Edit: my step-sister confronted him and asked if there was any way my "story" of him stalking me is true. He broke up with her, left, and now won't answer her calls. I think this confirms this all wasn't a coincidence.
My step-sister and I have lived together since I was 3. I lived full-time with her, my father, and my step-mum from age 3 to when I left to university. We live in a major city. I am not close with my step-mum or step-sister, but I still love them.
I was invited to a family dinner to meet my step-sister's boyfriend. My step-sister has never brought anyone home before and has made many mentions of dying alone, so this was a big step for her. It seemed very sudden and rushed, but I didn't think much of it since my sister is at an age where we all expected her to bring someone home or even mention someone to us by now. My step-mum told me they have been seeing each other for about 2 months and she and my father had met her boyfriend about a month ago.
As my step-sister's boyfriend walked in, I immediately recognised him because he had stalked me for over a year when I was at university. He stalked me after I had told him I did not want to continue dating after 3 weeks of seeing each other once per week. This man would leave flowers for me outside my flat and I would see him following me around campus. My friends would warn me when they saw him around campus (he had already graduated and had attended a completely different university). I had mentioned my step-sister and my other family members to him and told him their names. He definitely knew step-sister's name and what she looked like.
I informed my step-mum after the dinner that this man was my stalker. She remembered me mentioning him and seeing him outside my flat when she had visited me before. I told her I never reported him because I thought he'd leave me alone eventually and he did finally. I never thought I would see him again, so I was surprised and quite scared when he showed up to dinner.
It turns out that he moved into my step-sister's flat about two weeks ago (about 6 weeks after meeting each other) and he never mentioned to my step-sister that he knew me, even after "meeting" me at dinner. My step-mum was very afraid after I told her about the stalking and she urged my step-sister sister to leave him. My step-sister is refusing and after my step-sister threw a tantrum about how I'm a liar and trying to ruin her life, my step-mum has taken her side and decided that I... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (20f) sister’s husband has a son from his previous marriage that is 8. My sister invited me over to spend some time with him. I’ve only met this kid a handful of times. Sis wants me to get along with him, which is totally valid.
I tried to find topics to talk about but it was really awkward. I don’t know what stuff kids his age are into. We kinda talked and kinda ignored each other until I asked him about books.
He said he really likes the diary of a wimpy kid and Percy Jackson. Brilliant, since those are 2 series that I was also super into when I was around his age. So I’m sitting there like “finally, a topic I can talk about” and asked him about his favourite book, favourite character etc. Standard questions like that. He asked me whether I read them before, since I was naming characters and describing scenes from the books correctly and I was like “yeah, these were super popular when I was your age. I used to read them with my classmates”
Holy shit, it was like I dumped a bucket of cold water on the kid. He goes “I’m reading old people books?”.
I don’t know how to reply to that. I wait until my sister changes the topic. A week later, I get a call from my sister saying that he refuses to read any of the books he likes because they are “old people” books. According to her, BIL and her bought all of the Percy Jackson and Wimpy Kid books. He doesn’t want to read any of them. Also, apparently It had taken BIL and the kid’s therapist months to convince him to willingly read anything in the first place, so this has derailed his progress. I didn’t know he had issues reading.
My sister wants me to help cover the cost of buying him new books. No, thank you. I didn’t know books would be a sensitive subject. I would never have even brought up books if I knew this was how he was going to react. Sis is pretty pissed at me now though.
Okay the title sounds awful so please read it all.
I (F21) recently came to stay with my father, my step mother and step sister, let's call her T. So, T is 14, she is kinda into that "not like other girls" stage, i have never really spent much time with her, i barely saw my dad so imagine.
It was hard to bond with T, i'm into makeup, clothes, i even have a tiktok chanel for it and make money with it, T used to say its dumb.
Besides the age gap, there's also a language barrier between us (my first language is Spanish and my English isn't great) but recently i was doing my make up at the living room and T liked it. She got curious and i teached her some things. All natural looking make up, i gave her things some brands gave me, she is really good at it! She must wear makeup 3 times a week at most, not for school and all natural looking but when my step mother found out, she got super mad, saying i'm making T grow up too fast and insinuating that she is ugly with no make up, she threw the things away and said i should not impose. She is not talking to me at all now and my dad is on her side. T is upset at both of them.
