AITA For refusing to give my late wife's bracelet to my stepdaughter?

I M43 been with my current wife for 2 years now. I have a 12 year old daughter (Jenny) from my previous marriage her mom passed away from cancer. And I have a 15 year old stepdaughter (Emma) and we get along very well.

I been keeping some stuff that belong to my late wife including a diamond bracelet that my late wife wanted me to give to Jenny on her sixteenth birthday. This request was hand written by her and I made her a promise that I'll hold on to it til Jenny is sixteen and then gift it to her on her sixteenth birthday. This will make her feel that her mom is there with her when the day comes and it gives me comfort.

There were no issues expect for when Emma was taking a look at my late wife's things when I was at work and saw the bracelet. She told her mom she liked it very much and asked her if she could keep it. My wife doesn't know the story about the bracelet She told me that Emma liked the bracelet a lot and wanted it so bad. I told her that was not possible because Jenny's mom wanted her to have it on her 16th birthday and that it wasn't mine to give. It was specifically gifted to Jenny and I can't deny her that. My wife took it as in I was favoring Jenny over Emma and that Emma is going mad and keeps talking about it. I told her that was not up for discussion. But then she offered me money to get me to give her the bracelet and I was shocked. Completely dumbfounded and hurt that she thought by offering me money that I'd change my mind. I argued with her When She said that I probably said no because my late wife's stuff is clearly more of a priority to me than her feelings and Emma's. She said that Emma will resent me especially when she sees Jenny wearing the bracelet and realize the favoritism that I'm displaying.

I got so tired of arguing I told her to just stop it. But she still thinks that I'm making a big deal out of it and Emma could still have the bracelet since Jenny does not know about it. I was so upset because of this but I stood my ground and refused. I get Emma's love for jewelry but i could get her a similar one if she insists.

I don't think I'm being unfair to Emma. It's just her mom is pressuring me and taking things personal.

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AITA for not being more supportive of former stepdaughter?

When I was 19-25, I was in a relationship with ‘Sam’ (30M), the father of ‘Chloe’ (1F). Her mom wasn’t in her life, and I sort of stepped in. I was there for almost everything and we really bonded. Chloe knew I wasn’t her bio mom, but she’d still sometimes call me Mom.

Sam was controlling. The last straw was Sam refusing to let me attend a relative’s funeral and hiding my phone and keys from me because he assumed I would leave him. It broke me to leave Chloe, but I had to. My biggest regret is that I left without saying goodbye to her.

It's been 7 years. I have a fiancé and a son. On Tuesday, I was added and messaged on FB by someone with a name close to ‘Chloe’ (think ‘Zoe’). Empty profile, generic picture. I knew it was her because of the message: “Hi, (my name). It’s Chloe. I miss you.” and an old photo of us.

I cried when I saw it. We talked, she asked about my family, I got updated photos and she told me how she was. I felt a huge weight off my shoulders. Not a day has gone by that I don’t think of Chloe and it felt good to know that she’s okay. I didn’t ask about Sam and she never went into much about him.

Last night, Chloe asked why I left. I tried changing the subject and I was vague to avoid badmouthing Sam, but she vented to me, telling me how hard it was to grow up without a mom and how upset Sam was. She asked me if I had really left them to be with my fiancé. I didn’t even know him. I told her I hadn’t, but she seemed too upset to understand. I said good night.

I woke up today to paragraphs and missed voice/video calls from her. It hurt my heart to read. It’s obvious that Sam lied to her. She was begging for answers and calling me Mom.

I told her I didn’t leave for someone else. I get why she’d feel hurt, and I’m sorry that I couldn’t be there for her. I’m not her mom and there’s nothing I could do. I love her and wish the best for her, but this is a conversation for her and Sam. I told her that while I know she wants a relationship with me, it would be better to wait to until she’s an adult and not a minor still under Sam’s care. I unadded her.

My fiancé came home to me being a sobbing mess, and was supportive until I told him what I had told her. He had an absent parent growing up. I think this is why it affected him so much. He didn’t outright go off, but he implied that I’d ‘left’ Chloe again. He went as far as to ask me if I’d do this to our son if we split up.

It’s been hours. My fiancé has shut himself in our room and won’t talk

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AITA For Taking back the Christmas present I got for my Stepdaughter after she took my son's crutches?

This happened two days ago. I Male/38 have known my stepdaughter (13) for over 3 years. She's very stubborn. She sometimes does things that piss me off even though there's no reason for her to treat me and my son this way. My son recently had a surgery for his fractured ankle and has been using crutches. He's 10 years old and Crutch walking is difficult for him. His underarm area hurts but he needs to use his crutches for support and be able to move around easily. Also to avoid any further complications and allow his ankle to heal properly.

His sister makes fun of him calling him "Mr. four legs". She thinks it's funny and would get in his path purposely. Or loosen up the screws on the crutches. She did it more than once and I ended up grounding her. But that did nothing she still does many other things to make it hard for my son to deal with his current situation.

My wife works long hours I work from home so I handle chores and taking care of the kids.

My wife was at work. I went out to get stuff from the pharmacy while my son was sleeping in his room. I'd only been gone for an hour and when I got home I heard my son crying. I walked into his room and found him sitting in his bed telling me his crutches were gone. He said he was calling for me but I wasn't home.

I was confused. I found his bed wet since he couldn't go to the bathroom. I was livid. I knew his stepsister took his crutches and thought it was funny.

I went over her room and yelled at her asking where she put my son's crutches. She actually yelled at me for "walking" in without "knocking" and wanted to call her mom when I started looking all over the room. I found them behind the closet. She defended herself saying she was just pranking him. So basically My son was stuck in his wet bed for a whole hour. While she was in her room listening to music and playing on her laptop I kept berating her and yelling at her and I was still mad.

After I took care of my son and cleaned his bed. I went and took back the present I bought her for Christmas and put it in my son's room. And told her she's never allowed into my son's room ever again. She stayed in her room til her mom got home. Turned out she was calling her mom telling her I was yelling at her for not helping her stepbrother use the bathroom. I told my wife what really happened and she agreed her daughter was in the wrong but taking the present was "extreme" and that she just wasn't thinking straight. Honestly I was tired of listening to h

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Playing Overwatch with my stepdaughter

So I don't have a great relationship(it's good but not great) with my stepdaughter(she is in the rebellious teenager stage) but she said she would like to play overwatch and would be down to play with me. I mostly play pubg, and I'm decent in COD games aswell but I am totally lost on how to play overwatch.

I know the best way is to just get in and play, but I would like to have an effective strategy so she won't get bored playing with me. Any guides, what character to pick etc.

Any help is appreciated.

We will both be playing on separate xbox. I have one in my room and she has one in hers.

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AITA for not wanting to have my ex's stepdaughter some weekends?

