AITA for not treating my step children like they are my own children?

I am 38f and my husband 39M are married for five years now. We have a six year old girl and my husband have three children from his last marriage, 15 M, 13 M, and a 10F.

Now, my husband's ex wife is not that good with me. Although the kids love my husband, and my husband is a good dad. He spends time with his kids take them out and these were one of those things which made me fall in love with them. His kids from his last wife are good and tbh they do respect me alot and it's likewise. The eldest son is very intelligent and a very good child.

Now, my husband's ex wife got married around two years back and since then the kids are adjusting to their new step dad. They aren't adjusting well and very often my husband spends more time with them to get them through. Which is very valid, like i said he is a good father and his children are his priority. However the bummer here is when our daughter happened. I have seen my husband spend time with his children so i thought he will do the same with our daughter as well. Thats not the case. Weekends are reserved for his and his ex wife's kids, time after office is reserved for them and if he takes off he simply calls them home ( I have no isse with that). The thing i have an issue is he don't spend any time with our child. He often says she is young and he will spend time with her once she is old enough but I don't think that's the case. My daughter keeps crying and wanting to play with her step siblings but they don't like her as well. She is just a six year old child, she just wants to play and she get no attention from her father and her step siblings don't want to play with her as well.

Thus, this just made me very bitter towards them (I agree that's not right). I started spending more time with my daughter and Calling her day care friends.

A few days back, i called my daughter's play mates home to have them play with her since she is all alone and she needs someone to play with her other than me. That was also the time my husband showed up with his children. They were all pissed and said I made the house a kindergarden. I told them my child is important too and they can go somewhere else to have fun since my daughter is playing right now and like it's important for them to have fun it's equally important for my daughter to have fun. One of my husband's children called me "step mom witch". Later that day his ex wife called and she called me unfit to be a mother if I can't treat all children equal. My husb

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WIBTA if I stop doing/buying things for my step children?

I (f30) have been with my husband (m41) for 10 years. He had 2 children from his previous relationship who were (f8) and (m10) when I met them and are now 17 & 19. [I believe] since I met them when they were so young the age thing hasn’t ever been an issue. Not one that ever surfaced anyways. They have always treated me different (I guess more like a friend) than their dad, bio mom, and step dad who are all around the same age but they have always respected me as a guardian/parental figure. Like, I’ve grounded them before and they accepted it lol. They accept their 2 brothers their dad and I had together and treat them kindly.

Onto the issue….

My husband never goes the extra mile. I’m ALWAYS the one who buys them their Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, set an alarm in my husbands phone to help remind him to call them every day, buys their toiletries for our house and restocks it with the things I know they like, I text them on their first days of school, last day, etc…if I don’t buy them gifts my husband doesn’t do it (he’ll even say their mom can get them something out of the child support money we pay πŸ™„) NEEDLESS TO SAY, I try to do a lot to show them we care and that I love them. I literally just bought my stepdaughter her prom dress last weekend.

However, they can never remember my birthday (I either get a text a couple days after or nothing at all) and they don’t tell me Happy Mothers Day. My step daughter has a few times but it’s always late in the day like it’s an afterthought. It really hurts my feelings and makes me not want to do anything for them anymore just so they can see who’s really behind it all even though I know that they already know!

So, will I be the asshole if I stop buying for my step kids even though I know it means they won’t get gifts from us at all and because they are just kids and maybe I’m putting too much pressure on them??

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For those of you who are parents with children, who have sworn off ever being a step-parent, what motivates you to think it is OK for someone else to be a step-parent to your child or children, despite the fact that you would not ever want to become one?

Or, why do you think someone should be willing to take on your kids, while you are unwilling to take on someone else’s?

Sorry if this question comes across as snarky, but that is not my intention. It is a real curiosity question.

I say this because bio less step-parents can so often struggle with the lopsidedness of the relationship. If your husband or BF has 2 kids and you have none, for example, it can so easily wind up where the bio less step-parent does the vast majority of the giving or sacrificing. And this β€œlopsidedness” may not be evident in the beginning.

Yet, at the same time, I’ve heard many divorced persons with kids advise others in the same situation to seek out a bio less partner.

