My stepson is 11 and at his school they have these annual events (father-son camping, mother-daughter cooking etc). Late last year they held a mother and son race where the mother had to run across the field and piggy back their sons back to the other side and then tie our legs together and just sprint back across.
A week prior my stepson Dylan was talking about it and how he thought it was ridiculous and embarrassing. When I looked at their poster for it, it looked fun so I convinced him to sign up for it. Later that day I called his mother Julie but she didn't pick up so I left a voicemail talking about the event and asking her to get back to us if she is available. Five days past and still no word from her. Being honest when she didn't respond, I saw it as an opportunity for Dylan and I to bond but since I respect Julie as his mother I sent her an email (doesn't use social media) with the poster and talking about how Dylan has signed up for it. Two days passed and still nothing. S... keep reading on reddit ➡
My stepson loves art and has just entered into the world of street art and spray painting. It's messy work and hasn't really come out the best in the past.
This morning he asked if he could expirement on the wall in his room. I don't like the idea of it so I said no and said he should wait until he goes back to his father since he was clearing out his garage so it could be my stepson's work room. He obviously wasn't all happy about this but said it was fine and continued playing his game. My wife however called me to our room to argue about how it's his room and I shouldn't care since it's not in a common place.
Still don't like it though. AITA?
Edit: sorry, title supposed to say "AITA for not allowing my stepson to spray paint the walls in his bedroom"
So my husband and I just married. I will soon be middle aged and we decided to try for a baby asap since my clock is winding down.
I have a stepson who just turned 14. He will be a freshman in high school this year. We have a great relationship and I am his go to for sex advice and life problems over both his parents. He proposed to me before his dad and has demanded our marriage and my moving in way before we were ready. So we are great and love each other a lot and he even refers to me as his mom occasionally.
So I wanted him to know he might have siblings next year and asked him to help with the names. I have mentioned in passing a few times we wanted kids and he has always laughed it off as a joke. I really want him to feel involved and not blind sided. But today I asked him if he could help with baby names. He became very upset. Saying he does not want siblings and he hates babies. If we have a child he has said he will never return to our home and stay only with his mom. I... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve been married for 5 years to my husband. He came from a pretty dire financial background but he’s got a heart of gold. currently we are living in my mum and dads second home which only has 2 bedrooms while we try and save up money to pay off credit cards, debts, save for a deposit on a house etc. Obviously this means we are under a lot of stress for most of the time let alone under current circumstances.
One bedroom is for the children and one bedroom is for hubby and I, but the house is frankly too small for everybody and we are all getting under each other’s feet since we’re all home basically 24/7. They’re living with us full time and have been since the 17th of March for the moment. This has been a big adjustment for me considering they used to stay once or twice a week but I’m glad they’re here and it’s a nice insight into what our future might look like when we get a bigger place.
One of my guilty secret pleasures is I buy a lot of bath bombs, and bubble bars. They’re not... keep reading on reddit ➡
Let me just preface this by saying i am in a lesbian relationship and both kids in this story is NOT my biological kids but i will refer to them as my kids because i see them as my own.
So a couple months ago my daughter (11) started menstruating. She uses pads for now and she and her brother (9) share a bathroom. We taught her how to clean up after herself and how to properly throw away the pads (roll it up, stick it in the previous pads paper and throw it in the dustbin). Anyway, so my mom stays with us and she flipped the fuck out seeing the pads in the bathroom. She asked me how i can allow our 9 year old son to see that. I just said "it's not an illness. He's learning about it in school. He needs to know periods are a thing". Meh. She didn't agree. She feels it's unnecessary that he should SEE the pads in the bathroom garbage bin. We had a little bit of an argument and left it at that. My mom says my brother never knew when i was on my period because it had nothing to do with hi... keep reading on reddit ➡
Told him he needed to face a boss that has caused so many rage quits over the years by so many and he wooped the capra demons ass. I'm so proud right now. Not one death. Only gave him a brief about the fight
I know the title screams YTA but just listen.