I really don't know who is right. AITA?
Edit to add: I don't know if there was a no make up rule
I have two daughters “Leanne” (19F) and “Lucy” (16F). I adore my girls but since I remarried “Rebecca” fairly soon after the divorce, they weren’t impressed – especially since I gained a stepdaughter, “Sophie” (18F). I did my best but they remain closer to their mother to this day, and when the lockdowns first started they wished to stay with her and communicate with me through tech. (Clarification because everyone was asking: I did NOT cheat.)
My ex-wife “Sharon” has been struggling since the pandemic. Money is tight for both her and her boyfriend "Luke", and with them and both the girls there’s not a lot of space. Leanne especially is coping very poorly and Sharon asked if I was willing to have her for a short while, apparently at Leanne’s request- I was surprised by this since she was the one who felt most negatively towards me after the divorce, and we recently had a big fight because she dropped out of university. So I agreed knowing that it would be tough.
But her behaviour hasn’t been acceptable. She’s rude to Rebecca. She frequently takes clothes of Sophie’s- she says she and Lucy share things all the time, but their relationship and attitudes to clothes is different. Sophie’s wardrobe is essentially sacred to her for reasons I don’t have the word count to explain but can in the comments if deemed relevant. Leanne also makes a lot of noise (symptom of her mother’s household), swears a lot, is messy, and very aggressive when she doesn’t get her way or is rebuked for her behaviour, particularly if it’s Rebecca that says something.
Tensions have been rising lately because Sophie was due to start university again today. Leanne and I fought about this as I mentioned, so it was a delicate subject regardless, and with Leanne’s noise disturbance Sophie has found it difficult to concentrate on her prep-work so they’ve been arguing even more.
Sophie bought a new shirt and necklace for her first meeting today – a new outfit for a specific event is Sophie code for “I’m stressed about this”, the idea of an online term is quite daunting. Today, she went to get dressed and found the blouse ripped apart and the necklace destroyed on her bed. She started crying, there was a big fight, Rebecca calmed Sophie down in time for her class and I sent Leanne to her room and told her to stay there until her mother arrives to pick her up. Not just the vandalism, but the fact that she deliberately searched for the items she knew Sophie had chosen to calm herself down for... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f19) came back to my mother's house a few months ago. She got married (a very small wedding, it was all safe) in December. That's when i met my step sisters (22) Diana and Olivia, who are now staying with us.
They are identical twins and i really mean identical. The only difference is how they dress, one of them is more into pastel colors while the other is more into dark colors, but except for that, they are identical. They both have long black hair, their voices sound similar, the way they move, everything and i'm always mixing them up.
It's becoming annoying for everyone and they both are pretty upset and think i'm not trying hard enough which makes me feel bad. Am i the asshole for not knowing who is who?
I know it sounds bad when summed up that way, but I couldn’t think of a better/more descriptive title, so please hear me out before judging.
My (25F) sister Julia (28F) was overweight growing up while the rest of us (five girls, no brothers) were always petite. No one in our family ever treated her badly for her weight, though my mom did try to help her diet several times throughout our childhood for purely health reasons. She was hospitalized for her eating disorder for the first time when she was 18, and she’s been in and out of treatment facilities since then. She’s been “recovered” several times over the years, but it’s never been permanent.
Pre-pandemic, Julia seemed to be on a recovery kick again. She looked healthy, seemed to be eating normally, and even asked if I wanted some of her old smaller clothes she was giving away (she has some nice stuff from when she was thinner—as I mentioned the rest of us are pretty petite). I was hopeful she could keep it together and felt okay about asking her to be a bridesmaid at that point.
That was the last time I saw her though (Feb. 2020), until I saw her Friday for Christmas. Julia has gained a LOT of weight in that time, probably 20 pounds, which is a lot because she’s short. This is a huge red flag to me because prior relapses have been preceded by weight gain, which seems to trigger another relapse.