I (32f) have an 11 year old daughter with my ex. We divorced two years ago because he cheated. He is now with the other woman and is married to her. She has a daughter who will be 11 soon. Ex's MIL is sick and his wife has been going to stay some weekends to take care of her. Ex works weekends (nights, usually) and he asked me if I would take his stepdaughter those weekends his wife is gone. He framed it as being more time for the girls to bond. I said no. He called it unfair because I gave it no consideration. I told him I didn't need to consider it and that my answer was no. He said our daughter might say she wants it if I ask her and that they would throw me some cash for it. Eventually, after I came down hard on my no, he said the reason he wants me to do it is our daughter has chosen not to have a close relationship with his stepdaughter and he thinks my interacting with her and welcoming her into my home would cultivate our daughters willingness. I asked him was she mean or rude to the girl, he said no reluctantly and I told him that was all I was willing to interfere in and I am not responsible for cultivating our daughters relationship with his stepdaughter. I told him the discussion was over. He and his wife are pissed about my refusal and say I would be helping them out while they're in need.

AITA for not wanting to take her on occasional weekends?

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AITA for taking my stepdaughter's side over my son?

I (55M) remarried 8 years ago. My new husband (58) has a severely disabled daughter (32) who lives with us. She has cerebral palsy, autism, epilepsy, and several life-threatening allergies- and she's the sweetest person I've ever met. She gets upset easily, but she's a very warm, loving woman and I'm grateful to have her in my life. I consider her my daughter.

I also have a biological son (26) who moved in with us during the pandemic. We had a very good relationship when he was a kid, but as he got older he became more distant and started to bully his classmates. When my ex-wife and I tried to talk to him about it, he became aggressive with us, so we were forced to pull him out of school and homeschool him to protect other students. He's always resented us for "ruining his education".

After he moved out, we didn't talk much. He was very angry when his mother and I divorced, even though it was pretty amicable, and left me several nasty voicemails when I came out as gay. He was invited to my second wedding but refused to come. All this to say, I was hesitant to let him stay with us, but my ex-wife talked me into it.

He was immediately very hostile to my daughter- mainly by insulting her interests. She loves Naruto, and has a giant black cat named Madara who's almost always with her. Son told her Naruto is a stupid show, and black cats are unlucky, making her cry. I told him if he made her cry again he had to find another place to live. Not even a week later he deliberately broke the head off a Sakura figurine- she collects Naruto figurines, and this one cost over $200. My husband and I immediately told him to get out of our house and not come back.

His grandmother is very, very upset with us, saying he would be homeless if she hadn't taken him in. She insists I'm a horrible father, and I should take my son's side over my stepdaughter. There's no way I'm putting my daughter in danger, though, and I've made that clear. Now my ex-wife's family is mad at me, although she's on my side and has threatened to cut contact with our son. AITA? I know it's not right to evict someone during a pandemic, but he can take care of himself.

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My (39F) stepdaughter (19F) is overly protective over my baby

I’ve been in Mandas life for 4 years now and we get along perfectly fine, she had a regular upbringing so nothing I can think of to warrant this behaviour.

I gave birth to a son 3 months ago and quite literally from the start it was like fighting Manda for him; I’d ask several times to hold him and she’d ignore me or her dad would ask and she’d reluctantly hand him over.

When I am holding him she’s hovering as though I’ll drop him, I’ll pick him up or play with him and she’ll be hovering and saying “careful” or “don’t do that” as though she’s his mother and I’m being reckless.

She’ll ask for him to sleep in her room as my husband won’t have him co sleeping with us anymore, he’ll spend 5/7 nights sleeping in with her now.

He’ll cry and she’ll soothe him before I even have a chance.

I’m honestly starting to feel like an imposter in my own family.

I’ve spoken to my husband and he can’t explain why she behaves this way and up till our son was born we got along well! I’ll talk to her and she’ll apologise but then go straight back to doing it with zero explanation and my husband allows it.

I’m starting to think she has to move out because of it; I can’t deal with the overbearing controlling aspect of it all, she’ll be 20 in June so I wouldn’t be kicking a child out.

I just don’t know what to do because I love her but I love my son more and would actually like to parent him without her in the way.

If I could rationalise her behaviour maybe we’d come up with a solution but as I said I can’t.

I don’t know if there’s any advice I can be given but if there is I’m open to hearing it!

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AITA for telling my stepdaughter’s mother that she was with me after my stepdaughter “ran away” from home?

I married my best friend and my husband when I was 23. He had a daughter as a result of a teenage fling at age 17. He and the mother of the daughter weren’t married but shared custody (50/50).

I was always close with my stepdaughter but after my husband died 3 years ago, we grew even closer. She still spent the summers with me and we would talk every week on the phone/visit each other the rest of the year.

My stepdaughter is 13 now. She has entered the typical “rebellious” teenager stage. She’s still a sweet girl but rather impulsive. She told me that her mom is very controlling and she hates her new stepdad.

Yesterday night, she showed up unexpectedly at my door at around 9pm. This was odd considering I live 2 hours away from her. She told me she took the train by herself because she got into a fight with her mom and decided that she wants to live with me from now on.

I let her in and made her dinner. She begged me not to tell her mom where she was, but I did anyways. Her mom texted me to say that she will pick her up in the morning.

This morning, I broke the news to my stepdaughter that her mother will be here soon to pick her up. She got upset at me and said she thought I of all people would understand her. She says she wished that I was her mom instead. I told her that her mom loves her and she needs to try her best to understand her side of things.

After her mom came to pick her up, my stepdaughter messaged me online and said she no longer trusted me. I’m really upset and I wish my husband was still alive so he can talk to her and comfort her.

I feel guilty over betraying my stepdaughter’s trust and Im conflicted as to whether I did the right thing or not.

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AITA for kicking my stepdaughter out of one of my rental properties?

So obviously this sounds bad, but I’ll explain a bit.

My stepdaughter Presley is 22 now and moved back here to New York from Florida to be closer to her father. At first we had her set up in our basement apartment, then we moved her into one of our rental properties with my daughter Richelle a few months later.

Presley got a job working in corrections and was making plenty of money. Richelle is a stay at home mom at the moment. It’s hard to her to get a job because childcare is so expensive and she doesn’t have a car. A few weeks of the girls living with each other, my husband (Presley’s father) and I started hearing complaints.

First, Presley called to tell us that Richelle was leaving food out and bugs were starting to come into the house. Next, Presley called us at midnight to tell us that my daughter left her 1 year old daughter with her and went on a date at 6 and wasn’t home yet. She complained that she had to work in the morning and couldn’t get the baby to bed because “Richelle never changed the baby’s diaper and she had horrible diaper rash.” After that, Presley complained that I allowed Richelle to borrow one of her cars without asking her first. Presley’s father gifted her a car when she first got to New York and it was in her name, but we technically owned it first so I let Richelle use it since Presley had another car. Richelle ran into a deer with it, but there was no damage. We recently told the girls that they would have to start paying rent on the place. Presley made more than enough so we told her she had to pay $500 a month. I wasn’t going to make Richelle pay anything at the moment since she had no job and Presley AND my husband said that was unfair, but that property is in my name so I decide who pays what.

