We have grown to the kind of size we only dreamed of in the time it takes to get a bad nights sleep. We've got so many comments and submissions that we can't possibly even read them all, let alone act on them as moderators. We wrote software to do most of the moderation for us but that software isn't allowed to read the Reddit new feed fast enough and submit responses, and the admins haven't given us special access despite asking for it.
We're suffering from success and our Discord was the first casualty. You know as well as I do that if you gather 250k people in one spot someone is going to say something that makes you look bad. That room was golden and the people that run it are awesome. We blocked all bad words with a bot, which should be enough, but apparently if someone can say a bad word with weird unicode icelandic characters and someone can screenshot it you don't get to hang out with your friends anymore. Discord did us dirty and I am not impressed with them destroying our community instead of stepping in with the wrench we may have needed to fix things, especially after we got over 1,000 server boosts. That is pretty unethical.
To add to this, people are co-opting our name on twitter. I won't mention their accounts, but lots of handles with "wsb" and "wallstreetbets" in them are pretending to speak for us. They're saying things that we don't agree with, driving traffic to derivative communities and shitty pixelated merch stores, and generally making it harder for us to define who we are. There's also too much political bullshit in a community that was never ever political. The only way I want to occupy Wall St is in a suit myself or rent-free in the mind of a blown up short.
That is why I'm throwing my support behind the Twitter handle in general. We need a way to PUBLICLY reach out to the staff of the infrastructure that is failing us so the world can see that we aren't doing anything wrong here if they don't respond. We need to be able to respond directly to a reporter that is lying to the world about our clubhouse. We can't be expected to meet any expectations when we aren't given the tools we need.
That's not to say I approve of every message or will even be in the loop for all of them, but it's clear to me we can't do nothing and we need a megaphone.
http://twitter.com/wsbmod aka @wsbmod is the only Twitter handle whose statements are directly from some part of the team.
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I met my partner Madison five years ago. Madison has a daughter from ex Named Ally(17f), and I have a 15 year old son from my previous relationship. They are both with us full time.
I would say since the first week we started dating that Ally never liked me. I’ve tried to bond with her, extending an olive branch, to being able to simply co-exist, but it’s uneasy at best. She tells her mom the reason she dislikes me so much is because her mother moved in with me and moved her away from her dad... they moved 1/2 an away hour with traffic.
Madison is unable to work many jobs. She has a felony on her record (she was mailing high priced bottles of bourbon across state lines at 23) and has a god awful back that lays her up days at a time. With that said I handle the expenses which isn’t a problem. I’m an engineer with a high wage and overtime is limitless if I want it.
Ally makes life difficult when she can. She mocks me to my face, refuses to do chores, breaks into my wine cellar, and lately has been making fun of me with her dad via FB and Twitter. They enjoy calling me a nerd and loser because I play D&D and I guess because I’m basically different. Everyone can see what they say.l about me in there and it’s embarrassing to say the least. Her mother stands up for me and tries to control it, but it doesn’t last.
Ally’s dad isn’t a saint even though she thinks he is. He’s in an out of trouble, can’t hold a steady job (pre-Covid either), and he still lives with his mom. I’m not trying to be harsh on the guy here but at least here it’s anonymous which is better than he gives me via FB.
Recently Ally has been jumping through the hoops of college applications and she and her mother sat down to discuss options and what not. Ally isn’t a great student, but she isn’t terrible either.. she’s not going to get many, if any at all, scholarships/grants. Madison asked me about tuition, and I said I would match Ally’s dad dollar for dollar.
They kind of stared at me for a minute until my son broke the tension with a laugh, and said “well that might cover the gas to drop off!” I asked him to leave the kitchen and he did however my wife was livid and Ally was on the verge of crying.
Ally left the kitchen and my girlfriend said that was out of line and cruel for an adult to say that to someone her age. I shot back with well someone needed to set her straight and you or her father weren’t doing it, and now she will see her dad for what he really is.
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I have two daughters “Leanne” (19F) and “Lucy” (16F). I adore my girls but since I remarried “Rebecca” fairly soon after the divorce, they weren’t impressed – especially since I gained a stepdaughter, “Sophie” (18F). I did my best but they remain closer to their mother to this day, and when the lockdowns first started they wished to stay with her and communicate with me through tech. (Clarification because everyone was asking: I did NOT cheat.)