Five years ago I went throught a early mid-life crisis which resulted in me resigning my office job to chase a career in art and photography. For support, my husband's sister asked me to take pictures at her wedding. There was one picture in particular that I took after the wedding which was just beautiful. The picture had my son, my husband, his father and mother, my mother and his sister. So I came up with a great idea. Why don't I just paint this and put it up at the house so they can see it at Christmas? It's still a few months away. I'll get it done right? Wrong. At first I was pumped with enthusiasm but trying to draw the setting alone was killing that. I started procrastinating and taking my time doing it. I've since returned to my previous job and this project has become the thing I do when I'm really bored.
Early this year, my husband and I were going out for lunch and at the place we walked into his ex. Needless to say it was be... keep reading on reddit ➡
My older brother is 45 and has been with his now fiancé for 10 years. They don’t have kids together but she has a son from a previous marriage who is 25. We’re gonna call his stepson Tommy and my brother’s fiancé Melanie. Due to me being in the military for 9 years I wasn’t around when my brother started dating Melanie. I met her through Skype and also when I was on leave. I didn’t meet Tommy until 3 years ago due to him living with his biological father. When I first met him I didn’t think anything other than that he was a young guy (22 at the time). My thoughts on him started to change when he moved in with my brother and his fiancé.
The first incident happened while I was stationed in Japan. My mom called me upset and said Tommy called her a racial slur to one of his friends when she overheard him on the phone. My mom doesn’t speak English very well so I thought it was a misunderstanding until my youngest sister said he indeed said it cause she has heard him say things about her... keep reading on reddit ➡
My SS lost his mom when he was 3 years old and he is now 7. She had been in and out while she was still here but all of his memories of her are good ones, which is good.
With yesterday being Mother's day, naturally it stirred up some feelings in him. I've never seen him break down about anything like he did last night saying he missed his mom. My husband consoled him and let him know she's always with him and she's so proud of him and things of that nature. He perked back up for a little bit but then at the dinner table he just couldn't hold it together anymore. We were all in tears at that point. It broke my heart and I can't even imagine what he feels since I've never had a loss that big in my own life. He began asking questions about her death (she overdosed) and you can tell he's just trying to put it all together. I did eventually excuse myself to give him and his dad some alone time to talk. I felt torn about that decision but I just felt they needed a moment together.
Once th... keep reading on reddit ➡
K- her kid SS- my step son
I originally wasn’t going to post this but it irked me so much I have to. She also takes my sons tree swing without asking. And other stuff. For context we all live in a house that already came with a basement house and converted our garage & attic space into another house so there are 3 families in one building. I like that rent is super cheap but I’m considering a rent raise just to get the hell away from her.
Anyways, her son came upstairs and knocked on my door asking if he could play. I was working out so I said no and he could play when I got done. He usually comes up everyday and plays for an hour, but had been grounded for a week for acting up so this was his first day being able to play again. 5 minutes later I get a text. “K has been waiting a week to play. SS can sacrifice some game time especially since he hid my remote and got K in trouble.” (Found out later it was actually her daughter anyways.)
So I text back “SS is asleep and I’m work... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've been in my stepsons life since he was 6 years old. He is now 19 and in college.
From the ages of 9-17, my stepson did everything he could to make our lives miserable.
He has tormented my husband and I simply for trying to find happiness.
He has said unbelievably cruel things. He made up several lies about my husband and I that damaged our professional lives and finances permanently.
When he was 16, he told me I had a toxic uterus because I was apparently a cold woman. This was when he found out about my infertility issues.
It was a knife through my heart that I can't seem to forget or forgive.
He's now in college and ignores me completely. Which honestly is a relief. My husband still talks to him regularly.
For this coming summer, I told my husband my stepson could not live with us. That I will not put myself through anymore of the horrible behavior.
My husband is angry that I won't give him a chance to make up.
We know he was being influenced by his mother but at some po... keep reading on reddit ➡
my stepson just turned 17. I’ve been dating his dad for 3 years. 6 months ago we moved to their home country. It’s temporary. My husband currently lives and works in another city while me and my stepson are living together.
my stepson seems to love it here. I get it, he was excited to meet all his friends and spend time with them, but then he started drinking and smoking, going out and staying somewhere else the whole night. Those things are somewhat normalized in here but that doesn’t mean it’s right. When I try to talk to him about it a)he ignores me b) he answers me in Russian and I don’t understand it c)he tells me to leave him alone.
