For non Muslims you guys might not think of this as a big deal, but it sure was to me; eating something that isn't halal on purpose after 16 years of a halal diet. And the great thing is, I didn't feel guilty at all. Of course I'm not completely comfortable with eating pork just yet, but thats a given since I can't waver off all my values overnight.
I've been secretly agnostic for over a year now, but I'm planning on not telling my parents until I'm more financially stable, as they are heavily religious and might marry me off when they get the chance.
I had to tell someone about this and I had no other way but to just post on this sub. I honestly don't know if you guys like this type of post, since most posts I see here are related to politics.
But damn that sub was amazing.
Also are there any other ex-muslims here? Since most of the people I see on this sub are ex-catholics and Christians. If there are, I'd love to hear your guys experience! :)
Edit: ayo guys thanks for all the food recommendations! Also I'm a girl btw :D
Edit 2: for those wondering why on earth i chose a turkey sandwich from the forbidden subway, its bc I had just gotten out of my last exam and I wanted to treat myself then and there and subway was the closest thing. I didn't know about any of the meats there so I just decided to get the first thing I saw, which was the turkey sandwich.
And for NZ their turkey isn't halal as its non zabiha meat for those telling me that it is, although I realize a lot of Muslims are more flexible with this and just stick to the no pork.
The rules of meditation are dead simple.
Rule no. 1: Focus your attention on your breath.
The genius thing about meditation, however, is the overarching unspoken rule of meditation, which seems to contradict that one rule: you’re allowed to lose focus on the breath.
You see, when learning meditation, you’re taught that if this happens, you’re supposed to just note that it did and gently return to the breath. No need to get critical of yourself—in fact, a side goal of meditation is to observe first-hand the frenetic circus that is the mind. Thinking of random things and going off on tangents is natural and our job is simply to sit and observe it happen, and do what we can to reign it in.
The unspoken rule seems to negate the hard rule, but somehow the practice still works. This is because with meditation, it’s not just ok if you fail, it’s entirely expected—in fact, the act of “picking yourself back up when you fail” by returning to the breath, is itself the practice.
But this post isn’t about meditation. This post is about bad habits—and when it comes to ending bad habits, adopting what I call the ‘Meditator’s Mindset’, is the best and easiest way to succeed.
So, we’ve all been in the position of recognizing a nasty habit that needs to end. As stimulating or gratifying as it may be, it’s causing us to procrastinate, waste time and it leads to frustration and anguish as it slowly scrubs our chance at achieving our dream life. So we tell ourselves, enough.
I’ve been there a million times over.
The first step always involved looking at your options.
Option 1: Go for moderation. Let me set a fixed amount of time per day to indulge. Perhaps set it as a reward for a decent work session.
Option 2: Try weaning off the vice. Probably best to not go too extreme too fast. Let me see if I can dial it down each week so that in a month I’ll be set.
Option 3: Just go Cold-Turkey. That’s it. Enough with this non-sense that I barely enjoy. Let’s just kill it off, now.
So you try 1, and it doesn’t work. You try 2; doesn’t work. You try 3; doesn’t work. You try 3 harder; doesn’t work again. Ok, you try 3 super hard with super clear resolutions and a calendar with Xs and a r/ NoSurf post that screams THAT’S IT IM DONE PEOPLE aaaand… it doesn’t work.
What I hadn’t realized back then was that, regardless of path you take, you have to add that unspoken rule that says it’s ‘okay’ to falter.
This is the Meditator’s Minds... keep reading on reddit ➡