So I just figured out my husband doesn't change his underwear daily. Sometimes he goes a few days between changes. He says that it's "unrealistic" for people to change their undies every day. I'd be interested to know if there are things that I thought were basic hygiene rules that are not. Maybe I'm the idiot for going through a pair a day. I feel like women have set rules about brushing teeth and changing undies and stuff like that. Please tell me all!
Just because everyone keeps cleaning supplies under their sink, doesn't mean you need to. Put things where you're most likely to use them, even if it's super weird. This helps you A) remember you have it, B) remember to use it, & C) put it back since it's in a convenient spot.
A lot of organizers say to put an item in the first spot you'd think to look for it, but that's ignoring the fact that you'd have to actually remember to think of it.
Obviously don't go too crazy & start hiding all your stuff where you'll never remember it, but I've started doing this for a few of my things here & there & it really helps.
I remember a lot of stories from my childhood. For context, my parents are what many define as "narcissistic". This is a rather funny example of what they would do on a daily basis.
I had just finished watching a movie, when my mom came in and asked me when the last time I did laundry was. I looked at her, and said plainly "Only about a week ago" (I had a lot of clothes, so I didn't have to do laundry as often). She scoffed and said "What about your underwear? I'm sure you've been wearing the same pair for months!" I tried not to laugh, and told her that I change my underwear every day.
"Oh sure. I know you don't have 30 pairs of underwear" she frowned at me. "Actually, I do" I said. "Then show me!" she shouted back. I smiled as she left, and did exactly what she said. I got a small box, went into my closet and dresser, and begin collecting every pair of underwear I could.
After about 15 minutes or so of gathering underwear, I walked out of my room to her and thrust the box in front of her. "What is this?" she demanded to know. "30 pairs of underwear, just like you asked" I smiled at her. She gave me an icy glare, and started counting them out one by one.
"This is only 29!" she said when she was done. "Oh, my bad" I smiled, and dropped my pants, showing off a bright yellow pair of underwear.
She never bothered me about laundry after that.
This is copied from r/relationshipadvice hense the throwra but I thought I'd post it here aswell
So my sister is convinced I keep taking her underwear (I don't why anyone wants to take someone else underwear I do not get) so every time she gets some of my underwear she tries to go through my underwear drawer to find hers and if I dont let her she wong give me mine?
My family say we have no boundaries and we tell each other everything but to me going through myt underwear drawer is just wrong my mum had tried to go through it but stopped. I have nothing to hide but I'm not comfortable with my sister and family going through my underwear!
Just now I was in a live lesson and she came in trying to go through my underwear drawer so I said no and closed my drawer and she got angry and took some of my pairs of underwear and now shes not giving me them back. I havent got anything of hers I check and I physically go through it and check to make sure I dont. I dont know what to do I've asked my mum to talk to her about it and she did but she hasnt stopped.
What do I do now?
Hey guys I added an update idk how to link it though I'm sorry
Okay, I know everyone swears by Eofficio boxer briefs, but I find them to be only slightly better than generic department store underwear at 10x the price. Compression shorts? Now we are going the the complete opposite direction of comfort.
I want SEPARATION, where my testicles do not touch my legs and can hang free yet somewhat supported without being squished into my perineum.
I already have ALMOST the perfect underwear. They are La Pasas short inseam boxer-briefs, that have quite a bit of stretch, and basically provide comfortable separation, support, and breathability. The only issue is that they are modal, which is a fabric made from wood fiber, that has properties similar to cotton, though softer. I don't believe that make this particular model anymore, but I found it here for reference. https://www.amazon.com/Lapasa-Underwear-Breathable-Original-XX-Large/dp/B01M5GZ10Z/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8
The Current model had seams on the legs and is less stretchy, but it is still the second most comfortable underwear I own.
In warm weather, I hike in running shorts with a liner, so no underwear, but since it's cold now, I have been wearing pants. Now, I still just like in these, and if I get wet, I can always just take off my underwear if it's too cold, but this is not ideal, so I am looking for a similar fit in synthetic.
So far I have not found much. There are plenty of synthetic "Pouch" or "Bulge" style underwear, mostly marketed to gay men, or maybe the kink community, but these are very hit and miss with comfort and sizing. I have tried many, mostly from China, and usually, the pouch area is too small or does not stretch enough, or the cut of the waist or legs is not comfortable for hiking, where they are good for showing off the shape of your body, but not great for active movement.