I’ve finally had my last straw when he brought some guy over and I decided to ground him. I took away his computer, he threw a tantrum over that. I talked to his father and he thinks it’s not a big deal which upsets me too, my friend thinks I’m being an “evil stepmom” and if his dad doesn’t care I shouldn’t either.
I posted here a few months ago about how my relationship with my teenage stepson hadn't been so great since my partner and I had a baby, and after an incident he (for the first time ever) did not want to come stay with us and told his mum he didn't like me. I had sent a heartfelt letter to him saying how much he means to me and how sorry I am for maybe not being the best person I could have been when I was struggling with PND. He never replied, but I had stated at the end of the message that he didnt have to and I solely wanted to let him know how I felt.
The next time I seen him (at my partner's parents, so SS's grandparents) he was a little awkward for the first two minutes, but then went onto chatting about movies, games and a whole bunch of stuff to me and showing me things on his phone. To everyone's delight we were giggling away and talking a lot more than we had in months. Since then, our relationship has gotten increasingly better. I've put in a lot of effort to try and be the... keep reading on reddit ➡
Okay so seems like an odd question but I am unsure if this is more of a fad with the Go or would actually be good if both my stepson and partner had one. Due to Covid it has been 3 months nearly with no contact (in person I mean, we're all on discord daily). It's incredibly hard as we've never spent for than 5 days apart.I don't really have the money to put out for this but if it is something they could both use I would try. If they could play some games, watch youtube etc and feel like they are together it could be a dream come true. I am just so unsure on if it is any good or not.
Ok, this is going to be long because there's a lot of back story. Here goes:
I've been with my partner for 6 years, living together for 4 and a half. I have two boys (13 and 11) from a previous relationship, he has one boy (now 15) that I will call John for the purpose of this post.
When we met I shared 50/50 custody with my ex - which is still the case - and we have a very amicable arrangement and are friendly towards each other. He, on the other hand had a very toxic relationship with his ex and she had custody and lived in a small town 2 hours away. He had his boy every second weekend. When we met this arrangement had been going on for 18 months. Before that he shared 50/50 custody and although he and his ex didn't get on that well, they were civil and the custody arrangement was going well.
What changed was she decided she wanted a fresh start with her new partner and baby and got a job transfer to this new town and wanted to take John (then 9) with her. My partner was agains... keep reading on reddit ➡
I miss him. My former husband has defamed my character to his son and prevented any contact between us. The things I've lost because of my husband's infidelity... losing the boy I carried in my heart, rather than in my belly, was the worst.
Happy Birthday, kid. You're an adult now. You made it. I am so sorry that I could not stay in your life. Forgive me for failing you. I will always be here if you need help. I may not be a part of your family anymore, but you will always be part of mine. I love you.
Our stepson has been good during his teenage years. Normal behavior for that age, exploring smoking, drinking or hang out with the wrong crowd putting that aside .... but now He is old enough to be on his own, he is making over $3000 per months. His truck is paid and he don’t help with any money for bills or expenses. He lives in our house while having 5 sibling after him, he is the oldest. I can’t tell him to grow up as long his mom and dad don’t consider he needs to move on his own. I don’t want to be the bad guy but also his presence puts a lot of unnecessary work on me. Can’t tell him to rent an apartment and also can’t be quiet any longer . Also he start dating a new girl with a baby, now she is coming in my house also🤯 like I don’t have enough people in my house (we are 8) what should I do?
I gave birth two weeks ago, it was my first pregnancy and truth be told I found it incredibly incredibly difficult. It was painful, complicated, and I was told I was at risk of death because I developed DVT in my second trimester. I needed daily injections and will need them for another 6 weeks, they are painful injections and my symptoms are also additionally adding to the pain of my postpartum body.
As you can imagine I’m an emotional mess right now. One of the things that I’m struggling with is breastfeeding- baby is struggling to latch on and it’s fucking hard and I don’t know what I’m doing. Beyond my greasy hair and snotty crying face and tired itchy eyes, I can barely function, and that’s not even talking about the pains and spotting going on downstairs. I stink, I’m struggling, I’m in pain, my back is fucked, everything is fucked.
