20 years ago my brother lived by himself about an hour away from where my mum & I lived (I'm much younger than my Bro, so was still a child while he was a late-teen). We lived in a rural area, while my Bro was in the nearest city. Whenever my mum had need to go into the city, she would pick him up and they'd just spend time together.
He had a really bad habit on these occasions, to wait until she was already there and then get out of bed, shower, get dressed and then meet her outside for them to go do whatever they were doing that day, either errands or shopping etc. This process would take anywhere from 10 minutes to half an hour, which would eat into the time mum was willing to spend in the city.
One day mum arranged to see him, and he just said 'okay just text me when you're here.'
The next day, she texted him 'I'm here' as she was leaving her house - an hour away from my Bro.
So my Bro got up, got showered & dressed and went to stand outside, looking for her car. After waiting for about 15minutes or so, he finally rang her to find out where she was parked.
> Mum: "Parked? I'm not parked anywhere. I'm still driving." > Bro: "But you texted me you're here." > Mum: "I am here. You're there. I will be there in about 15mins. Are you ready?" > Bro: "Yes, I've been ready for 15minutes and waiting outside for you!" > Mum: "Oh good. I won't have to wait this time. See you in a moment!"
On that occasion mum was able to get on with her day immediately. In the future, my Bro did end up being dressed in time for mum getting there, but he is still perpetually and habitually late to this day 20yrs later. We still talk about this text every time Bro is late tho.
How often do you text your S/O if you hate texting?
My (21m) mom (61F) keeps texting my friends and girlfriend. It’s always been annoying and overbearing but it’s crossed a line. She almost texts some of my friends more than I do. She has never met most of them nor my girlfriend.
I met my gf around a year ago. My mom asked for her number (for “emergencies”, but I knew what would happen). I said no as she and I weren’t dating yet and had really only been talking for 3 or so weeks. My mom proceeded to check my recent followers on Instagram and ask around among them to figure out who she was. Once she figured it out she began texting her. I don’t want this. She has also continued to talk to some of my closer friends she had messaged.
My gf and I have hit the 9 months of dating now and my moms texting of her had ramped up considerably. She almost texts GF more than I do. Mom is overbearing and has began complaining to her and talking about me (little embarrassing childhood moments). I hate it. I told her to stop and she said “at least I won’t be an awful mother in law”. If she keeps going like this she may not get to be a mother in law. She does this same thing with the friends to a lesser degree (some are now very awkward around me as they weren’t close before but this has pushed them away). I’m terrified she will do the same for my gf. She won’t stop. She even emailed my college professor to check up on my grade (I’m doing well in classes but it wasn’t her place to do so (the prof shut her down and alerted me)).
I recently went on a backpacking trip (my phone was without signal) with one of my best friends and she took this as the opportunity to go back and FB message my astranged Highschool Friends to try to arrange days for them to see me and her. I haven’t talked to many of these people in years. I got back and got mad and she said “your friends are my friends too”.
She has done stuff like this since early HS but I wasn’t in a place to stop it nor was it as persistent and aggressive as it is now.
I can’t have any accounts public nor tell her who I see but this makes her cast her net wider.
I can’t do this any more. I don’t want to lose my family over this shit but I need freedom and the ability to have my own life.
TLDR; My mom won’t stop texting my gf nor friends no matter what I do. It’s causing serious difficulty with my relationships.
I (21f) had a rich grandfather who died recently and I didn't know him very well. He divorced my grandmother when my dad was 13 and barely spoke to him or his siblings for a few years after that. My aunts and uncle never why and felt really rejected by my grandfather's lack of interest in seeing them on a regular basis. When my dad was 18 he reached out to my grandfather and reconnected with him. Eventually, my grandfather was able to somewhat mend his relationship with my dad's other siblings and he even paid for their college. However, my grandfather and grandmother were still pretty bitter towards each other but never told anyone why or the reason for the divorce.
They didn't really stop being openly hostile to each other until my dad died when I was 4. Now that my grandfather's dead the secret came out when the will was read. Apparently my grandma had an affair and when she was pregnant with aunt she didn't know who the father was but choose my grandfather because he was the most financially stable. My grandfather didn't know for the longest time until he caught my grandmother in another affair and found an old letter her first lover sent that she kept. He was furious and filed for divorce and used every legal although not very ethical trick in the book to hoard as much of he assets and resources as he could.