My ex-wife “Sharon” has been struggling since the pandemic. Money is tight for both her and her boyfriend "Luke", and with them and both the girls there’s not a lot of space. Leanne especially is coping very poorly and Sharon asked if I was willing to have her for a short while, apparently at Leanne’s request- I was surprised by this since she was the one who felt most negatively towards me after the divorce, and we recently had a big fight because she dropped out of university. So I agreed knowing that it would be tough.
But her behaviour hasn’t been acceptable. She’s rude to Rebecca. She frequently takes clothes of Sophie’s- she says she and Lucy share things all the time, but their relationship and attitudes to clothes is different. Sophie’s wardrobe is essentially sacred to her for reasons I don’t have the word count to explain but can in the comments if deemed relevant. Leanne also makes a lot of noise (symptom of her mother’s household), swears a lot, is messy, and very aggressive when she doesn’t get her way or is rebuked for her behaviour, particularly if it’s Rebecca that says something.
Tensions have been rising lately because Sophie was due to start university again today. Leanne and I fought about this as I mentioned, so it was a delicate subject regardless, and with Leanne’s noise disturbance Sophie has found it difficult to concentrate on her prep-work so they’ve been arguing even more.
Sophie bought a new shirt and necklace for her first meeting today – a new outfit for a specific event is Sophie code for “I’m stressed about this”, the idea of an online term is quite daunting. Today, she went to get dressed and found the blouse ripped apart and the necklace destroyed on her bed. She started crying, there was a big fight, Rebecca calmed Sophie down in time for her class and I sent Leanne to her room and told her to stay there until her mother arrives to pick her up. Not just the vandalism, but the fact that she deliberately searched for the items she knew Sophie had chosen to calm herself down for... keep reading on reddit ➡
My son (17) is autistic, and his special interest has always been animals and their behaviour and care. He never liked kids shows and he'd only ever watch animal planet. At four years old he was much better with animals than I was, and even wound up reminding me not to approach random dogs a few times.
So, at age seven after a pretty big milestone, I finally gave in and let him get a cat. A friend had a litter, and he wound up talking me into getting two with more facts about how they do better in pairs. And so, first two members of our family. Over the past ten years his animal collection has grown, and he has a pretty big family in his room.
He pays for them himself, (I technically pay for them, but he spends all his pocket money on them) and before asking if he can get a new one he sits in his room and works out his money to see if he could afford one. Overall, he's a smart kid and I'm really proud of him. He was accepted into an animal college where he's getting all his qualifications to get a job, something people doubted he'd ever do. He's come so far and so I'm happy to indulge him in his special interests, helping with particularly expensive vet bills.
Six years ago, though, I finally got back into dating and I've been married for a little over four years now. My husband has a teenage daughter, and she's relatively sweet. She didn't adjust to her father being in a new relationship very well, but we've gotten along more and more over the years.
She's been pretty interested in my son's pets, and has asked for a few already. The thing is, there is 50/50 custody and so spends every other week with her mum. My sons deal is he does all of the care, and she wouldn't be able to if she spends a week at her mothers (not to mention she wants a hamster and practically refuses research, which is upsetting to my son as hamster neglect is incredibly common).
She's angry because we're being unfair. I explained that we aren't, she needs to be here to look after her pet. She claims we're treating them differently, and my husband thinks we should just buy her one and do the care while she's not here. It's also well known hamsters don't make good pets. You can't do much with them. Not to mention she doesn't have a job and is currently spending all her allowance on herself so she probably wouldn't pay for the hamster.
We have family dogs and family cats, as well as my sons cats and his dog who spend a lot of time with family, so it's not like she never sees pe... keep reading on reddit ➡
First time poster so please bear with me if I make mistakes. My wife asked me to post this here cause it's causing a rift in our family.
I've (35m) been with my wife (38f) for 5 years now and married for 1. She has 2 kids (11f and 8m) from her ex who has 0 involvement since 8m was born and probably never will. I love them so much, they're my babies now and Im in the process of making it legal.