After all the complaining, I told Presley she had to get out of the property and find her own place to live. She decided to stay with her boyfriend on the nearby Army base so we can’t come see her and she won’t answer her phone to talk to any of us. She didn’t even come over for Christmas.

I understand that I might have been slightly hard on Presley, but she has been privileged from the start. My daughter hasn’t had the easiest life since her father abandoned us when she was little and her baby’s father ran out on her as well.

My husband and oldest son told me that I’m wrong for doing that to Presley and that I should be apologizing to her. I will apologize if people think I’m in the wrong. Am I the asshole?

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My stepdaughter (16) told me about how she was raped but told me not to tell anyone, what do I do?

Obviously I want to tell her father. I feel like I NEED to tell him too. I think she needs to go to police and I think she needs to go to therapy as well. I tried my best to help her and comfort her and I really hope I did a good job at that today, but I clearly am not capable of giving her the help that she needs. She’s been acting strange all day and her father has noticed it too and he’s been asking her constantly what’s wrong. I keep telling him that he needs to give her space and alone time but he won’t listen, even when she tells him. Clearly he does this because he cares, and he won’t take no for an answer. I just don’t know what to do. I feel horrible that I couldn’t protect her. She’s (and my daughter) my whole world. Although she may not be my biological daughter, I don’t see her any differently than I see my daughter. I would do anything for the both of them, and it absolutely kills me to know she had to experience what she did. I feel horrible for not making her stay home last night. I feel like it’s my fault that this happened to her. I just don’t know what to do

Edit: I have told my husband to stop bugging her about it. I told him that I know what is wrong, but she doesn’t wish for him to know. I’m going to let her decide if she wants to tell him. I’m letting her decide to go to police. And I’m going to strongly push her to go to therapy, and I’m going to suggest she tells her father if she feels comfortable. I will update again at a later date

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AITA for cracking down on my stepdaughter when she did something dangerous?

Not usually a Reddit user, but my friend suggested I post my issue here. Please be gentle.

I (26F) have been with “Ryan” (34M) for 5 years. We have a toddler and he has three kids (5F, 10M, and 14F) from his previous marriage. It’s important to note that 10M has asthma, so we’ve been trying to be careful with COVID. The step kids go to their mom (“Jody”) every weekend, but otherwise we’ve been trying to stay in the house and isolate. It might also be relevant to the story that we didn’t celebrate thanksgiving this year, and Jody is an immigrant, so this was just a regular week(end) for us.

Now, I usually try not to discipline the step kids — Jody doesn’t like it, and they aren’t my kids so I try to stay in my lane. 14F (we’ll call her Bella) has been involved in lots of teenage bad choices lately, but I let my husband deal with it.

Last Thursday, Bella went for a run and came back smelling like weed. I asked what the deal was, and if she’d snuck off to smoke with someone. I’m not that worried about the weed, but I am worried about her lung health given the pandemic and her possibly interacting with other people outside the household. We’ve explained to her many times how COVID could be dangerous for her brother.

She wouldn’t answer and told me to stay out of her business. Since my husband was at work, I couldn’t go get him, so I decided to address the issue myself. We were going to order Vietnamese food (her fave) before her mom came to pick her up that night, but I cancelled it and told her she had to make her own food. I expressed how disappointed I was that she put the household at risk.

She called me a “fucking whore and a bitch” (common language for Bella) and I thought that was the end of it. I told my husband when he got home and he agreed with how I handled it.

However, Jody called me on Saturday and said I’d overstepped my role. I told her I usually mind my business, but Bella’s behavior became my business when she started putting the whole household in danger. She didn’t like this, and she’d threatening not to send Bella back this morning.

It’s like 5 AM here and the whole situation is stressing me out. AITA?

Edit: people are asking if Ryan cheated on Jody with me. Sort of? When we got together, their divorce was still in progress, but both he and Jody were moving on. Jody started dating a guy a few months before Ryan started seeing me (even though she was pregnant— I guess the new guy didn’t care).

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AITA for not letting my stepdaughter (F20) go on vacation because it would mean she would miss out on her chores?

We're currently in a country without any restrictions, so please no shaming. My daughter is back from school, living with us but has not been doing anything to help around the house. She usually lives with her dad, but she's living with me, my husband and and our son out of convenience. She pays rent when she lives with her dad, but we're letting her stay here rent free. All we ask in return is that she picks up after herself, puts the recycling/garbage out every week and cooks one meal for our family.

However, she did really poorly in school last semester and since then she's been really neglectful of all of her chores. She's been really moody and hardly leaves her room. She snaps at everyone and is no longer her bright, cheery self. Her dad has checked in on her multiple times and she insists that she's fine. We both agree that she's just being bratty and childish. I don't mind picking up the slack when she misses cooking dinner, but I have a broken leg and physically cannot put out the recycling and garbage myself (son is 2 so he can't and husband is away for 2 days every garbage day for work). She's been missing the recycling and garbage every week and it's been piling up into a big stinking mess despite my constant reminders.

I've gotten so fed up and am not sure what to do! This weekend she asked if she could go with her friends on a car trip out of town, but I told her no because she would be missing garbage day. She flipped out at me telling me that I was an evil step mom, she said she really needed the mental break and that our home environment is terrible. I honestly dont agree with her though, I'm loving and understanding, I don't think I'm an asshole for not letting her go? I really need her around to take the garbage out and she hasn't earned the right to go since she's been so neglectful.

TLDR didn't let stepdaughter go on vacation, she would miss garbage day

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sorry lots of people are confused about the nature of our relationship. She has 2 dads. They divorced and I am married to 1 of her dads. Her other dad and his partner is where she lives most of the time, but they have really noisy dogs so she's moved in with us for a quieter environment. She pays rent when she lives with them, but not with us.

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Can I take my ex to court to protect our son (6m) from my ex's future stepdaughter (12f)

My (27f) ex (30m) and I have a 6yo son. My ex lives in TN with his now fiancee and her 12yo daughter while my son and I love in IN. I have primary and majority custody.

About 6 months ago my some told me that the daughter had molested him "a long time ago". Which explains the behavioral issues we've been dealing with for over a year. He's been in therapy Since I found out. And since then I have refused visitation unless the daughter is gone. My ex has been pretty mad at me about it.

He told me on friday that he was proposing to his gf this weekend and that he wanted both our son and her daughter to be there. I refused and he told me I needed to "get over it." And that he "can't keep the kids apart forever"

My question is, if I take him to court, can I take his custody rights away due to him choosing to continue to put our child in danger??

Edit; -Both kids are in therapy. -CPS was contacted by both me and the girls mother and did absolutely nothing even after multiple calls and using a friend's connections. -My son has seen his dad since we found out. But only when the daughter wasn't there. -My ex, his fiancee, and myself all get along fine. We've had multiple discussions about the situation and all voiced concern for her daughter as well. What they choose to do with their concern is on them. I can't cross that line.

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AITA for raising my stepdaughter as my own and wanting to adopt her and erasing her birthmother

I never thought I would be considered an asshole but I am called one by an entire family, so I am doubting myself.