So the way I see it, there are two possibilities from here. The first is that she relapses and loses all the weight, in which case she might not even show up for the wedding (she’s missed big family events because of being in residential treatment before), or maybe even worse she’ll continue to gain weight, in which case things like dress fittings could be a nightmare for her body image. In either scenario, I think it makes more sense for her to not be a bridesmaid. That way she can wear whatever she wants, be skinny or fat, show up or not, and it won’t affect the day as a whole.
So I texted her after Christmas to be ask if she was doing okay. Sure enough, she admitted she’d been having body image issues since gaining weight during lockdown. I kindly asked her to step down from being a bridesmaid, explaining that it was for her own good and I was only doing this because I cared about her. She seemed upset but agreed to step down.
Well, now our dad is furious with me, saying Julia is heartbroken. She of course hasn’t brought ANYTHING up to me directly (that’s how she always is). My mom and sisters are all... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f20) have a sister (f17) and two step sisters (f15) and (f13). My mom remarried close to 2 years ago. She’s been persistent with forcing my sister to have a relationship with her husband and his kids and because of that my sister escapes to my house. I live with my boyfriend (m21) in a 2 bedroom apartment. So, my boyfriend and i agreed to let the second room basically turned into my sister’s room.
She’s over almost every other week after fighting with my mom about her forcing relationship between her and the other two girls. Onto today’s events, my mom and her husband wants to get away for a week. My mom asked if i could take in all three girls (they don’t trust the girls home alone due to the house being wrecked and a lot more the last time they left them alone- another story for another day). I said i could take in my sister but not my step sisters because 1, i wasn’t comfortable having them over when i barely met them no more than 2-3 times and 2, it wouldn’t be enough space.
My mom suggested i let them all share the room my sister stays in when she comes over and i said i wasn’t going to force that onto her. She asked if i could just let them sleep on the couch and i said it wouldn’t be right because the couch is small and even the 13 year old wouldn’t fit.
She started getting pissy with me and said she didn’t like my favoritism and how would my step sisters feel if they knew i “didn’t want them around” which is not even close to true. I may be TA here, i told her i didn’t care to have a relationship with them and they’re strangers to me. I said that i don’t hate them but i can’t love them because i do not know them
She said my sister acted the way she did because of the way i behave which also isn’t true. My sister is her own person with her own feelings. I never once told my sister i disliked my step sisters. All i’ve said to her was that it was fine if she didn’t want to be close to them that a relationship isn’t a relationship if it’s forced.
My mom said i was an asshole for forcing them to postpone their vacation and telling her i didn’t love my step sisters. AITA here
Edit: My moms husband has no family (that i’m aware of) outside of his brother and sister. His brother lives 12+ hours away and his sister, an 8 hour drive (that’s how long it took her to travel here for the wedding). Other than that i don’t know of any other family he has. The girls mom passed away when they were pretty young.
Now, why my sister isn’t interested... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (17F) have pin straight hair, but a while ago the ‘Curly Girl Method’ for hair overtook my TikTok FYP. I was interested in testing it out, but obviously it would be kinda useless on me. So, I turned my attention to my little step-sister “Amy” (4F). She has amazingly curly hair, but no one in our families ever really do much with it, as we all have straight hair (I should clarify now that we’re all white, including Amy - none of this is a cultural issue).
I bought all the products and we made a special day of it (at-home pamper day, the whole shebang). By some miracle, she sat for the whole thing and loved the results. Her curls weren’t tangled anymore, and it didn’t hurt her when I did it, unlike when either my or her mom went at it with a brush. I helped her to maintain in for the rest of the week she was at our house, seeing as she’s 4 and can’t really manage it herself yet. As a bonus aside, it was a great way for us to spend time together and I am taking great joy in currently being her “best sister” (I’m her only sister, but still).
Then, she went back to her mum’s house, as per their custody agreement (one week at each house) and was apparently upset at the return to her mum’s approach to her hair (basically just treat it the same way you treat straight hair) and wanted my way of doing it back. Her mum then texted my step-dad (Amy’s dad) and asked that I don’t do the CGM with Amy anymore because it was too much for Amy’s mum to keep up with. I offered to send the products over, because I know they cost me £££, and figured that was the problem, and then Amy could just bring them between the houses. Amy’s mum refused and said it was just too much time to commit to Amy’s hair. It sort of escalated to Amy’s mum scolding me herself and saying that I should just “listen to the adults” and that I have no right to control how she does her daughter’s hair.
