I know that the title looks bad but let me explain. And I don't know I should put it here or relationship advice. So I'm a 20 year old F and I am currently staying with my parents because of COVID-19. My Step-mother and I have rocky relationship. She was barely there when I need her. While My Step-mother and her mother are Entitled people. My Step-mother's mother doesn't like me because I am from my Dad's previous marriage and accused me of "ruining HER grandchild's mind." or "I am putting HER grandchild in danger." (which is BS) She never sees me or my Father as family. Hell even her own daughter. She doesn't care for any one EXCEPT My little brother. So she makeup some story that Dad feeds other people lies about her which ends up being a lie in its self. I sat in the car listening to her berating my Dad that he should leave my little brother up there and just take my Step-mother and my dog back home. And that my little brother is her ONLY grandchild while I am nothing to her. When she heard me she turns all her hate to me. Calling me a horrible sister and Sinner. Because I am in polyamorous relationship that she tried to break more then once. My Step-mother is so blind that she doesn't even notices that HER mother is ruining her marriage. My Dad has been nothing but helpful and is try to save his own marriage.
So people of Reddit AITA?
Update: Well I have some news. When my stepmother’s mom was at the house I was mostly with my dad and help at the store. One day I couldn’t go because I was doing something. I asked a simple question about her hating me and dad. She lied about it because my half brother was in the living room. I caught her in her lie. Normally I am very meek and I always look down. Which I think I was the asshole for that’s I exploded at her. Became Samuel L. Jackson within seconds. But she stop berating me and dad. There was so much I could take from the both of them.
Umm, I posted last night and I have to say you all were so nice, its kind of almost intimidating. But I read all the messages, I wasn't sure how to reply, but you all made me feel safe to talk about my abuse, so thank you.
If its okay with you all I would really like to get out the stuff that the my step mother, mother and grandmother did to me. I just want to say ahead of time that I might sound a little numb to everything, I have kind of grown up with the mantra "Born in anger, raised in hate" (My mom was only with my dad cause she wanted children and when he refused her anymore she came out as lesbian, and than I was raised in a place where a lot of people hated me), so I don't sometimes get how fucked up stuff is, cause kindness slightly confuses me, I instinctively think its a trap.
But anyway on to my Step Mother training me that I can't be loved.
Lisa was her name, I'm not going to give her a false name, she doesn't deserve it. She was the most narcissistic person I have ever known. She also liked to be a drunk. When she got wasted she liked to domestically abuse my father, he obviously didn't like this so would lock himself in the bedroom.....Thanks Dad, yeah lock her away from the one place she can pass out naturally.
When Dad locked her out she liked to come down stairs for me, it didn't matter what time, (these incidents were from around when I was 14 to 17 and happened pretty much every night) . She would turn on my bedroom lights and haul me out of bed. There was a fancy mirror stand thing between my room and my Step Brothers. She liked to choke me and force my self to face the mirror and say out loud "No man will ever find me attractive, I will never be loved". That was a "Mantra" she had me repeat over and over. What made it worse was that I could physically have stopped her but I was too scared because of what could happen. I hate myself to this day for never stopping it and just complying.
If I didn't react when she came down she would start destroying my belongings, she once ripped up a novel that was hers, cause I was reading it (That actually was amusing at the time, cause I had already finished and was just re-reading it, jokes on you Lisa).
I am female and so she had a huge problem with how much I liked "Manly stuff" read that as video games and figurine collecting, I like nerdy things, they are fun. I got told a lot that I couldn't land a man because obviously I was a weirdo. I couldn't be loved because who... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me (M32) and my wife (38) have been married for almost a year, i have two children, a boy (14) and a girl (12) that have stayed most of the year with their mom, my ex wife, while my wife has a daughter, Roxy (16) my wife has never gotten along with Roxy, they are not close and don’t have a good relationship.
Both me and my wife kept working this year with Roxy staying alone at home most of the day. Roxy is a great kid, i am not close to her but she is sweet, quiet and has been great with both me and my children, i'd say we get along.
Last week she started complaining about a bad stomach ache, at first we thought it could be anxiety (she has a history of mental illness) or something she ate, nothing serious but at the next day she wasn’t any better, my wife said it was probably just a stomach flu and that she would get better and started talking about how Roxy used to be so dramatic when she was a child.
