AITA For pressing charges when my stepson took something my daughter inherited from her mother?

I [M47] been with my wife for 2 years. She has a 21 year old son. I have a 14 year old daughter from my previous marriage. My late wife passed away in 2014. She left a few things for our daughter. Including a gold jewelry set. Her mom was devastated she didn't get to gift the set to our daughter on her wedding day. I keep it in my closet since it's expensive and my daughter is too young to have it. I'll hopefully gift it to her on her wedding.

Last week. We were sitting in the kitchen when my stepson was hesitant to ask me something. We're in good terms but have our fair share of arguments. He said his fiancèe was taking something from his mother's and my closet. saw the jewellery set and liked it very much. He asked if he could borrow it so his fiancèe can wear it at her cousin's wedding. I found this unacceptable I told him his fiancèe had no business being in the bedroom and that the jewellery isn't mine. It's for my daughter. He asked me if my daughter will agree to let him borrow it if he talked to her. I told him not to even talk about it again. He got all pissed and said things I do not remember.

Saturday night. When he and his fiancèe were at the wedding. I discovered that the jewellery set was gone. I told my wife and we looked all over the house. I called my stepson to tell him about calling the police because I really thought someone stole the set. He said there was no need. That he borrowed it and will return it after they get back from the wedding. I yelled at him and told him to come back with it right then. I kept calling him til 12am when he told me to stop calling and that he'd bring it in the morning.

I couldn't sleep that night I felt terrible. In the morning he showed up at 10am. He didn't bring it and started stalling saying: "he forgot"- "he'd bring it the next day". At this point it was clear he gifted it to his fiancèe and was stalling. I got so mad I told him I will be pressing charges if he doesn't return the set today. We got into an argument My wife said his fiancee was the one who wanted the jewelry set. But he was the one who took it and it's not even mine it's my daughter's which made it worse. Because I'm responsible for whatever happens to it.

His grandparents berated me after I told them this and got mad and defended him when I said that I will be pressing charges. he stole and needed to be responsible for his actions He didn't respond to my final calls so now I've given him one last chance and it's over

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AITA for not giving my stepson money that’s for my bio kids?

So I have 3 kids with my deceased husband. A daughter, who is 16. and twin sons, who are 11. My husband died when my sons were just 1 and my daughter was 6. He left behind a large amount of money, all of which went to me. He never specified what he wanted the money to be used for, but I saved it, and added some more over the years, and it’s enough to pay all 3 of my kids’ college tuition. I remarried and have two step kids. My step daughter is 15 and my step son is 18. He’s going to college this fall, and needs money. My husband asked me to give him some of the money that’s for my kids. I refused, because most of it is from my deceased husband and it’s for my bio kids. My husband said I’m an asshole for not treating his kids and my kids equally. He and my stepson are mad and haven’t talked to me since yesterday. Am I the asshole?

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AITA For blowing up on my wife for spending 8k on a motorcycle for my stepson?

I Have been with my wife for over 6 years. I have a 17 year old stepson and a biological 22 year old son. The family had ups and down just like any other family. My son is getting married in Feb. I have put some money aside to help him out as a gift from me for his wedding. I've already talked to him about it and he and his fiancèe said they appreciate it very much. My son deserves it because before his mom died he took over her care and spent nights at the hospital with her. He cried many many times because his mother's death broke him. I'm glad he found happiness again.

  • My stepson is a motorcyclist/ It started off as a hobby. He has posters of all kinds of motorcycles, pictures of famous racers and motorcyclists. He has a group of friends he calls brothers and they ride together and wear some kind of bracelets that represent the group. He always does 3D arts and logos which I find stunning to be honest. He's talented no question about it. Anyway. Before Christmas his mom told me she wanted to get him a motorcycle as a Christmas gift and he'd love it so much. I told her I can't afford it. And that maybe she should think of another gift for him.

Everything was fine until Christmas day while we were exchanging gifts. My stepson received a small box from my wife that had a key in it. We were confused. She told him to go outside and we all followed and then I saw a brand new motorcycle in the driveway. I started wondering where she got the money I didn't bring it up right there and then. I waited a bit.

I asked my wife and she told me that she took 8k from the account to buy the motorcycle. I effing lost it. I blew up on her and asked if she was kidding me. 8k that's the money I put aside for my son's wedding. She said that I needed to calm down but the money was already gone. My son showed up and asked what was wrong. I couldn't tell him his stepmom took the money that was meant for him to buy an expensive motorcycle that I'm sure my stepson will throw in the garage just like he did the old ones in a very short time.

So far he had two motorcycles that ended up being damaged. Those motorcycles cost us so much money Other than paying for spares and parts that needed repairing.

I told my wife she has two days to return the motorcycle and get the money back and she defended herself saying she can't do that because it'd be devastating for my stepson and that he'll resent me if he knew I made her return the motorcycle. I told her that I was ready to talk t

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AITA for not using my daughter's college fund for my stepson's rehab?

The title basically sums it up, I suppose. My husband and I have been married for three years now, I have a daughter (15F) and he has a son (24M). I am friendly with my stepson, but we aren't close. He has a biological mother who is a perfectly fine woman, I'm not here to take the role of his mom.

My late husband (my daughter's father) died when my daughter was 6, we both contributed to her college fund. My daughter's paternal grandparents have also contributed a large amount. Right now, the fund has about $180,000. My daughter is extremely bright, and I'm not just saying that because I'm her mom. I truly believe she has the capacity to go to an Ivy league school, and her teachers have said she has the potential as well, and I don't want costs to hold her back. Our income would be too high to get any meaningful financial aid, and while there are a few merit based scholarships out there that she will be applying too, we don't want to put all our eggs in one basket and hope she gets it when it's so competitive. My current husband and I have separate finances, he doesn't contribute at all to my daughter's fund.

My stepson is struggling with a heroin addiction, and has stolen money, jewelry, hierlooms, and electronics from us for drug money. I understand that addiction is a disease, and I personally paid for an outpatient detox for him, which cost $1000, which failed. His father then paid for an outpatient rehab program, which cost $6500, which also didn't work because he barely showed up. He promised us he'd do better next time and he needed another chance, so I split the cost of another $6500 outpatient rehab program with my husband, which seemed to work during program, but he relapsed as soon as he got out of it. I have spent so much money, time, and energy and it hasn't helped at all.

