When my wife was pregnant, I didn't give a shit whether it was a boy or a girl. We found out the baby was a boy halfway through at the anatomy scan, and I was excited as all hell. I bonded with that little man inside her belly. We were going to call him Gideon, and I talked to him every day, read stories to him, told him all about the adventures we would have once he was here. We did the nursery up, got a ton of clothes, the works.
Well, when my wife presented in labor they did another ultrasound to confirm the baby was head-down, and nobody mentioned anything about the sex even though we were talking to the doctor and the resident saying it was a boy and he has a male cousin three months older so it's perfect, etc.
Labor time comes, my wife is pushing, and suddenly there's a head of hair and screaming, and I'm overwhelmed with emotion until I see that the baby is not, in fact, a boy. My wife cuddles her close but I was just shocked. I was ready to meet Gideon and now this wasn't Gid... keep reading on reddit ➡
Your priority should be to help them process how they're feeling, then you can tackle the problem later. So instead of immediately offering solutions, try acknowledging the person's feelings and the legitimacy of the problem they're facing.
For example, instead of...
If you're not sure what someone needs, asking can be as simple as "That sounds really tough. Is there anything I can do to help or do you just want to talk about it?"
Edit: Post is blowing up yadda yadda yadda - be good to each other and enjoy these pics of my dog!
I am taking 3 college courses on line. I break each course up into two days a week per course. So, I do school work six days a week for about four hours each day, including studying. This has never been an issue with my BF as we are still able to spend plenty of time together.
Today, I had a test for one of my courses, it was due by 11pm. There is only one opportunity for the test. This course I'm struggling a little bit with the material, so I spoke with my BF and asked him to please not disturb me for a few hours while I study and did my test. He agreed and told me he'd play his game while I studied and after we'd have a date night.
I study for an hour, then got a drink real quick and kissed BF and said I was going to take the test now. He said great I'm almost done with the game, I'll shower and get ready for our date. I said ok and went back to the room. I was 5 minutes into my test when the page wouldn't load. I checked my internet connection on my laptop and it wasn't connect... keep reading on reddit ➡
My fiance is quite well off, and while I don't make as much as him I certainly would not be struggling on my own. He rotates between a few very expensive watches that he wears to work and while we have a good grasp on financial literacy we aren't shy about spending for the important parts of life. We openly share finances so I know he isn't secretly in debt or any such nonsense.
The ring is nice and understated, but more of a nice stacker than an engagement ring to show off. The stone (which im doubtful of being a diamond) is quite small. It is not heirloom. When friends or family get engaged there is always the excitement in sharing the news and inevitably someone will ask to see the ring and then everyone coos over it and its a good time. When I showed mine the mood got awkward and they feigned excitement just long enough until it was okay to change the topic (this is not a knock on them, they are just terrible liars).
I would like to make clear that I am not expe... keep reading on reddit ➡
From years of experience of being with family members who thought that making a child cry was “cute,” if you’re playing a prank, making a joke, or having fun with a child, or literally anyone regardless of the age, and they begin to cry or become upset, stop what you’re doing and address it. Continuing to laugh and make fun of a child while they are crying is confusing for them and they will feel completely vulnerable and torn down, and they will remember that you were being unsupportive of their pain.
My wife and I have been together 6 years and married 2. We have always wanted kids but wanted to wait ans not rush at the start of our marriage. The pregnancy came as a surprise but a very welcomed and happy one.
Everything went smoothly throughout the pregnancy. There were nevernany signs of issues. We decorated the nursery together and put up the furniture. We were so excited to meet our baby and be parents. She carried to term and the day of the birth again things were ok. She gave birth and we didn't hear any crying. We were so confused and you can see it in the doctors' eyes that they were very concerned. I can't begin to explain the heartbreak when we were told that our little girl didn't make it. We were able to hold her and she was so beautiful.
A funeral home has a free funeral service for little angels so we buried... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my birthday is coming up, but my dad and brother will be on a trip without me that day. My mom asked if I wanted to open gifts earlier so they could watch me, and then she told me that they don't even know what's in the boxes.
Apperently, my dad and brother have never once gotten me a gift. ever. not for Christmas, not for my birthday, never. my mom had been buying gifts for me and writing their names on them.
so, I was a little bit shocked. I've been buying them gifts every year, for every holiday, and personally picking them out. Turns out they've never done the same thing for me, and never have to put any effort in. I think my exact words were "That's not fair." My mom said "Well they don't know anything about you, so how are they supposed to buy you gifts?"