My stepson is 13, he’s been my stepson for 2 years. I adore him usually but at the moment I’m feeling incredibly vulnerable and naked and there’s... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi all, new here and first post. I'm in a few Facebook groups for stepparenting but I prefer reddit for most things and just found this sub. So, hi everyone!
I've been married since 2015, I have one 2 year old son, and my husband has a son, 11, from a previous marriage - we're both 37. My stepson recently (March) moved in with us and is from another country, so the living arrangement is new for us all. Before I start, I should say he really is a great kid and we get along well, I get along with BM (who is a continent away, which helps :) But she really is nice even if not the most on-top-of-things person).
My problem involves the bathroom. My stepson is 11, which personally I think is old enough to either not pee everywhere or to at least clean it up afterward. Multiple times a day I'll go to use the bathroom and find the seat up (doesn't really bother me), but with pee all over the rim, drops on the floor, and from time to time, all his poo/paper left in the toilet, clogged. For th... keep reading on reddit ➡
After a month+ I’ve come to my senses and realized there’s nothing there to save. She was never over my discretions of 15 years ago and despite my efforts did not feel loved and wanted. I spent a majority of this time blaming myself until it finally hit me that this was not my fault. This was her actions, and though it could be drawn from the hurt from the past, it is what she chose to do.
Over the weeks we’ve had a few conversations about it all and the hurt that we’ve both endured over the years and we are both regretful. It was almost relieving to hear she regretted her decision and how she went about it. Unfortunately due to logistics we (me, “wife”, and stepson) are all in the same living arrangement as she hasn’t worked in over a decade plus the current pandemic.
It may sound stupid, but I’m sti... keep reading on reddit ➡
I don't want to paint her oldest boy as a pedo; been racking my brain on how to bring this up.
The Cast (all names are changed)
Older stepson: "Bob"
Younger stepson: "Doug"
My 14mo old: "Kevin"
Bob is very intrigued by the male figure whether it be posters of male models in department stores or his own when he stands in front of the mirror, topless, and flexes for 10 minutes (his mom and I find the latter hilarious). When I was his age my cousins and I were trying to find my dad's nudie magazines, but to each their own. Bob also thinks Gal Gadot is ugly because she "has a long neck." ...wtf? I mean may she does have a long neck, but I don't believe she's ugly.
In the past, during diaper changes Bob will come in the room (for no apparent reason) and giggle and make comments about Kevin's genitalia. I somewhat brushed it off and educated him about proper things to say vs improper things to say. After the second or third time of him coming in during Kevin'... keep reading on reddit ➡
So for some background, I've been with my fiancé for 8 years, stepson is 13. We also have two daughters, 4 and 2. We just got our trampoline set up that we received last year as a gift and my stepson just got here for about a month or so. The first thing I told him was NOT to bounce too hard or try to double bounce them. The reason I thought I should specifically tell him this is because everytime he plays with them, almost always one or both seem to get hurt. If they're kicking the ball in the backyard, he'll hit my 4 year old in the face with the ball by accident. He has knocked them down while running, etc.
As I'm putting the youngest girl to sleep, I hear him and my 4 year old out there jumping. I look out the window to see him first jump over her, then he's showing her how to lay down flat. Once she laid down flat, he started bouncing her and not gentle, she was catching air and obviously she's 4 and not able to hold herself still or protect her neck. I see her struggling to grab... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi - my stepson (16) recently decided to become vegan. I want to support his choice, but need some help figuring out some things I can make that satisfy both his diet and my non-vegan partner’s diet.
My stepson is only with us every other weekend, so I will likely only need to make vegan meals a few times a month. Any suggestions on how to make dishes that are adaptable for vegans and non-vegans? For example, I’ve thought about making spaghetti with meat sauce and making a small pot of sauce for him with just plain sauce or a plant based protein instead of beef.
I’ve also thought about getting some things that will be easy for him to make on his own for times we are just all grabbing our own thing (like lunch). Maybe the Annie’s vegan & cheese (which I really like myself as someone who is lactose intolerant). Are there other simple things I can keep on hand for him?