Long story short, she is still sick, doesn’t get better and ends up calling me on the phone while im at work. When she called me she was literally bawling, complaining about her stomach hurting, i obviously called my wife (she didn’t pick up) and went home to check on Roxy as soon as i could. I took her to the ER and turns out its her appendix. My wife finally picks up, i explain to her what happened, she gets hysterical, screaming about how Roxy is her daughter and not mine, that she would have taken her to the hospital later and that i should have waited for her or should have waited until she picked up before doing anything and complaining about how i overstepped with her daughter.
I do see how she might think that i overstepped given the fact that, as i said, im not close to her and still don’t know her very well but at the same time we couldn’t contact her and it was an emergency. She is still mad at me, saying that i'm an asshole and that i disrespected her as a mother and honestly its making me doubt if what i did was right or i should have waited (i was able to contact her like 30 minutes later so we wouldn’t have waited much time) AITA?
My (41M) daughter, “Rose” lives part-time with me and part-time with her mother, “Jean” (42F) as we are separated. Jean is now married to “Dan” (45M) and step-mother to “Meg” (17F) and Billy (14M). Jean & Dan aren’t badly off but I am doing quite a bit better financially.
There has long been tension between Rose and Jean. As a child she blamed Jean for the divorce, she does so less now but I think it was a barrier in their relationship for a while. Meg is very insecure and always comparing herself to Rose, which has been an issue pretty much since the start of Jean and Dan’s relationship. It means that Jean and Dan are very vigilant about Meg feeling less-than, which I do get, but because of this Rose often feels neglected.
They’ve been having a lot of arguments over clothes. Rose is quite a “girly girl” and spends a lot of money on her wardrobe and makeup. Dan and Jean are very opposed to this. (Rose believes that it also bothers Meg and that that’s why they’re trying to control her wardrobe, although I’m not 100% sure on that.)
That’s background info. During lockdown, Rose started a small business online so she had something to do. She worked very hard and, despite starting sixth form recently, has continued to spend time on it. She’s therefore made herself quite a bit of money, especially on top of pocket and birthday money etc.
She saw a pair of shoes that she at once absolutely committed her heart to getting. They are $118, so quite a few £’s, but they are definitely unique and she LOVES them. She sent me a screenshot saying she was going to order them (she tends to when she is excited about a purchase), and she must have done the same with her mother, because Jean and Dan immediately forbade her from buying them. Their reasoning is that Rose doesn’t need them, they’re very expensive, and she should be saving for university. Rose was very upset and it escalated into a nasty argument into which Meg also got involved.
Rose was very upset which naturally tugs at the paternal heartstrings, but I do genuinely completely disagree with them telling her that she can’t spend money that she’s worked for, especially since shoes etc. make her so happy. I expressed this to Jean and she repeated that she’s sixteen and has better things to be saving up for. I agreed so I ordered the shoes myself.
Rose was ecstatic which was what I was going for, but as a result she’s had another fight with Meg. Jean and Dan are spitting at me and say that I’m undermining t... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I (33M) have been married to my wife(31F) for 6 years. 2 years ago we adopted our 2 kids (7F and 5M) from Haiti. They were toddlers when we brought them home so we had never really been through the newborn stage.
Well my wife and I decided to have a biological baby. She is currently 5 months old. Well when she was born my wife decided she needed to make up for all the lost time she was pregnant and in doing so kinda left all the childcare on me.
My wife loves the baby and cuddles with her but the second she starts crying my wife hands her over to me. She knows how to change a diaper but she believes it isn't her job. It was never something we agreed upon like some weird deal where we agreed she would carry the baby for 9 months and I would raise it.
We formula feed, which I prefer. But I can't leave her home alone with the baby.
Basically yesterday I had to take my seven year old to a soccer game, I left my wife with the baby as she was just sleeping in her crib.
My wife called me mid-game and screamed at me about leaving the baby with her. She said that she had pooped and I had to come back and clean it up. I asked if she knew how to change a diaper (She used to be a full-time nanny) and she said yes but it's not her job.
I drove back home, changed the baby and took her back to the soccer game. By the time I cam back there were only about 10 minutes left. One of the other moms told me that my daughter had been switched to center-midfield and scored 3 times in a row and basically won for her team.
I was so proud. When she was done she asked why the baby was here and I said I had to go pick her up. Then she asked if I had seen her while she was center-mid and I told her the truth. She was so upset and wouldn't talk to me. I of course didn't badmouth my wife to her. I offered to go get her ice cream but she wasn't in the mood.
When we got back home I heard her crying to my wife. I obviously don't mind her venting to my wife but my wife was saying things like "Yeah, he shouldn't have done that" and "I'm so sorry he treated you like that" even though I told her on the phone that I was going to miss part of the game if I came and picked the baby up.