... that hurt.
"Well I had been buying my friends gifts for birthdays and Christmas, even though I've only known them for a year. "
"that's different, you know your friends better than they know you."
Ok, so I've lived... keep reading on reddit ➡
So here’s the link to my last post. I think it was taken down so it may not work: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hwgj0v/my_wife_stays_at_home_everyday_and_never_does_any/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Go to my page to see other posts about it if it doesn’t work.
So when she came back home that morning we didn’t really speak at all. We barely said one word to each other that whole day. I finally was fed up with not talking and told her that we need to get everything out and let each other know our thoughts. She explained to me that she was super embarrassed that I would call her out for not being a good wife. I apologized for handling it the way I did and told her that I have felt this way for a while and I shouldn’t have let it build up. She still was not very understanding as to why I was upset with her not doing anything around the house. I once again told her how I felt. I said that with me working over 8 hours a day it is hard... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (27f) boyfriend (32) and I were discussing getting haircuts now Covid restrictions have been lifted slightly in our town. He made a joke about leaving his isolation beard a little longer and I joked that I should have let mine grow too.
I have PCOS and facial hair can be a bit of a nightmare, nothing too dramatic but I could definitely grow a little moustache if I left it alone. I've never really asked his opinion of my facial hair before, he's aware I remove it but beyond that I've never thought to ask but he looked so disgusted when I said that, it shocked me a little. He told me that it would be really gross if I'd just let it grow and I wouldn't like it if he started crapping his pants or not showering for a month... which, I just don't think is even comparable?
It's totally fine to not want a girlfriend with a hairy face, I don't even want to have a hairy face! I have no intention of leaving it to grow but that's my choice and it's certainly not the same as w... keep reading on reddit ➡
This is honestly one of the best things you can do for an upset friend. I use it all the time and people respond very well to it. Sometimes people come to you because they need to vent. Comfort them first, then follow up with 'do you want advice or do you want me to just listen?'. But other times, they just need to let someone outside of the conflict know what happened, and then they want to talk about something else. Talk about your own day, show them the latest funny thing you saw, go do something fun together. This question sets boundaries and builds trust. It shows you can be there in any way they need.
edit: WOW! so many awards! thanks so much. im going about pming everyone to thank them. but heres a carrd link to BLM resources and a bunch of campaigns, charities, and black owned businesses you can donate to. it would mean so much to me as an ally of the BLM movement if you put a few dollars towards a campaign of your choice. sorry, im on mobile: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.c... keep reading on reddit ➡
Our bio parents died when we were about 1 year old. We went into foster care for a few months, then my parents adopted me. He was adopted a few years later by his parents too.
My parents never told me I had a brother and not only never attempted for us to spend time together but they declined when his parents came forward and wanted my parents to let us get to know each other when we were kids. And my parents picked a new name for me.
I never knew any of this until last year when he approached me. Parents denied at first but eventually admitted to everything. Since then we’ve been getting to know each other and getting close.
Since Covid hit I’ve been spending a lot of time with him and we’ve been bonding very well. He has two moms who are great too, they’re very nice to him and me and always make me feel welcome and relaxed.
My parents are upset about all of this and keep telling me that I should keep my distance, I’m doing it too fast, I’m trusting him (and his parents) too soon,... keep reading on reddit ➡
"I still don’t understand how the story is bad. I get that it’s polarizing but it’s well written. I see people yelling at how they don’t like it and I get that for sure but not liking it doesn’t make it... bad."
["Apparently t... keep reading on reddit ➡
Christina Mikkonen: > I’m just going to say it because it’s affecting my husband’s mental health.
>Blizzard is currently blacklisting @savjz from events because I spoke out against the company and offended a CM by responding to their tweet with: “Are you fucking serious right now.”
>What a joke.
Janne Mikkonen (Savjz): >This is the reason that was given to me when I said I want to play at this event. My wife was part of the 800 layoffs and she spoke up about the injust practices of company. I was told I am a liability because of who I am married to.
Remember when Blizzard wasn't consistently awful to everyone but their shareholders?
So first off I'm a girl and I dont send nudes for this exact reason. I also dont use dating apps for this exact reason. Lol
Also, obviously if your current or ex partner posts sexy pics that you took and sent to them, esp during the relationship, they were meant exclusively for your partner as part of that intimate relationship, and they are an asshole and should be prosecuted under the full extent of the law for sharing them. In that case, those pictures were part of a private relationship where trust and intimacy were established. They were the one who you were committed to, and the pictures were obtained/ sent only due to that commitment.