My husband and my stepson want to try a 60-day inpatient rehab program, which will cost $30,000. I had absolutely no idea where they were supposed to get the money for that, considering the thousands and thousands of dollars that were already spent, and the fact that we no longer had anything of value in our house. They want to use my daughter's college fund, which to me is absolutely off-limits. I feel like it's completely unfair to my daughter to punish her for my stepson's addiction, unfair to my late husband and his parents, but frankly, I don't think spending $30,000 will work. My husband thinks I'm an asshole because I'm prioritizing my daughter's education over his

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AITA For Choosing myself over my stepson?

Title sounds bad but wait til I explain then you decide if I'm being selfish here.

So I ●39Male been with my wife for 3 years. I have one biological daughter aged 2 and I also have a stepson aged 19. Everything is fine except for some issues but nothing huge. My stepson is in college he's struggling with transportation ●he does not live with us he rents with a friend●. He has issues with moving around and he claims public transportation is slow/costly/and not always available where he's staying. His mom always wants to help with this issue but the money isn't enough. My stepson visited us several times to complain about this issue.

Yesterday he visited and talked about needing a car asap and complained that he can't work without a car. My wife had a conversation with me later on and suggested that I pull out 8-9k from my savings and buy her son a car. Now I need to mention that I've been saving money for a Partial-knee-replacement after I had an auto accident in 2017. My wife understood how much of a struggle this is and never mentioned the surgery money until now. I said I'm sorry but I can't. She looked dumbfounded like she didn't expect this response Saying I've never really done anything for my stepson and it's just 8k and the surgery can be done in May instead of March. She reminded me that "Children come first" implying I was choosing myself and my health over my stepson.

But my knee is damaged I can't tell you. The pain is effing terrible. If it was up to me I'd rather sit at home and rest but I gotta go make a living. I have to. It's my duty as a father to provide for my kid not a capable adult. Look I understand he's struggling and I'm not trying to be mean but that's not my problem. My wife said I was being negative. Not acting like a parent and asked if my opinion would've changed if that was my biological son. So I'm expected to spend money on a car paid with money I worked so hard to get despite the pain I'm feeling just so my stepson's problem is fixed? Helleu-effing-llua!

I got mad and I left the room. Then she brought it up again-then again. I asked a friend about what I should do and he said "don't ruin your relationship with your stepson" but we're fine I don't really understand what they mean by that.

The issue is still here and I'm not sure because the surgery takes 27k and they say 8k won't make a difference but I have to save up more money. Aita here or are they?

EDIT TO ANSWER SOME OF YOUR QUESTIONS:

A) Why can't he work and

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AITA for not punishing my stepson for what he said to my daughter?

Throw away account, I’m not usually on this subreddit, but I don’t want this connected to my main account.

I (45M) and my ex split eight years ago. I met my current wife during our divorce and married her pretty quickly after it was finalized. I now live with my wife (41F) and stepson (16M) and while my ex offered 50/50 custody of our daughter (15F), I felt it better she stay with her mother so I could adjust to life with my new wife and stepson. So she came every other weekend before the pandemic. She’s been with her mom since March. Here‘s where the issue comes it. My stepson feels threatened by my daughter when she’s here. I’m the only father figure he’s ever had and he doesn’t like sharing my attention, so he’s often quite rude/mean to her. We normally just assure her it’s because he’s insecure.

My stepson came home yesterday cheerfully saying that my daughter said shed never come here again. I called my daughter to ask why she’d say that. According to her, my stepson has been saying since school resumed that I picked him over her and that I hated her coming to visit and how everyone was so happy these months she didn’t visit. No one wanted her there and she needed to just stay away from us. He denied it of course, but my daughter’s friend filmed him at some point (got to love the age of smartphones) and sent it to me. When confronted, he got watery eyed and said he was just afraid of losing me.

I told my daughter that I obviously didn’t feel that way and he just felt threatened by her presence. She asked if I was going to actually do something about his behavior this time or if I was just going to brush it under the rug like I always did. I told her I didn’t brush anything under the rug, but I wasn’t going to punish him for being insecure about losing his father figure. She told me she was tired of his daddy issues being an excuse to treat her like shit and since I wouldn’t stand up for her, she wouldn’t be visiting again.

I tried to talk to my ex about it, but she said I picked him over her repeatedly and never stood up for her when he treated her poorly so I don’t get to play the victim now that she’s fed up with it. I think they’re both being over sensitive here, and my daughter needs to get over it and visit again, but my brother said I let my stepson boost my ego and failed my daughter by not standing up for her. My nephew suggested I post here. AITA?

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Stepson asked me to post: “I could of cured Covid” - he’s talking about a microscope he was gifted.
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My stepson and I installed a new mailbox recently. Somebody blew fireworks in it right after I checked the mail. The cop said “well you do have a Biden sign up.”
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AITA (F33) for kicking my stepson (M18) out after he got injured and could no longer help me?

I recently got injured in a car crash and currently have very minimal movement in my lower body - however a partial (even possibly full) recovery is expected with surgery and rehab. I work as a therapist so I'm thankful for my ability to work from home, but money is still really tight. My husband does contract work, 2 weeks on, 1 week off so he is not around to help me. We have a spare bedroom and since I do need help with little things as I'm recovering we invited my husband's son to come live with us. It seemed like a perfect solution, he just broke up with his girlfriend, was strapped for cash and needed a place to stay.

We said that he could live here rent free for as long as he likes, as long as he helps me with the little things I'm no longer able to do for myself. It was going great for the first little while, him and I have never been that close, so it was really nice to get to know each other and spend some quality time with each together. However, he started going out and drinking with his friend recently and he got really wasted, blacked out and injured himself pretty bad.