I’d imagine that the partner with kids may think it is ideal because this new person would come into their family, childless, and that there wouldn’t be, in theory, as much of a struggle because only their partner would have to blend vs. multiple members?. That’s the theory.

And, I know this can work better for bio less step-dads, with them (along with a lot of help from bio-mom) basically winding up replacing the bio-dad in almost every aspect. But is that the way it should be?

Nonetheless, I’ve also heard a few divorced parents with kids say they would intentionally not seek out a bio less partner because they think that that would be unfair to them. And, the parents with kids also believe they’d have more in common with another partner with kids.

Thoughts?

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AITA for refusing to let my sister and her step children meet my newborn?

My partner (30M) and I (27F) had our daughter in November last year and everyone was overjoyed to meet her, aside from my older sister. When I announced my pregnancy, she got upset and said I ruined her engagement announcement. She was nasty and said she wished I lost the baby, that led me to blocking her. She did later apologize for her actions and I met her two stepsons. They were sweet kids and her husband was just as sweet. Before I had my daughter I asked my family to be healthy before meeting the baby, everyone seemed to understand, including my sister. A few weeks after I had her, my sister came with her step sons to meet her. She told me the youngest one was sick and I told her that I had asked everyone to be healthy. She scoffed and said it wasn't an issue and demanded to be let in, I asked her to come back either alone or when he was healthy and I shut the door. Family has been cold toward me ever since that incident. AITA?

EDIT: Those asking if I knew she was going to announce her engagement, I did not. My mother was hosting a family dinner for the first time since Covid hit, and since I had just found out about my pregnancy, I thought it would be appropriate to announce it since this was the first time I'd seen my family in a while.

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Changing surnames/family names after marriage (including that of step children) is outdated and no one should be asked/expected to do so.

I have found that a lot of men and their families (particularly if they are religious) are very insistent on women and step children changing their last names after marriage. In today's world, I feel this is completely unnecessary and robs people of their established identity. Those who wish to can do it, but it's not something that should be forced/expected. It is by NO MEANS a measure of how much someone loves another person and shouldn't be treated as such.

Edit: It seems like people don't understand the post at all. It's not about changing names after marriage being removed as a practice, it's about changing names after marriage not being forced/expected if the woman/child in question doesn't want to. People losing the plot all over.

Edit 2: A lot of people claiming people have a choice, this is reddit. Not reddit USA or reddit UK. Just because your country allows it doesn't mean there's tens upon tens of them that don't.

Edit 3: It's really shocking that the first world minority comprising of maybe 400 million in a population of 8 billion believe that if this is popular among them it's popular opinion. Well I shouldn't really be surprised tho.

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WIBTA if I took my children on some vacations without step children?

Good evening all,

I have been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half and we are planning on moving in with each other in the next 6 months roughly.

He is divorced with two daughters and I am widowed with two daughters. Our children are all around the same age and get along great.

During our discussions of how to handle things with the house and kids I brought up that I would like to take my children on a vacation, just us three, once a year- nothing set in stone or anything but just an us vacation. My SO was totally cool with that. My idea behind this is that my potential step daughters will go on vacations with their mother separately and us (we do plan on doing family vacations all together with the 4 children) and I feel it would short change my kids. Like they would keep getting the short end of the stick or that nothing fun could happen without their stepsisters.

My brother gave me grief about it (honestly he wouldn’t know anything about this. We were raised in a 2 parent home and he has no children or even dated a woman with children and he is married now) and now I’m thinking maybe I am being insensitive. My biggest responsibility is the well being of my children and my future step children as well, but I can’t short change two while the other two get two of everything while my kids have to sit back and watch.

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AITA for grounding my step-daughter for not making my children breakfast?

This is a repost. The original post is by u/completelyconcerned posted August 4th, 2020

I (51m) married my wife (46f) six years ago. We now have four wonderful boys (5, 3, 2, 4months). I also have a stepdaughter, "Ellie", who is almost 15.

I have always gone running in the mornings, and often my favorite time for running is right when my youngest tends to wake up. My wife usually gets the kids up and gets them ready, but she works a night shift so I don't want her getting up two hours after she goes to bed.

