So following up from my other post, I went and did a little top-up food shop (Sunday), and 'treated myself' to a can of tuna. I didn't put it in the bags with the rest of the shopping, as I knew he would unpack because I shopped (we take turns), I put it in my handbag and effectively buried it under the mounds of crap in there, intending to eat it at my own leisure without the "YoU bOuGhT tHiS a WhOle 10 MiNuTeS aGo WhY hAvEn'T yOu EaTeN iT yEt CaN i HaVe It???" bullshit. (He did end up seeing it in my bag though, as a bottle of water leaked in it and I had to empty it. He raised his eyebrows but didn't actually say anything about it).
(I'm aware this bit will sound petty but I honestly don't mean it to be)
Well, I had to nip into town yesterday for my son's eye test, and I nipped into the bank to take the last few quid out of my account, and I noticed a trolley there collecting for the local food bank. They have helped me out a lot when I've been in a pinch and I am eternally grateful to them. I decided to give them my can of tuna since it was still hiring in my bag. Not to get back at him, not out of spite or pettiness, but because it was MINE, and choosing to give something away is very different from having it taken from you. I wasn't going to tell him about it; a) it's none of his business, and b) he would have taken it as me doing it out of spite or pettiness and it would have caused an argument and I'm not about that life. My son told him, and although he didn't say anything to me directly,he was muttering under his breath for some time about, "pathetic", "attention seeking", and naturally, "spite".
Reading this back to myself it really does read as petty, spiteful and pathetic, although I genuinely, honestly don't mean it that way. Me being able to do what I want with mine own things gives me a sense of control.
A long time back now, I could never say no to him:
a) I didn't want to start an argument b) he was incredibly controlling and intense back then (I know he still is but nowhere near the degree that he was) c) most simply, for an easy life And several other reasons that I am unable to put into understandable words.
In short, I truly felt like I couldn't say no to him, about anything. He wanted to watch something on TV when I was halfway through a show? "Ok love". He wanted something completely different for dinner? "Sure thing". He wanted sex? "Where do you want me?"
One night we got into a massive, and I do mean M A S S I
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Okey, this is my first submission on this r/ChoosingBeggars, i am from Tunisia so my english might not be perfect.
I work as an assistant manager in a chain grocery store (been there for 5years now so i have a shitton of choosingbeggars / Karen / Entiteled parents stories) i might post more of them later.
We always have beggars standing in front of the store asking costumers for change as they are leaving the store. Most of the beggars are polite so we dont usually try to make them leave, we only do it when they become violent or start annoying the costumers. I was in the back office one day watching the cameras trying t catch shoplifters ( people try to steal when the store gets busy ) and i saw one of the beggars from outside walking into the store and heading to the "Employee Only" Door. I left the office and walked toward him and asked him politly if he needed something.
He was also polite and told me that he is hungry, that he didnt have any money to buy food and was hoping i could give him something for free.
We usually remove the items that are going to expire on that day 3h before the day ends. It was still good and it was going to the trash, so i thaught that it wouldnt hurt anyone if i gave it to him.
I asked him to wait a couple of minutes, and i went to grab a bag that i filled with all kinds of stuff : Yogurt, Cheese, Sandwiches and bread.
I gave him the bag, and he immidiatly starts looking at what was inside.
CB : Is this all you got ?
ME : Yup
CB : But i dont like cheese...
Me : You can give it to someone else
CB : I also dont like unflavoured sugar free Yogurt , and i dont eat Tuna, dont you have any chocolat deserts or Chicken Sandwiches ?
At that point i was in utter disbeliefe . I told him that it was the only stuff i could give him and that if he didnt want it he didnt have to take it.
He looked at me like i insulted him, left the bag on the ground and went back outside of the store.
I took the bag, went outside and gave it to another beggar.
Since I brought him home from the vet two days ago he has not had any solid food or water. I've managed to get him to lap up the juice from wet cat food and got him to eat some sort of paste thing. I want to give him some tuna juice as a much needed liquid and as a final treat. But then I started thinking about salt and how bad salt is for kidneys....I just want his final night as best as it can be. I would love him to have that final treat without causing him any extra pain
If everyone did this all week. $$$$
Was torn on what flair to use, but as the title suggests, have any of you actually made/eaten bbq tuna? What does it even taste like? Is anyone willing to take one for the team and try it?
I can't eat fish, so I have a lot of questions about it.
