend. What was supposed to be 2 hours turned into about 5, and I had him until midnight.

Also, she sometimes pays me for babysitting. However, I’ll keep him from 7:30am until 5pm or later and she will pay me $20. But everyday I have him I take him out for breakfast and I also buy him clothes and toys. Plus I drive 20mins to pick him up and drop him off so everything she pays me goes into my gas tank and back to the baby, so I make nothing. Also she still owes me money and keeps saying she’s going to pay me but has not.

I’m not going to call her. I made sure my dad was able to keep my children before I even booked plane tickets. My husband and I are excited for our vacation and her lack of planning is not our problem. Thanks again guys!

Am I the asshole for not wanting my friend bringing her children on our vacation?

Back story: My husband (using his account) and I wer

My 28M sister (27F) was supposed to get married summer 2020 and it got postponed for obvious reasons. They ended up having a zoom wedding which was honestly pretty cute. But now that everyone is vaccinated and things are opened up they want to have a “real wedding” in July.

Due to the nature of my work I have very little time off and have to schedule it far in advance. The weekend they’ve chosen I have plans with my wife to visit our college friends who live far away. When we got the invite I saw the dates conflicted so I told her sorry but I can’t wait to see the pictures.

That did not go over well. Now she and my parents are giving me a lot of grief about it. Telling me how I had my big day in summer 2019 and now it’s her turn as family I need to be there. But in my mind I was already there for their wedding and sent a very generous gift and everything. I feel like my position is logical but then again I’m slightly neuroatypical and sometimes see these things differently..am I really being that out of line here?

Edit: this keeps getting asked so I’ll copy past from a comment

When they went ahead with the zoom wedding I was never told they planned on having an in person event later on when allowed. I learned about that this week.

We’ve booked flights and accommodations with a group of 6, which was our complete main friend group in college months ago. My wife really misses all of them. We might be able to get the flights exchanged (haven’t checked, just know some airlines have changed their policies due to covid) but the accommodations, we’d only be able to get an 80% refund total. So everyone else would lose 20% too or have to find a random couple to take our spot.

It was super hard to find a time that worked for all of us and they already had to make concessions due to my schedule so I’d feel terrible pulling back now and having them have to find a replacement or lose their money.

**Final update: didn’t expect such a big reaction to this. I’ve read a lot of the replies and gotten a lot of viewpoints. I can see that “redundant” may not have been the best word choice, I’m an engineer and I just meant it in the definitive sense. After talking more with my wife, and seeing how hard the last year has been on her, I have decided to stick to my guns and keep our plans. She needs it right now. Also don’t want to screw over our friends who aren’t as comfortable financially and have put a lot of money down and made their own sacrifices for my schedule on

So I was explaining to a friend of mine(parent of three) that I haven't spoken to in a decade that I don't have kids and I don't plan on having kids. Of course he gets to saying yes you will just give it time and then asked what my main reason was. I said "I love to vacation every few months somewhere new". He responds with "vacations get old". Seriously? That's your response? I feel like there's certain people that validate their lives through children and when you don't have that need for that it shocks them into a defensive response. Fortunately, this isn't a response I get very often but it's still shocking every time.

About a month ago, my parents planned a road trip a few hours away to a small town in the mountains, where they have recently purchased a cabin as a vacation home. (Travel is safe here) They invited myself and my bf to come with. The cabin is still under construction and won’t be done for a few months but they wanted to go see it’s progress as well as introduce us to the area.

That being said, we both took Friday and Monday off to have the full weekend there. My parents booked an air bnb instead of a hotel room because bf is supposed to go, if it was just me we can share a room with 2 beds. This costs a lot more than just a hotel room but they wanted us all to have our own space. Bf and I have 2 dogs that we will be leaving at a dog boarding place. I’ve already pre paid the whole stay and the deposit is non refundable.

Today my bf told me in a panic that he hasn’t taken care of his taxes yet (they are due on Monday) and the only day his accountant can help him is on Friday. I asked him if he could see the guy after work this week and he said “maybe”. I asked him to please do what he could to try because it would be pretty damn crappy to cancel the whole weekend because of that.