I met my husband through a mutual friend. He was a single father to Juju who was 4 years old at that time. Juju's mother filed for divorce soon after she got pregnant and signed away her parental rights. Essentially, Juju's entire world was my husband she was his. I was first very reluctant to date a man who has a kid before because I know Juju will always come first, but he was an amazing man and I fell in love with him. I met Juju after 8 months of dating and honestly she is the most adorable child I have ever seen.

We got married 6 months later and she was my precious flower girl. We had my daughter when Juju was 6 and she is the best sister. I have never gave it a second thought about teaching Juju anything or buying her anything. My husband and I have combined finances. He trusts me fully. If I see something Juju will like (anything sparkly or anything with unicorn) I will immediately buy it for her. We are relatively wealthy so money is not a problem. Every birthday I when I buy a gift for my daughter, I buy one for Juju too and do the same for my daughter on Juju's bday. Juju's maternal grandparents visit her sometime during the holidays and they always lavish her.

Juju has always called me by my first name and I have never had a problem with it. Juju is 16 now and to me she is my daughter. I had a milestone birthday yesterday and my sweet Juju had ordered a custom made mug with Best Mother Ever and an adoption form for me to adopt her. After a lot of ugly crying, I said yes and we have contacted our lawyer to start the process. We could not be any more happier. I posted it on facebook and immediately Juju's grandmother called cursing me out.

I am not a confrontational person. She keep telling me how dare I even think about adopting Juju. She is not mine. Juju's aunts have also started the tirade and my husband just hung up on them. We have been getting awful messages about me brainwashing Juju and how I manipulated an innocent child. I didn't think I did anything wrong but our mutual friend is saying adopting Juju will mean erasing Juju's mother and it is wrong of me to do it. That is not my intention. My husband says Juju wants it and we are not forcing her. I am not wrong but I am having a sleepless night and would like my judgement

AITA for raising my stepdaughter as my own and wanting to adopt her

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I've been lying to my stepdaughter...

She really really likes these juice boxes. I built it up for a few weeks telling her "well, I'll buy you one pack. But you don't need to drink them up in one sitting." I noticed that they were those fruit/veggie mixed fruit juices. I also noticed that they have a lot of vitamins she's missing.

She doesn't like to take those gummies or any type of medication. She also has a problem with certain foods. I think it could be a sensory thing, or something that maybe she has an aversion to from her abusive mom. It's been really hard to get her to eat well. If she knows something is "healthy" she automatically starts to hate it. I noticed this.

So I convinced her that these juices were like a lot of other juices, sugary, and should be only consumed once a day.

I've been stocking up on the juices so she always has them. She'll sneak them and drink more than two a day (which is the "limit"). I'll make sure to restock them in the drink fridge. She doesn't realize they're good for her. I've also noticed a difference in her well-being.

I'll continue to "lie" about them, and pretend I don't notice her drinking four or five a day. I hope she doesn't find out that they're really good for her.

I've also lied about how I get my spaghetti sauce to be so thick. I put blended veggies in it...and my sloppy joes are different from how everyone else makes them because I do that too. I'll make a batch of sauce and noodles, or sloppy joe meat so she can have them for lunch.

I hope she realizes it when she's older... How I tried to help her eat healthier by lying about the things she loves....

I have no one to really tell. Everyone thinks I'm silly for being so proud of my lies. But...

EDIT: Oh my! This really blew up... Thank you for all the many awards...and wonderful comments! I seriously wasn't expecting all this. I was just reflecting on how I really feel good about doing this for her and everyone around me really didn't see it as much of an accomplishment as I did. Thank you for making my day...my week! Thank you so much....

Edit #2: I'd read through all the comments, but I seriously can't. There's way too many! So I'll give my spaghetti sauce recipe.

I usually start with a mix of diced carrots, zucchini or squash (not both because it makes the sauce a bit watery), red bell pepper, celery, chopped spinach, onions, mushrooms and garlic. I'll sautee them until soft and blend them smooth. Then I take tomato paste, and sauce, and stewed tomatoes,dump everything in

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WIBTA if i dont get as many gifts for my stepdaughter as my biological daughter?

For the last 4 years of my marriage we always go to MIL's (mother in law) house for Christmas. Every year she gets a ton more gifts for my stepdaughter (her biological granddaughter) than my daughter (not her biological granddaughter) to the point where the biological granddaughter is still opening gifts 30 minutes after my daughter is done opening her gifts. I dont want my daughter (6) to start to notice the unfairness and feel as though she isn't as loved or anything like that. Last year she asked me where her presents were. I talked to hubby about it and told him it's not that I'm trying to dictate that she get more gifts for my daughter and less for his daughter. I specifically asked that if she plans on doing this that she at least separate the gifts so they receive the same amount on Christmas day and give the biological granddaughter the extra gifts when my daughter isn't around to see it. He addressed it with her and she refused to do that. I told my hubby I'm sick of it and will no longer put my daughter in that situation and the most i can do is get my stepdaughter way less gifts than my daughter (we bring all the presents over to MIL house) to even out what MIL is doing. Every other year i would get them the same amount of gifts around the same price ranges and hope that MIL would be accepting of me and daughter and at least treat my daughter fairly. This obviously isn't going to happen so the only solution in my mind is to get all the presents for my daughter and very few for my stepdaughter.

EDIT TO ADD: i did suggest to hubby that we stop going there for Christmas but he doesn't support me in that. My daughter And i have no other family and her biological dad and his family are absent from hey life. Hubby said if i don't want to go that's fine but he will still go over. I think that would be worse for my daughter

EDIT 2: hubby and i have discussed this more. He has agreed not to go to his moms but refuses to keep his daughter away so he pland on just dropping her off and coming back home. We will tell my daughter that she is going back to her mom so she doesn't feel left out. I think this will be the best compromise we can come to this year but hubby has agreed to start marriage counseling after the holidays

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Well this is awkward...Jenelle needs to learn how old her stepdaughter is imgur.com/a/Pxm7j11
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Finally found this comment in r/wholesomememes, felt that those of you here may love this idea- I do this myself, with my stepdaughter who has diagnosed autism and I’ve noticed a huge change with her behavior doing these written compliments instead of verbal compliments
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AITA for paying for my stepsons college, but refusing to pay for my stepdaughters?

Throwaway account, because my account has my name in it.

I (46M) have a wife “Janice” (44F) and two stepchildren “Jonas” (25M) and “Lucy” (25F). Their biological dad died in a car crash before they were born and Janice has raised them as a single mother. I met Janice about 5 years ago and we have been married for almost 2 years now. I love her very much and we have an amazing relationship.

When me and Janice started dating, we took things really slow. She said she had bad luck with men in the past and wanted to be sure. I of course respected that. After a year of dating she introduced me to her children. Jonas was really exited to meet me, but Lucy wasn’t. She was mean to me and overall distant. She made some inappropriate comments like “why do you even bother, when you will eventually leave my mom” or “my mom is better off without you”. I tried to bond with her, but I never forced her to do anything. She is an adult and when she said she doesn’t want to talk to me I respected that. On the other hand, me and Jonas really bonded. We got to know each other, we talk really often and we play tennis together when we meet.