My wife and I got in an argument later, I told her that she actually has to care for the baby and she basically called me selfish and lazy.
We go to a marriage counselor (We don't have many problems in our marriage but we had to do it for the adoption and we ended up sticking with it) as well as our o... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi, sorry I dont know how to do this, my first post and stuff.
Basically I ( 19f) didn't grow up with my mother due to a nasty split between my dad and his family and her. My mom moved to California leaving me and my two younger sibblings to stay with my father who had custody over us. When I was 10 we started to talk over the phone, we've been in contact since and some drama has been sorted out. When I was 16 my bother and sister and I temporarily moved to California for a test run to see if my mother could gain custody back.
When we moved back we found out our mother was in a relationship with a man named Jay (Fake name) Jay had 4 kids. 2 that lived with him and 2 that lived in Washington- they were gown up. Jay's kids Jr was 14 and the time ans his daughter Ellie was 16. Ellie and I didn't get along. Jay didn't listen to my mom when she told him we wouldn't get along due to different personalities and likes, so he kept trying to force us to be together and grow " a sisterly bond."
Ellie also didn't act her age, she liked to hang out with her friends sure but she still heavily played with dolls and played pretend. She tried to call me her " Big sister" ( I am 4 months older) but my mom and I quickly put a stop to it. Nothing agaisnt her but we were different people who liked different things and had no common interests or ground she was very much an extrovert and I am an introvert.
After few months Ellie got vocal with her dislike of me. Because we weren't close I hated her (?) She called me names, would push me, spit on me, and when we went to school she had her friend pick on me. I tried to tell my mom and Jay. They didn't believe me. They didn't believe me until they saw it themselves. Jay kept saying
" its a phase they will LOVE one another I know women! In a man."
Despite me and my mom telling him to help put and talk to his daughter. This went on for the whole time I was there. Ellie even stormed into my class one day and slapped me screaming at me infront of the class and the teacher had to call our parents, ans it was embarssing.
Shocker. Jay did NOT believe anyone and said I was the problem and I was mean to her. It took a serious toll on my mental health and I decided despite the drama with my father's family I'd move back with them.
Fast forward I decided to move back to California for college. Ellie had moved to Washington to be with her older sibblings and go to school out there. After I left Ellie admit... keep reading on reddit ➡
This just happened and I really need to vent. My store manager is giving me time to cool down as I’m really shaken up.
I’m a delivery driver for a pizza place and get an order. I put it into google and drive to basically the back alley ghetto of a neighborhood. I’m next to a house with tons of old washing machines and restaurant equipment.
I call the person, as the delivery instructions told me I should, and the mother picks up.
Me: “Hello ma’am, this is OP calling from papa Johns. I think I’m here.”
EM: “I don’t see you, are you sure your here?”
Me, thinking I got just the wrong house: “I’m sorry, here let me drive up the road a bit.”
EM: “I think I see you”
I live in North Carolina, so tree’s are everywhere. I end up driving around for 20min and feeling horrible. The mother is getting aggravated as she realizes the person she saw wasn’t me. I keep telling her I put in the address, but google says I’m right where she is. She asks if I’m in a trailer park, which I wasn’t.
She then puts her 14 year old son on the phone
ES: “Hey, are you retarded or something. Come to....”
Then he read the name of his trailer park, letter by letter, slowly. I put the name into GPS and find that it’s 10min away, damnit google. I tell them and the kid gives the phone back to the mother.
EM: This is unbelievable, I’ve been waiting for an hour now ((20min)).
Me: I’m on my way, I’m so sorry.
I hang up and go to the trailer park. I get there and call her for her number. No answer.... I call again, no answer. I call my store who tells me to take the second order, I had two peoples order’s with me, and to just come back.
I take the second order and on my way back to the store, EM is standing in the middle of the road and shines a flashlight into my eyes. I slam on my breaks and nearly hit her. She calls me a retard several times and screams at me saying,” you never called,” which I did.
I ended up crying as I actually am Autistic and the whole situation triggered a panic/Anxiety attack. The ES takes the food and snorts saying,” I worked in delivery, it isn’t that hard.”
EM: “I think giving stickers at Walmart is more your speed retard, now get the hell off my property.”
I drove back to the store in tears. I’m about to go back to work, venting this out here made me feel better.
Edit: Holy crap! I wasn’t expecting so many comments. Thank you everyone for the support. I’m fine now, it just shook me up.
