Or As My Doctor Insists On Calling It, A Colonoscopy
Anyone who wears certain styles, has tattoos, piercings, wears bright colors, wears the 'wrong' clothes, etc. etc. Basically anyone that looks different than what they think people 'should' look like is badmouthed and insulted and ostracized (quietly, of course; they're too scared to ever say it to anybody's face.) Anyone who does not conform to their standards of appearance is wrong, sinful, and unintelligent, and they will be regarded as such. I can't count the number of times I've been out with my nparents and had to listen to them go on and on just relentlessly insulting people that walked by under their breath and expecting me to agree or laugh.
This has to be a common trend among Ns, right? Has anyone else noticed this?
On mobile so formatting will be an issue.. The other night I 22M was headed over to my girlfriends house and she texted she'd be about 50 minutes late. So on my way to her place stopped at a bar (alone) got my self a drink and caught the end of the 3rd period of the Blue and Avalanche game. As I was finishing my drink about to head out a guy at the bar asked if I was doing okay and if I wanted to join him and his friend on the patio, since he hates seeing people alone at bars. I ended up telling him I was about to head out but I appreciated the offer, and I wasn't drinking because I was depressed. So shout out to this guy I had never met before who wanted to make sure I was doing okay while alone at a bar.
I parked and hopped out of my car and a middle aged man that was getting into his car said hi and told me he really liked my car. I thanked him and smiled and went on my way. Several minutes later a woman stopped me in the store and asked me if I knew him and I told her I didn’t. She told me that when I left, he took pictures of all sides of my car and then focused on my license plate and snapped a few photos of the plate and then got in his car and drove away.
I’m really confused because my car isn’t anything special, it’s a convertible that’s around 5 years old and not remotely rare. Why would someone take photos of my car and plate? Is it concerning behavior at all? The woman looked worried and I might be responding to her tone and demeanor so I thought I’d come here and ask for your thoughts. I know this is a boring query but I’m a woman and am worried this guy might look up my address via my plates or some other odd thing that I can’t imagine.
ETA: thank you for taking the time to answer my question, I’m inclined to believe this was a car enthusiast without nefarious intent, I’ll keep my eyes open all the same and let you know if anything further occurs. It seems unlikely, however.
This happened about an hour ago, I’m so embarrassed.
I got a text from an unknown number, along with 20 other unknown numbers. It was a long paragraph that was filled with weird spacing and links to stuff, so I figured it was spam and thought I’d make everyone else who got it chuckle by sending back a meme that showed an empty airport queue with the caption “i think this is the line for the people who asked”.
Everyone else started replying with their serious condolences and prayers, and I was super confused. I went back and read the text and realized it was an invitation to a funeral service with links to the church address, service notes, etc. I was petrified with embarrassment.
Then, the person who sent the original message texted me directly, apologizing that they got the wrong number and saying they were sorry for disturbing me. I apologized profusely, explained the situation, and offered my condolences. They were super cool about it, said it was no problem, and texted the main group not to send anything nasty to me as it was all a misunderstanding.
I’m lucky they were so cool about it but man, I feel like an asshole.
TL;DR - I mistook a funeral service invitation for spam, sent an offensive meme about how nobody asked, and then realized. original texter and I worked it out, all is well but I feel like an ass.
Long story, hope it makes sense. I (27f) spoke to my bio dad (50?m) awhile back, and he said he wanted me to have his last name. In the past, this man claimed my mother was a whore, and that I wasn't his child. He would even tell me this when I was little and was visiting him... I told him I didn't think I wanted to do that because of said history, and he made it off like it should be an honor and that he's ready to claim me as his own. Fast forward, I get a call from his sister. She asked if I could go to court and tell a judge that my bio dad, is my dad so that it would be easier for him to get a green card. I said I'd only do it if he was going to bring my siblings over too but I wanted to wait. Well they moved on and tried to find another way to bring him into the country.
Eventually I spoke to his family about what happened... And mentioned that he doesn't know me. He's never acknowledged my birthdays, or helped my mother financially. (She had to bust her bum to give me what I needed and luckily, what I wanted.) He'd only call but with years between phone calls, visits only happened because my mom would save up to send me on vacation during school break to see HER sister. And every chance I had to spend time with him, he would get drunk and just rant about how my mother is a whore. I also mentioned that I tried to confront him about this, and how much pain it caused me, only for him to deny it ever happened. He might have been too drunk to remember..
Anyways, once my rant was over, I topped it off with threatening to file for child support on my mother behalf if I did help him get a green card. I said hes a stranger and has a big sense of entitlement. Well his family didn't like that at all. They said I needed to forgive him, and to let him into my life because he's my dad, and always will be. My siblings were very offended and some of our cousins have been rude about it too. They're acting like I'm being disrespectful. I don't think I said it in a rude way, but with conviction. AITA?
Edit! Thank you for the awards, I've never had one before, let alone this many! :)
This post has me shaking in my boots down memory lane.