Update: thanks for all your suggestions! My stepson showed me and his dad the documentary that made... keep reading on reddit ➡
I had a baby 10 months ago. I gained 50 lbs in pregnancy and have lost about 25. I've been having other unrelated issues that have made my depression creep back up (I got my meds adjusted and am seeing my counselor, fyi) so I haven't been eating the healthiest foods and haven't been as active. The other day, my stepson, age 5, said his mom told him I am "soooo fat" and today he asked me if I am gonna work out so I'm not so fat. I have trouble with this because I am extremely sensitive about my weight, and he is just repeating what his asshole mom told him. I have to shut down or else I will respond in anger. But really, this tears me apart inside. I know I need to lose weight. His mom has always been a very superficial and mean person, so I guess I'm not surprised by this, but I have no idea how to handle this. I don't want my daughter to grow up with a brother who talks about fat people. I want her to be shielded from body size talk as long as possible unless she develops a serious p... keep reading on reddit ➡
My SO and I are super sad right now because his 4 year old seemed really down tonight, mentioning his mom telling him I’m a stranger and he needs to stay away from me.
Previously he has also mentioned to us that mom says I’m a “dumb woman”.
We do not speak ill of his mom at our place at all. For history I have been in his life since he was 2 and helped take care of him a lot.
I just feel awful because he got really quiet/sad and when I asked him if he thought I was a stranger he said no, that he told his mom he knows me and knows my name. I gave him a hug and told him that is what matters, and that I care about him a lot. Now I’m up wondering if I did anything wrong, or if I said the right thing.
Any advice on how to handle this if it comes up again? Should I try not to be as close to him so he doesn’t get confused on how to treat me? :(
I've ( 34F) been Dave's stepmother for 10 years, with his dad (46M) for 11 years, we have two children together (4M & 9M) and are expecting our fourth and final child, all exciting times, I guess I'm all emotional and am blowing this out of proportion.
Dave is 29, his daughter is 2.
Dave's never really accepted me as a mother, which since theres only 5 years age difference I understand.
He was with his ex from 18 till last year, he found out she was cheating on him (his daughter is definitely his)
I'm grandma to his daughter, she's a sweet little girl but since her parents separation Dave hasn't exactly been kind towards his ex which in turn makes things difficult for his daughter.
I told Dave's ex to reach out whenever she needs help, weather it's financial or emotional.
She occasionally pops up- most recently last week for money for summer clothes for her daughter, I happily gave it to her.
This is where the argument started; Dave found out, not really a secret, and... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband was married before me. His ex-wife announced to him that she had been having an affair and was running off with the guy. She signed away her rights to their kid (7 at the time) and basically said she didn’t want to see either of them again. We started dating after that and got married. It’s been nearly 5 years and we haven’t heard from her.
My husband and I talked about her a little bit when we first got married. He said he didn’t really think we’d ever see her again, but at the time he was pretty angry with her for what she’s done to their son, so he said if they ever did see her, he didn’t want to see her. But again, that was about 4 years ago when it was still pretty fresh. He said he wasn’t mad for him and he thought that both he and his son were better off without her but he didn’t understand what kind of person would abandon her son like that and he didn’t want that kind of person around his son. But we didn’t really talk about it after.
My husband doesn’t travel... keep reading on reddit ➡
Moms asleep for the night and don't want to wake her for this.
I'm talking full crab-walk-pose kick. She wasn't biting, or even growling, she was laying down in a non aggressive manner. We've had instances in the past where either dog would be dragged into his room to "snuggle", just to hear a yelp after a couple minutes.
So I witnessed this through the window as I was walking from the barn to the house. I saw red. I went inside and asked him what had just happened. He tried to tell me a different story about her biting his hand and growling. I took very will lit videos and photos of his hands including him pointing to where she "bit him" for mom in the morning when she asks where his game console and television are. I'm shaking. I asked him why he would ever hurt either of our dogs to the defense of her aggressively presenting herself.
Currently back in the barn trying to find out how to handle this and how to explain to a child the severity of hurting animals out of aggression.... keep reading on reddit ➡
My stepson is turning 18 soon and my husband and I decided that we will be getting him a car. I make more than my husband does and we will be splitting the cost of the car 70/30. That’s fine with me.