Last year was tough on my older brother and SIL (both 40) because they were both laid off but so were my wife and I. I do, however, have a side hustle that because of the pandemic boomed so we are pretty stable now financially (not rich by any means mind you). They both work odd jobs and we've helped them every now and then with groceries and the occasional rent. They have 3 boys (12m, 12m, 9m)
Because of this, my wife and I decided to host Christmas at our house and invite them, my mother, older sister and her daughter. Since everyone except for us were struggling, I handled the gifts and gave my nephews some stuff like shoes, clothes, some toys etc while my niece got a $100 gift card. I spent anywhere between $100-$150 per kid and got both my children similar stuff. Everyone seemed happy and I was glad to help. Well after they left I gave my kids their other gifts because I didn't want to do it in front of my niece and nephews. I got both my kids nintendo switches (they like different games so it doesn't make sense to only have 1).
Last weekend, my brother dropped his boys over for a sleepover and obviously, they got to enjoy my kids' games. Everything was fine till I got a call Monday morning from my brother who was angry that I was apparently spoiling my kids too much and making his kids feel jealous. He said I should've given the 2nd switch to his kids instead of giving mine one each. He told me that I shouldve considered their financial status before buying such luxuries for "kids that aren't mine". This pissed me off and we got into a screaming match till my wife calmed me down.
This is where I might be the asshole. My mother called me yesterday and asked me what the fight between me and my brother was about and she told me that while my brother was wrong for saying my kids aren't mine, I probably should've considered the fact that they can't afford anything atm (hence why I bought his kids essentials as gifts) and I should've dialed down on the gifts I gave my children or bought his kids something similar too so they won't get jealous.
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I’m a layman when it comes to the world of Wall Street, but my current disposition from the outside looking in includes several criticisms. I know there are plenty more knowledgeable people on the subject around so here are my points of contention:
For these reasons, I view the entire stock market operation as a glorified casino for those with more time and money than sense. A slot machine that potentially puts people’s jobs at risk making the act of frivolous trading arguably unethical in some cases. I realize that an argument can be made for the contrasting positive side to some of the points I’ve mentioned (e.g. The stock market can enable a business to prosper and support families just as well as they could hurt them) but ultimately my view is that the stock market and its effects are more negative than positive.
So please hear me out, if I'm deemed the asshole, I will drop things.
I have 2 step kids with my current husband (7M and 8M). We get them every other weekend. They're great kids but very rowdy and they can get quite messy. I started noticing that when they use the restroom, they don't flush the toilet or wash their hands after. They also don't brush their teeth.
I started gently everyday just a simple hey "Sam" could you please flush the toilet when you're done? Or hey "George" remember to wash your hands!
A few days ago, George threw a fit and said something like "My mom doesn't make me wash my hands!" And I calmly told him that germs were made that way and it could make him really sick. Well my husband overheard me and told me to mind my own business because he doesn't want to cause drama with the ex. Well, somehow the ex got ahold of it anyways and blew up my husband's phone. She started claiming I was "abusing her kids with my demands" and threatening to not let him see his kids. Well now my husband isn't talking to me and blames me for trying to "mother kids that aren't mine". I feel awful and that was never my intention. So AITA for bringing up the issue?
Edit: Oh my gosh I did not expect this to blow up! Thank you so much. Just a few clarifications.
Now, I'm not saying "the Horde and Alliance need to band together", or even that the factions need to be unified or eliminated. In terms of STORY, I actually think they still have purpose, and indeed could benefit from what I'm suggesting.
What I'm suggesting is that, as players, we should no longer be sworn to those banners.
Now, does that mean Humans should suddenly be running around Orgrimmar? Well, maybe not. Maybe those old hatreds still run deep enough that even if you aren't technically fighting on behalf of Stormwind anymore, Orcs might see you and still see you as hostile.
But as Adventurers, we should be free to operate outside of a given faction. Hell, maybe Booty Bay becomes a major hub, where Orcs, Humans, Trolls, Gnomes, and everyone else is free to come together and recruit to raid together.
For practical purposes, you might still have a Faction divide in terms of questing. And you might even maintain the Faction divide for Battlegrounds. Genn Greymane will likely always see the Horde as an enemy, as would Talanji likely always blame the Alliance for killing Rastakhan. So the factions still need to exist in terms of storyline, and accompanying that with PvP feels pretty natural.