He sent me a text saying he will probably have to cancel and stay home this weekend to take care of taxes. He says I can still go on the trip, no harm done. I admittedly snapped and told him that no, it wasn’t no harm done. My parents are spending double on a place so that he could go, I already paid the dog deposit and we planned this weeks ago. I told him that tax day has been decided for a long time and he had weeks to get this done. I called him irresponsible for not taking care of this sooner and now causing everyone else stress and inconvenience.

He says staying home to do his taxes is responsible. I know that snapping was wrong but I’m honestly very upset right now and angry that he didn’t handle this sooner and now I have to tell my parents he can’t come, especially after they asked over and over if we were sure everyone could go. AITA?

EDIT: he needs to see someone and not just do it online because he made several mistakes with filing years ago and it’s all just compiled into a big mess and he needs someone to sort through everything and get him organized. He isn’t cheating or finding excuses not to go, he will owe money if he files for extension and misses the deadline. He could have taken care of this weeks ago, which is why I’m angry

My mom just had major surgery this weekend and will be leaving the hospital this Thursday. The doctors made it very clear to us that she will need someone home at all times to help her and make sure she’s taking the correct dosage of medication.

Well turns out, my mom and dad had a secret vacation planned for this Saturday to Tuesday. This was a vacation they mentioned in passing to me a few weeks prior, and as they were throwing the idea of it out, I quickly shut it down because of my mom’s health concerns. Well, my dad still went ahead and booked it, knowing that I didn’t approve and my mother most likely would not be able to go. Now that she has had this super sudden surgery, she definitely can’t go.

He’s insisting that he should still go in order for him to not lose the $800 deposit for the room. The reservation is not changeable and cannot be canceled either. We also have a relative that lives with us for the sole reason of being my mother’s caretaker. My dad has told me that she will be going on the trip as well since she’s “bored and tired” of being at home all day.

I told my dad that while I can be there for my mom on the weekends, I cannot for the weekdays. I have work and live almost an hour away from them. If I do come after work, my time would only be for two hours or so. He tells me that I can request to work from home and live at their house for the duration that he is gone. As much as I would love to be there for my mom at all times, this is extremely inconvenient for me to do. This leaves my mom with almost no one to help her during this time.

So as a result, my dad is mad at me for wanting to cancel his trip and for “not wanting to care for my mom”. I am upset with my dad for caring about losing his deposit more than caring for my mom’s recovery.

I have considered not speaking to him at all once he leaves for his trip and comes back as how I view my dad has completely changed. But still I can’t help but wonder if I’m blowing this out of proportion and being an asshole about this.

EDIT: I should’ve clarified earlier since so many people have commented. The caretaker is on my dad’s side of the family and is actually MUCH older than him. She’s considered my great-aunt, and I am very positive that there is not an affair going on.

Having to use the dud account again, my sister straight up told my mother that she is stalking my main Reddit account so that one will be message spamming in AskReddit for a while until she gets bored and gives up.

My mother booked a holiday back in 2020, nothing massive just a cabin in the woods for 5 days so we could spend time together in the peace and quiet and I could try my new camera out. The original plan was myself, her, my brother, his girlfriend and the dog. My brother and his girlfriend would just go and do what they want all day so they weren't really a problem. But then the pandemic happened, the place gave her the options of rebooking it for this year or a 50% refund. Not wanting to lose most of her money, she rebooked it.

About a month before the trip, my brother split up with his girlfriend and no longer wanted to go. I originally was excited, a vacation with no one but my mother and the dog? Sounds great! But then my sister got wind and wedged herself into the holiday. Her, her boyfriend and their 1 year old screaming banshee of a baby. Same baby I mentioned in my one previous post here, the one that ruined my late birthday.

As you can expect, the whole vacation suddenly revolved around the baby. Everything had to be child friendly, the kid had to come everywhere even to shit it would obviously not like, like 4+ hour long walks, bee walks (we went out and were shown the apiaries and told about bees, I adopted a hive) and fuckin wine testing. It would not stop screaming and yelling and throwing things both inside and outside, our poor dog (our other dog passed away before the trip, so this was our new dog who we adopted a few months prior) was constantly being chased around the cabin and hit with his own lead because my sister wouldn't control her kid, I kept having to hide him in the bedroom with me as I tried to get some semblance of quiet. Thankfully he's only a chihuahua so he's very easy to scoop up and take out.