About 2 years ago me and Janice got married and she moved into my place. Her kids live in a bigger city which is about 2 hours drive away and they both go to college there. Both of them were visiting Janice every other weekend, but when she moved into my place Lucy stopped visiting (there is no issue with my place, it’s a nice big house with a garden, swimming pool and tennis court). Jonas still comes every other weekend, but Lucy comes like once in 4 months.

Last month both Jonas and Lucy finished college and got their degrees. They came to us and we celebrated. Me and Jonas were talking and I offered to pay off his student debt. I never had my own children and I have some savings so it’s not that big of a deal for me. When I spoke to Lucy she asked if I could pay for her college as well but I said I won’t. She got upset and Janice got mad at me as well. She said that I can’t pay for one child and not for the other and that it’s either both or none. I get that, but Lucy was never interested in having any kind of relationship with me and now she wants to get money out of me. Jonas was more than nice to me and I want to help him out. Am I the asshole here?

Edit : Edited a mistake

Edit2 : I didn’t offer to pay for his debt in front of both of them. I talked with him about it in private, but he was exited and told Lucy.

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My wife, stepdaughter and I found our 100th cache today!!!
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AITA for not wanting to share a windfall with my heavily pregnant stepdaughter who normally pretends I don’t exist?

Hello all,

I entered a raffle 18 months ago and won a house in my name. I wasn’t expecting to win and the house is worth a few bob so as you can imagine I’m over the moon since I paid a couple of quid for the entry. It’s tucked away in Wales where I will never settle or live (I’m in south of England) but I entered on a whim and as I say wasn’t really expecting to win.

I’m in my 40s and have some younger half siblings all of whom I love very much and would like to care for. My stepdaughter is a similar age is pregnant.

She was raised in a very stable home with love and attention to her education from both her dad and mum, however at present she isn’t working because of MH issues. She doesn’t have her own home and has moved in with her out of work boyfriend who we THINK has overstayed his visa. So really I understand she is in a precarious position.

I was never especially close with her because she resented I was with her dad (no cheating or anything, she just felt I was ‘in the way’ as kids often do) despite me trying very hard to form a relationship with her. I can’t have my own bio children and was very keen to ‘gain a daughter/ friend’ but life circumstances have meant it’s been hard to relate to her or her to me.

When I found out about the house, I wanted to gift it to my younger 2 siblings, both work from home and would love the house. They had 0 advantages growing up, in fact due to their mum being a POC I feel they had more disadvantages, and they live in a rough area of London at present. I think they deserve it and they’d love it. Husband and I have no inclination to move and we could sell it on, but we don’t want to right now.

My stepdaughter on the other hand is extremely well connected and has lots of benefits that’ve helped her along, and although I empathise with her MH struggles and pregnancy I also know that she will hopefully be fine. My husband is already supporting her with a large allowance each month as well as her mum.

She called me after months of not properly speaking to me to ask when she can move in. I had discussed clearly with my husband the plan for the house (to which he agreed) and was surprised. I said she’s not getting the house. She was pretty shocked and said she’s pregnant and the house is ‘literally right there’ and why would I stop her from having a good head start?

I tried to gently explain to her but the conversation got more and more heated with eventually her pulling her dad into it. Somehow during t

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My Stepdaughter (15F) says she doesn't see me (43F) as a human being, my Stepson (17M) has been harassing me, and I'm not sure how to fix our relationship

My husband (53M) and I have been married for the past seven years, and it's been wonderful. We had a whirlwind romance, and we got married a few months after we started dating. I love him more than anything, and he's never mistreated me, and he's been a perfect father to our five kids (three biological, two stepkids). I love all of our kids equally, and I've done my absolute best to be a mother to "Aiden" (17M) and "Lena" (15F). They were still grieving the loss of their biological mother when their father and I got together, and I knew they had a bit of resentment towards me because of it, but I genuinely believed that over the last few years, they'd bonded with me and their siblings. However, that changed this year, when Aiden began doing things that disturbed me immensely, including letting my cat out (we got her back thank god, but those were a scary 7 hours), telling my youngest (age 3) that I'm an evil witch who replaced her real mommy, and leaving a camera in my bathroom.

Well, DH and I, after a lot of conversations, decided that the best course of action was family therapy. We both love Aiden very much, and want what's best for him, and we thought that therapy would be a good alternative to traditional punishment, since I want to make sure he knows that we still care about him, and I was worried that just punishing him would only make the behavior worse. However, this was on the condition that he actually try during the family therapy. He agreed to it, and we decided that Lena should come too, since although she hadn't done anything wrong, it would work as a preventative measure to keep any kind of toxicity from festering.

Well, we had our first therapy session recently, and it did not go as I had hoped it would. Aiden didn't say anything on his own during the whole session, and only gave one-word answers if he was asked a question. He didn't seem to want to cooperate with us even a little, and he seemed to be counting down the seconds until the session ended. What broke my heart though was Lena. Her father asked if she loved me or not, and she said that she couldn't love me, because I wasn't a person. She said that I could never be a person, and that my husband wanted a fleshlight after her biological mom died, and decided to get me because I was cheaper. She said that no matter how many times I watched her plays or cooked dinner, I could never become human, much less a mother, and that the whole family was a sham, and that the only reason s

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My stepdaughter just came out as bi so I got to work making these for her!
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AITA for offering my stepdaughter money if she loses weight?

My stepdaughter, Flower (17F), is overweight. Over 100 pounds overweight (6 foot and 290). Flower is kind, sweet, gentle, and good but she's been bullied for her weight for as long as she can remember and she's ashamed. Her doctor put her on metformin and diagnosed her with PCOS and Type II diabetes and told her that she NEEDED to lose weight or else her life could be ruined. Her mother took her to the recommended bariatric specialist and now is heavily pushing for Flower to go through with having VSG (a weight loss surgery where her stomach is removed). I stepped in and offered Flower a sum of money if she attempts to lose the weight naturally (she never has attempted before) before choosing such a drastic option.

There's no catch, if she loses enough weight to be out of the red zone, I'll still pay her the money and she has over 8 months to do that. If she doesn't lose enough or any weight but she legitimately TRIES her best, I will still pay. If she loses all the weight, I'll pay. I just don't want her to get a life changing surgery that can't be reversed without an attempt to lose weight beforehand. I'm not preventing her, if she was to have the surgery, it would be a year from now, I just want her to try to lose weight before she does.

Her mother and older sisters are furious. Apparently it's misogynistic, it's cruel, it's abusive, and I'm telling her that she's not good enough. I'm not saying any of that but I'm of the opinion that if she doesn't try to lose weight now, the surgery won't work and I want to see her happy and married, I don't want her to die young. I can afford the money, it's $350,000 that no one else can use (my children cannot) and so now Flower has an opportunity and a goal, free college, a new wardrobe, a free apartment, a new car, and all of her sorority dues paid with money left over if she loses the weight. Flower is excited and motivated.