To solve this problem, I decided that Ellie should help out more. She gets a pretty big allowance for doing not that many chores, and I figured giving the kids breakfast wouldn't be too hard for her.

Unfortunately, she has decided that 2am would be a wonderful time to go to bed, and therefore isn't up at 9 when the kids get up. She told me this, and I basically told her tough luck, she should go to bed earlier.

She said that my kids weren't her responsibility, and I should just take care of them myself. I reminded her that they were her siblings, and she should just go to bed earlier. I also reminded her that she receives a generous allowance, and that it could definitely be reduced. She says that she already does a huge amount of chores (she doesn't).

She absolutely refused, calling me a "selfish asshole" because I can't "quit running to take care of my children". The thing is, I wouldn't have to quit running if she would just grow up and help out a little. I grounded her for her use of language, and for being disobedient. Now she's mad, and my wife says I should have been kinder.

So, AITA?

AITA Judgement: A-Hole

EDIT

To the people calling this "parentification" or whatever it is, this isn't that. Parentification is absolutely abuse, but this is just me trying to get her to take some responsibility for her younger siblings.

EDIT #2

I don't dislike Ellie. I tried to bond with her when she was young, but she always insisted that I would never be her father, so I stopped trying. She's my wife's daughter.

UPDATE posted August 23rd, 2020

Yes, I am definitely TA. After reading through the many, many comments and PMs I got telling me I was a horrible person

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Anybody here have step-children who are the same age (or close) as you?

What has been your experience so far?

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RESTAURANTS /BUSINESSES If you have high chairs, changing tables, booster seats or otherwis cater to children... PLEASE HAVE A STEP STOOL IN THE WASHROOMS!!!!!!!

Assisting my toddler with handwashing is hard enough without having to balance her on my knee!!!!

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WIBTA if I exclude my step children from my will

My husband and I have been married for 21 years, it's the second marriage for us both. He has 2 children from the previous marriage and I have 3. He totally stepped up for my kids and has essentially been their father as my ex is a waste of space in the dad department. He's a great dad to his own kids too, but he's not as involved as they live several states away. Recently we've been talking about our wills and what we want to leave our children. It's my opinion that the house we live in should be sold and split three ways for my children as it's the house they grew up in. I have lived in this house for 35 years, 13 of which were before I met my husband. My husband is upset that I don't think his kids should get a split from the house. My reasoning is that as my kids grew up here and have all the memories of this house, his kids have been here maybe 5 times total and have expressed their dislike of our state and have wanted nothing to do with it. When we see them, we go to them, it's just always been that way. I really don't know, so I ask you, would I be the asshole if I excluded my step children from any proceeds from the sale of the house?

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Pope urges parents to never condemn their children for being gay. A step in the right direction!

On the 26th of January 2022, Pope Francis urged parents on that Wednesday to never condemn their children for being gay.

Pope Francis spoke off the cuff in his weekly Wednesday general audience dedicated to the figure St Joseph, father of Jesus. He thought of parents who are and went through "sad" situations in their children's lives. Parents who have to cope with children who are sick, imprisoned or who get killed in car accidents, β€œParents who see that their children have different sexual orientations, how they manage that and accompany their children and not hide behind a condemning attitude.” said the Pope.

Pope Francis has tried to make the catholic church more welcoming to the LGBT community and he has shown people that he does care. β€œIf someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?", this is something the Pope asked in an exchange between him and reporters on his plane back home.

A step in the right direction and hopefully many more like these to come, if you are religious or not... LGBT people benefit from every word of love towards the community, that has been spoken in the world.

#Change #OneStepAtATime #PopeFrancis #LGBT

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I read here that elders are asked to step down sometimes if their children stop attending.My former preacher’s kids don’t.

First I want to say that I really enjoy this place.I have some extra time this week to post.I really appreciate all of the responses to my two other posts here.

I had read that sometimes church leaders such as elders may have to step down or can’t be asked if their adult children no longer attend.

I don’t mean any negativity towards his children people when I say what I’m about to say.My former preacher is still a preacher and does gospel meetings.

He has 3 kids.One of them runs a bar.One of them is gay.I don’t know much about the third one but all of my former church friends.

They like to say oh I ran into so and so’s kids.They’re all smug like none of us go to church anymore.