At one point I was playing on my Switch in the front room and she grabbed it, so I pulled it back and she just started wailing because I'd taken it off her. I almost immediately had to leave because I was having a migraine. I have ridiculously sensitive hearing, that kind of noise right next to me is torture. My sister got all moody with me and told me that I should just let her play, like fuck no? I spent 2 years saving up for this thing I'm not letting your kid anywhere near it! Then of course there was all the

Dated this guy names Trevor for 2 years. I lived with him and while he worked I cooked and cleaned. I never signed a lease and rent only came up when he got mad, but after he cooled off he didn’t want it anymore. He also took me on vacation a few times and paid for the flight and hotels.

I broke up with him two weeks ago because the abuse got very bad and I feared for my life. He keeps emailing me and calling saying I have to pay him back rent (he wants $300 a month) and for the vacations he took me to. Trevor is super rich and he doesn’t need the money, but I’m freaking out because he said he would take legal actions against me. He’s also accusing me of trying to kill him and I’m super scared.

Not sure if anyone remembers, but a couple months ago my wife had her boyfriend get a hotel room at the same hotel as us on a family vacation. she spent the whole vacation sneaking up to his room.

I got much support from the people on this site and so i want to give an update. My lawyer negotiated with her boyfriend to get video footage of her in a threesome. I delivered to her a separation agreement that gave her the house and 50% of our savings. Custody is 50/50. She has agreed to the contract and I have moved into our summer cottage. I have no idea if she is still seeing the guy.

I dont feel quite ready to date yet. I am paying attention to work and kids and spending my evenings watching over and over the videos of her in her threesome. it is painful, but I cannot look away.

I dont have any plans in particular. Just trying to stay solid and healthy.

Thanks to all who took interest in me. I appreciate the support.

So this is both a long and short story.

My(23M) girlfriend (we’ll call her Grace), went on a 4 day vacation to Chicago with her best friend (we’ll call her Jessie) after not seeing each other for the entirety of the coronavirus. It seemed like a very fun trip, and a needed one for her after working hard as an in person teacher through the pandemic.

The trip seems to start off well from Grace’s sporadic updates, and it seems fun! Getting photos, updates, the whole shebang. However, on the second day in, I don’t get any texts. I’m guessing they are having a great time and think nothing of it. I see a story on Instagram from Grace that had Grace and Jessie around dinner time with them at a bar drinking, seems fun too! However I get no updates. After around 3-4am passes, right before I sleep I send a message hoping they had a good night and to text me when they get back/can.

I wake up with no texts the next morning, and don’t receive anything until around noon. When we facetime, she nonchalantly brings up that the two of them had hooked up the night before drunkenly. It turns out, after drinking and dancing a bit together, they got the idea to start making out. One thing leads to another, and I was told they started undressing each other, feeling each other up, even going as far as doing the dirty with their hands to each other a bit.

She said it so normally that it didn’t click for a second, but after ai put two and two together, it sounds like they really went to town on each other. I get defensive and say “That’s cheating, you cheated on me.” The responses ai got back were disheartening.

“Oh we are best friends and bi, a little expected”

“We were drink in the moment and it didn’t mean anything”

“Jessie is in a more open relationship I think so she was ok with it”

“It is a one and done thing, we were just curious and exploring ourselves”

I had my rebuttals, but it genuinely felt like she cheated on me. I was even told they stopped midway because they started having doubts about how I and Jessie’s fiancé would react. Even going as far as saying they should keep it a secret. Grace did end up apologizing profusely, saying she understands it was a mistake, a big one, and feels bad for making me feel bad(also for… you know… cheating)

I feel betrayed, I’m picturing what I do with Grace but now only see Jessie in my place, and feel very hurt by this.

Both Grace and Jessie see it as a one and done thing, as innocent as if they were to only miss once in

In 2014 i was 19 and went on a summer trip with my best friend and his family to his grandparents' beach house for a week. While there, his mom asked him to take some photos of his younger siblings playing at the beach, so he did.