His mother is a woman who I make the effort to be civil with but don’t like. I am much younger than she and my husband are, and come from a more privileged background; she had a lot of things to say about that. She called me her ex’s cash cow and that’s one of the better things she said about me. We are not friends and I won’t even describe her as nice to me.
When my husband told her that we will buy my stepson a car for his birthday, she said she wants to chip in 5% of the cost and then we could tell my stepson that the gift is from all of his parents and step parents.
I don’t want to do that. I don’t need her 5% and my stepson knows that his mom and step dad are not in a position to equally share the cost of buying the car. I don’t want recognition for paying 70% of his gift’s cost b... keep reading on reddit ➡
[37M] My [15M] stepson loves going to the gym which is awesome. He is also a great student and just a very well rounded kid.
Today when he came home from school he asked me if he could go to the gym. His [35F] mom was still at her workplace so I told him ”Sure you can go.” He packed his stuff and said goodbye and then left.
While he was at the gym my wife came home and asked me where her son was. I told her that he was at the gym. She freaked the hell out and told me that she had told him that he couldn’t go to the gym and that I always have to ask her first and that we have to get him out of there immediatly.
I told her that I didn’t know about any of this but she didn’t calm down one but. Well we got our jackets on and drove to the gym and she got him out of there. Afterwards she told me that she was extremely angry that I couldn’t just have called her and then she would have told me the situation.
We purchased Wrestlemania last month and loved it. What we didn’t like was Randy Orton’s VS Edge very long fight. We also didn’t care too much for The Boneyard Match or The Firefly Funhouse fight.
Will Money in the Bank be like those matches? I mean with the lack of commentary, pre-recorded, looks more like an action movie than a wrestling match?
Hi /r/BabyBumps.. on mobile so please excuse the formatting. I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and I have the genetic ultrasound and blood work scheduled for this upcoming Friday. While I'm not considered high risk for genetic disorders like Down's or trisomy, there's still that thought in the back of my mind. And there's also that thought about whether I will be carrying to full term if it does turn out that there's something wrong with the baby. We have an 8 year old stepson from my husband's previous relationship. He and his ex have been split up almost right from the start and I've been in my stepson's life since he was 1 year old. My stepson has three half brothers all on his mom's side so it's not like he's lacking siblings but yes he's an only child when he's at our place. I know he's excited about us having a baby as we've talked about it in the past and asked how he would feel about it. Currently, only our immediate family (our parents and siblings) know about the baby and today... keep reading on reddit ➡
Went out and played the local 9 hole course and the little guy had a blast, he used an old disc of mine because it was orange and wanted to get him a disc or two of his own. Would the lightest disc possible be best for him or any other suggestions would be great. Orange discs are a plus or that sweet ass waffle one
So, our property has a lot of grass and an asphalt driveway. My stepson loves to bash into things, run into walls, etc. He’s a four year old boy, so it makes sense.
I’m looking for a truck or off-road vehicle of some kind around the $150 mark. I’ve wanted to get into RC Cars (more specifically drifting) for years now. But, drifting isn’t going to work where I live. That said, I’d like to find something that can be repaired, upgraded, etc. Something that can grow with us.
Is there anything out there like that? I’ve looked into Exceed RC, but they don’t seem to have reliable parts based on what few reviews I could find.
Any help would be appreciated!
So like, I gave my stepson a sports car because my real son is probably in college or something. Whatever, I can't even remember his name.
People are mad at me and I don't know what's happening?
I’m 29 years old and my SO has 4 kids. 3 daughters(5,4,and 4) and a 9 year old son.
Raising the girls has been easy and her son is amazing, but we’ve only had him for a year since he was living with her mom in another state.
He has always been very caring and mature for his age, but he’s having trouble forming relationships and interacting with kids his age.
He doesn’t understand boundaries or how to not always win (SO’s mom babied him and that is an understatement).
SO is worried that he’s just going to be “that weird kid” in school and honestly I’m struggling with how to teach him without being mean.
I can tell him “quit walking in circles around me that’s annoying” or that “Mom you just ate poison, now you die” isn’t a joke or funny all day long, but he always responds with “oh I know”.