It’s like good for them!

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AITA for not selling my home to benefit my former step-children?

My step-children’s mother wants me to sell my home so that they can receive 50% of the proceeds. I am refusing. She has told me that I am hurting my late husband’s children and that I am an asshole.

My late husband, David, had 2 children – Thomas and Megan. Their mother, Kelly, had primary custody with David getting the kids every other weekend. Kelly was just a joy – dragging David into court at every opportunity. If David found a dollar on the street, Kelly would drag him into court to get β€œher fair share”. David always took care of his kids – paying not just his child support but also much more.

When David and I decided to build our home we setup what would happen if one of us died before the other. Basically the survivor would get the house, but when the survivor died or sold the home – 50% of the proceeds would go to their designated heirs (for David – his children, for me it was my sister). We were both contributing equally to the new home.

Then in 2018, David decided to change jobs and he was taking 2 weeks off between the end of his old job and the start of his new one. David had almost all of his insurance (including life insurance) through his employer. He was killed in an accident a week before he was to start his new job. David had a will that left his savings (we kept our finances separate) and 401k to his children – but there wasn’t a large amount. There was no life insurance. We did have mortgage insurance, so when David died the house was paid off.

Kelly hated me and did everything she could to make her kids do so as well. So it was no surprise we didn’t have any contact after David passed. I was surprised when Kelly reached out to me a couple of weeks ago. She said that she and the children are struggling financially since she ended up having to close down her business in 2020. She is working now – but at a low-paying call center job. She wants me to sell the house so that half the proceeds would go to the kids and she can use that for their education/medical expenses. According to Kelly, Megan is having medical issues and needs treatment that her insurance does not cover and Kelly cannot afford.

I said no – I was not selling my home. Honestly I could care less what Kelly thinks – she has been a bitch to me since the day I met her. However David’s parents – whose opinion I do respect – also called to say that they believe it is what David would have wanted. I told them I would think about it. I know my husband loved his children m

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Including step children in a marriage proposal?

I am getting ready to propose to my SO and would like to include my future SD (2) somehow. Not sure if I should propose to both of them or have her assist me with the proposal in some fashion.

Any thoughts?

EDIT To everyone saying not to, that's not what I'm asking. I'm searching for creative ways to incorporate SD. This will happen. SO and I have both had previous marriages and have agreed that we don't need a super ooey-gooey proposal or wedding. In fact, we are planning to get married at the courthouse using a Justice of the Peace. We are mature adults (as in pushing 40), not young ones, and we agree that us getting married is more about our bond and having our own family than it is about all the hoopla that comes with a big wedding. So thanks, but no thanks.

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Any step parents who are children of divorce themselves?

I’m a child of divorce and something I didn’t expect was how hard it would be to watch my step children go through what I went through.

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Due to high mortality rates, step-parents, half-siblings, and blended families were quite common in pre-20th century Europe. To what extent were children expected to instantly assimilate into a newly blended family and to what extent was an adjustment period understood as a necessity?

I'm sure it varied by era but keeping era vague because I'm guessing the total body of research on the subject isn't that robust, so I'll take what I can get.

Today, the best practice tends to be to move extremely slowly, centering the needs of your kids, and stepparents might go years or never at all graduate to being referred to as the child's actual parent. In the case of the partner death, parents often wait even longer to marry and new stepparents often take extra care to memorialize the children's lost parent.

But in the past, most blended families would have been created out of some sort of tragedy, and widowed parents tended to remarry much quicker. Was there a social expectation that the kids and the family as a whole would instantly adjust?

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7 yr old step child self harming and harming other children at school