That night, him and i were sitting with his mother and grandmother in the kitchen and they asked to see the photos. They were scrolling through his photos on his phone and were adoring seeing the kids playing in the ocean, building sand castles, etc. when suddenly they looked at my friend in disgust and shouted “ANON, WHY DO YOU HAVE A PICTURE OF YOUR GIRLFRIEND’S HAIRY VAGINA?! THATS DISGUSTING!”. He swore he didnt have a picture of that and that he had no idea what they were talking about and he and his mom began arguing, as his grandmother had been forced to see it. At this point i felt extremely uncomfortable and wanted to get up and leave but didnt know how to exit the situation.

After quickly getting sick of him denying what they were clearly looking at, they showed him the photo. He suddenly perks up a bit and says “oh, that's not my girlfriend's vagina, that's his butthole!” pointing at me. At this point, i remembered that a week before, i had drunkenly sent him a close up photo of my hairy butthole as a joke to gross him out. Idk why, teenage boy stuff, thats just how my group of friends was i guess. i think he had sent me a poop pic and i retaliated with this. The photo had automatically saved to his phone (happens with things like whatsapp) and was the last photo saved before the ones of his siblings playing on the beach.

In the end they found it pretty funny even though they thought it was weird af. It was by far the most awkward moment of my life. I had a lot of difficulty looking his grandma in the eye the rest of the week.

TL;DR Drunkenly sent my best friend a close up picture of my butthole as a joke and then his mother and grandmother saw it while sitting directly across from me at the table during their family vacation.

Edit: Obviously in that situation they immediately looked away so they didnt get a good look at what it actually was or closely examine it lol they saw it for a split second and assumed the most logical thing

So a bit of background: My(m27) sister(f15) have not been close mostly due to the age gap and me having a so-so relationship with my parents. She is also extremely into ancient Greece, Greece and anything to do with that kind of thing. She is also extremely spoiled(e.g. she got a car as soon as she got her permit, yes her permit) . I am also in a relationship with my gf(f28) for 4 years and she is half Greek(her mother lives there). Okay so now onto the issue.

My gf's mother had been hospitalized last week, and my gf and I are supposed to leave on Saturday to go see her. I love the woman and see her as my own mother(she lived her in the states until 2 years ago when she had to go back to Greece due to family issues). So as I'm packing yesterday to leave I get a ft call from my sister. When she sees me packing she tries to start giving me a lecture on traveling during this time. I quickly shut her down and said I'm packing to go to Greece to see my gf's mom because she is sick. She hung up almost immediately. I thought nothing of it and continued getting ready. So fast forward to today morning where I get a call from my mother yelling at me about 'stealing' my sister's dream vacation. Apparently they promised her that they would take her to Greece for her 16th birthday and now I'm ruining it for her as she doesn't get to go there first? I was just tired of listening to her rant for 10 mins so I just told her to call me when she learns what the hell is actually going on. Now I'm getting texts from my entire family threatening to disown me saying I'm an asshole, ungrateful and some more nasty stuff. So AITA?

Most of my siblings have kids and we wanted to do something special for them after the pandemic ended. I pitched taking them all to Disney land since my kids love it and their kids have never been. Normally they couldn’t afford the trip but I decided to pitch in and help them out - I feel like my little nieces/nephews deserved it after being cooped up inside for a year. My childfree sister was also invited but she couldn’t afford it.

She found out I was helping the others and asked if I could help her out as well - which I declined. She’s been bitter towards me since, saying I was trying to exclude her from the family, etc. Am I the asshole for not wanting to pay all this extra money to bring her on a trip to Disneyland meant for the children - she doesn’t even like hanging out with kids. I’m fine if she comes but I just don’t wanna pay for it.

Info: I am paying for my nieces/nephews by splitting the trip cost 50/50 with each of my siblings. I pitched this as a vacation to cheer up the KIDS after they’ve been stuck inside all year because of the pandemic.

Info2: Childless sister is 26, she lives with roommates and works as a waitress.

Info3: Okay to all the people telling me I invited her to this trip knowing she can’t afford it.. like no? She heard about the trip and I told her she’s free to come along if she wants, because I’d be fine either way.

(31/F) I made plans with three of my closest friends, two who now live out of state, to take a trip a waterpark and resort for adults. We are all sharing a room. We haven't seen each other in months if not all year, and now that we are all vaccinated, I was really, really looking forward to taking this trip and spending some time with my friends doing debaucherous deeds and having a wild time.