I sympathise with Amy’s mum - I know she has two other kids who aren’t that old either and she works full time. I have the liberty of time to spend all the time I want working on Amy’s hair, unlike her. At the same time, I loved seeing how happy it made Amy and I really enjoyed our bonding time, so I’d hate to stop that now.
AITA for still wanting to do the CGM on my little sister?
Hi everyone. There’s a more to say but I’m limited with characters
My name is Jay and I am 16. I live with my mom, her husband, and his daughter (18).I lost my dad two years ago. We were very close and it’s been tough. My mom has been with her husband for six years.
When my dad passed he and my mom were long divorced. They were always nice to each other and talked weekly. The issue I guess is he left all possessions and money to me.
My mom isn’t allowed to oversee the money and it is being held by a lawyer or someone, but my uncle can give a bi-yearly allowance up to a unknown amount. This has caused issue as the yearly money I get for school needs and sports isn’t enough she says, but my uncle tells me in private that the money is enough, but only for one kid and his brother was not responsible for another mans child.
I got my dads house, and my uncle can stay there until I’m 25. I am very close with my uncle and cousins. I like to visit for my summers and for extended weekends. My uncle has saved a lot of money living in my house and has told me the house will always be mine, but he hopes that me and my cousins would move elsewhere as the state doesn’t offer much and he wants to move near the beach when we are all out of school. I trust them all and don’t think they want to grift me like my step-dad says.
The main issue right now is this. I’m not a good student. I wish I were but I’ve never been more than average I have a IEP. I do try but I’m never going to be a doctor or architect. My uncle tells me I should try college because I can find something else I like or go to a tech school to learn a trade. He has told me the money left for me would be enough for 10-15 years if doing not much, but I have to much life to live after that for that to be a plan.
My step-sister on the other hand is very smart. All honors classes, all A’s, all kinds of sports and clubs, but she can’t afford college because her parent make to much. I guess they make enough to slip through the cracks.. that’s what my mom says. Step got into a few good schools. Not Harvard or Yale but a school in New York dagermouth and Brown. She didn’t get any meaningful scholarships she says.
I don’t really view us as brother and sister. My mom has asked me pay for her first three years of school and she and husband will pay the rest. We had a family meeting or whatever and all three asked me about it and I told them I would like to ask my uncle to set in. They said it was family only... keep reading on reddit ➡
My parents divorced when I was 2 and my sister was 4, my mom got main custody of us but we visit our dad for about a month or 2 at a time. My dad remarried about a year later to my step mom who had a son who was around 1ish when they got married, and my he lives full time at their place cause his bio dad isn't in the picture anymore and my dad adopted him. My dad works a lot and isn't tech savvy so I don't get to call or FaceTime him much cause he has a phone he barley knows how to use. I only really get to talk to him when I visit his place with my sister.
a couple days ago we got dropped off at our dad's and he asked us (me and my sister) if we wanted to go get ice cream with him. My sister declined cause she was tired or something, so it was just gonna be me and my dad until my (step) brother came out to say hi and then asked if he could go. My dad brought me aside and asked if I mind if he came along and normally I wouldn't mind but I haven't seen my dad for close to 2 months before this and I said no. My dad told my brother no and we went for ice cream just the 2 of us.
I share a room with my brother when I'm at my dad's and I could tell he was bummed I said no, (he isn't allowed to have a phone so we don't really get to talk much either unless I'm at my dad's). I apologized and let him use my PS4 for a bit but I could tell things were a bit off for the night. AITA?
My sister was a piece of shit to say the least. And thankfully she’s out of my life, and she has been for a while.
But my moms and stepdad have been together for 6 years, and me and my stepsister have lived together for 4 years. And we’ve grown pretty close, atleast I think we have. She always talked about how she wished she had a little brother, or even a little sister, but she never did. And she’s honestly kinda like one of my best friends.
Idek what I would call her, bc I feel like just calling her “sister” is weird. But also I don’t always just want to call her her name if that makes sense.
