I'm 26, two kids, and 4/5 sisters have kids, with the exception of Serena, who is the travel the world with a knapsack kind of gal.
I love my family, but every single family outing, get together, every dinner, lunch, everything has to be "family friendly" and kid-centric. I can never get my sisters other than Serena (when she's even in town) to go to a movie, have lunch, sit and chat without it being all about the kids.
Even if the kids are having kid play time with each other and the adults are sitting around drinking coffee, the conversations are about the kids, kids are called over to talk to us, etc etc.
Pre-COVID, I asked my sister Julie to come with me to get our nails done and just have "us" time. She changed her mind last minute and said she was bringing her daughter as a "bonding activity" We do nothing but bonding activities. And the same thing has happened time and again. Shopping? The kids NEED to come. Taking a hike? All on board!
I expressed my frustration and she acted like I was being super out of line, shocked and went on about how she can't imagine doing things without her mini me and that it was weird. It became a whole "are you okay? are you SURE? are you depressed?" thing.
The requisite zoom family things were all about the kids with no adult time. So when we were talking about getting together for Easter, I thought hey, maybe they'll want to catch up!! I asked during a planning call, "Do you think we can maybe just have some time for the adults when the kids are playing, so we can all catch up?"
My mom and sisters acted like it was the most ridiculous ask, Mom did the "Are you okay?" and "I can't imagine wanting to spend time with my family and exclude you girls from any part of it. That's not normal."
I said that I really can't sit through another kid-centric get together and that if we aren't going to at least do something and sit and have cake and coffee together and catch up, just the family, then count me out. Well, they went through with it and I ended up sending the girls over and staying home and having a great time just me and Serena. She said that she understands how I feel, and she stands with me, because they exclude her as well since she doesn't have kids and has been clear that she never will.
Of course she and I are being talked down to and told we're assholes to treat family like that, that we should have all been together as a family, and that it's time to "grow up" and accept that it'll never just be th... keep reading on reddit ➡
Been with my wife for almost 23 years, and she has always gotten me great gifts, even early on when we didn’t have much money to spend on each other. About 10 years in we got into a conversation about how I find it so difficult to come up with thoughtful gifts compared to how adept she seems to be. When I asked her how she did it, she casually said,
“I pay attention to what makes you curse!”
And I’ll be damned if the vast majority of the gifts that I found most memorable and oft-used were the direct result of the thing that guys often catch a bad rap for trying to do for others.......solving problems.
Did I trip over a power cable multiple times building out her chicken coop? Cordless drill.
Was I always complaining about how I can’t get my pillow to support my head throughout the night? Contour pillow.
Remarking how much I hated constantly cleaning out the gutters underneath a big oak tree? Gutter covers.
That’s it. Simple stuff that often doesn’t break the bank.
That being said, of course there is room for gifts that don’t have to solve a problem and are a little more extravagant or frivolous and just make somebody happy, but I’ve put this technique into use in the years since and always come up with great gifts for the guys in my life.
Understand that this LPT isn’t exclusively for men, of course. I think it can be applied fairly easily as long as it just comes from paying attention to your friends/family......at the very least it will make them feel great to know somebody is paying attention.
It could be the most pointless thing in the world, however that child is giving you something they feel is special.
I know it's a vague question but here's an example:
two or more characters are having a conversation, one says something questionable and the author goes "Bob looked at Ted for a few minutes".
HOW?!? Do they know how long a single minute of staring at someone is? Now i have to picture this guy awkwardly staring at the other for an uncomfortable amount of time...
Even 10 seconds is a lot during a conversation.
I don't know, maybe i'm weird.
PS: well this exploded. If you're a writer new or experienced i suggest you take a dive in the comments, i see a lot of useful tips.
Pretty disappointing comments from LeBron. There shouldn't be much conversation to be had and given the efforts from the league to educate the players' on the efficacy of vaccines, I don't see much excuse for not supporting and using his platform to further the causes.
So many people dismiss their ignorance, lack of understanding and unwillingness to learn about a subject as "it's just my opinion" as if we're supposed to acknowledge and respect every opinion thrown at us. Some opinions are clearly wrong and it can actually be dangerous to acknowledge them and I feel too many people are loosing sight of that
Hey hey people,
I've noticed a trend over the past week or so of thread and comments complaining about 5e, what 5e does wrong, what can be changed about 5e, etc. But clearly we're invested in playing 5e, or else we wouldn't be on this subreddit.