Going through life with Aspergers, it... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am married to my husband who has a 17 year old daughter from his first marriage. We have been married for 4 years.
To get things out of the way : my husband and I started dating well after he divorced his wife.
So we have her this month because her mother was diagnosed with the big C that is floating around while it was our week with step daughter.
TMI. She started her period last Thursday and it was bad. I am talking 3 days in bed, puking, cramps of hell. I had similar symptoms when I was her age and was diagnosed way to late with endo.
By day 3 I asked her if this was normal for her and she said that she always has very bad periods, but that her doctor told her it's normal because some women are just less pain resistant. I was alarmed and told her it was absolutely not like that and her pain was not normal and she needs to get a second opinion. She asked me if I trusted my doctor and I told her yes. And she asked me if I could take her. I said of course and made an appt.
We got an appt the next morning and because my husband was away on business I texted him to tell him what step daughter wanted.
Next morning we go, I wait in the car. She comes back and breaks. Start crying saying that she felt so relieved that her pain is not normal and that while she gets screanings she got some pills to relieve her bleeding and pain (not contraception).
When we came back she seemed euphoric and was chatting with her mom. When she was done her mom called me back and was furious with me. I am talking... Screaming calling me names etc. She said it was not my place and that the only people that have a day in her health are her and my husband. That is was very creepy from me to talk about her privates when we are at home and she said that she was going to go to her lawyer to only let us get visitation.
I am stunned. My step daughter is old enough to make her own decisions regarding health... She is 17. She is not a baby. And I had no intentions but to help her because I went trough the same in my teens. I was not talking to her about her genitals. I was talking to her about periods... And I think that is pretty normal.
My husband says that he agrees with me. But he is my husband and clearly biased. I would like to know what I did wrong and if I am in the wrong to apologize to my stepdaughters mom.
My mother and her really shitty, horrible person of a husband (that she is no longer with) got together when I was 10. He’s been in and out of jail, is on drugs, etc. not going to go on about that. When they got together it was very clear my mom was the only sane and stable person he had ever been with. He has only one child (that he actually claims and talks to, there are more) and was never a real parent to her. The man has never even had a job.
So when my mother decided to keep him around for the long haul (they only officially got married a few years ago and it’s already soured again) I guess she decided she was going to go above and beyond to make Sarah (for the sake of this post) feel loved and like she was her daughter as well. And listen, I’m not saying this is a bad thing, if I had step children I would make sure they felt just as important as any kids that were biologically mine, but my mother ignored me for most of my life and treated Sarah better than me. Told everyone she was her first born child and her oldest (imagining a ten year old hearing that) made sure to make her extravagant gifts for even little holidays like Valentine’s Day, which she would never do for me.
Sarah never really came around besides every once in a while and on Christmas. There was a couple months one time when she was 16 that she lived with us, and my mom bought her her first car. When I was 16 and even just hinted at the fact that I thought my mom would help me get a car, she went off on me and degraded me while asking why I thought she would actually help me get a car. She wouldn’t even pick me up from my job after school, so I had to walk home at 11pm as a teenager, and eventually had to quit after developing anxiety over grown men trying to stop and talk to me on the street. At night.
When Sarah got pregnant 7-8 years ago, my mom told everyone that her first grandchild was on the way and that she was going to be a grandmother for the first time. This got a rumor started that I was the one having a baby, because to everyone my mother knew I was her oldest child since, you know, that’s what normal people think, and everyone thought I was pregnant and it was very embarrassing. I was actually hurt by her phrasing and said to her, don’t you think that’s sort of taking away from me whenever I decide to have a child, which would be your actual first grandchild? All this freaking out and excitement over what you consider your first grandchild? Since her and Sarah... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife and I have a hers, mine, and ours situation. She came into the marriage with a now 5 year old. I have a 12 year old. We have 1.5 year old twins together (thanks clomid). We have a 2 bedroom house with a finished basement and a sort of nursery room that my wife uses as an office. The girls use the second bedroom and my son has the basement.
There was a house fire two weeks ago in the middle of the night while I was gone helping my parents. My wife immediately collected the girls and the babies diaper bag. She said she yelled "fire" and thought that my son had already run out the door from the basement, and that she felt the highest priority was getting the babies out because she has seen how quickly young children die in fires. Which is almost understandable if she went looking for him outside. However. She went BACK INTO THE HOUSE, went TO THE KITCHEN, packed 5s insulin (T1 diabetic) and ran back out without checking the basement which is right there.