We covered most of his hospital bills, even though we're disappointed that he let this happen. However, considering that he can no longer help me and that we had an extra expense we're going to have to evict him and rent out the room to a stranger for money. we offered to rent him the room, but he can't afford it. He broke down crying, saying he has nowhere to go (he recently lost his job due to Covid) and that I was cruel to evict him while he was injured. He said there must be another way that he could make up the rent, he also has nowhere to go. He's trying to get me to relate to him being injured, but mine was not my fault whereas his was due to reckless drinking. I don't feel like I have much choice but to evict him? Would I be the asshole for doing this? For those of you who ask, living with his mom is not an option - she lives out of the country.

TL;DR invited stepson to come live with us so he could help out, he got injured himself and now I'm evicting him.

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AITA for asking my soon-to-be stepson to pay rent, pay for his own food, and contribute to the housekeeping fees (if he wants the housekeepers to clean his space)?

Ok, my soon-to-be step son Brett has been living in my fiancé’s basement since he graduated from college 5 years ago. He is 26, fully capable of seeking employment, yet he chooses to live off of his father and has taken over the basement.

I have several issues with him:

First, he has only been able to hold a job for about 1.5 years since graduation, and is not actively looking. He keeps telling us that he is interested in getting into the fitness industry and has grand ideas about combining his computer programming background with fitness and nutrition. He has been looking for leads through his trainer friends, but nothing has materialized. This is what he tells us and he never goes into specifics. Meanwhile, he is not even looking at other jobs, including the hundreds of software development engineer openings I see and hear about all the time!!

Second, he just plays video games and messes around with youtube and Tinder the entire day, mixed with raiding our food in the kitchen.

Third, my belongings have been in the guest house for two years now. Brett was supposed to move out when I moved in, but he dragged his feet and claimed his apartment deal fell through. And he hasn’t looked.

Fourth, he is messy AF. Our housekeepers are charging us extra to clean his room and wash his sheets (because he never washes them himself).

Finally, he does not have any medical condition or disability that prevents him from doing any of the above, let alone being a functional, independent adult.

I have had it with him and told my fiancé enough is enough. We are not going to continue subsidizing his lifestyle. At the very least, he needs to pay rent if he wants to stay in the basement, and if he wants the housekeepers to clean his area, he needs to contribute to the weekly visits. Finally, he has to stock his own fridge (there is a full bar and kitchenette area with a Subzero fridge and freezer and a wine fridge in the basement entertainment room - that he also took over - and he only stocks his drinks in there to impress his hookups).

Brett is having a melt down and yelled at me after my fiancé sat him down this past weekend to break the news. He told me he has as much claim to his dad’s property as I do and that I was poisoning his dad’s mind with unreasonable requests because I wanted him erased ever since the engagement. I am not backing down, and I refuse to acknowledge him. I am going to make him pay rent or get the boot. Am I being unreasonable?!?!

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AITA for letting my stepson get evicted and become homeless because I refuse to pay for his outstanding back rent?

So I have a stepson (26M) with my husband of 7 years. After college, he moved to nyc to work in marketing. He has lived in an apartment with two of his partners paying around 1.2k a month but starting in June/July they have stopped paying all rent.

They thought they could get away with it because of the eviction moratorium during the pandemic, even though he was still earning an income and one of his partners (lawyer) was a high earner who could’ve easily afforded the rent each month. Nonetheless, he told us that they weren’t paying rent because he was convinced the government would “cancel rent” before the end of the year.

Unsurprisingly, their landlord has been going nuts and is now threatening to sue them for back rent and evict them starting next year. It’s not looking like any rent will be cancelled, and stepson’s high earning partner also left them suddenly and is now unreachable. So now he is freaking out and wants us to cover the amount they owe on rent, about 6k.

I am fuming. They claim they’ve spent this money already and have nothing in savings. He’s coming to us begging for money because he says he’ll be evicted and homeless in the middle of winter otherwise.

My husband has a soft spot and wants to “loan” this money knowing we’ll never get it back realistically. I’m less lenient and have been pushing back. However, stepson has gotten the sense that I’m the resistant one and has blown up at his dad, accusing him of putting his spouse over his children. I am stuck in the middle and am wondering if it’s easier to just give in than to keep fighting. Husband and I are both high earners and can afford this rent bailout, but I honestly am just sick of endorsing stepson’s wasteful life decisions. AITA for not wanting to pay for stepson’s back rent, thus letting him get evicted and possibly sued starting next year?

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[Nebraska] Is there anything I can do to keep my stepson's mom and stepdad from coming to my house unannounced?

Some background: My stepson lives with my husband and me half the time and his school is based on our address. My stepson's mother is extremely high conflict and to be honest, I'm a little scared of her and her husband. She openly admits to watching my every move and sincerely believes that I'm obsessed with her and want to be her. I have texts from her saying that I have been obsessed with her since before my husband and I got together, and that the guys I dated before were just an attempt to get close to her (she claims she knows both of my exes but they both confirmed, after she contacted them both on Facebook, that she does not). She truly, sincerely believes that we only adopted a dog because she has a dog. She's that level of crazy.

Anyway, a little over a year ago, I got really shaken up when her husband decided to drop by our house before we were even out of bed. He contacted my stepson (who's now 10, btw) directly to come open the door for him. My husband contacted his ex, told her that's inappropriate and the adults need to be made aware of any unscheduled visits, and after arguing a bit, she agreed.

Well, it happened again this morning. And this time, my husband had asked her in a text just last night if she or her husband were planning on stopping by after a comment made by my stepson. She said no, and then her husband came here anyway.

I feel scared and violated. There were no direct threats, but when someone says they aren't coming to your home and then they do anyway, it feels threatening. I would love to move and not tell them our address but the current CO requires us to provide it. Is there anything I can do legally to ensure they don't come to my home or on my property without permission? I already have a camera up that I got after the first incident but that obviously didn't stop them. Please help. :(

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AITA for cancelling dinner plans to celebrate with my daughter because my stepson was upset?

My daughter (13) and stepson (11) have not gotten along since my daughter moved in.

She had previously lived with her mother but I got default custody after her mother turned one of her 24 hour disappearing acts into a never coming back one.

My daughter and stepson go to the same middle school and were both running for student council VP.