The will stated that before each child could claim their share of the inheritance they would have to take a DNA test to prove that they were his biological child. To any child that refused the test or they were proven not to be biologically related to my grandfather, then they would just be given $5,000 while the rest would be allocated to the children who were proven to be his biological child. We were all shocked and grandma was livid. There were a lot of fights but in the end everyone wanted to present a "united front" and just try and find some kind of loophole, claim the money and then take a DNA test. I never agreed to that and resented being told what to do as a legal adult. I tried to talk to them about it but they shut me down twice. My uncle's wife even accused me of not really being my dad's kid so I shouldn't get any money anyway. That pissed me off so I just took the DNA test outta spite and I am my grandfather's biological grandchild so as of right now I'm getting most of the money.
My paternal side was really angry with me. It's now started this domino effect where everyone is starting to fight with everyone an... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit: HOLY SHIT!! OVER 3k UPVOTES?! AND ALL THESE AWARDS?!? You guys are so sweet! Thank you!
So I had a date with a friend of a friend (he got glowing reviews by said friend) we chatted over the week and got on ok. He was friendly and keen and our first date went well.
The night before the 2nd date he sent me a video along with a message saying lol my mate sent me this.
I open the video up thinking this will be funny then find a clip of a prostitute crying as she has been forced into doing something she didn't want to do then not being paid. She following the man crying and shouting and the man keeps hitting her.
Apparently this is funny? I told him I was offended and he apologised but didn't seem to get what was wrong with the clip! It's not a comedy sketch it's a real clip. He seems kind otherwise and generous but this has given me serious second thoughts
I want to give him benefit of the doubt but I really don't know if I should.
What would you do?
Thanks for reading x
I wanted to thank everyone for their replies, there are so many! I wasn't expecting this to cause such a reaction. Thank you so much, I'll try to read and reply to as many as I can.
For clarity I'm british and the clip is from the UK. I think my british politeness may be a factor here in my concern about how to address this and what to say to the friend who recommended him.
Also the clip does not show any sexual acts, just the aftermath. A member of the public filming the interaction between the sex worker and her "client" the man who assaulted her. I think the humour may come from the fact that she Is tricked as someone commented? Also the man Is a considerably older person with a walking stick and that Is what he Is using to hit her with.
So my friends have had mixed reactions, he's In the army so I was told by a couple of people including himself...oh It's just "squaddie humour".
The friend who recommended him also told me I shouldn't see him again, but from talking to him I think she told him something different! But to be fair would you want to upset someone like this that she has to see regularly?
I did go on the second date, please don't berate me for this, I just wanted to gage his reaction to my concerns in person.
I don't think he is an evil person, but I am also very aware of my naivety as has been so clearly pointed out here! I've got mild aspergers so that may also explain things a bit more. I find most social things a little bit confusing so tend to ask for help In situations like this as sometimes I just don't get pp... keep reading on reddit ➡
This was changed a while back for no reason, and it's really annoying to no longer being able to mute all messages at the beginning of the game.
Disabling chat is not the best option either because then you can't time summs in the chat. The only other way to do this is muting since champion select but that's kinda boring so I believe fullmute should mute pings and messages while muteall simply mutes messages.
I cut of communication with my crush for my own good. I had removed all my social medias as well. Only recently it has come to my attention that she never sent me a text since I stopped initiating the conversations. I was talking so much with her and thought we might have atleast become good friends but I guess it was all in my head. Making peace with your reality is tough and heartbreaking.
Edit: I had told her my true feelings before I stopped talking to her. I understand that she did not want a relationship and not everyone can be good friends that’s fine. I’m sad cause it hurts to see that it was all in my mind and I was making things out to be better than they actually were.
Not asking anyone to hate her. It’s just that I never realized the pain will last this long and change my life weirdly. I have space so that I can live my life in ease and that why only recently it came to my attention that she has not texted anything, it’s sad that it’s this way but it’s nit wrong. Reality can hurt but rationally I can’t complain.
Hear me out.
My older brother is about a year and a half older than me. Idk what tf happened but we used to be pretty close when we were younger. By the time I was in 7th grade, he did not SPEAK to me in public. When I hit freshman year, he didn’t even address me at home.