Her mother and I aren't talking because apparently, I'm a misogynistic prick who she should've never let around her daughters and I'm staying at a hotel until she sees reason.

AITA?

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I have been so sick all day because of my stepdaughters.

First of all, it’s not their fault. They are 2 and 5. It’s their mother’s fault for KNOWING there was a bug going around the daycare and dropping them off at my in laws house Friday night even after the youngest was throwing up.

I’m 17 weeks pregnant and I’ve been doing really really good until now. I had some morning sickness and overall I haven’t enjoyed pregnancy (I’ve posted about it here) but it’s not been an absolute horror story. Until today.

I went to bed with a rolling stomach. That happens tho sometimes so I didn’t worry. I woke up however and still didn’t feel great. My husband had to leave early as he’s in the military and they are mobilizing everyone because of the inauguration.

While my stepdaughters were here, I had diarrhea most of the day. And I felt like I was going to puke but I never did. My MIL told me last night she would meet me in town this afternoon so I didn’t have to make the hour drive to where their mother lives. This afternoon could NOT come fast enough. I got sick before we left and I was worried the entire time I was driving. But no accidents.

When I met my MIL and FIL they told me that he had been up all night throwing up. And also, my girls cousin (who lives there) was also sick. So including the girls, that was 5 people sick.

I asked my MIL if there was anything I could take and she said not really.

I drove home and barely made it in my home before I had to rush to the bathroom and I finally threw up, in addition to having diarrhea again.

I’m so miserable. I’m home alone, I hurt, my stomach is cramping again, I’m trying to drink water but I don’t want to overdo it. I just want to cry.

And tips?

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UPDATE - AITA for paying for my stepsons college, but refusing to pay for my stepdaughters?

This is my orignal post - https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/it4mi7/aita_for_paying_for_my_stepsons_college_but/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

I got a lot of messages asking for an update and how things ended up. Some of you guys gave me really good advice and I was able to see things from another perspective, I’m grateful for that.

It has been about 2 weeks since the incident and I’m happy to say that we resolved everything and we don’t argue anymore.

At first I apologized to my wife. I know I put her into really shitty position and caused a rift between our family. I only wanted to help Jonas, but I didn’t think it all the way through. My actions were shortsighted and I should have discussed this with her before offering to pay anything. We talked about everything and thankfully she’s not mad at me anymore. She said she knows my intentions were good, but she needs to keep things fair between her children. She understands why I don’t want to pay for Lucys college and admitted she was also surprised when Lucy asked me for money. I said if necessary I would tell Jonas I changed my mind about paying his debt and this way he would be mad at me and not at Janice, but we agreed to talk about it with the kids first.

About a week later we met with Jonas and Lucy to talk. I explained to Lucy why I won’t pay off her debt. I told her she was nothing but rude and disrespectful to me for 4 years, she said many times she doesn’t want anything to do with me and suddenly changed her mind when she thought she can get money out of me. She understood. She said she got so exited when Jonas told her I would pay off his debt and at the moment she thought I could do the same for her, but now she understands why I won’t and doesn’t blame me. She admitted she had some issues with her moms previous partners and that’s why she was so rude to me. When I heard that I offered to pay for her therapy so she can get better and Lucy accepted. At last Lucy said if I’m still willing to pay off Jonases debt, I should do it, because she doesn’t want to stay in the way of his happiness.

I asked Jonas if he’s okay with me paying off his debt and not his sisters and he said he is. He thanked me and was very grateful for the offer. Janice also agreed so I paid off his debt. I’m really happy I was able to help him like this, now he can focus on getting a nice home for his future family he always talks about and doesn’t have to worry about debts.

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My family keeps asking me why I still see my stepdaughter

My husband died in 2018 at 35, leaving behind our 3 kids (his from previous) daughter, 11 (my from previous) daughter 11 and our son, 10.

Before Christmas, my family asked if we were coming for dinner, and I said yes, all 3 kids. My mom was nearly irate, asking why I still see (daughter) after 2 years.

Why would I not? We have been a part of each other's lives since she was 4, she called me mama from day one (which I must admit was a bit awkward from a child I had LITERALLY met five minutes ago, but I got used to it quickly)

I love her as my own, my biological kids love her as their sister. Which she is my son's sister, but you get it 🤷 she loves us as her second family.

But my mom doesn't understand that? I don't know how to explain to her that her biological grandkids and I don't have to stop loving her and having her over, because my husband died. Why? This shouldn't be something I have to talk about every holiday.

Why can't my family just accept her? She isn't their blood, but does that REALLY matter? I mean thousands of kids are adopted and their families love them the same, right?

Edit to clarify that I met her after our son was born because she, her mom and siblings used to live several hundred miles away.

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PanDemi Progress: I've came out to reddit, tiktok, my stepdaughter, my therapist, and my best friends. I'm ready for pride merch even if its subtle. I'm so happy and free. My self esteem has been on the roof. Everyday is a journey and I'm loving it so far 💗💛💙🖤🤍💜 reddit.com/gallery/ky8iyg
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My Stepdaughter (16) was just diagnosed as autistic and her parents don't want to tell her the official diagnosis.

As I said in the title, my stepdaughter was just diagnosed and her parents (i am married to her father) don't want to tell her. I think that keeping this a secret from her is going to make things worse in the future.

She obviously knew she was being evaluated for something. It was a months-long process in which her parents were interviewed and she had to attend a 3 hour long session during which a psychologist interviewed her and learned about her. She was told it was to evaluate for ADHD (untrue- it was entirely because of suspected autism) and hasn't asked about it since.

I don't believe autism should be seen as anything but a fact. She is autistic and needs different support than what she is getting so she can be her best, happiest self. Her parents seem to be attaching shame to her diagnosis and I am worried that she is going to feed off that shame when she inevitably finds out she is autistic.

She has been going to therapy for about 8 years for depression, anxiety, and to deal with bullying at school and her parents divorce. She is very sensitive and struggles with being taken advantage of and stumbling into hurting other people's feelings. I was hoping that with her new diagnosis Her therapist would be able to help empower her to do things like learn to drive or give her the tools to feel her emotions but not let them get the best of her when she is upset.

I am completely shocked to hear her therapist feels the same way as her parents and doesn't want to tell her. She is going to be 18 in less than 2 years and will have access to all of her medical records. She is going to find out her parents lied to her.

Am I overreacting? I love her and I do not want her to feel betrayed or ashamed for something that does not need to be hidden or shameful.

Please share your experiences and any advice.

I tried to keep this short but I am happy to provide any additional information if anyone needs clarification.

Also, I am relevatively new to this so if I need to change my wording or outlook please (kindly) correct me. I am here to learn and be the best stepmom I can be.