There was tension in the house and my wife told my stepson that if he won we could go out to celebrate. My daughter asked if this applied to her as well since he wasn’t her only competitor and my wife said of course.

The campaign got pretty stressful for the both of them. Then the votes come in and my daughter wins by 4 votes.

However, because somehow the one person who ran for treasurer this year dropped out because of grades, my stepson was offered that position.

He saw it as a really pitiful consolation prize and was angry that he had to take orders from my daughter.

I felt very bad for my stepson and he and his mother (who is also very Type A), was very upset, even though of course my wife congratulated my daughter.

My stepson refused to be comforted by the fact that older kids get more easily elected because they know more people and his mother even offered to take her to her law office and give him some responsibilities, saying that was better experience than student council would ever be.

My stepson then said “ please tell me you’re not going to rub it in my face by taking us to dinner now.”

My wife also looks really reluctant to go to dinner.

I finally tell my daughter that we weren’t going to be going to dinner because her stepbrother was very upset by the turn of events and we need to take his feelings into consideration. And that I was impolite to gloat.

That all happened Friday. My daughter ended up crying and even now, Sunday night, she still is mad at all of us.

AITA?

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WIBTA if took my baby to a destination wedding, but not my stepson?

I'm 34F, married for two years (together 5) to husband 37M. We have full custody of my stepson 9M. He saw his bio mom 3x in 2020. COVID impacted their visits, but honestly not that much.

My brother's wedding was originally planned for spring of 2020, as a destination wedding in the Caribbean. My husband and I had previously discussed starting to try for a baby after we returned from their wedding.

The pandemic hit, and their wedding was pushed to spring of 2021. Naively, we all assumed things would be relatively back to normal by then, and husband and I aren't getting any younger, so we decided to start trying for a baby on the original schedule instead of pushing it back until after the wedding.

We got pregnant. I'm now a few weeks away from my due date. We had been discussing whether we felt comfortable travelling with the baby only having one round of vaccines, but then our area had a spike and everything shut down again. Travel is technically still possible but husband would have to quarantine for 2 weeks, which would mean 3 weeks with no income except my mat leave pay. Upon discussion with my brother and his fiancee, they opted to postpone again until winter 2021.

The issue is that I can travel with a baby without paying for a ticket her. The original plan for the 2020 wedding was to go and have SS stay with his grandparents. It's not the most kid-friendly vacation, and he'd have to miss school, and another ticket for him would be close to $2000 that we don't have. But we also didn't have a baby then.

My husband is concerned that if we take the baby and leave SS with his grandparents, it will cause resentment. I understand where he's coming from there, and I've tried to be very conscious of making sure SS knows he won't be pushed aside when Baby comes, and that we don't expect him to take care of her, he won't be less important, etc.

But taking Baby is free, and I don't think I'd be comfortable leaving her at home with grandparents for a week, even for my brother's wedding. Bringing SS to the Caribbean will be $2k we haven't budgeted for (we saved up for our own tickets and expense money for 2 years), and I'm off work, while husband isn't working steadily. We took a big financial hit from COVID because he had to stay home with SS while schools were closed.

The way I see it, if we take only Baby, it doesn't cost us extra, it's less stress, and Stepson doesn't miss school, which is important because he's already struggling a lot. I also don't wa

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I'm so grateful for my stepson, who turns 16 today!

I've been seeing a lot of kind of negative posts on here lately, and I just wanted to bring some positivity to the sub. My stepson turns 16 today. I've been around him (as his dad's friend) since he was 6 and dating/married to his dad and living with him since he was 8 — and I just want to say that I'm so so SO glad that he exists and that I get to be his parent.

He's a real butthead sometimes, as any teenager is, but I just love him so much that I want to explode right now. Biology doesn't matter to me. He is MY son, and I'm so grateful that I have him in my life. It hasn't always been easy, and sometimes he gives me hell. But I'm really glad that he was born 16 years ago today.

I told him all of this in person earlier too, but just wanted to share, as a longtime lurker of this sub. That's all! :)

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My stepson put in a security camera because he thought someone was breaking into his home. Someone was already there
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AITA for ditching my half sister's wedding because of her stepson?

So about a year ago I was invited to my half sister Kate's wedding. Flying through some history, Kate is my dad's youngest child with the lady he dated before getting back with my mum who reached out five years ago. My other siblings don't have bad 'vibes' with her but they opted out of having a relationship with her and so did our father and that was pretty much that. One day I got a call from her saying she was getting married that next month and would really like me to come. My 10 year old son Jack and I had a boys weekend out that same week but since it seemed like I would be the only one from the family coming and she'd been wanting to hang out, I said yes and brought Jack along. Things were going okay until I noticed my son had been crying. Tried to get it out of him and he finally told me that he was hanging out with Kate's stepson (16) and daughter(14) when her stepson started teasing him over his stutter and laughed at him. His stutter is something he's sensitive about so I took this quite seriously especially since they're older and should know better.

Told Kate and her fiance about what Jack told me and they spoke to their kids and came back saying they didn't recall even hanging out with him and seemed genuine so they couldn't do anything but promised they would talk to them in case they lied about how they shouldn't tease him. Now my thinking process was that this was initially supposed to be a weekend out alone with my son so his comfort and happiness in the change was my first priority and he wasn't happy or comfortable anymore so I thought it was best to just leave and so we did. Sent her a nice message on her day which she didn't respond to and that was the last time we spoke so I assume she's not interested in a relationship anymore because of this. AITA?

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WIBTA if I put the name of my Stepson on everything he gets for Christmas?

I (22/f) are getting married in December to my fiancé (26/m). He already has a son from a former relationship with his Ex (25/f). Tbh, she hates us and wants us out of the picture. She's the kind of person to think everyone in the world is against her and therefore she made my fiancé up to be the bad guy (he really isn't, he's loving and caring and just wants to be in his son's life). Their relationship has been toxic from the start and since they split up (about 2 years ago) she's trying to separate them. In December we are also going to court to fight for custody because right now my fiancé doesn't have any (he was at university back then and lived a few hours away and she tricked him into giving her sole custody for the time being but never gave him his rights back). So much for the backstory.