But again, we are not "the norm". It's not like we're important enough to actually make decisions, to treating us as "Adventurers" honestly feels like the perfect narrative solution. The main Faction Leaders can still view up in a positive (or negative) light, but understand that we aren't technically associated with their organizations, so it makes sense they wouldn't necessarily consult with us.
You can still have the game exist mostly as it already does, but simply allow players to group cross-faction, without it really affecting narrative. Doing this, simply by referring to us as "Adventurers", as opposed to "Champions of the Horde/Alliance".
The only difference would really be Battle of Daza'alor, and I suppose Trial of the Crusader if you really go back far enough. But you can just acknowledge those events took place earlier, or perhaps disguise players for the duration (having the raid leader's faction determine which "version" you complete).
I have two daughters. One, Michelle, I gave birth to. The other, Daphne, is my step-daughter through marriage whom I adopted and I never really use the term step with her as I’ve raised her for the past 5 years. I love her to pieces and we are very close. Daphne’s mom has never been in her life and I am her first maternal figure. Both girls are now 16.
Before I married my husband, Michelle and I did something just us every other weekend. Most of the time nothing big. Maybe we’d see a movie or go to the park for a picnic. Other times, I’d save up so we could go on a mini getaway. When I got married, I stated including Daphne in these things. Michelle was fine for it, but a couple of years ago asked if we could start doing things just us again. She has no issue with hanging out with Daphne, but I know even though she loves her step-dad and sister, she does miss times when it was just us. So, I said sure. One day a month, I take Michelle to do something. Another, I do something with Daphne. And of course, we have family days together and with my husband scattered throughout. Even with COVID, I try to take separate walks with them or we go for a drive.
Daphne has expressed recently that she feels left out when I do something with just Michelle. She pointed out that a lot of the time, she invites Michelle on our days together. I said yes, but she doesn’t have to do that. Michelle wants time just us, just like sometimes Daphne just wants time with me. Daphne said she’s excluded and it’s not fair.
Now, I am not asking if Daphne is an asshole. She’s a teen girl with a lot of legitimate feelings. However, my husband feels like I should just include Daphne in everything I do with Michelle. I said that’s not fair. He does stuff with just Daphne all the time, and he spends time with Michelle alone. My husband says that it’s different because Michelle’s dad is still in her life. I told him that’s not an excuse for her to not want one on one time with me.
Am I being an asshole?
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I know it sounds bad when summed up that way, but I couldn’t think of a better/more descriptive title, so please hear me out before judging.
My (25F) sister Julia (28F) was overweight growing up while the rest of us (five girls, no brothers) were always petite. No one in our family ever treated her badly for her weight, though my mom did try to help her diet several times throughout our childhood for purely health reasons. She was hospitalized for her eating disorder for the first time when she was 18, and she’s been in and out of treatment facilities since then. She’s been “recovered” several times over the years, but it’s never been permanent.
Pre-pandemic, Julia seemed to be on a recovery kick again. She looked healthy, seemed to be eating normally, and even asked if I wanted some of her old smaller clothes she was giving away (she has some nice stuff from when she was thinner—as I mentioned the rest of us are pretty petite). I was hopeful she could keep it together and felt okay about asking her to be a bridesmaid at that point.
That was the last time I saw her though (Feb. 2020), until I saw her Friday for Christmas. Julia has gained a LOT of weight in that time, probably 20 pounds, which is a lot because she’s short. This is a huge red flag to me because prior relapses have been preceded by weight gain, which seems to trigger another relapse.
So the way I see it, there are two possibilities from here. The first is that she relapses and loses all the weight, in which case she might not even show up for the wedding (she’s missed big family events because of being in residential treatment before), or maybe even worse she’ll continue to gain weight, in which case things like dress fittings could be a nightmare for her body image. In either scenario, I think it makes more sense for her to not be a bridesmaid. That way she can wear whatever she wants, be skinny or fat, show up or not, and it won’t affect the day as a whole.
So I texted her after Christmas to be ask if she was doing okay. Sure enough, she admitted she’d been having body image issues since gaining weight during lockdown. I kindly asked her to step down from being a bridesmaid, explaining that it was for her own good and I was only doing this because I cared about her. She seemed upset but agreed to step down.
Well, now our dad is furious with me, saying Julia is heartbroken. She of course hasn’t brought ANYTHING up to me directly (that’s how she always is). My mom and sisters are all... keep reading on reddit ➡