“I play a little guitar!"
Last year, before the pandemic began, I lent my ukulele that was a gift from my parents to someone I no longer consider my friend. If the pandemic hadn’t happened, I would’ve gotten my instrument back within a month, give or take.
As the pandemic progressed, he hung out with others while I took self isolating more seriously. He’d go to people’s houses while we were under lockdown orders.
In April, serious situation involving him and the friends of friends spilled over onto me, and I had not been deeply involved at all in what had been going on until then. This situation caused me to lose friends. He would vent to me about this situation without checking if I was emotionally available, but I would check if he was alright before speaking on my problems. I was often there to lend emotional support to him, and even after hearing both sides, he expected me to be on his side, when I now believe that he was the one in the wrong.
We drifted even further apart from May to July. Talked about once every two weeks. He began talking to new friends and went to see new people, which I had no problem with. However, he would never respond when I’d ask for my ukulele back, or when I would ask to make plans as self-isolation restrictions were becoming less strict. In August, he approached me after a few more weeks of little to no communication outside of memes, and said that I was a shit friend who was never available, and a friend who never helped him or cared for his problems.
In early September, a friend, who he also had borrowed things from, and I, went together to his house, hopefully find him at home, to ask for our things back. He wasn’t home, so we left a note in his mailbox listing what he had and that we would like these items back. He texted me later that day saying that we were no longer friends. He still has my ukulele along with other items of mine. He hasn’t communicated with any neutral mutuals of ours despite the both of us leaving that line open to do so.
I’ve texted him twice since- once in October, to apologize if I’d done anything wrong, and again in January, to once again ask for my things back. He hasn’t responded. I know that he has ended other relationships while in possession of items that did not belong to him. He’s called the people who demand their things back crazy.
Still, I’m wondering, AITA for demanding my stuff back??