When walking him out from school and kids say “bye!” He ignores them and says “don’t talk to them!”. Not in an angry or upset way but like it’s embarrassing to him or some way to be “funny” th... keep reading on reddit ➡
I [34F] moved into my husband's [45M] house (which we now share) 5 years ago. My stepson is now 20 and moved out when he was 18 so I thought now it is time. He lives abroad and he doesn't visit that much, I also have extra time to clean. My husband became nervous and said he will ask his son if it's ok. His son got mad and said that he feels like he doesn't have a permament home if we change his bedroom since he lives in an appartment. Also when he stays he wants his things visible in his bedroom so he feels like I am not 'taking over'. My husband said feels guilty as he has a daughter[16F] too who his ex got full custody over so he doesn't want to 'lose' his son. He got full custody of his son. His daughter doesn't have a room here as she doesn't visit much and she keeps all her stuff at her moms.
When he was living with us I completely understood him having his own space and his room was his place but now it's like a room in our house that we can't use so I packed his things and pu... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have been a step dad for 6 years now, to 3 youngins. My 2 daughters are absolutely wonderful, ages 9 and 12. My son (14yo) on the other hand is a real handful. I’ve tried so hard to connect with him, but he just won’t have anything to do with me, he never has either.
I love him but he HATES me. My wife (his mom) has tried talking to him about this and telling him I am trying. I dropped the wife and kids off in the city for the day and told my son if he wanted to come along for the ride I’d take him for lunch wherever he wanted to go. He was quiet like usual but on the drive home(in the country) things took a turn, he just snapped out of nowhere. He said I’m not his real dad, which is true, and he wished his mom would leave me.
That was totally uncalled for, and stuff like this happens quite often, and I decided to pull over and told him to walk home, I just feel so hurt and I don’t know how much more I can take before I just give up, 6 years like this. It was 3.5 miles from our ho... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ummm this is uncomfortable, because I do love him. He’s only 7, how could I not, right? To be clear as of last month his father and I separated so I guess he’s not my SS anymore, probably why I can even admit this to myself now.
I have an 8 month old girl with his father and until about 2 months ago I saw him as a kid who just needed love, but something pretty terrifying happened. I was in my oldest daughters room for maybe 20 seconds which is only 4 feet from our living room where my SS and 7 month old at the time were. When I walk back toward the living room I saw that he had wrapped a rope around her neck and was choking her with his head cocked to the side almost observing her reaction. She was ok. Fine, perfect, if anything she adores him and thought it was a game.
Is this normal for boys? For siblings? I’ve tried so hard to forgive him, but now I can hardly stand being around him. There’s been other things as well, and the way he shows emotion is just odd. What would you do? H... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife and I are separating. I am moving out but buying my stepson a new xbox to replace the one I am taking. He started playing fortnight on my account, I never thought I would have to be apart. Is there any way to transfer his avatar and achievements to a new gamer tag of his own? This is on an Xbox One. If not I’ll have to just let him have my gamer tag.
Before I start, I just want to say yes I’m very well aware his father is an issue. But I can’t do anything about that right now.
My 10 yr old stepson has no structure, as per his father. He’s very lazy and only plays video games and watches YouTube. He won’t take a shower or brush his teeth unless he’s told and even then sometimes he doesn’t. His dad doesn’t like it but is, I guess, too scared to put his foot down and tells me that since I’m a stay at home I need to. Here’s the problem with that: if I try to discipline him, he does slick stuff. Like once I got onto him for having poo smears in his underwear (this is an issue that went on for two years and finally we got ahold of it) and instead of using the dish liquid next to the sink, he went in the shower and used my whole bottle of conditioner to wash his underwear in the sink. That’s just an example, but so on so forth. I finally gave up. I’m passive now because I don’t want to deal with it and things have definitely gotten bett... keep reading on reddit ➡
repost, original post & comment by u/LeviathanSauce9 *minor edits
We used to be so close. We still have a lot in common and I try so hard to do nice things for him and include him in family activities, despite us only having him for half of the week. However I've noticed that he's become distant since my partner and I had a baby, and now there's another on the way. He didn't want to come over last week, and his mother texted my partner that SS [stepson] doesn't like me and doesn't want to see me.