My 7 year old, soon to be step son, continues to exhibit bad behaviors at home and school. I want to preface this by saying that he is a very bright and sweet bou sweet boy that has a lot of love to give, but I don't know what to do anymore. He is on an IEP at school, visits the school psychologist, has private therapy and visits a psychiatrist monthly. He was diagnosed with ADHD and is on Ritalin and Zoloft. He displays a lot of self harming behaviors and threatens to unalive himself. He will smack himself on the face, bang his head on the wall or his desk at school if he is asked to do something he doesn't want to. As someone with ADD, I understand how difficult it can be to transition from one task to another but this seems a little different. Yesterday, he punched a kid in the eye and today poured milk on a classmates shoes and then proceeded to pour milk on the floor. When he was confronted, he stated that he wanted to unalive himself. At home when he is disciplined, he will threaten to unalive himself or will ask us, "Do you not love me anymore?". Or will repeatedly scream that he is sorry. When we do discipline we do not yell and clearly state our expectations and ask that he do better. For a little background, he was around 2 years old when his parents divorced. His mother has Borderline Personality Disorder that went untreated for a very long time. I am unsure what happens at their house or how they handle discipline, but my therapist advised that we should not worry about what happens there and concentrate about what is going on in our household. I do agree with that statement. I know his mother loves him dearly, but a lot of these issues started when she gave birth to his twin sisters a little over 2 years ago. She is a good mom and a lot of people struggle with mental health, so I'm not trying to imply she did something wrong. I'm just trying to give a little insight. My fiance and I are trying our best to help guide him, but it seems that things are progressively getting worse. He's already in therapy and visits a psychologist and psychiatrist and has been tested for Autism but they believe he doesn't have it. He also doesn't have any friends and hasn't had anyone over to play since I've known him. I've suggested reaching out to the school to see which children he gets along with most and inviting them over for a playdate but nothing has come of it. I think having a friend would help him immensely. Has anyone else experienced similar problems?

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Any rights for adult children in QLD when a parent dies and there is a step parent?

I have a father that never paid child support and took a fair bit from the family. He remarried and step mother is 10 or more years younger. I'm assuming when he passes this all goes to the new wife. Do we (his children) have any claim against the estate if the will gives us nothing?

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When there's step children involved, who does a house go to?

Hey guys, hoping for a quick bit of advice so we know how far to take this.

Father remarried at 60. He has two kids, she has two kids (all adults). They've agreed to pay off the mortgage between them (although he's owned/built the house for 20ish years) and split everything to do with their house. Pretty much everything they own is his. He is most likely to pass first, leaving the house/finances to his wife, but when she dies, he wants it split between all 4 kids. Is this how it would legally happen, or would it go to her 2 kids when she passes later? He doesn't believe in getting it formally written up but one of the wife's children is manipulative and sneaky and know would fight keep it all to herself.

Trying to push him to get a solicitor, so if it wouldn't automatically be split between all 4 kids, that might push him.

Thanks!

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My husband is jealous of my kids (his step children)

I met my husband in 2012, I was told he had a child and I had 2. I later found out he had no relationship with the child because the mother wouldn’t allow him to be a dad. Our relationship was on again off again because he was not ready to settle down so I moved on. We started up again 2 years afterwards, we first moved in together, then got married and then bought a house. I pride myself on always making sure I’m a good mother to my kids, I do things with them constantly, I participate in all school activities and I have times where we watch movies together. My husband is a antisocial, extravert and someone that suffers from anxiety, it’s extremely difficult doing any kind of fun activities with him, I always offer but when we go out to eat, we sit and stare on the wall and everywhere else so to me it’s not pleasant, while to him that’s his comfort, he doesn’t want to have to β€œtalk me up” just prefer silence. We had an argument where he expresses that he is jealous of the attention I give my kids. In mind I’m thinking that this is just wrong to say and it’s him being selfish, As stated above he is not one to socialize. So wtf does he want me to do? Spend time in the woods somewhere just looking at the trees?

TSLR; He is often supportive as a husband, but he tends to shift blame frequently and he is not able to have a conversation without being defensive.