**Update: I spoke with my husband today and showed him this thread with everyone's replies. He has set up an appointment with the therapist for tomorrow to create a plan for telling my stepdaughter about her diagnosis. He has admitted it will be best for her to know and has done his best to get his ex wife on board. Either way, he and the therapist are moving forward with telling my st

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Best Christmas ever. My 16yr old stepdaughter gave me this this morning. She says she wants to change her last name too.
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I cannot stand my stepdaughter

So I know this sounds harsh, and it makes me feel crappy. But I just CANNOT STAND SD10. She is spoiled, a liar, manipulative, and sneaky. She has little to no compassion or empathy for others and has no problem hitting or getting even with people. She has zero structure when she leaves to BMs house (50:50) and pretty much does what she wants. She has no sense of respect for others (doesn’t say excuse me, doesn’t stay quiet when people are talking, laughs when people cry) and I’ve hit my breaking point. She will lie about schoolwork and has gone as far as missing classes for WEEKS straight. She has an attitude and loves to talk back. She will lie about what she does, what she ate, what she said. I’m tired and drained. SO will discipline and talk to her but as soon as he feels like I am picking on her he will flip and become petty. He acts like I’m out to get her. It has caused me to be distant from my own S8 because if I hug him she will want to hug me twice. If I give him something or say something to him she will ask for the same thing. She needs to be the center of attention and needs everyone to pay attention to her. Ugh sorry for the long rant. I’m a ticking time bomb and I still feel I’m missing half of what I wanted to write. Help.

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My stepdaughter asked for a pikachu for her birthday so I crocheted one for her. The ears and the face were pretty difficult for me but it was fun to make. Hopefully she likes it. reddit.com/gallery/kxi87m
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Karen sprays Windex on stepdaughter's pillow just because she forgot to return it after cleaning her mirror v.redd.it/dipsptf282y51
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AITA For being upset after my stepdaughter took my deceased son's toy?

I F39 lost my son at the age of five, my ex husband and I seperated shortly after this devastating tragedy because we couldn't stand fighting with each other and misunderstanding each other. We knew we weren't going to work it out.

I met my now husband two years ago. Got married 6 months ago and I had him and my 14 year old stepdaughter move in with me.

She has been a bit controlling and wants everything her way, She wanted to take my deceased son's bedroom and I let her have it. She'd ask me to take down pictures of him that I put on the wall whenever her friends visit and say I could put them back after they leave and I never understood why.

She'd also make comments about him whenever she gets mad and say that I must had been a terrible mom to him which was very hurtful and very wrong of her.

Now. She's starting to access his belongings and using the “I wanna know how he was like” as an excuse. She'd lose his stuff after promising to give it back when done looking at it.

I moved his stuff into the basement hoping she won't come near his belongings.

Last night While going through his stuff I found his teddy bear the only toy I had left of his gone.

I searched around and my stepdaughter casually asked her dad and I what we were looking for and then told us she took the toy and gave it to her cousin when she was babysitting him.

I got so mad I told her this belong to my son and she shouldn't have touched it but her response was that my son is no longer here to use it so why keep it- in the most sarcastic mean tone. I just yelled at her and told her to go get it back but she refused saying I was looking for an argument.

My husband had to drive her to her cousin's house to get the toy and when she got back she yelled at me and refused to even have dinner. She said I was being mean to her and she saw nothing wrong with what she did. My husband says she is just a kid and made a mistake. That I should just let it go.

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Aita For yelling at my wife and stepdaughter?

My 8year old son has Muscular dystrophy, he was diagnosed at 5 years of age. My ex wife and I noticed something was seriously wrong when he struggled with a delay in walking, difficulty rising from his seat, bending and picking up stuff, the news was absolutely devastating my ex wife couldn't accept how everything we had planned for our son's future came crashing down, she thought I had more courage to deal with his illness so she left, probably wanting to forget about us and start over.

I got married to my wife a year ago, my stepdaughter is a very loud and picky kid, she's 12, she had laid her eyes on my son's room and wanted to take it, We've talked about it since she seems to be hating me and holding a grudge for this very reason, I told her no, her room is upstairs, it's smaller but I needed the bigger room to provide my son with space to move freely. Last week, she brought it up again and said she wanted to switch rooms because her friends said it was not cool and girly and she wanted space to put her girly stuff.

I explained that my son doesn't have the ability to go up and downstairs with a wheelchair,my wife said that I should get one of those electric climbing weelchairs, I told her yes I might be considering this in the future but I wasn't going to burden my son with the trouble of climbing up and downstairs before I get him a better weelechair once I've saved up for it.

My stepdauguter started crying, My wife sided with her and lashed out after I refused, saying her daughter's mental health matters and that I was being unfair with treating kids differently, I lost it, I started yelling at them both and telling them they were selfish for asking me this, My wife yelled back and said she wanted to take her daughter and go stay with her folks til I make this right and be fair to them.

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AITA for not helping my stepdaughter look for her cat?

My stepdaughter is 15 and she has this cat. This cat is the most annoying thing on this earth. It meows all day and it gets it's hair everywhere. I've wanted to get rid of it for the longest time but my stepdaughter loves it and throws a hissy fit when anyone talks bad about it. She's very whiny/bratty so I usually don't push the argument.

Her mother was out of town so it was just her and I. She walks around in her underwear all the time and it makes me uncomfortable so I decided to avoid her all night.

At around 1 AM last night she came in my room while I was playing video games/watching tv and she's literally freaking the fuck out. The cat is an indoor-outdoor cat and hadn't came when she called it's name. I looked out the window and didn't see it. She was scared that it'd get too cold or an owl would get it.

She asked me to come outside with her to look for it but I told her that it was freezing and I didn't want to come. She kept asking me to come because she's not allowed to go outside at night by herself and she claimed she was scared.

She eventually went outside and looked for two hours. She couldn't find it and now she's blaming me that it's gone. She says that if I wasn't being lazy and had helped her look we would've found it.

I felt she was being very rude and sassy. Her mother says that I should've tried harder to look for the stupid cat. I don't think that I should be expected to go outside in the cold at 1AM to look for a animal.

AITA?

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I posted this in r/baking earlier but didn’t know of this sub. My stepdaughter suggested I post it here to share with “foodies”. My very first I cracked cheesecake. I’m a tad excited.
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Hey Spirits, my aunt had a baby yesterday. Please suggest a name for my stepdaughter.
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👤︎ u/adukadu
📅︎ Jan 16
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Aita For demanding that my wife pays back my 200 that my stepdaughter stole from me?

I 39m got married to my wife Sarah three years ago, my stepdaughter Audery 14F used to have a good relationship with me, but sometimes when she gets upset she says some pretty harsh stuff, and lately she's been acting out and would literally yell at me for just asking “how are things?".

My wife says I should take a step back and let her have some space, Which what I been doing for the past two months.

Yesterday, while my wife was at the stores and I was watching the news, I saw my stepdaughter walking out of my bedroom, I thought nothing of it, she's usually there for a pack of tissues/her mother's laptop and other stuff.

We finished dinner, and before I went to bed, I went to check my closet and found that there was money missing, 200$ to be exact, I was keeping the cash to give it to my brother the next day to help pay for his wife's hospital bill. I was confused, I asked my wife if she went shopping with my money and she said no, I gotta say I had suspecions but didn't want to jump to conclusions.