And my stepdad is a lot better than my dad too. And luckily I’m only seeing my dad every other weekend. For some reason he still wants atleast some custody even tho he treats me like shit and doesn’t seem to care about me at all. Whereas my stepdad is kinda what I think I dad should be like. He teaches me a lot of useful life skills, he actually supports me, he helps me with stuff, we do stuff together, we can actually talk without it turning into a screaming match, all that fun stuff. And I’d like to start calling him dad but I feel like it would be really akward. And he still calls me his step son, so what if like he doesn’t want me to call him dad?
I’m thinking about just talking to my mom about this, but idk if I should.
she calls me by my name and not step bro and she hasnt got stuck in any washing machines please advise
17F, 5'2, 92lbs, non-smoker, non-drinker, celiac disease and the only medication she's on is Prozac.
She came home after going out for a walk saying she got bit by a stray cat. We don't know this cat and have no idea what vaccinations it has, if any. She was wearing gloves but the cat attacked her so viciously that the bite went through her gloves and managed to break skin in several locations, causing her to bleed. My sister has never received the rabies vaccine.
I told her to immediately wash her hands with soap and water and I'm unsure of what to do. Should she get medical attention for this? I'm really scared that the cat may have had rabies.
edit/update: just wanted to thank y'all for the great responses i appreciate it and it's gonna go a long way , talked to a good lawyer and we are sorting out every possibility and outcome , i talked to my mother and she is letting my sister stay with my fiancée and i for the next 3 weeks and we're all so excited about it , that's my short term plan my long one is to get my little sister's custody she deserves and hopefully will have a loving family once again she is such a good kid . getting custody might be hard but it's my responsibility to protect my family at all costs . I'm taking this very seriously.
I'll try to explain it as quickly as possible
So my mother and step father keep abusing my little sister . they have slapped her countless times , the step father swears at her so much and they stopped buying her clothes and barley feed her , my sisters mental health is getting destroyed. I'm so worried about my sister i can't sleep at night and all i think about is her . always been her mentor and the best big brother i could be .
my fiancée suggested getting her custody , i don't know if a sibling can , i own a house with 2 extra rooms for my sister and can provide for her financially more than the average person . and she can have a loving family if she comes with my fiancée and i . i talked about it with my sister she said she would love living with us .
if i show evidence that my sister is getting abused can i get custody?
She is under the impression that the police wont do anything about it and she says it is a waste of time. What should she do? We dont have alot of money or time for lawyers, and I am totally unfamiliar with the law here in Cluj. Also isn't it illegal to send pornographic stuff to her little sister? What can we do?
Also apology as I dont speak Romanian
edit::: Thanks so much for all who replied, it means a lot to her
Some backstory, when my son Nathan was 2, he met a friend in his daycare class, who we'll call Abby. Her dad, Jack, was one of the only other single parents there as his wife had left after Abby was born. Jack and I bonded over our children and ended up dating for a year and a half before getting married, and we had our daughter Eliza less than a year later.
Jack and I always raised all three of our children the same, and though they knew that Nathan had a different dad and Abby had a different mum, we had never thought to question if they saw each other as siblings.
Then, last week, Abby and Nathan sat Jack and I down and told us that they had something important to say. Abby started in about how for the past few years her and Jack had been in a romantic relationship. She said that it happened after they were both adults, that they had gone to relationship counselling when it first started and that they were seriously thinking about marriage. Nathan then told us that they had admitted to having feelings for each other as teenagers, but had never acted on it because they were afraid of ruining their friendship, hurting each other, and most of all what we would think.
At this point, Jack looked at me, grabbed my hand and hugged our children. He told them that he was sorry for us keeping them apart and that he 'could tell how happy they are together'. I just got up and left.
Where I might be the asshole:
My husband is right, they do look happy together. In fact, I've never seen my son or daughter happier. But I just can't accept this. I haven't responded to any of their messages or calls, and pretended I wasn't home when they tried to visit during the day. I've been fighting with Jack since this happened, even so far as telling him that if it were my choice they would never have my blessing, and I would put them both in therapy for having incestuous desires. This really upset him, and the fighting got so bad that I had him sleep in the guest house. I've never gone this long without talking to my children. I've never fought my husband. I have no idea how to navigate this, and every time I think about it their whole relationship just makes me sick and angry. That being said, I know I'm hurting my children. I know I'm hurting my husband.