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Step children

I have 3 step children, ages are 15, 12, 10. When I got with their mother, she was going thru a divorce with their father after 12 yrs of marriage. Now the relationship had gotten to the point where the house when he moved out, looked like an episode of horders. Only space available was a path to the bedrooms and a path to each of the two couches in the front room. Immediately after we got together and I had seen the living conditions I cleaned the entire house and had multiple loads of trash hauled to the dump. They see their father 3 to 4 times a week. Now it has been 2 years we are married now but my issue is the children. They have been allowed since birth to treat their house as a garbage can. Rotten food in rooms, trash left where ever they want, peeing in the tub instead of the toilet and leaving it all over the tub. And mind you the 15 yr old and 12 yr old are the ones peeing on everything. They dont listen to their mother and she gives up after repeating herself multiple times.i tried the whole yell and get them to listen but not being able to do anything really hinders any progess. I have found out that they have free rein at their dads. He works alot so on the days they are with him, they dont get regulated about anything. Now the 12 yr old who has already got held back once has got multiple D's. The youngest is searching for male attention she is 10 years old and has miltiple boyfriends!! At the parent teacher conference 3 of her teachers tried telling us this behavior is normal, but when asked how many other students are having this problem they respond with none. So obviously isnt that common. But like all issues i have I find it gets tossed to the back burner like it wont be an issue later. I am just at a loss. My parents gave me enough rope to hang myself and i ended up joining the military becasue i had no plans after high-school. I am trying to be a understanding step father but what do you do when your just watching kids being raised to depend on others, and not learning the benefit of doing things themselves. I fear these kids are too far gone and my best option is to just make my wife happy and ignore the issues i see at hand. Any advice is good advice. Thank you

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There's a bug in regards to step children that I don't think the devs are aware of and needs to be fixed

Why can't I marry my step daughter

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Hi everyone, my step daughter is fundraising for two charities that aim to support disadvantaged children

Hi everyone,

My step-daughter is fundraising for two charities. She is going to cut 11 inches of her hair off.

The first is I Can, a charity that helps children who are unable to communicate properly learn and develop their speech.

The second charity is the Little Princess Trust. They use real hair to make wigs for poorly children with hair loss.

Would really appreciate anyone who could have a look at her page and perhaps donate. It would mean the world to her!

Here is her page:

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/eveschopforcharity

Thanks for reading!

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AITA for reaching out to my step children to help pay for thanksgiving

I f47 have been married to my husband m55 for 16 years.

I have no children of my own but have developed a close relationship with my my step children (obviously pseudonymous) Jane 28 and John 25. Including assisting to support them through college.

My husband and I were established middle class professionals until my husband got severe Covid earlier this year.

My husband spent four months in hospital in critical care several weeks of that on a ventilator.

When he got home he had to go through intensive rehabilitation to be able to walk and breathe normally again. He’s only recently been able to return to work.

The long period off work (including time I’ve taken off to care for him) coupled with enormous medical and rehabilitation bills has decimated our savings and left us with a pile of debt.

Now that we’re both back to work we are hoping to pay it off and rebuild our savings.

We host thanksgiving every year for our families and it’s always a huge party.

Unfortunately we just aren’t in a financial position to afford that at the moment.

I asked my husband if we might scale it back to just us and the kids but having almost died he really wants all of his family there and for it to be the same big event it always was.

As Jane and John are successful in their own careers and doing well financially I brought up asking them to help pay for some of the expenses.

My husband was adamant that we not ask them.

I know them very well and knew that Jane in particular would be upset that we would not be honest with her about our financial position.

I reached out to them against my husbands wishes and explained the situation.

They were both happy to know the truth and offered to help before I even asked.

John works in finance and even offered to look over our situation over the holidays and try and help us build a better plan to get back on track.

My husband was furious when I told him. He said it wasn’t my place to meddle in their relationship.

I’ve never seen him this angry in all the time we’ve been married and I’m really starting to think I did the wrong thing.

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WIBTA for telling my friend’s young children to step away from my friend and I’s private conversation with my daughter?

Me (30M)

My friend (33F)

My daughter, Iraida (5F)

My friend’s kids, Anatoly (4M) and Natalia (6F)

Anatoly and Natalia were playing with Iraida after I picked her up from preschool. Iraida has gone through a lot and I wanted to discuss it with her. >!(she had her reproductive organs removed, lots of nasty dermoid cysts)!<

My friend also had full hysterectomy and I sat her down for a chat with Iraida. I already told Iraida what happened. Anatoly and Natalia were listening attentively to our private conversation. I was worried, β€œwhy are they listening to that?” Anatoly tapped my back. β€œMr. Rechkunov, what’s a uterus?” Natalia followed suit and asked if she has one. I told the kids to back away while I was talking with Iraida about this very personal topic. AITA?

Edit: I’m not the best at English, as I come from Russia. Sorry. :/

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