My son is fine now thanks to the firemen, but suffered some lung damage. It will take years for his lungs to fully recover. Sports in high school? Likely gone. He's not on oxygen or anything but he can't do sports for a long while.
My wife and I have been fighting bitterly since then. Divorce isn't an option or it would be on the table (we would both be homeless). She has always complained that my son has never listened to or respected or in the past, while my son always said that he felt like she didn't like him. I asked her why he would respect her, when she truly proved that she would hold everything, even insulin, over his life. I know insulin is expensive, but it's the principle.
I told my son that I was sorry I didn't see the truth before and that he didn't have to respect or listen to my wife anymore, but that financially we all just have to live in the same house and deal with each other so just treat her like any passing stranger. She argued with me saying that I was just giving him a free pass to "make her life hell". Quite frankly, turnabout seems like fair play. AITA?
My wife is not the diabetic. The 5 year old is. "5" refers to the 5 year old.
I(15f)my dad(46) just got re-married very recently, and my step-mother has an (11f) daughter and they both moved in with us a few weeks ago and it's been hell.
The first time I met my step-mother I sorta liked her, but she was a bit strange. She never actually tried to enforce anything until they moved in. After we got all of the moving done she wanted to hold a "Family Meeting" to set the ground rules. (I assume my father had already previously talked with her) She brought up that I shouldn't have complete unrestricted access to the internet and my screen time was far too high. I tried to reason with her, but she wasn't having anything. My dad completely agreed with her and said that teenagers shouldn't be allowed. I had no say in this.
After that, she installed the Disney MyCircle device which would cut off my internet access and could supervise my searches. She took my phone and installed apps that pretty much lock down my phone. I wasn't allowed to play any games during the week regardless of what I had. What's even more annoying is my little step-sister gets the same amount of time I do with the same restrictions AND SHE'S 11. She had Microsoft family or whatever app she used on my laptop so when I went to my moms house she could control me there too.
I've had no issues with staying up late or getting into the "dangers of the internet" that she seems to think I'm so vulnerable to. My dad seems to agree with her. It's not like I'm playing 12 hours a day or anything. I normally play with friends in my free time which now I can't do because it's apparently distracting me.
I decided to move to my mom's house until my dad gets some reason. My step-mom called me an asshole for abanding my dad in such a dire time. AITA?
My mother used to babysit my daughter for free when she was a toddler. Things changed along the way and I've divorced, I have my daughter Sam(9) living with me on alternate weeks. I later married a man last year who has full custody of his daughter Nat(8).
Sam and Nat are still at the bonding stage, they are indifferent to each other majority of the times and I am letting them take their time.
I have taken another job recently and had to have someone look after the girls in my absence. When my mother heard of it she volunteered herself, for free. I thought that it was a great idea since Sam loves her.
About a week after babysitting and I've realized that my mother had obvious favorism. She would give Sam most of her attention and side with her to tease Nat when they play games, also giving Sam extra pocket money when I wasn't looking and none to Nat. I know that my mother has known Sam for much longer and that Nat isn't related to her by blood, but she is really showing them a bad example and may make it more difficult for the girls to get along.
I spoken to my mother privately about this, but she insisted that she was doing well as a babysitter as Nat was neither ignored or abused, she made sure the girl also get fed and looked after. I asked my mother to treat them equally because Nat is my daughter too now and she reminded me that Sam is my real daughter.
After several attempts leading to the same results, I made up my mind when I saw Sam taking things from Nat's room without even bothering to ask. After telling off Sam for misbehaving, I hired a babysitter and asked my mother not to come anymore unless she would change her attitude.
My mother is now saying that I am being stupid for paying money hiring an outsider instead of trusting my own mother free of charge. She also demanded that I have no right to deny her from seeing her granddaughter or forcing her to give anything to a child she doesn't know well. After a while even Sam is pestering me asking to see grandma, and Nat remains indifferent.
I don't want to punish Sam for what my mother did but this is a crucial time for the girls to get along. I am not being pushy because I want them to do it themselves, and my mother would have made Sam a bully with her favorism.
Me (23M) and my brother (17m) have been living with our grandma . My mother abandoned us after after my dad died 10 years ago and remarried 2 years later. Our grandma from my dad's side took care of us. Since then our mum has only reached out to us less than 5 times. She has 2 kids with the guy she got married to.
Our grandma , paid our school fees and basically took the responsibility of a guardian. I of course went to college and finished my education and have a decent paying job. I have my own apartment where I live with my brother.