Since they are separated every gift my stepson received has been sold. She just tries to make money from it and he never gets to keep the stuff. While talking to my sister about this year's Christmas presents for our children I dropped this information and she told me to just put his name on everything (like getting it printed on a blanket f.e.). I thought about it and told my fiancè about it. He's okay with it but told me it could be seen as an a**hole move. I just want to do what's best for my stepson and want him to enjoy everything he gets. I also want to gift something small to her (like chocolate) just to be nice but WIBTA if I did this?

EDIT: I'm in a good and healthy relationship. I know everything there is to know about the situation but I can't share all the details because I want to respect the privacy of the people involved. It's also not part of the question. I love my fiancé and we are in a good place. He didn't cheat with me, we met when they were already separated and he did have time to recover from the breakup. We know it seems a bit hasty to get married so soon but we want to because we love each other. There is no money involved except child support he's paying since day 1. I just want to know if I would be the a**hole. I can't answer to all of you, but I'll try my best. I'm a bit overwhelmed right now.

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My stepson's mom is likely a narcissist. How can my husband and I support him? What advice do we give him to deal with her abuse when he's only with us 50% of the time?

My stepson is almost 11 and while I've had a feeling for a long time that his mom is probably a narcissist, my stepson didn't start talking about how her behavior affects him until recently. Lately he has been saying he doesn't want to go back to her house; he says she's mad at him all the time, that even his stepdad says she's always in a bad mood, and he hates that she talks badly about his dad and me all the time.

A few weeks ago, he told us that it makes him upset when his mom talks about his dad and me. We suggested telling her that it hurts his feelings when she talks about us and he said "she doesn't care about my feelings." Still, he came home the next week and said that he took our advice and told her it hurts his feelings when she talks about us. Apparently she responded by saying she doesn't know what he's talking about, even when he gave her examples of what she said, and then she told him that I actually say mean things to her (I haven't spoken to her in years and have her blocked on all platforms). So, apparently having him share his feelings (what we do at our house) won't work because she'll just deny it and/or lie.

What advice or support can we give him? We want so badly to help him and give him a normal, love-filled childhood like what his siblings get to enjoy (even my daughter with my ex has FOUR loving parents between her two homes).

There is an open custody case and my husband will be presenting evidence to try to change custody but even IF he gets primary custody at some point, my stepson will still live with her at least some of the time and that'll be his mom forever. We tell him we're sure she loves him and she means well, but I don't want to invalidate his feelings either. Ugh, please help.

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I (34F) walked in on my stepson (14) masturbating while wearing my clothes

I really hope he doesn’t use reddit, and I hope Atleast he doesn’t check this subreddit. Also I am on a throwaway because I haven’t told his father yet and I will go into detail on that a little bit later in the post.

I’ve been noticing some of my clothing (specifically bras and panties but also other stuff like shirts) has been going missing lately. I never thought about it too much but I was still noticing it. I would be getting dressed in the mornings after my shower and notice there was say only 3 panties in my drawer and I could’ve sworn there were 4, but like I said, I never thought about it too much.

Now I always knock on his door (and all my other step kids), and I always wait for an answer. This time I forgot, we all make mistakes. But when I opened the door I saw him in my clothes and masturbating while he was (presumably) watching porn. And he saw me. I instantly closed the door and walked away.

This happened about 30 minutes ago and we haven’t spoke, and I haven’t told anyone. I’ve been thinking of how to handle this but I’m not sure, that’s why I am here.

Obviously I need to apologise for walking in without knocking, that is very obvious. But I’m not sure how to approach him wearing my clothes. By no means do I want to shame him in any way for it, but he also can’t be taking my clothes. I don’t know if I should tell his father or if I should try to handle this myself. We are pretty close, and I feel we have an amazing relationship, so I think it is something that I should be able to talk about with him. I also think it would be much more embarrassing for him if he knew his father knew as well, which is what makes me think I should handle this myself.

But I want to make it clear to him that I do not want to shame him for masturbating, or for his kink. I want that to be clear. But this needs to be addressed. Could the solution be me buying him his own clothes? I don’t know, that’s why I’m here and hoping that you all can give your opinion, and what you would want to happen if you were in his shoes. Because I have tried putting myself in his shoes, and I would want my stepmom to handle it herself, and buy me my own clothes, but I’m sure I’m biased and I also don’t have this kink or fetish, or maybe he is trans, I don’t know, but I think it is more likely it is just a kink. Any advice would be appreciated.

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Im just going to catfish my stepson because all boys are liars [cross posting from insanepeoplefacebook]
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Because every great adventurer needs a sword (b-day gift for my four year old stepson) reddit.com/gallery/lc5wst
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Helping my stepson (8yo) ascend to the master race this Christmas. v.redd.it/0t3kzrsbml661
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Bayzoo Birthday message to his Stepson Raheem🕊(THF) in September of 2019.
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Showed my stepson how to make dinner rolls. He did all the kneading. reddit.com/gallery/k94rg2
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AITA for not letting my stepson stay in my house thus forcing him to be homeless?

The house was my uncle's but now it's mine. I used to live in it then I rented it out for awhile but stopped both.

My 21 year old stepson was recently evicted out of his apartment which has left him practically couch surfing and living in his car. He called us to tell us this after a few weeks and asked if he could stay in that house. I had/have no objections to that and said he could and we were talking about keys and stuff when I remembered his usage of marijuana. Right next door of the house I have a neighbor who's an old lady. She suffers from some health issues and is raising all 12 or something grandchildren of hers and has complained about a past tenant who also frequented marijuana and requested that first look at tenants who don't use it. Beyond her health issues and the kids, she's also been a stellar neighbor and tends to the garden whenever she does hers and always keeps an eye on the house which is really helpful since we live a distance away. So I don't want to ignore her valid requests. I called my stepson again to tell him this and that if he stayed there he'd have to stop smoking else only smoke away from the house. He said he couldn't because it helps with his problems or whatever and needs it (more of an addiction if he relies on it but that'd besides the point). So I said fine but then he'll have to stay in his car until we can organise something else . He's been pissing about for the last days and now my wife is also on my back for this. Aita?