Where Jack might be the asshole:
Since Abby and Nathan told us of their relationship, Jack has been going on tirades about how unsupportive I am, about how bad of a mother I am, and about how I didn't... keep reading on reddit ➡
At the time I was a horny 13 year old and my sister was 17. She recently became my step-sister about 1 year before the incident. I used a throwaway because... of course.
I remember the day very vividly. It was a summer day in I think 06', and my mom and step dad were off on a date. I was playing on my ds and just having a nice day all around until it happened. My stepsister came into my room and asked me if I've ever had sex, I said no (the most sexual intercourse I had at the time was watching porn). She then asked me if she wanted my first time to be with her and I said yes very excitedly. She basically ripped my out of my bed and pulled me to her room and tossed me a condom. I asked her how to use it. She sighed and put it on my penis for me. She then got undressed and my innocent 13 y/o self got very horny. Afterwards she basically raped me, holding me down and forcing my dick in her holes. I haven't really thought about it until she asked to come to me and my girlfriend's place. I've thought about telling my girlfriend about the situation. I'm not sure if I should....
I (16m) have a sister (10m) we live seperate because of a divorce but for the past 3 weeks, my sister has been asking me to help her. I have been helping her but last night she asked for help and I told her to ask her teacher because I can’t always help due to all the work I get. Now everyone is complaining to me saying that I should just help her but her mum has the teachers phone number and I’ve tried to explain that I have lots of work to do as well but she won’t listen.
AITA for not helping my step sister with her homework?
She's turning 16 in February and my dad and stepmom are planning on having a sweet 16 for her. I (19f) lost my mom two years ago on my step-sisters birthday and it has been rough on me. The fact they're having the party on the actual date too... I told my dad, he was mad, he said I could still show up for my "sister" (which she isn't, at least not to me) and mourn my mom. I told him I would not be going and that's it.
They're all mad about it and telling me I need to go.
I told them they can't make me go and my decision is final.
I was going to tell them a lot of people might not go because of Covid but I decided against it because they'll be pissed if I even suggest they change the date.
So my girlfriend (32) (F) told me (95) (M) that her fat, autistic, transgender, twice removed step sister died and she TOLD me to go to the funeral.
I told that stupid bitch that ‘an emergency on her part doesn’t constitute one on mine’ and also told her that since it’s not an open casket funeral I can’t farm her sister for Reddit karma so I’m not gonna go. And the bitch has the audacity to say I’m an asshole?!?!????? WTF?????!!! First she didn’t post to Reddit and let them vote so she doesn’t know that and Second her sister is exactly what AITA hates so why should I show up.
So I hit my girlfriend over the head with my crusty cum sock and tied her up and put her in the trunk of my car, I am now evading authorities who say I’m wrong!!!?????
So Reddit AITA? I know I’m not cause but I’ll let you epic CHUNGUS redditors decide.
So background. I 17M have had to take over cooking for my stepmom while she has had severe allergies for the past 2 weeks. She literally cannot go 5 minutes without coughing up a storm and thus cannot cook. I live with my stepmom, stepsister and my brother was at the house on visitation. My dad was at the hospital when this happened.
I had made Salisbury steak with mushroom and onion gravy, mashed potatoes and green beans. I had asked both stepsister 14F and brother 15M if they would eat it an hour before I started. They both said yes.
So I made the food. When I called them over to get their plates they immediately asked if there was anything else. I told them no and that I had asked them earlier if they would eat it and they said yes. They said they had changed their mind.
I told them that I would not spend another hour or 2 thawing meat and cooking entirely different dishes just because they changed their mind. I then said that they could either eat the food I had made or starve. I then took stepmom her plate. They followed me into her room and began complaining to her. Their argument was that since I take culinary arts I could make different dishes. She sided with me and scolded them for being picky. They later tried complaining to my dad when he got home and he said that the same thing as stepmom.
They later complained to their friends and I am getting flak for being cruel to them. So reddit AITA?
We were sisters. We grew up together. But then our parents got divorced. We have a half-sister in common. I legit never know what to call her cause she is a sister but she hasn't legally been for the last 15 years.