Last week my mother reached out to us , I don't know how she knew my address ( maybe my grandma told her) ,but she came to my apartment. Well it was good to catch up but she seemed sad like something was in her mind. So she told me that her daughter had been diagnosed with a cervical cancer and they were tight on budget and needed some money to cover her medical fee. I kindly refused. She started begging me to help ,saying that she is my step sister and am obligated to help. I told her that she never gave a damn about us for about 10 years. She got mad and left .She told everyone that I refused to help my own mother. And now her family and even strangers are attacking me for refusing to help my step sister. I know it's not my step sister's fault but I don't know how am obligated to help her. So guys am I the Ah here?
So, my parents got divorced when I was around 6, and I stayed with my mother.
For 10 years, I did not see him, hear from him, not a letter, birthday card, nothing. I knew he had moved halfway across the country. Later, I learned he had moved back partly through those 10 years, and only lived about 10 minutes away from me. Still no contact. Also, I found out later, skipped out on child support until my mother brought him to court.
When I was 16, shortly after I got my drivers license and my first car, I got an invitation to a Christmas party at my grandfathers home - he (my grandfather) had moved back from out west that year and now lived a few towns away. Mind you, I hadn't seen any of that side of the family for 10 years either.
I went, because I did want to see my grandfather, I did want to see my uncles and aunt. I couldn't have cared less to see my father.
I didn't see my father again for 4 more years, for another larger family function. About 2 years later, we both ended up working at the same place (very large business, but we'd run into each other once in a while.) I started talking to him some. I even sent a few Fathers Day cards, and Christmas Cards.
That was about 25 years ago. He still never attempts to get in touch with me. I see him occasionally, typically about once a year (not for Christmas, or another holiday.)
Recently, my step mother called me to tell me that he has cancer. I've spoken to him a few times about it since, but... that night, when she called to tell me, she said... as his only child, I need to step up and help out.
I was sooooo tempted to say it, so... WIBTA to tell her, if she brings it up again, "He, as my father, never took any lick of responsibility for me, treats me as just some acquaintance he might come across once in a while, why the hell should I take any responsibility in helping him out now? If he needs to be driven to treatments, and I have nothing else going on, I'll help out, but the hell if I'm going to go out of my way for someone that barely recognizes I'm family."
(edit for clarification)
Apologies if this is the wrong sub or if this goes against any rules I failed to understand, or if this is jumbled up and confusing ... haha.
Currently I am a minor, and this situation happened December 7th, 2018 in Riverside County, California. Step mom (SM) was a therapist at a corrections facility before getting a kid taken away from her after several abuse allegations and is currently licensed as a marriage and family therapist running her own business. Our abuse case was settled already about a month before this happened (as far as my end goes, I was adopted elsewhere and haven't made contact since) so I don't understand her motive behind catfishing me.
But anyway, it started off with some random account following me and trying to convince and guilt me into sending nudes (even claimed they already had my nudes). I blocked that random account, a little later unblocked and the account username + profile picture changed into SM's name, face, and the username was her company's name. I took a screen recording of it all, its somewhere in my gallery. I looked again today and the account is disabled, but she has another company account that's still active under the same name with a few changed digits.
Could anything be done? Was anything illegal here? It deeply unnerves me that she's still licensed.
So Im a 15 year old ,who has gotten the new yesterday that my step mom is pregnant(Again......).
Allow me to preface this by saying that I have 1 little sister (Age:"4") and 3 younger brothers (Ages:"6,3,1") of which one is my Half-Brother my Step-Mom's last pregnancy. This last one is actually the reason I was planning on telling my mom about this one because it drove me into a semi-depression. I couldn't sleep couldn't eat because all my little brother did was cry, cry and cry some more day in day out. When I complained I was met with the line:"Suck it up he's a baby."
Yesterday my Dad and Step-Mom told me they were expecting. I instantly got flashbacks from the last pregnancy and i panicked. I had told them before I was done caring for and watching kids (Which i had to do for all of my previous siblings were they my Mother's or Step-Mother's) and had told them if they were pregnant again I simply would leave and not return. Which was my plan this time and I have told them this. My Step-mom said:"U will do no such thing. You're gonna keep your trap shut about this pregnancy to your mother."
I am still planning on telling my Mother because there is no other way to be able to stay at her house and not have to go. So reddit WIBTA if I tell my mother about the pregnancy so I don't have to spend time with my hormonal Pregnant Step-Mother?