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Stepson from Mars?

I have been with living with my gf and her son for about 2 years now. Not officially married but he doesn’t know anyone else as dad. I wasn’t around for when he first started talking but ever since I’ve known him he (turned 5 last fall) he talks about his mom and dad that lives with him on Mars. Very firm that he has a second family that he used to live with off planet before “waking up” in his new body here on earth. As he gets older I’ve heard less and less about his adventures on Mars seems like it’s all but forgotten now but it makes me think where or why would he create such a fantasy and believe it so firmly. It’s been sort of a family joke about his other parents on Mars but maybe he’s remembering a time long long ago or another life? Or it’s all just from his imagination idk? Also I have no clue which sub Reddit to post this to as it’s not quite paranormal not a conspiracy just am curious what people think

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AITA for not pushing my son to bond more with my stepson?

My ex and I split when my son “Aaron” (age 17) was 2 years old and we share custody so he’s here every other week.

I met my wife over 2 years ago and we got married in January. After we got married, she moved into my house with my 15 year old stepson “Luke.” Like me, my wife and her ex share custody of Luke but he’s only at his dad’s 3 days out of the week.

So on average, Aaron and Luke are only living here together at our house 4 days every other week. They have been around eachother plenty of times before and they’re always polite and friendly.

The thing my wife is concerned about is that when Aaron is here he doesn’t interact much with Luke. It’s not that he’s cold or distant, he’ll say hi or have short conversations with Luke when they’re in the same room but they’re both in their own worlds majority of the time.

Luke likes to play videogames and chat online with his friends in his room. Aaron likes to work on his graphic art or talk all day with his friends and girlfriend since he can’t hangout with them much right now.

They live fine together just like if they were roommates and my wife doesn’t like that. She says they should be bonding as brothers and be spending more time together. I disagree. If the boys don’t feel like spending time together then they shouldn’t be forced to. Luke doesn’t seek out Aaron even when my wife has pushed him to or suggests they go out to eat just the two of them.

Even when Aaron and I are going to do something together, we invite Luke. Sometimes he tags along, other times he’d rather stay home.

The way things are right now really does not feel like a problem but she still insists they must have some issues with eachother if they’re not being “brotherly.” She told me I need to talk to Aaron and get him to start spending more time with Luke and she’ll tell Luke the same.

I told her to just leave it. If they want a relationship that’ll be up to them. We argued about this back and forth and she believes as his father it’s my job to navigate him down the right path. She sees him not bonding with his stepbrother as something wrong, therefore I need to correct him. But it’s hard to see how anything is wrong. When we spend family time together neither of them have a problem interacting.

Sure they’re not telling inside jokes or giving eachother playful noogies but I don’t feel that’s up to us to enforce. My wife is not happy at all with me right and still holding firm to her belief that they need to be spending m

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Progress! My reactive GSD now trusts my stepson!

My GSD, Mollymauk, was abused for the first 6 weeks of his life by a man. As a result, he doesn’t trust males he doesn’t know.

After months of training, and slow, repeated, controlled introductions, he has decided that not only is my stepson ok, but Molly loves him. Today he gave kisses and rolled over for belly rubs multiple times for my Stepson.

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AITA for calling my stepson’s daughter my granddaughter?

EDIT: Thank you so much to everyone! The amount of support is astounding. Apparently I let Kathy’s words get to me more than I should have, and I plan to ignore her from now on. I brought in my mug today, it just says Grandma and my husband has a matching one that says Grandpa. I did show this post to Jeff and he’s already looking for more ‘Grandma’ stuff to get me, so thanks to u/QuixoticLogophile for the idea.

For now I’m not going to take anything to HR, but if Kathy does or says anything else I will bring it to their attention.

Also, since a couple of people asked, Jeff’s mother died in a car accident when he was 6. I don’t know how she’d feel about me being Grandma but I can hope she’d be okay with it.

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My coworker has gotten in my head and now I feel torn, hopefully you guys can give me some clarity.

I (32f) have been married to my husband, Adam (52), for 5 years, together 7. He has a son, Jeff, who is 27. Now, Jeff and I are fairly close. He has liked me from the beginning, despite the weird ages going on, and we definitely consider each other family. It’s not a mother-son bond, he was 20 and an adult when Adam and I got together, and though he lived with us for a time, it would feel weird to call him my son. (I do refer to him as my stepson around other people, mostly because it’s more succinct than ‘my husband’s son’)

Jeff moved in with a girl, Alice, and in 2017 they had a baby, Aurora. The first time we got to meet her, Jeff called my husband “Grandpa” of course but then he looked at me and called me “Grandma” and I couldn’t have been happier. I’ve been Grandma ever since. Although Aurora says it more like “Gamma”.

I don’t want kids of my own but I’m pretty obsessed with their baby girl, not gonna lie.

So anyways, on to the actual event. I started a new job last week. It was going well, I was getting along with everyone, and even making friends with the woman in the office next to mine. Let’s call her Kathy (50s).

On Friday, Kathy invited me out for drinks with a few other people in the office. I was happy to be included, but told her maybe next time because Friday was Aurora’s third birthday and we were having a little get together in the evening to celebrate. I used the words, “my granddaughter’s birthday” and let me tell you, shit hit the fan.

Kathy’s mouth fell open and she sputtered for a minute before saying, “But you don’t look old enough to be a grandmother!”. Which, clearly I’m not. I’m used to people being confused by

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AITA for paying for my stepsons college, but refusing to pay for my stepdaughters?

Throwaway account, because my account has my name in it.

I (46M) have a wife “Janice” (44F) and two stepchildren “Jonas” (25M) and “Lucy” (25F). Their biological dad died in a car crash before they were born and Janice has raised them as a single mother. I met Janice about 5 years ago and we have been married for almost 2 years now. I love her very much and we have an amazing relationship.