However, I think it's different if you're sending nudes to strangers online or random people you meet on a dating app. If you send nudes or provocative pics to people who you dont really know and have not established a level of trust with, you are sending them knowing there could be more people than just that one person looking at the screen. Th... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ok just to make sure we are clear my wife and I get along great. It’s a great marriage. This happened about a month ago and it wasn’t even a big deal, but it’s one of those we both think we are right situations. This in no way affects our marriage now. I just want to know who was right.
Here’s the scenario: I work from home, so every morning I wake up around 6:45 and start work around 7:15. My wife will sleep in usually till around 8, and then she will wake up and make breakfast for both of us. She does this every day and she always cooks a great breakfast. And I am super appreciative.
So one morning my wife comes to my office and says “I just really don’t feel like cooking this morning. Would you be ok to eat cereal?” I said something along the lines of “Of course baby. That’s totally fine”
My wife brings me a bowl of cereal and I happily start to eat. Maybe 3 minutes later, I get the chance to take a short break from work and I think to myself “oh I’ll go eat my breakfast with my... keep reading on reddit ➡
I had to go and get new tires put on her SUV last week. I was initially supposed to go that morning, but there was a dead cell in the battery which had to be replaced, so I ended up not going to the tire place until about 3 in the afternoon. The man told me that there would be a long wait because they had several other vehicles to get to before they could do mine, so I called my wife and let her know it would be a while before I was done.
I thought it would be an hour at most, but an hour passed and I could still see my car sitting out in front of the shop. I went back up and asked the man how much longer, and he told me that it would probably be another hour and a half. I only live about 15 minutes away by car, so I called my dad and asked if he could drop me off at my house. I could have called my wife, but she is working from home and didn't want to bother her.
She apparently did not hear me come into the house or when I went up the stairs. As I started to walk down the hallway... keep reading on reddit ➡
This sounds ridiculous but here goes!
I (26f) will be eating sometimes (lunch or dinner) and my husband (26m) or our son (18m ), if they aren’t eating or have already finished, will take food off of my plate and feed it to our dog.
It happened last night, I am a slow eater and finished after my husband. We were talking while I finished and he grabbed a piece of chicken from my plate and tossed it to the dog. I asked him why he would do that and he just laughed, I don’t think he understood that it actually bothered me but his reaction made me feel like I was being crazy.
But just now, I was eating lunch (we are all working from home/schooling hasn’t started) when my son came in and scooped up some of my chips and fed them to the dog. Again, I was upset so I asked why he would do that. His reaction was the same, that it was funny and he didn’t think I actually cared.
I feel like an asshole but also, I don’t like that they keep taking food from my plate? It wouldn’t ever even cros... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am 22. i lost my job in May due to the “unspeakable”, evidently around the same time my family booked the family vacay to mexico.
they just told me.
they leave sunday.
my dad said “well you didn’t have a job so you don’t need to go.” when i expressed that it would’ve been nice to know at least and that it hurts my feelings, he said “i’m sorry you feel that way.”
am I overreacting?? they also told me they weren’t planning a vacay this year due to everything. I feel left out and my feelings are hurt.
Hey y’all. So my mom lives a few states away and is not able to help prepare for her first grandchild the way she’d like to unfortunately. A friend of hers asked her if I’d like some baby clothes, some slightly worn and some never used before. I said of course! And my mom went through all the clothes and washed it and mailed it to me.
So when we received the box of clothes I was pretty excited to go through it as we haven’t bought anything baby related yet, as I mentioned this is my husband and my first child. I think I showed him maybe two pieces of clothing and I could already tell he was unhappy. He said we’d just donate all this stuff to goodwill because he wanted to buy all new clothes for our baby to which I said ofc we will still buy new clothes but it’s nice to have a good amount of clothes, especially since they go through clothes like crazy, or so I’ve heard anyway. He just said no, that his child won’t wear hand me downs so I stopped showing him clothes and started packing... keep reading on reddit ➡
I only Advise Peaceful Protest!