I have always had friends who never judged or labelled anybody because of their sexuality, and the people at school who did were just seen as assholes and idiots. So as I grew up, before I decided if I liked boys or girls, I just thought I was just myself, not bisexual. My sister always knew and never cared what I liked, so as I grew up I never gave myself a label. Later on when I had sex with a girl, then a few weeks later had sex with a guy, I called my one of my best friends and told her: “Hey, I think I’m gay” and she told me “so what?”, I called one of my other best friends and he told me “yeah, I already knew”. So being gay never really seemed a big deal to me.
When I was 17 I was sat on the couch at my dad’s house with my stepmum while my dad was asleep, we’d all had a few glasses of wine and there was a movie on where a few characters were gay and she asked me “do you have a girlfriend yet?” I said “I’m not really bothered about dating” and she just calmly said “fair enough, but I think your dad would kill you if you were gay”… it was just in passing and she probably never thought of it as significant or ever thought of it again but it stuck with me, for years and years. My great, amazing dad, for some reason, would hate me if I was gay. The guy who once drove halfway across the country to pick me up at 1am when I was drunk and got on the wrong train and passed out without any money, the guy who beat up my bully’s dad at the park, the guy who was my rock – would kill me.
When I was 22, I met the love of my life. Before him my ex had gotten me into some crazy drugs, awful depression and I was losing weight and acting like a junkie. But this guy grounded me and got me back on track, my mental health improved tenfold every year since, I became stronger, more confident, got promoted at work, got raise after raise, and felt amazing – but my dad still never knew everything about me because I didn’t want to break his heart.
It was our 4th anniversary and my mother called me and asked if my dad had called. I said no and told her why. She slammed the phone down and 20 minutes later she text me saying “he knows” and my heart sank. I didn’t get a text or a call from him for a few days. Then when he finally rang, he was happy and the first words he said were “so…when do I get to meet him?”.5 years later, every member of my extended family loves him to pieces, and every last one of them reacted the same way my sister, and my best friends and my dad did. Alre... keep reading on reddit ➡
Husband has two daughters who are 19 and 14,we get along well, although their mother and I certainly have our moments. My expectation going into the relationship was that (my) husband and (his) ex-wife were long separated, and both my Mum and Dad were remarried with all four parents getting along, I thought it would be the same for me, my husband, his ex, and her new husband.
I tried to make an effort over the years, at times it was me encouraging the kids and my husband to be more respectful if the situation called for it. About five years ago she sent a nasty email to me and my husband (copying in one of the kids) about taking the girls away on Fathers day, that what I wanted will never trump her and what she says goes for the girls. It was in response to me asking if anyone had realized the same weekend they were proposing to be away was Fathers day. I replied to all (read by my husband before sending) smoothing things over and reiterating the agreement she and I had to work together.
Ever since then she has been openly hostile to me and rude, even in front of the kids. This culminated in a situation that my husband nor I are entirely sure what happened or what was said, but the girls mother texting my husband about something I had allegedly said to the elder daughter (who said she had been forced into saying what she did when questioned about later) and making threats against me. It's not the first time the eldest child has tried to play both sets of parents off against each other, and my husband made it clear to his daughter (he insists he cannot control her mother, his ex) that if she has an issue with something we have said, she should speak to us about it, not her mother.
As a result of the threats made against me ("I will sort her out if I have to") when we moved shortly after I said I didn't want the ex on our property. Not after years of trying to be civil and supportive and having it constantly thrown back in my face and then finally being threatened. My husband agreed she was not welcome. Shortly after we moved, the eldest daughter invited her mother over without speaking to us first and I said that wasn't ok with me. She held me responsible and told me how deeply it upset her and what an inconvenience it was for for her.
*NB eldest daughter is now an adult in her own right so under the shared care agreement doesn't need to be at our house, she just chose to be there and still does. My husband and I both made it clear that the kids ar... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m (19F), my older sister is (27F), my dad is (49M), and my step mother is (40F). Last night, my dad sent me a text asking for my address (I’ve moved out) to give to a foster parent agency. My stepmother did the same to my older sister since my sister and our dad aren’t on speaking terms.
They told us they wanted to start foster parenting children. They asked us to “be nice” if they got in contact with us. The thing about that is, my sister and I both have terrible relationships with both of them. As I said before, my older sister and father aren’t even on speaking terms and haven’t been for months now.