I have tried Seperatec and Sheath, and neither is any good.
Am I alone here? Do most other people like underwear that I find uncomfortable, or do people just not know any better, or have never tried more revealing(comfortable) designs? I feel like most designs either ignore the fact that men have external genitals or actively try to conceal them because of some ridiculous social norm.
for anyone who wishes to read: On Friday night my parents made me go through my drawer to look for her underwear... I didn't have any. My sister was making fun of me all dinner and my mum strokes my arm? I was getting upset at the constant being laughed at and mocked and asked if I could go get in the bath. I took my plate in and went to leave. This caused my dad to scream at me telling me to grow a pair and stop acting like a 2 year old and told me that I was going to have a hard life. This is when my mental health started to spiral.
I got in the bath with full intent to hurt or off myself and I ended up just laying there till the water went cold. During this time my sister came upstairs and tried to go through my underwear in which I rushed getting washed and getting out of the bath so she didnt have time to.
We had been having s nice day me and my parents were watching a series of a programme, my mum asked me to wash up whilst she jumped into the shower so I did and I was getting excited to watch the rest of the programme. Then my mum came down... my sister had left a pair of her underwear on my floor... my mum had a small go at me cause I "obviously didn't look hard enough" in which I told her "one pair of underwear which wasnt there last night? She probably put them there" my mum went back upstairs
10 minuets later she came down. She has gone through my underwear drawer herself... she came down yelling at me for finding unclean underwear in my drawer (I was trying to see if I could do what some reditors said and do my own laundry atleast my underwear) I broke down sobbing and they started yelling at me telling me to cut the shit and that no one cares that now my mum wants to go through all my drawers and wardrobe and phone because she thinks I'm hiding something because I was crying and having a mental breakdown. She was telling me it's her house and she can do what she wants and we dont have privacy in this house.
After 5 minuets of that I managed to get upstairs to find out she had dumped all the contents of my drawer on my bed. I feel so alone and broken I dont wanna live anymore I honestly dont see any reason to. It's obvious my family dont care about me cause anything I do or say results in me being shouted or screamed at they wouldnt care if I offed myself my friends certainly wouldn't and well only my boyfriend will care. I dont know what to do anymore I just feel so alone.
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i 23F is married to my husband 28M. i am a stay at home wife who is currently trying to finish online school,i do most of the house work cause i’m home most of the time. but at this point i’m at a loss... my husband has skin marks in his boxers. this has happened more than once at least 3 times in the last week. i think this is nasty asf,he is a grown ass man why can’t he wash he ass. i brought this up to him and he became very defensive saying it’s not a big deal and i should just get over it and wash them. i told him i’m not washing his damn clothes anymore and now he’s throwing a fit to all his friends. please tell me i’m not crazy,this is a big deal right???🤦🏾♀️
When we talk about how limited men's fashion is an interesting aspect of the conversation overlooked is how underwear is promoted
For women, it's intimate and you have the utility side and other markets that go for something visually appealing as to "please your partner".
However men's underwear is seen as funny, and basic. There's only 5 different types of cuts and they're either super boring and drab or hyper comical. Typically men's underwear is bought with anyone else's consideration except the wearers.
Much like the previous thread I made about men's bodies, it seems men's underwear is inherently seen as funny/disgusting.
Every year, my mom bought my brother his underwear for Christmas. Even though he can well afford whatever he wants, she would buy him his tighty whiteys and then wrap them in the funniest gift wrap. The last time she used Barbie doll paper. Anyway. She died 2 years ago, so last Christmas, there were no tighty whiteys under his tree.
Would it be weird if I continued the tradition? I mean, it's one thing if mom buys your underwear, but would it be weird if it's his older sister? I'm 62 and he's 58.
Edit : So the overwhelming consensus is to go ahead and continue the tradition. I'll be calling his girlfriend to find out what size, and he's going to be surprised with a package of tighty whiteys for Christmas! My daughter says she's happy to pay for them! Will update!
UPDATE: He loves the underwear! Except I got him blue instead of white! Thank you everybody for helping me!
She said, “Wear your own then.”