My mom made it so that I had to beg for his approval and she wouldn’t help. She said I “did something” that he won’t ever forget and I have to work for his approval. For years both him and my mom have told me that I’m nothing more than an embarrassment. He’s even gone as far as indirectly call me a slut (I was a virgin until earlier this year - TMI but you get the point). When my mom would call us over to sit down and talk, he won’t face/look at me and would degrade me in third person and address my mom and she would LET him do that.
My older brother graduates from college in the spring. He moved and I haven’t seen him for 4 years now. When my dad told me to call my brother during dinner one day I said no. My mom asked why and I told her he disrespected me for years. She said I shouldn’t hold a grudge and that pissed me off. I told her about what he called me, how he wouldn’t look at me, wouldn’t even address me in public or at home and apparently she said he had a “reason” and won’t tell me. This was news to my dad, who traveled for work and recently retired.
I recently left my family and live on my own fully supporting myself because of the disrespect they’ve given me for years. I can see my mom doing the same thing to my younger siblings and I constantly step in so that their relationship doesn’t get ruined as bad as mine & my older brother’s.
I don’t hate my brother. I just have 0 love or tolerance for him anymore and, to this day, he won’t address, message, talk to me and has me blocked on every social media app. I do not want to text, call, or attend his stupid ass graduation.
Am I in the wrong here? Should I spend an entire week with a brother who constantly pretends I don’t exist, that I’m disgusting, repulsive?
Fucking hell, once he made a reservation for MY birthday cuz my dad sent him money to do so, he picked out a restaurant and “forgot” to put my name on the list. I spent my 16th sitting in a car crying my eyes out and then falling asleep in the trunk, they were in the restaurant for 4 hours and didn’t even bring leftovers.
I don’t know what to do, I’m fucking angry and upset again and idk who to ask but Reddit rn...
According to scholars Reynolds and Wilson (2013):
>Many influential clergy disliked equally the unbelievers and the classical Greek literature which they studied with enthusiasm, and so the members of Christian communities were advised not to read such books. If this attitude had been adopted by all the clergy it would in due course, as the new religion became universal by the fifth century, have imposed an effective censorship on classical literature; as it is there can be little doubt that one of the major reasons for the loss of classical texts is that most Christians were not interested in reading them, and hence not enough new copies of the texts were made to ensure their survival in an age of war and destruction. But the literary merit of the classical authors was sufficient to tempt some Christians to read them, particularly as there were, at least in the early period, comparatively few Christian literary classics which could be recommended as an acceptable substitute for the traditional texts studied at school.
We hear too much about how the Christian church "preserved" ancient Greco-Roman learning during the Dark Ages (and yes, contrary to the "new orthodoxy" of ignorant apologists, there was a Dark Ages! See Ward-Perkins, 2006) and "saved" Western civilization. What apologists conveniently forget is this was done selectively and overwhelmingly favored Christian literature to such an extent, classical literature barely survived the Dark Ages.
According to Reynolds and Marshall (1983):
>The copying of classical texts tapered off to such an extent during the Dark Ages that the continuity of pagan culture came close to being severed.
The losses, of course, were substantial, with estimates ranging from 90 to 99%. Scholar G.W. Trompf says 94% of all Latin literature was lost (1973).
The truth is, the apologists are wrong. Far more ancient works were lost due to Christian indifference than actually preserved. Overall, Christianity had a negative influence on the survival of all classical literature, losing much, if not most of the learning of the noble Greeks and Romans.
Most of us look at an Orb of Horizons and think it can potentially roll any map of the same tier because from what I can tell, that's what it says: "Reforges a map item as another of the same tier". But how it actually apparently works is that it will only roll maps of that tier that occur naturally at that tier, not ones that exist in the atlas with watchstones. I'm fine with it working the way it does - but I'm not fine with not being able to tell what it's going to roll without taking all the watchstones out of the atlas. Are you?
My man started the break-up text with a hella good metaphor: ‘these last few months with you have been a dream. And as much as I would’ve liked to stay warm and comfy under the covers with you forever, it’s time to wake up.’
He then ended it by circling back to the same metaphor: ‘you and I were like a really good dream you wake up from and desperately want to be real, but know deep down it can’t. Who knows, maybe someday we’ll wake up and find that it’s reality. Until then, bye and gl.’
Where tf are this level of writing skills when I’m trying to write supps. Jfc.