My friend and I are both 23F, she is a loyal long time friend but I am considering ending our friendship because of the way she pushes religion and a conservative lifestyle down my throat while deeply insulting my personal choices regarding my health, sexual health and love life.
Her and I are the same religion (Jewish) and she is far more religious than me. She keeps Shabbat and prays on a basis which I think is really awesome but it’s not my thing, and I am getting so tired of her open judgement about it.
What really has pushed me over edge and brought me to this sub was our conversation tonight about birth control, specifically IUDs. I have one and I deeply regret sharing that with her. She told me that the decision to put a foreign object in my body was foolish and pointless because I shouldn’t be having sex before marriage anyway. I’m a 23 year old American girl in a healthy committed relationship. I am entitled to sex without her judgement and her implication that I’m not is degrading.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a long time now and I didn’t tell her for a while because he isn’t Jewish and I don’t need her disapproving commentary. The fact that I call her one of my closest friends yet I couldn’t tell her about my relationship out of fear of her aggressive judgement tells me that perhaps the friendship should end.
In reality I value my friendship with her which is why I’m here. This is really the only problem in our friendship, other than this all is good and we’ve been great friends for years. I’d love to work through this but I don’t see how and need advice. I’ve tried openly talking to her about it but she refuses to see where I’m coming from and quickly changes the topic. It feels like a hopeless cause.
Every ad I see on YouTube, every commercial I see on TV, every single one of them is trying to sell me something. The notifications I get from my shopping and even food apps on my phone are about discounts and savings so that I can buy more of their stuff. Every single business is almost always having a sale/offer/discount/bargain to try to get me to buy more stuff.
I’m tired of it.
It works, too. It makes me want to buy more stuff and feel guilty when I don’t because I’m losing out on a sale. I’m trying to fight this consumerist agenda but it’s so hard when everywhere you look it’s buy, buy, buy.
These two conflicting ideas in my head lead me to feel guilty when I buy something because I tell myself I don’t absolutely need it and feel guilty when I don’t buy something because I want to scratch that itch of “I need a new shiny thing.”
I can’t escape it. It’s exhausting, but there’s nothing that I can do to fix it.
EDIT: My first ever silver on Reddit! Thank you, kind internet stranger. I’m glad this post resonated with so many of you.
I used to love movies. In the 80’s and 90’s, you could watch a movie with unknown actors and it was goods Now, the unknown actors are some already famous persons less attractive, less talented offspring. I feel like just because your parents or grandparents were actors, doesn’t mean your going to be good at it too. I want to see that unknown person that traveled to New York or Los Angeles with twenty bucks in their pocket and a dream in their heart. It just seems, If you look into so so so many of these new actors backgrounds, they came from rich families. Some with so much money, they could afford to fund these less talented prodigy’s attempts at acting. Some aren’t that rich, but still come from backgrounds were they have all the opportunities to get roles or make those precious contacts that will get them ahead. I’m sick of these people being shoved down our throats. Granted, there are some, that are talented, but for the most part, that is not the case. It’s real hard to hear Hollywood talk about racial equality and gender equality when they haven’t addressed the privileged, wealth and nepotism that is so blatant it’s nauseating. I like watching Asian movies and series. I don’t know any of the actors and, they are good! I mean really good! The story lines are amazing, the actors are amazing. I think more of these stories and series should be brought here, it’s time the US didn’t get the credit it does for the crap it produces. We need variety and better actors. I’m interested to see if it’s just me or if others feel the same way.
Politicians create fervor and unrest in the population and stoke a culture war. They can't control it and become scared. Instead of not doing that anymore, it is a better solution to pass patriot act 2.0.
Then, as a politician you can keep inflaming a culture war instead of working on making life better for stressed communities (which takes planning and effort and money and you might lose because you failed at that) and silence or arrest those (that politician's rhetoric turned into extremists) that respond too positively to the culture war rhetoric.
Problem solved. I guess, because the problem that whole time was that our laws were not harsh enough and our surveillance not powerful enough.
First post was removed because I flared it as low effort.
Hollywood studios are getting lazy as hell when it comes to greenlighting their major tentpole releases every year. I just wish every now and then we would get something different instead of a formulaic hero story which is repeated to death.
I know at the end of the day they're going to favour producing sequels and spin offs because a built in audience and popularity is normally a pretty safe bet for box office return, but do we really need FIVE Fantastic Beasts films??
For those of you telling me to go watch indie films you've missed the point. There's only a handful of +$150 million produced every year and what annoys me is that I want to see that money spent on bringing new original properties to the screen.
There's plenty of great indie films out there but they're all limited in their creative scope by their budget. Could you imagine Lord of The Rings on a budget of $5 million? or what about the first Pirates of the Caribbean? or The Matrix? These are all large scale films that required massive budgets to tell their story. That is what I want. Original Blockbusters.
So I been taking covid seriously, but unfortunately, I live in the in a state that is completely overrun with idiots and who has idiots in pretty much all levels of government. Add to the list we are the new hotspot.
I been keeping distances from everyone, only going out for essentials and doing the right thing. But no, YOU MOTHER FUCKERS CANT WEAR A GOD DAMN MASK IN PUBLIC. You say it is a hoax, it is infringing on your rights, or what ever god damned bullshit your uneducated little minds can come up with.
Well, now I got covid. Almost a year of doing the right thing, essentially becoming a hermit and actually giving a damn about those around me means nothing now. Fucking cock suckers coughing while grocery shopping, getting near people just because they can.
If I make it thru this, I will god damn throat punch the first room temperature iq excuse for a human that comes near me without wearing a damn mask and not staying six feet away. I havent been filled with this much range in years.
Update: Yesterday was the final day of quarantine. I had no fever for the 10 days but I did lose my sense of taste and smell for three days. I also had some issues breathing for a day but then it normalized.
I went on my first long walk today and I need to see my doctor asap, because I never felt this out of breath from just walking before, so I believe that I may have damaged lungs now.
Please take this seriously, because I still saw cocksuckers walking around as if this virus is nothing but a big joke.