When me and Janice started dating, we took things really slow. She said she had bad luck with men in the past and wanted to be sure. I of course respected that. After a year of dating she introduced me to her children. Jonas was really exited to meet me, but Lucy wasn’t. She was mean to me and overall distant. She made some inappropriate comments like “why do you even bother, when you will eventually leave my mom” or “my mom is better off without you”. I tried to bond with her, but I never forced her to do anything. She is an adult and when she said she doesn’t want to talk to me I respected that. On the other hand, me and Jonas really bonded. We got to know each other, we talk really often and we play tennis together when we meet.

About 2 years ago me and Janice got married and she moved into my place. Her kids live in a bigger city which is about 2 hours drive away and they both go to college there. Both of them were visiting Janice every other weekend, but when she moved into my place Lucy stopped visiting (there is no issue with my place, it’s a nice big house with a garden, swimming pool and tennis court). Jonas still comes every other weekend, but Lucy comes like once in 4 months.

Last month both Jonas and Lucy finished college and got their degrees. They came to us and we celebrated. Me and Jonas were talking and I offered to pay off his student debt. I never had my own children and I have some savings so it’s not that big of a deal for me. When I spoke to Lucy she asked if I could pay for her college as well but I said I won’t. She got upset and Janice got mad at me as well. She said that I can’t pay for one child and not for the other and that it’s either both or none. I get that, but Lucy was never interested in having any kind of relationship with me and now she wants to get money out of me. Jonas was more than nice to me and I want to help him out. Am I the asshole here?

Edit : Edited a mistake

Edit2 : I didn’t offer to pay for his debt in front of both of them. I talked with him about it in private, but he was exited and told Lucy.

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Took the stepson to HobbyTown for us to pick up a couple of SCX24s! C10 is his, Jeep is mine.
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Aita for confronting my neighbor about her husband (police officer) giving my stepson a speeding ticket?

This just happened, also, throwaway account.

A little backstory: I live with my husband and 2 stepchildren. I can’t get pregnant and I’ve been a mother figure in his kids lives for the past 10 years or so. They are 17 and 13. I’ll call the 17 year old Jason. We have been living in our current house since 2014 and are still the newest to the block. We are on good terms with the neighbors, but not necessarily friends besides one couple. They are all very good people and always willing to lend a hand.

Our neighbors from 4 houses down are a younger husband and wife. They have 2 little girls that stepdaughter babysits for pretty frequently. Maybe not weekly but biweekly atleast. The husband is a police officer for the next town over, and the wife has actually gone out with me and the other neighbor I’m friends with before. My family knows who all of them are and they know who all of us are.

2 days ago, Jason comes home from his friends house around 11 pm. He is cursing and flinging stuff around in the kitchen, managing to wake up my husband and I. We went down to see what was going on, pretty upset due to the noise. He then handed us a ticket, and said “Mr. Lastname pulled me over and gave me a speeding ticket.” We both were angry at him, until we saw he was going 32 in a 25. My husband and I looked at eachother and immediately started ranting about how that’s absolute bullshit. He knows exactly who our son is, and he was going 7 over. We have other friends in law enforcement who say there’s sort of an unwritten rule that says 12 over is when you stop someone.

I told SD I don’t want her to babysit for them until I talk to them. The next day i went outside as she was taking their dog for a walk, and asked her what was up with her husband giving Jason a ticket. She claimed she had no knowledge of it. I explained the situation and she apologized profusely and admitted that was an AH thing for husband to do. I could tell she was very embarrassed and now I feel a little bad. She said she would even talk to him about dropping it. Was I wrong to confront her about this?

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I don't want my stepson and niece playing with my son anymore

This is a little bit of a vent/rant but also a call for help. My stepson and niece are both 11 and they never listen to me. It's probably because I'm young enough to be their sister (21), but regardless, they blatantly disrespect and disregard anything I say. My niece lives next door with my mom, but she's at my house 90% of the time. One thing they do in terms of disregarding what I say is they are so rough with my son, who's almost 16 months old. He will be just fine with me until they come around and start messing with him. He's always getting hurt around them and amazingly it's usually when I'm not looking. It's like they like making him cry. They will give him super spicy stuff and make him cry even when I've told them to stop what seems like a thousand times, or chase him around with a Halloween mask to scare him. I've told them over and over again to be gentle with him but they do not listen nor do they care. Last night I hit my breaking point when my niece dropped him on the metal bar on our pull out bed, and then my stepson "thought he was choking" so he slapped his back and said it "wasn't that hard" but it left a red welp for awhile. I'm at the point where I don't even want them to touch him. My mom and boyfriend think I'm being a drama queen and I'm overreacting but that's because they don't ever see it, because they don't do it around them (they actually listen to them). Last night was the first time my boyfriend saw it. He got onto them, but he and my mom both say "that's their cousin/brother, you can't keep them from him". But I am so tired of seeing my son get hurt all day every day, no matter how many times I repeat myself.

Tl;dr: my niece and stepson are super rough with my 16 months old son no matter how many times I tell them to be gentle and my mom and boyfriend think I'm overreacting because I don't want them playing with him anymore.

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My Stepdaughter (15F) says she doesn't see me (43F) as a human being, my Stepson (17M) has been harassing me, and I'm not sure how to fix our relationship

My husband (53M) and I have been married for the past seven years, and it's been wonderful. We had a whirlwind romance, and we got married a few months after we started dating. I love him more than anything, and he's never mistreated me, and he's been a perfect father to our five kids (three biological, two stepkids). I love all of our kids equally, and I've done my absolute best to be a mother to "Aiden" (17M) and "Lena" (15F). They were still grieving the loss of their biological mother when their father and I got together, and I knew they had a bit of resentment towards me because of it, but I genuinely believed that over the last few years, they'd bonded with me and their siblings. However, that changed this year, when Aiden began doing things that disturbed me immensely, including letting my cat out (we got her back thank god, but those were a scary 7 hours), telling my youngest (age 3) that I'm an evil witch who replaced her real mommy, and leaving a camera in my bathroom.