My stepmother and dad argue all the time, making it an entire family thing and placing blame on anyone but themselves. They have only been married a year, and even got married in secret because the family didn’t like her. My dad has a terrible temper and both are just very immature in how they deal with things. My dad is very controlling of his wife, and was with me and my sister when we lived at home.
I feel it would be wrong to lie to these people and send a child, already struggling, into an unstable environment. I feel that would be the last thing a child in that situation needs. However, we live in an area with very little foster parents, and I know I would be taking a home away from a child by refusing to lie for them. My sister won’t lie either.
I honestly don’t know why they even decided to do this, it’s never been an interest of theirs before that I know of.
WIBTA for telling the truth about them to the foster parent agency and possibly taking a home away from a child in need?
Edit: I feel it is relevant to add my dad actually adopted me and one of my younger sisters. He was married to my mom for a couple years and adopted us in that time, so technically he’s my step dad but I consider him my dad. My older sister was already moved out by that time so we have never lived with him in the same house together.
Edit 2: I’ve been asked about making updates on this post, but as of right now there is nothing new to add, I haven’t been contacted by anyone yet, but when I do I will be either telling the truth about them or not answering their questions if the info I give out can’t be kept confidential (This is solely because it will start a war within my family and I truly believe that even if I say that, that should be enough for a case worker to know it’s a bad situation).
As for everyone coming for me asking why I’m even asking this questio... keep reading on reddit ➡
So am I overreaching or being overly annoyed about this? (I’m not a fan of her at all for a variety of reasons) When FIL married her she told us that all her grandkids call her Mama First Name and told (not asked) us that our DD call her that too. And I can’t stand it, that my kiddo would call her anything close to being mom. We’ve tried bringing it up that we were comfortable with that and FIL flew into a rage. He said we call my step mom Maw so why shouldn’t his wife be called Mama First Name. So we dropped it but it still bugs that crap out of me. My kiddo has stated she knows I’m her only mom so I feel like I should be content with that notion but still..... Advice?
I am 16 and have always wanted to be a game developer and ever since I start game developing when I was about 7 or 8 years old, they always said that I would not be able to be a successful game developer, yet alone a good game developer. For many years I have ignored what they said and am still to this day working on trying to work on my dream. Recently there was an arguement with my father and I about how I am wasting my time and that I should give up. I kept telling him that trying and failing is better than giving up. He just replies by saying that I am an asshole that will not be able to live on the real world. I have been preparing myself for "the real world" by getting myself a bank account amd a job. AITAH for not listining to my father and at least trying to achieve my dreams?
I (17f) have been tolerating my father and step-mother's arguments since I can remember. Every time I stay at their house they argue about non important things like forgetting to buy bread or how to raise their kids, my siblings (10f and 6m). It's not just that they argue, they literally yell at each other and if my siblings or I ever say anything they yell at us too. They do it in the house or in the car, but never in front of anyone else. They say they can't control it and it's just their way of communicating and that all parents argue like that so I should just deal with it because you can't leave any situation you don't like.
To clarify I usually stay at their place from Saturday to Monday every week and I stay at my mother's the rest of the week.
Today I was at my grandma's with them and my siblings and they decided to leave and then the moment we got in the car my step-mother started yelling at my sister for inviting her friend to the pool because she didn't have time when she was the one who proposed that to my sister in the first place. Then my father started yelling at her for yelling at my sister and then they yelled at my brother for asking where his toy was. They kept yelling at each other until we got out of the car (the ride from my grandma's to their place lasts about 20 minutes) and then they entered the house and started yelling at each other again while my siblings and I stayed outside. We could hear them arguing from outside. I comforted my crying siblings like I always do and then I decided I couldn't handle that situation anymore and called my mum so she could pick me up. She couldn't so she asked my father if he could take me there and my step-mother decided to take me after them trying to get me to stay since the next day would be my step-mother's birthday.
Now I'm starting to feel guilty for not staying both because I won't be there for my step-mother's birthday and because I won't be there to comfort my siblings if there's another argument.
My dog was aggressively licking himself. My mother and I both were astonished at how intensely he was going about it, and I took the opportunity to crack a joke: “Sure, when he does it: it’s fine, but when I do it: I’m told to ‘get off the bus.’ and ‘that’s indecent.’”
She laughed the hardest she had laughed at any of my jokes in years, which felt great, and this morning I woke up to overhearing her in our living-room telling my step-father about it.
I just love making people laugh, and smile, but so rarely do I see an effect of that magnitude, and it fills me with joy. Anyways, thanks for your time.