The mom in the group informs us that her childcare fell through and she would like to bring her two year old on the trip with us. A TWO YEAR OLD. This make zero sense. I shared in our group chat that I don't want to bring along a toddler and now others in the group are saying I'm selfish and exclusive, that it's not her fault her childcare fell through and she should be able to bring her kid with her.

Is it selfish? Shouldn't you have arranged for childcare ahead of time, not your partner who you know is likely to be on-call? Should we all be restricted to kiddy areas b/c you can't venture out elsewhere? Do we all have to go to bed at 8 PM when your child goes to sleep, and are we now all required to stay quiet the whole night? Are we not supposed to go out after dark b/c you can't be included since your child will be there?

I mean, parents, jesus, WTF?!!?!?!?!

I don’t want to jump to conclusions. But I’m also not stupid. It’s very unlike him, so I am not going to act without talking it over with him. Part of me just wants to put this question out there in case something is in my blind spot. Is it fair to ask him to “prove” what he was doing? The gps data looked pretty damning. I think if the tables were reversed, he’d have the same doubts.

My husband and I do not have kids, but many nieces/nephews. A number of years ago, when we were late 20s and finally financially secure, our oldest niece was in senior year of HS and we decided to take her on a beach vacation for a week. This has since become a tradition where we take the nibling on a vacation during their senior year. Since this began there has always been one nibling each year, then in 2020-2023 there are no niblings graduating HS, so we won't be taking one on vacation until 2024.

We've always made it clear its a senior trip, and not us just working our way through them. We intentionally want to do it this ways, as we do NOT want to travel with younger teenagers/children. They are 17/18 when we take them, which means we can give them their own room (we keep a key, and do adjoining rooms but that gives all of us privacy), they can do more excursions, and we can meet them for breakfast, or leave them unsupervised if we want to get a drink/snack, we don't need to actively monitor them by water, and its so much easier to airport travel with 17/18.

A couple weeks ago our SIL said Jess was looking forward to planning her trip with us. Jess is next "in line", currently in grade 9. Husband said she's rather eager since her trip is 2024, but so great she's excited. SIL gave us death glares and I asked if we had mis-aged her and SIL said no. Jess is grade 9 but assumed she would be going in 2022 since she's next in line. SIL had ordered her travel books to help her plan (which we found odd, as we involve the nibling in the planning but we give them limited choices, they don't get a carte blanche. WE usually give them a choice of 3 locations, then from there a choice of resort). We told her that the trip is for senior year, so she needs to wait until 2024. SIL was angry, and Jess has had a hard time with pandemic, so we offered to fly her out to visit us for a week (we live in a major city) for a change of scenery but the major trip isn't until 2024. SIL is furious, Jess is disappointed but seems to get it. The older niblings are on our side and said it was a fun thing for them in senior year, while other adults are conflicted, with some thinking we should just go through the list, taking one nibling a year, regardless of age.

We are not parents so may we aren't as empathetic as we should be- so are we the assholes for wanting to wait until our nibings are in senior year to take them on vacation?

EDIT: Nibling= gender neutral term for niece/

Don't for a second underestimate how far most of us are willing to go to help our loved ones. My dad grew up without a father, couldn't afford college, worked his ass off at a job that has offered him nothing in return, lost a child and got swamped by their medical bills, and he STILL has a smile on his face every day. He STILL would give an arm and a leg for me.So I will hold and eat nothing but top ramen for years to come if it means there is a chance I can alleviate some of his stress.

Oh, and for those of you who do just want to quit your jobs and buy expensive things out the ass, you have every right to. Most rich people out here inherited their wealth and connections, why should we have to be the ones to "earn" nice things in life? Life is rigged, every man for themselves.

Edit: For all the trolls out there, I have a masters and a good job. I'm not just sitting on my ass (but so what if I was, eat shit) . I only just graduated and It takes time for my hard work to pay off especially when you have predatory student loans. It would take a fuck ton of time to be able to help my family out, and until then, I'm going to invest the money I do have because guess what, investing is a normal fucking thing and it's normal to wish for good profits. You can call me lazy all you want.

Edit: I'm a girl lol . Not that it matters, it's just funny being referred to as a "good son".