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 months. He is the best boyfriend I've ever had in my life, and I truly do love him with all my heart. He is a virgin, and I'm not. The reason he is a virgin because he was never ready to have sex. I'm not a virgin, I got raped when I was 20 and I lost my virginity. After that I've always dated bad guys who were only using me for sex, while they also had other girlfriends to sleep with. My love life in the past was really bad. I've turned to be the happiest since I met this guy I'm in a relationship with now. But it's still hard for him to accept that I'm not a virgin. He would want to lose his virginity with me, and it makes him sad that he can't be the first person I have sex with. I feel so helpless whenever he cries and upset with me because I'm not a virgin. He always blames himself, he said he wish we could have met each other years ago so he could protect me. He said there's nothing that he can protect of me other than my healt... keep reading on reddit ➡
I keep seeing how people make fun of the "smart kids" when they're sad about a grade below their average, which really doesn't make sense to me.
Coming from a strict family, grades where always very important and a B wasn't considered a good grade, so whenever I didn't do my best, I was upset. Because of this, some kids tried to make me feel bad for being sad about a B while they got Cs or even FS.
That's none of my business! I'm sorry you got a bad grade, but I have every right to be upset!
A lot of people seem to misunderstand the scale of it, maybe "upset" wasn't the best word for describing how I feel. A "bad" grade doesn't make me cry and it's really not that bad. I guess I'm just a little disappointed when I couldn't do my best.
Yes, I understand that grades don't show intelligence.
Yes, my family's opinion of school may be quite toxic, but it has helped me keep track of everything in my life, I'm organized, motivated and active because of the way I was brought up.... keep reading on reddit ➡
After I had my child and decided I would be returning to work I experienced some mild anxiety - normal considering I worked in a high stress engineering field and I had had one year off. I had never been treated the way I had wanted - was overlooked for high pressure tasks and would have managers “surprised” at my high quality input.
I confided in my partner and after giving permission for “harsh truth” he said it could have been down to my general low appearance standards I set myself, I didn’t ever consider my hair/ make-up or clothes to be a contributing factor to my job so I had dismissed it previously. I do not have client meetings and all of my contact is with other engineers, but I have it a go for my return to work.
On his advice I invested in a new “professional” wardrobe, he has a very good eye for what would suit me (I am awful at this). A few tasteful pieces of jewellery, new shoes and he made me sit at a make up counter and talk mascara - an experience I had never had.... keep reading on reddit ➡
i work at taco bell and am so scared for the menu change. i’m going to get yelled at, screamed at, demanded that i make things we no longer have and it’s goin to be awful. it happens every time they remove popular items. i was there when the xxl was removed and it was awful, same for the taco salad. all i have to say is remember that the cashiers and cooks have nothing to do with these changes and pls if they tell u they can’t make an old menu item, they can’t make it and pls respect that.
So I (32M) have a job that takes me out of town frequently, and the most recent trip was over my wife’s (31F) birthday. My wife and I agreed to do dinner when I get home, and we still will but I decided this was the perfect opportunity to surprise her as I would be away and she would not suspect it.
So I reached out to a few of her closest friends, to see if they could come over and take her out to dinner. Then I scheduled the babysitter and paid her in advance. I made reservations at her favorite restaurant and gave them my credit card to pay for everyone’s meal. Finally, I ordered food to be delivered for the kids and babysitter so my wife could just enjoy herself and not worry about any of it.
I had to leave 3 days prior and the one hitch in my plan was that my wife would kill me for having all her friends show up with no warning and no chance to tidy up the house. I cleaned everything top to bottom before I left, but I knew with two kids (4 & 6) at home, it would not stay t... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR at the bottom, sorry it's pretty long.
I want to first of all say thank you for the help and advice. I tried reading as many comments as I could. It’s a lot to get through and I appreciate the help.
I read a few comments that sort of blamed me for my wife’s reaction and assumed that I treated her pregnancy and the birth as if it wasn't a big deal. I'm not sure where I implied that. When I say that the pregnancy went smoothly I meant that the doctors never found any medical problems and that both of my girls were healthy. I have never once and never will dismiss that experience. If I treated everything she went through like it "wasn't a big deal" I wouldn't even be... keep reading on reddit ➡
It was coming up to my birthday, my mom asked me what I wanted. I said, nice and simply, "some books from my favourite author".
My birthday comes, and she's got me one present. She gives me a boxy shaped item. It's not as heavy as I expect. I open it- it's a makeup box. Full of expensive lipsticks, eyeliners etc.
I don't wear make up. Like, I don't ever. She hates that I don't, is always trying to slap foundation on me, but give me some vaseline for my chapped lips and I'm happy. It's been a point of contention ever since I was a teenager.