What are some good things about playing 5e?
I'll say that its a fun system to play. It is easy to pick up and play, compared to its predecessors. I've played Pathfinder 1e, which is complex, with almost too many character options, very easy to powergame, and the rulebook is dense. I've Starfinder, which is a bit better than PF1e, but not much more in terms of comprehensibility. I think 5e is in a Goldilocks "Just right" zone of giving players options without overwhelming them with possibilities. That said, I'd be interested in giving lighter systems like Pathfinder 2e (played a couple sessions), Dungeon World or Dungeon Crawl Classic a try. In the meantime, 5e is good enough for my fantasy RPG needs.
And its popular. Sure there might be better game systems, but good luck on finding enough people to play them. I can always find a 5e game out there. Maybe this makes D&D5e the McDonalds or WalMart of RPG systems, but I instantly know how to play the game and know what I'm getting into.
English isn't my first language so sorry in advance,,
hi, so a little bit of context:
I (20M) go to a culinary arts university in America and stay with my bf L(21M). He is American and an atheist while i'm born and raised a Turkish Muslim. Since we both go to cooking school, we change the cooking chore daily without a problem. Also last bit, i'm a rather progressive person and i cut ties with my uber-religious dad and J knows this.
So onto the story, it was J's turn to cook and he told me he would make breakfast for the weekend. So Saturday morning (which was my birthday) he comes to my room with some food and blindfolds me saying there is a surprise. Then he says he made something on the table and we walk there. I take a bite and it was pork. From a pig ofc. so i was of course incredibly aggravated. I took the blindfold immediately and asked why he did this. He was in hysterics and thought this was SOO funny. I told him it was disrespectful and he shouldn't disrespect my religion. He scoffed off saying i was overreacting and that i wasn't that religious anyway so he thought it wouldn't be an issue.
I'm currently thinking of moving to a new room/house but my brother who i vented to is saying that's too much of an overreaction so AITA for maybe reacting too much?
I am quoting a post from Tumblr by user penguintim :
"When Lily Evans told James Potter that she wouldn't go out with him because he was a bully, he stopped bullying people and redeemed himself. When Lily told Severus Snape that she wouldn't go out with him because he called her a racist slur, he went on to join a racist terrorist group.
Conclusion: James Potter handled rejection much better than Severus Snape does (did) ."
I just honestly think that this sums it up
(Edit: Wow. I really am a dumbass lol. I need to reread the books)
Great things will happen to you. Not because you’ve earned it. It’s not because you’ve suffered or because you’ve been a good person. I’m not talking about Karma, that’s a different energy.
Great things will happen to you because you BELIEVE that they can happen. This is the key.
This is your manifest destiny, and it WILL happen.
The universe doesn’t care if you deserve it or not. It’s not keeping score, saving your turn. There isn’t a point system to life. I think Karma is a wonderful concept, but it means nothing unless you believe that you deserve great things – happiness, love, fulfillment, and, yes, even great wealth.
We have many ANTS (automatic negative thoughts) that we need to overcome and crush daily. Think of your mind as a computer program, and for years now, it’s been running this background program that keeps telling you that great things don’t happen to you. So, you ride that wave. You vibe on that feeling day in and day out, and you become that. Well, fuck that.
Change your program. Reprogram your automatic thoughts. Make them positive. Go find a mirror. Look at yourself and say, “You beautiful bastard. You deserve great things. You do. When GME moons, I’m going to take great care of you. I’m going to care for your mental and physical health. I’m going to develop positive habits. I will exercise and eat well. I’m going to live a long, long life, wading in the tides of an endless summer. I will be happy, kind, and free, and I will spread kindness wherever I go. Because I deserve it. I believe that I deserve great things.”
That’s your vibe! Build that dream in your mind, let your subconscious understand that this is who you are. Einstein talked about this. He likened it to how ENERGY works, permeating, interacting with similar energies. Look at it in whatever way that makes you comfortable, but the point is, you will attract the things you believe you deserve. It’s energy. Choose yours wisely.
So what do you do? As far as I’m concerned, you have 3 jobs.