I should have clarified some things:
He is currently sober and his sister was going to cover all the expenses, including a lawyer. I'm not too sure what the process is, but I was told I could have helped the process to get a green card go a lot faster. He tried to find another way to get into the country, so I'm sure... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm very excited!
Also, do any other dads have recommendations for pregnancy and parenting literature? I want to know what I can do to make the next month's if pregnancy easier for my wife and what are some good general rules about parenting.
Title sums it up well. While getting gas at my local Costco, a random guy approached me and asked to use my Costco membership card to pump gas with. I paused for a moment and responded “sorry, but I’d prefer not to.”
He gave me a really dirty look, got upset, and said “are you serious?” He asked a few more times and I gave him the same answer - “no.” His pushiness made things more uncomfortable because I had my wife and little brother in the car. People are unpredictable these days and didn’t want anything to do with him.
On one hand, I feel like the the asshole because sharing the card would’ve been quick and could’ve helped him out of a jam. On the other hand, my family relies on our Costco membership and don’t want to get our membership suspended because of this.
AITA for refusing to share my membership card to someone that needed it?
**Edit - I’m very appreciative of everyone who took the time to post their opinion. The overwhelming majority says I’m NTA. Although responding to all would be difficult, I did read everyone’s comment.
I was listening to music, cutting my lawn, like I do, and I'm almost done with the work. I have a ritual where I smoke a fat bowl right as I'm wrapping up my yard work. So I light up.
I finish smoking my bowl and begin walking my lawnmower to my garage. As I'm floating towards the garage, my elderly neighbor, who I've never actually met or interacted with in the 5 years I've lived here, waves me over.
I'm a little paranoid, thinking he smelled the weed. I take my headphones off and greet him with respect. Good afternoon, sir. Yes sir. No sir.
He babbles on about how his lawnmower is broken and asks to use mine. I realize he doesn't care about the weed and I feel like I owe him something for not being a rat. So I tell him, "naw man, I got you". Popped my headphones back on and went to work on his yard.
Any streaming is fine, I have a lot of them.
i'm in desperate need of recommendations on what to watch, all i watch is really popular, yet i fail to find anything similar. it seems as if i tapped some insane underground "nobody makes stuff like this" collection of genres
from cartoons - infinity train, the hollow, ducktales 2k17, rick and morty, solar opposites, over the garden wall, kipo and the age of wonderbeasts, the owl house, disenchantment, the midnight gospel, hilda, final space
from live action and feature - every pixar movie, most MCU, Wandavision, every recent disney movie, stranger things, chilling adventures of sabrina, lucifer, mr. robot, black mirror bandersnatch, biohackers, control z, daybreak, how to sell dr*gs online fast, locke and key, umbrella academy, the witcher, You, unsolved mysteries, end of the f*cking world, chernobyl
I hope that can help determine what the actual hell are my preferences for TV
I see a lot of posts on dating subs saying, ‘I’m going to make a goal of talking to x number of women” or “I made x number of approaches”.
The mindset of talking to women as a homework assignment or goal is counterproductive and seeks validation when it is end goal oriented, like focusing on getting a number after the interaction.
Most women will be able to sniff this out, that you are being disingenuous and are seeking validation, or simply trying to get their number, instead of having an interesting conversation and letting things unfold naturally.
Being successful in seduction is just fine-tuning general people skills and Charisma . Rather than focusing your energy on just talking to attractive women, talk to all strangers. Try being genuinely interested in how they are doing, and making them feel good about themselves without an end goal in mind, or if they reciprocate your gestures.
When the time comes to talk to an attractive woman, you aren’t treating them as a means to an end or a homework assignment. They aren’t on a pedestal, it’s just part of your routine of being friendly, interesting, and conversational.
I’m not saying it’s not a good series, it has a captivating story and a good soundtrack, but in no way is Stranger Things ‘Show of the decade’ I keep hearing people say they’d give anything to watch it again for the first time, one girl ok TikTok said she sell her soul for it, and I just don’t get it.
I am enjoying that all of a sudden, people get out of my way, apologetically and smile at me after seeing my bump. Of course, there are also shitty people who gawk, but I enjoy how people are being polite, going out of their way to distance while I am at the grocery store, and sometimes they let me go first. HAHA! I will enjoy it to the last minute! What are ways people are being accommodating or nice to you? You can also add if someone is being an a-hole too haha!
I used to do most of my reading during my commute on public transportation. Every so often, a stranger would approach me and say, “That’s an excellent book, I hope you like it!” These were always short and infrequent conversations, but it always made my day when someone did this. At the very least, it was good to have the extra recommendation for what I was reading.
Since the pandemic started, I’ve been driving to work and listening to audiobooks, so I sadly haven’t had a conversation like this with anyone in over a year. I may start taking public transportation again soon. Maybe these happy little interactions will start happening again.
What are your thoughts on strangers approaching you about a book? Do you prefer to be left to read, or do you like it when someone comes up to you and affirms you’re reading something good?