So I look at this box and sort of laugh, and hand it back, shaking my head. I say "Thanks, but you should have this. I'm not going to use it"
She gets really angry, says I'm being ungrateful. I tell her that it's not what I asked for, and I don't want make up. I'm not going to use it. She says that I'm not making an effort with my appearance, it reflects badly on her, and that it's a gift she spent time on.
I shrug, and give the make up to my... keep reading on reddit ➡
I don't know if its just me, but does it feel like the Titanfall community is really opposed to/hesitate to joining the lore between the two games?
Because Apex and TF|2 are in the same universe, this sub (and of course the writers) obviously bring up a lot of discussions regarding past details from the Titanfall games. And I always think that's really cool. The less blurry the line gets the more the games feel like a full series rather than separate titles entirely. But its always felt like TF's community is against the idea of the intertwining of the lore. In fact, discussion of anything Apex-related is entirely banned from the Titanfall sub. Even the big >!Ash!< reveal, which was HUGE considering the context, got essentially no attention from the TF community.
I don't really know... What do you all think?
I know the title sounds really awful, but please let me explain. When I was 12F, I started really wanting to go to Disneyland, just for a day and with none of the crazy park hopping stuff. I saved up my money and everything. Then, my parents made it a rule I couldn't go alone and would have to go with my whole family.
So, 3 years go by and I still really want to go but haven't been able to. Then, my little brother (9M) starts talking about going to Lego land. 2 weeks after the first time he mentions it, my mom and dad take both my brothers to Lego Land for the weekend. Literally, after 2 weeks of asking. My sister and I stayed with our Grandma.
When they returned, we got into an argument. My logic was I'd been asking for far longer and we had never gone to Disneyland (we live about 3 hours away from Disneyland and much farther from Lego Land) while they had spent 2 nights at the hotel and gone to the park for three days. My parents said that because my brothers are younger, their req... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (18F) began my first year of university in February this year. My mother (51F) quit her job last year, and has gone back to university this year to get her masters. We are both full time students.
Mum as been completely obsessive and borderline delusional about her marks. She's averaging 90% for all her subjects, and is getting special honours for many assignments, but she's ridiculously competitive with the other students in her course and throws a fit when she doesn't get the best mark in her cohort. She's come up with this conspiracy theory that her course coordinator is out to get her and is purposely taking marks off her work for no reason (even though she's not got a bad mark all year). When she gets a result that she doesn't like, she throws temper tantrums and calls in a complaint to her university.
Today she came into my room complaining that she'd only received an 85% for an assignment, and that it'd brought her average for the subject down considerably. She also com... keep reading on reddit ➡
SPACE FORCE has a lot of the same humor as Dr. Strangelove or Catch 22 or any other sort of military satire you can think of. Greg Daniels and Steve Carrell really decided to take the Netflix money and go HAM with it and I thought it was an interesting show.
The mega-critical backlash though kind of baffles me. Again, why would you take Netflix money and recreate a broadcast network sitcom? THE OFFICE in space also sounds like a mega-cringey idea. I have to imagine everyone was expecting Naird to be Michael Scott but I loved we got this deeply complex and flawed guy just trying to do his best without being a complete nincompoop or whatever Flanderized hell would have popped up.
idk just my two cents. im sure there are dozens of us that feel the same way.
People use the phrase “life isn’t fair” to dismiss other people’s feelings about difficult or upsetting situations. I know life isn’t fair, that’s why I’m upset. If life not being fair is a reason to not be upset, then there are no reasons to be upset, which is clearly ridiculous. Not to mention all the people who use “life’s not fair” to justify their own shitty actions.
Go to my page to see other posts about this situation.
So when she came back home that morning we didn’t really speak at all. We barely said one word to each other that whole day. I finally was fed up with not talking and told her that we need to get everything out and let each other know our thoughts. She explained to me that she was super embarrassed that I would call her out for not being a good wife. I apologized for handling it the way I did and told her that I have felt this way for a while and I shouldn’t have let it build up. She still was not very understanding as to why I was upset with her not doing anything around the house. I once again told her how I felt. I said that with me working over 8 hours a day it is hard for me to come home to do almost all of the chores. She said to me that she feels as though it is my job to do most of the chores so that she can live a good life. She told me that she is thankful for all that I do. She reminded me again that at the beginning... keep reading on reddit ➡