Do you sell at 1,000? No. 10,000? No, what the fuck. No. 100,000? No, and you know why? Because you’re retarded. 1,000,000? Fuck no. You know why? Because you’re downright autistic. You’re a shit-slinging ape.
So, when do you sell? Simple. You ride the MOASS, let it peak, and you sell on the way down. Don’t overthink it. It’s simple. In order to get there, you need to hodl. Then you need to hodl some more, then you need to calm down and hodl a little... keep reading on reddit ➡
Recent events have me thinking yet again about this idea, one that has become an undercurrent of my 20's. Its something that sparks a mild existential crisis pretty much every time I think about it. I tend to vacillate back and forth between the two viewpoints but I feel like believing things DO happen for a reason is just a comforting defense mechanism.
I think opinions on this matter are all totally subjective, and based almost entirely on each person's life experience. Not to be condescending but with the exception of religious reasons, I think optimistic folks are only that way because they haven't endured the level of trauma/loss/suffering/sadness people like myself have. I am incredibly jaded, nihilistic, cynical, detached, desensitized, etc. so its impossible for me to look at what goes on in the world and think there's some grand design or master plan or metaphysical force at work. Even just in my own life terrible things have consistently happened since birth and I've always been a good human being.
So, I'd like to discuss this in as practical a way as possible. Why do you believe things happen for a reason? And be specific. What theories do you have that support things happening for a reason EVEN IF you don't believe it? What ideas do you have that support life isn't random chaos?
Please feel free to get as philosophical/scientific as you want. As long as you explain how/why it supports your belief with specifics. I know this will bring us into territory like free will, physics, determinism, etc. but keep it related to changing my view if you can! I urge you to share your opinion on the stereotypical problems in this discussion like cancer, brain aneurysms, innocent children dying, etc. Sorry to be dark but this is an innately dark topic.
CLARIFICATION EDIT: Some are getting caught up on the semantics of what I mean by "things" so let me be clear. I'm referring to negative events outside our control like natural disasters, innocent people dying in shootings/accidents, cancer, stuff like that. Bad things happening to people randomly, especially really good people. And as for the reason part I don't mean literally the scientific quantifiable reason. "An electrical imbalance in these storm clouds caused a discharge resulting in lightning striking and killing this person". No. I mean a reason as in this person deserved it/ it was meant to happen/ it was pa... keep reading on reddit ➡
Tweet >De'Aaron Fox, an avid Call of Duty player, on how he avoids saying the wrong thing when playing online: "One, I wouldn’t say no shit on stream. That’s dumb as shit." Said COD trash talk can get really bad.
De'Aaron dropping some knowledge for Meyers
So, Vault Of Glass. One of the cool things about it that sometimes gets mentioned but sometimes does not was how the Vault Of Glass was just sort of THERE, on Venus, in the patrol space. You would go about you normal patrol stuff for the first time on Venus and see this huge, massive door that seems to have no way to open it. If you knew nothing about VoG, you might spend a bit of time looking for a way to open it, them move on.
And sometimes, you would be going about your day on Venus, slightly more advanced then you were back then. You KNOW what the Vault Of Glass is now, but you don't particularly want to raid. Then you head there on some other errand... and you see 6 people trying to do the puzzle to get in. "Oh my god they are trying to get in to the Vault" and you think to yourself "Is there nothing stopping me from coming in to help? Can I get a reward from it? Can I go INSIDE because it's open?"
So you equip your best weapons and jump into the fray. You take the role of foe damager since you can't interact with the positions. You make the lives of everyone else a bit easier by taking down some tough ass minotuars. And they manage to open the door and go inside.
You don't get rewarded sadly. No loot from opening the door. You don't get to go inside either and explore. It only opens for the 6 it seems. But hey, sometimes, helping others is it's own reward. You have a story to tell of how you helped a raid team do their thing on your own terms. That's enough. You hop back on your Sparrow and go do your thing.
Basicaly, what I'm worried about is when Vault Of Glass returns, Bungie will entirely miss this one aspect of how cool Vault Of Glass was. There will be no big door on an area of Nessus that people go to as they pass their daily rounds. No chance to go and help a raid team get into the Vault then be on your merry way. This cool oppotunity in Destiny's open world, unlike any other, will be gone, consigned to the corridors of time. I don't like that idea.
TLDR: If we can recapture the feeling the original Vault Of Glass opening area had on it's return, that would be neat.