The next day, my stepdaughter came home with shopping bags and looked delighted, I asked her where she was, she said at the mall, I asked where she got the money, she said that her mom gave her money, I asked her how much but she got mad and told me off, said I was being a jerk and that I ruined her mood.

I was pissed, so damn pissed because that was the money I was supposed to help my brother out with, I waited til my wife got home, and I told her what happened, my wife started begging me to not confront her daughter about the money she took, because that would make her hate us both and made excuses saying she's just a kid, she didn't know, told me to hide the money else where next time, I lost it I told her to pay the money Audery took because that was not okay and since she chose to let her get away and that I “shouldn't try to parent her" (trust me way too many people told me not to try and be a dad to her) then she should be paying me my 200$ back, She tried to argue about how money is always more important to me and that I don't care about her or even try to understand why Audery is doing this.

The whole evening was quiet, I sat there in silence unable to even tell my stepdaughter what she did was wrong because that's her mom's wish.

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📅︎ Sep 05 2020
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AITA for teaching my 6yo stepdaughter maths that most adults can't do?

During the lock down I have been teaching my stepdaughter, and she happens to excel in mathematics, and she loves it. So I took it upon myself to teach her some advanced maths once she was able to add, subtract, multiply and divide any two numbers. So I taught her pythagoras theorem and some circle geometry (using radius and diameter to calculate circumference and area).

She spent the weekend at her dads and I gave her some homework to take with her because she enjoys doing maths and her dads household doesn't quite have the same mathematical ability as ours. Well she's come home with a note from her dad's mum saying that I am teaching her beyond her years and that I am making the job of her school teachers harder and that I shouldn't be teaching to the level that I am.

I guess my question is, is it wrong of me to be teaching her beyond her years? Or should I continue to push this prodigy further?

Edit: I think i might be the arsehole because I am making the teachers job harder by advancing her above her peers and potentially having her run faster than she can walk

Edit: thanks for all the love and support, I'm so happy I'm not doing anything wrong by helping my stepdaughter with maths.

I will be taking a lot of your advice and make sure I go back and cover Algerbra more in depth, we did some algebra before pythagoras and basic circle geometry but I will definitely be sure to have her rearranging formulae and missing numbers etc, perhaps look at a school curriculum and follow that for her.

Thanks again guys I really appreciate the advice and know it will be taken and used!

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👤︎ u/Tryptych56
📅︎ Aug 30 2020
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Check out my stepdaughter's onlyfans!
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📅︎ Oct 01 2020
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Hey dad, stepdad called me as his stepdaughter and i almost cried

Hi dad, i miss you a lot these days. Were moving to another state and we called a dog day for my dogs to watch for a week while we look for a house. I heard step dad telling the lady to put his step daughter name on it (me) because I know my dogs information. I wanted to cry after that. That was the first time i heard it. He always has been introducing me as his ‘wife daughter’, it didnt hurt me but i thought he just didnt prefer me as his step daughter. Either way, it just melted my heart. Dad, stepdad has been doing everything for me. I’m working part and doing school full time. He pays for my car expenses and he never complain. I pay him back slowly because i dont have big income yet. I’m just so happy and thankful.

I miss you dad.

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👤︎ u/omogal123
📅︎ Dec 15 2020
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Hand painted Jordan’s by my 14 year old stepdaughter!!
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👤︎ u/jluns1234
📅︎ Jan 04
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Pissed off my stepdaughter today, now I'm pissed off

DH and i took SS(15) and SD(11) shopping around IKEA and a local antique mall today. SD was with me and we were having a nice time looking at treasures. She happened to mention how many things she had bought her best friend for Christmas so I then ask her what she bought for her parents.

She said she didn't get them anything at all this year. Mind you, these are a kids whose mother gives them weekly allowances and both parents are also open to paying them for doing extra chores.

I told her it would be nice for her to think about her parents next year and how she should get them a little gift. I even tried brainstorming with her on what little inexpensive things she could possibly get them to show appreciation.

Well that struck a nerve and she huffed n puffed the rest of the time. She even walked away from me at the antique store and we couldn't find her for a while. She's never been there and it's a huge store she could've gotten lost.

Brat.

That's what i get for thinking about her parents I guess? Lol I even told her to not worry about me or her siblings just her parents! My God. My SKs are so spoiled, especially the little one. Can't even spare $5 for her own parents.

Makes me get annoyed w Christmas. I grew up wo it and only started celebrating when I got with my SO.

Anyone else's SKs brats like this?

TLDR: SD got mad at me for suggesting that she think about her parents next Christmas

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📅︎ Dec 21 2020
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My stepdaughter made me these Christmas ornaments of our guinea pigs. ❤
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📅︎ Dec 23 2020
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How it started vs how it’s going! CandyCane is a big boy now, about 32”! He is still just as calm, sweet and easy to handle as the day we brought him home. He’s a little over 2yrs old and we all love him so much! The best gift I ever gave my stepdaughter. reddit.com/gallery/kpbhrw
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📅︎ Jan 03
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On a thread talking about how happy a stepdad was when his stepdaughter referred to him as dad
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📅︎ Dec 19 2020
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Momzilla wants to use stepdaughter's COLLEGE FUND to pay for her son's wedding /r/AmItheAsshole/comments…
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📅︎ Nov 07 2020
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My (39F) stepdaughter (19F) is overly protective over my baby

I’ve been in Mandas life for 4 years now and we get along perfectly fine, she had a regular upbringing so nothing I can think of to warrant this behaviour.

I gave birth to a son 3 months ago and quite literally from the start it was like fighting Manda for him; I’d ask several times to hold him and she’d ignore me or her dad would ask and she’d reluctantly hand him over.

When I am holding him she’s hovering as though I’ll drop him, I’ll pick him up or play with him and she’ll be hovering and saying “careful” or “don’t do that” as though she’s his mother and I’m being reckless.

She’ll ask for him to sleep in her room as my husband won’t have him co sleeping with us anymore, he’ll spend 5/7 nights sleeping in with her now.

He’ll cry and she’ll soothe him before I even have a chance.

I’m honestly starting to feel like an imposter in my own family.

I’ve spoken to my husband and he can’t explain why she behaves this way and up till our son was born we got along well! I’ll talk to her and she’ll apologise but then go straight back to doing it with zero explanation and my husband allows it.

I’m starting to think she has to move out because of it; I can’t deal with the overbearing controlling aspect of it all, she’ll be 20 in June so I wouldn’t be kicking a child out.

I just don’t know what to do because I love her but I love my son more and would actually like to parent him without her in the way.

If I could rationalise her behaviour maybe we’d come up with a solution but as I said I can’t.

I don’t know if there’s any advice I can be given but if there is I’m open to hearing it!

TLDR stepdaughter is obsessed with my baby to the point of interrupting my bonding time with him, no reason or explanation as to why and I’m considering making her leave our home.

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👤︎ u/ThrowR0A28
📅︎ Jan 14
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