Well, DH and I, after a lot of conversations, decided that the best course of action was family therapy. We both love Aiden very much, and want what's best for him, and we thought that therapy would be a good alternative to traditional punishment, since I want to make sure he knows that we still care about him, and I was worried that just punishing him would only make the behavior worse. However, this was on the condition that he actually try during the family therapy. He agreed to it, and we decided that Lena should come too, since although she hadn't done anything wrong, it would work as a preventative measure to keep any kind of toxicity from festering.

Well, we had our first therapy session recently, and it did not go as I had hoped it would. Aiden didn't say anything on his own during the whole session, and only gave one-word answers if he was asked a question. He didn't seem to want to cooperate with us even a little, and he seemed to be counting down the seconds until the session ended. What broke my heart though was Lena. Her father asked if she loved me or not, and she said that she couldn't love me, because I wasn't a person. She said that I could never be a person, and that my husband wanted a fleshlight after her biological mom died, and decided to get me because I was cheaper. She said that no matter how many times I watched her plays or cooked dinner, I could never become human, much less a mother, and that the whole family was a sham, and that the only reason s

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my stepson finally decided to watch a game with me and is getting into it. he set up a bunch of defenders and a tv tray as a goal. smiley face dog toy and swifter as puck and stick. never been more proud
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WIBTA for refusing to let my drug-addicated stepson move back in to keep 'clean'?

Obligatory throwaway because my husband I share an account and I haven't brought this up to him yet.

So, there is no easy way of saying this but my stepson (19) is a crackhead. He has been involved with drugs since he was 15 and no matter how many times we've tried to help him with his addictions he's never been willing to drop the stuff - and we've done everything. Heart-to-heart talks, interventions, support groups, rehab programmes - nothing sticks with him.

Now there has been times when he has been clean. However these periods have never, ever, lasted and every single time he's always gone back onto the stuff and taken advantage of our trust and kindness to do so. The last time he went through one of these 'clean' stages ended up with him being thrown out of our home and cut off from our family after he had stolen and sold family heirlooms of mine and lied to our faces about being back onto the stuff for over a month)

This brings me to the current situation. Yesterday my husband (41) and I (39) received a phone call from my stepson, after having not heard from him since we threw him out last October. He gave us a sob story about how he had suffered an overdose and had finally gotten himself clean (yet again) and needed our help to get him out of the situation he's in so he can keep himself clean. My husband wants to give him another chance but I don't, both because I don't believe him and also because I don't want him near our kids again (both 7m).

We ended the phone call by telling him that we'll think about it and my husband and I spoke about it and I told him that I'd sleep on it, which I've done and my opinion remains the same. So, WIBTA here?

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I just want to say thank you to everyone and for all your comments, many of you have really made me understand things from a different perspective and see things in a different light. After taking everyone's comments into consideration and having a long talk with my husband, I'm going to give my stepson another chance. Whether or not he is actually trying to reach out and better himself or not, I'm not goint to turn him down and takeaway a possible chance for him to get better. We're going to be placing him in a rehab programme and then get him situated in a sober living home. We'll help him get access to a therapist and a support group as well. We'll make it clear to him that it'll take him a long time and a lot of work for us to trust him again and for him to be able to play a part in his younge

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AITA for telling my husbands stepmother she doesn't help her relationship with her stepsons?

I (28f) have been married to my husband for 9 years and we have two kids together. My husband has a stepmother Jane who has been married to his dad since he was 10 and his brothers Jack and Logan were 9 and 7. My MIL passed away when the boys were all very young and my husbands dad admittedly remarried fast to give them a new mother. Only they did not want or accept having a new mother and ever since there has been conflict between them all. Out of all three Jack has the worst relationship with her and has completely cut his dad and Jane out of his life. Apparently there was an incident when he was still living at home that led to him telling her to drop dead and moving out to live with a friend, and then us. My husband and I have no idea what actually happened except for that.

Anyway, ever since then Jane has been even more desperate to have a good relationship with my husband and Logan and it has resulted in them pulling back even more. When my husband and I had our kids she desperately wanted to be a grandmother and to gain an official title in the family but she pushed more than my husband liked. She bought herself a shirt for a soon to be grandma and made a Facebook post that she was going to start a family tradition with her first grandchild that she hoped would be carried through the generations and help continue her family tree. My husband was furious because he said our family are never going to be part of her family tree and that she wasn't going to be grandma (this was known from our announcement that he wasn't going to encourage a grandma title). That angered my husband dad but it made his stepmother more insistent that she would be more and she has always tried to be affectionate with my husband and Logan and she has asked for time with them and our kids over the years. I let my husband choose his side's involvement and I follow his lead when it comes to his relatives.

Anyway, recently we met briefly for a small little thing and my husbands stepmother was trying to fuss over him and mother him. She started opening up about how she desperately wants to be accepted and I told her she doesn't help things when she pushes so hard and goes against the boundaries they set. Apparently this not only upset her but pissed her off. She said it wasn't my place and was a thoughtless thing to say when she has always tried but they haven't. Now they are saying I'm behind the conflict between them all and it's all my fault. My husband said what I said was

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Settle down, Vincent... Vincent was my stepson for a brief time. How's online college, Vincent? You a court reporter yet?
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I want to kick my stepson out.

I'm at my wits end with this kid. Hes barely 17. Within the last 6 months he went from straight A to failing. Playing DnD to getting tattoos and drugs. He went from super sweet to complete asshole. He wrecked my vehicle when I let him drive it. He's gotten multiple tickets for speeding and MIP. He's now suspended from school with possibly being expelled. I've heard from multiple parents and teachers that come in my work and say he's turned into a complete ass hat. Last night him and a buddy lied to us about where they were going and went to some party to F off. If we try to discipline him he sneaks out anyway. Threaten to spank him or harm him he wants to call child services on us. I just don't know what to do anymore. His father was so hurt by the lie that it triggered my mama bear mode. I don't want to kick him out, he's just a kid and can barely survive now, let alone outside the tiny town we live in. This kid was given everything his whole life with barely any rules. I don't know if his parents splitting up is trauma from the past that's causing this behavior or if he is just being a shitty teenager. I'm just so frustrated at this point.

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Haha; so true he thinks like a child. No wonder why my stepson wanted Trump crap for Christmas, he speaks at their level.
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