I've just sent him a heartfelt letter, speaking more in depth emotionally than we ever have before, so I'm very nervous. I've opened up and said he's part of the family and I care about him deeply. I also realise I've perhaps not been the jolliest person to be around (I suffered from PND) and I'm working on becoming better, but I'd hate for him to feel unwelcome or uncom... keep reading on reddit ➡
Fuck you, you selfish, miserable whore. You can do all the whoring you want with your insignificant life, but you don’t have to take your kids into the shit with you. You know your kids all have their own dads who would be more than happy to care for them while you run off living your best life, but then you’d feel as insignificant as you are without your children there to help make you feel like a good person. But look at that honey: children 10 and younger think you’re a good person, and no one else. Real good huh!?!
I’m sick of your lies and your empty promises to get my stepson, my partners son, into therapy to treat him for the trauma and abuse you allowed him to witness. He’s going to need it since you plan on moving him back in with the man that beat the shit out of you. Man I never wish this on other people but this time I hope he tells you twice cause clearly once wasn’t enough.
You’re the only bitch I’ve ever met in real life I can google and find all your slut pics. I’m... keep reading on reddit ➡
Five years ago, John Beckenridge broke a court order by picking his 11 year old stepson, Michael Zhao-Beckenridge, up from school in Invercargill and then vanished. A few days later, there was a confirmed sighting of the pair in John's dark blue Volkswagen Touareg at a gas station east of Invercargill, and the following day a farmer spotted them sleeping in their car and notified police. On March 20th, John sent a series of final texts to Mike's mother, Fiona Lu, lawyers and friends. Barbara Smith, John's neighbour in Queenstown and Mike's former babysitter, received the following text: "chased by the Gestapo. Fiona f****ed up. No going back. My estate will pay back you[r]money. Do not contact anyone please. Regards, JB and MB." John's 4wd was later found in the surf at Blue Cod Bay in the Catlins but the bodies of John and Mike have never been found.
John Beckenridge was a Swiss-born helicopter pilot who met Mike's mother, Fiona, in Afghanistan in 2006, after Fiona travelled fr... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi Reddit, just dropping by to give you an update to my post.
Jack celebrated his birthday in September, and as many of you suggested, I told him that I'm sorry but my gift for him was shipped late and would be arriving in two weeks. That way it didn't look like Kim made me do it, and the two of them had time to enjoy Kim's gift.
Kim thanked me for understanding her situation and said she is grateful that I was gracious about her request even though we don't have the best relationship. It's flattering to read that so many of you think that Joe and I are good people, but of course we aren't perfect and it took a lot of time for us to be in a civil place with Kim. It was humbling for Kim to ask me what she did and it also took a lot for me to let her have it. Hopefully... keep reading on reddit ➡
As the title says I've become very concerned with my stepson's racism. He is 14 but will actually be 15 in just a few weeks. This issue has been building over the past two years and I just feel paralyzed and don't know what to do. He will often bring up what I would consider white supremacist talking points. I believe he is being fed this information online (honestly I don't know much but I know PewDiePie for instance says a lot of racist stuff and he listens to him and others). When he brings it up I always explain why that's wrong, what the truth is and why it's wrong to see it that way. I have a lot of friends who are POC and I've tried to bring him to lots of gatherings with them and make sure he is exposed positively to different races. This doesn't seem to have any effect. I do not know what to do and honestly I'm concerned he'll end up being targeted by white supremacist groups. I would describe us as fairly close (I've know him since he was five) but I'm not a primary decision... keep reading on reddit ➡
After mucking around on Dragon Age Keep, going through different scenarios, I had an epiphany whilst going over the people Morrigan can perform the Dark Ritual with; one such personage being Loghain.
As if you were to marry Anora as a male noble Warden, romance Morrigan and keep her as your mistress and eventually run away through the Eluvian with her, Kieran would at the same time essentially be your half-brother-in-law and stepson.
Just thought this was interesting to me.
EDIT; Since the possibility of this scenario was questioned, I went and made it happen in-game. Cheers!