It might be a funny question, but I see no one talking about it, so here it goes:
Long distance running can lead to skin injuries due to sweat or skin rubbing (for example, on the inside of your legs above your knees and/or crotch). The problem is that having them may affect your speed or stop your race altogether, even when you're tired and you feel like running a lot more.
What kind of underwear do you use or recommend using while running in order to avoid these silly situations?
Edit: I'm a 32M, so my question comes from running men. Still, I guess it applies to both genders
Ladies, what kind of underwear do you don during your menstrual cycle? Do you wear pads or pantiliners? What about tampons or menstrual cups? Do you have a preferred brand that’s cotton but won’t show too many obvious stains (because let’s be real, that’s happened to literally everyone at one point or another)?
I've been having pain down there for ages. I went to the gynecologist and she immediately pointed out that my underwear had left red marks where the seams are. She said it was probably affecting my circulation and to buy bigger underwear. (She also recommended I only use pads and pantiliners when I'm on my period or spotting-- otherwise they make things dry down there which can be painful).
Needless to say, I felt pretty silly when I left, but I'm glad to get to the bottom of it. I ordered new underwear (boyshorts) style, and hopefully that'll solve the problem!
From the very first day you wear and wash them they will never be that white again. Only to become more discolored and weathered looking as each day passes. Nothing good can come from having white underwear.
I had no idea that lingerie soap even existed until I happened to see it in the store while I was walking around. Is this one of those things that women are just "supposed to know" but no one actually tells you? Anyway, it was only about 300/400 yen (about 3 or 4 USD) so I decided to try it.
This stuff got out stains I thought would never come out, and my underwear feels cleaner than ever. I'm so happy. The kind I got was foamy and marketed as "women's detergent" for getting out blood and makeup specifically; I just had to hand scrub for a few seconds and wash with all my other clothes in cold water.
Maybe some of y'all needed to know, too. Honestly, I felt silly because I had never thought to look for it before. Awesome stuff, I highly recommend looking for some near you!
EDIT: Someone asked for a picture; here's the link on Amazon jp but it's not available right now:
THAT'S IT! I work for an underwear company and the amount of people who think it's perfectly acceptable to return USED underwear is discouraging... We also don't want them back if they've been taken out of the package (who can guarantee they haven't been worn?).
Not only is it unsanitary but what makes them think that any company who accepts USED underwear for returns isn't going to resell it? It's for the benefit of everyone if you just keep them.
Worn-out CS manager
Currently doing a re-watch of TM2 and my god, they are constantly moving! I guess they have better friends than I do because there is no way I could convince people to help me move 5+ times in a matter of years. Do leases not exist??
I know this year was not the ideal time to start college but I (20m) finally saved enough to start this year so I went for it. I lived in a dorm last semester and my roommate was great but he decided not to return to school. A friend I made (19m) let me move into his dorm because he had an opening. Also in America we share bedrooms when we share dorms: this is relevant.
We both have on campus jobs so we got to move in early. The first night I got undressed to get into bed and my roommate essentially said something along the lines of “you’re not supposed to do that.” For reference I wasn’t naked but I was shirtless and only wearing underwear. He said he doesn’t want to see that and I told him he wouldn’t have to because I was wearing sheets. He still told me to get some clothes on.
I did it to appease him but I really hate sleeping in athletic shorts and a t-shirt. I’m all for compromising; I don’t think last semester I wore pants in my dorm room once but I’m obviously not going to do that here. But I feel like he shouldn’t be able to control what I wear to sleep. I tried going back to sleeping without clothes and he complained about it so much I relented and got dressed. WIBTA if I told him tomorrow that I didn’t really care and I’d be sleeping how I want to?
EDIT: if it makes a different the second night I didn’t take off my clothes until I was under the sheets and that still wasn’t good for him
Boyfriend doesn't shower particularly often (every 2-4 days) and he refuses to change ANY of his clothes between showers. I struggle to understand his logic as I don't think he sees an issue with it.
So, men of Reddit, how often do you change your underwear?
Edit: removed some mild vulgarity and added minor clarification. I don't appreciate the comments calling him disgusting with no attempt to offer advice on the issue.
From the few actual constructive comments, I will try approaching the issue in the future without being condense ding or attempting to guilt trip as I now see that is not the right way to go about it
Tldr: communication is important folks