My M27 fiancèe F25 has an obvious permanent burnscar from an accident that caused her mother (her only parent) to pass away from injury. My fiancèe had a long recovery it's been 7 years. The scar is on her collarbone. it goes down her chest but isn't showing. Unless she's wearing scoop/square tops. She often wears hoodies/jackets to cover up. She puts this cream I don't know what ladies call it but it's supposed to tone skin color or something? I'm not sure but my fiancèe calls it foundation that is one degree brighter than her skin color. I absolutely adore her she's pretty, smart, ambitious and the list goes on. What happened was unfortunate and I'm glad she's at peace with herself and more confident.
My family love her. How can they not. She's a member of the family. My mom makes sure she takes part in every family function and things like shopping and decorating other things. However. My sister made comments about my fiancèe's scar several times. I've called her out on her behavior several times to get her to stop because she was hurting me before my fiancèe with her backhanded and insensitive comments. I told my fiancèe she had everyright to cut my sister out and not deal with her bullshit but she has been forgiving and respectful of my entire family.
Our wedding is in February. My fiancèe went shopping for the wedding dress. This is where the issue started:
My fiancèe showed the wedding dress to my sister. I didn't see it but I was told it was a spaghetti strap dress. My fiancèe likes this stuff. Anyways my sister saw it and went nuts she started criticising her choice and said that she should've gotten a high nick or a jewel wedding dress to cover up the scar. She argued with my fiancèe about it. I went to my family's house and I confronted her. I yelled at her after she told me my fiancee needed to return the dress and get a "proper" one so that guests won't focus on her burnscar and use it as the topic of conversation and gossip. I told her that she's not invited to our wedding. She isn't welcome to my wedding with this entitled attitude of hers and her insensitivity and disrespect. We argued for half an hour then I left.
In exactly an hour. My mom and dad called and berated me saying my sister was crying after I uninvited her and that I had no right to univinte her. She's my sister and was just trying to help out and give an advice and avoid any "unnecessary" drama at the wedding. My mom said my fiancèe can keep the dress but suggested to wea... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit: Thanks for all the nice comments, I've been showing it to her, she's chuffed my most popular post on Reddit was hers. Also she's 10, so this probably has been said before but bamboozled me hence the title.
Hi I am 17f my sister 21 f was always a rebellious child but never got in trouble. Our grandfather left us both funds for College in his inheritance. The only catch was to actually go to college. My sister was the party animal and she got pregnant at 18 , my parents took care of everything , she still live with us with no father in picture.
I wanted to start looking for collleges now to be better prepared but turns i have no money left, I'm literally sobbing while writing this my parents took my entire money and gave it to my sister.
I raised this issue on Christmas and I'm being blamed for ruining Christmas and not loving my niece or my sister. I told them yes i really hate each and everyone of them. I feel like an asshole for that.
My parents have offered 10k in exchange to calm me down but that amount was literally 80k they are now telling me that I'm greedy. Please reddit help me ? Am i really the asshole ? Should i take what they are offering me Right now because according to them this what they have got.
So i (F21) was having dinner with my family. My sister(31) and her fiancé, my 2 brothers (28, 23) and my parents.
Let me give a small back story before i continue. My sister has hated me all my life. I don’t know why but she does. I tried my hardest to have a relationship with her but she never cared for it.
You’d think after we’ve all matured, she’d quit whatever it is she’s on but she’s still the same as she was when we were children. My parents never called her out on how she treated me so she just continued it.
One of her favorite things to do is compare me at a certain age to her when she was that age. For example, “I was smarter at 14 than OP was, i even got better grades”. And that brings me to today. My sister was on her shit again and comparing me and the college courses i’m currently taking vs the ones she took.
She took it to another level and said i wasn’t smart and she could prove i cheated 12 years through school and 2 years in college (???). She asks (this is her exact question) “if you’re so smart what is the noun of a pronoun with an adverb”. Everyone around the table kinda just stares like what? She asks again. I tell her there’s no answer to that as it didn’t make any sense. Her conclusion, i’m an idiot.
So, i decided to ask her a question. I asked her to tell me how does precipitation work in the water cycle. A simple question to me. No answer. She gets red and says i purposely used a “big word” to confuse her and i wasn’t being fair. Here’s where i could be the ass. I mocked what she said “But i thought you were smarter than me”. My brother chimed in and said it was a fair question and she got embarrassed and walked out.
My dad says i owe her an apology and said i should’ve been the “bigger person” as i’ve always been. I told him i’m not going to apologize and she can cry about it Aita?
I (F16) live with my mom and her husband. My mom and dad divorced when i was 2 and she and her husband had another kid, my half sister (14). I visit my dad here and there but not often due to him traveling a lot for work.
Recently i’ve grown into liking anime and other things so i asked my mom if i could rearrange my room. It was super plain and depressing at first so it felt good to add color and lots of decorations (posters, led lights, pictures)
It took nearly 3 weeks but it came out super nice and it overall makes me a lot happier to be in. Last week, my half sister went into my room while i was visiting my dad to celebrate Christmas early and she told her dad she wanted my room because it looked nice to her.
When i came home my mom told me about her wanting my room and i said no. She said it would mean a lot to my half sister and i could take her room and redecorate that one. I said no again and that if she really wanted a room like mine she could decorate her own herself with their help.
My mom said she was just a kid and wouldn’t be able to do all the decorations like i did and it would be simple if i just redecorated the other room. I was angry my mom would even suggest i give up my room i worked hard for and even spent my own money on everything but the paint. Her husband offered to give me money to decorate the other room without spending my money but i still declined.
My mom called me a brat and said i was almost 17 and should grow up, that i wouldn’t be in the room anymore than another 2 years so it wasn’t a big deal to give it up. Her husband called me selfish and said i was crushing his daughter’s feelings and that was the only thing she wanted for Christmas. His words were “OP, how could you crush your little sister’s dreams and be so selfish”.
I get it’s just a room but i still don’t think it’s right that i have to give up something i worked hard for because she went into my room without my permission, something they didn’t even care to acknowledge. My mom has been trying to convince me to give her the room and i said if she takes my room then i’ll remove all the decorations. She has been mad at me for nearly 3 days now i feel like an awful person for letting it get to this extent AITA?
Editing to add: My sister isn’t willing to decorate her room with me. I’ve offered and she said no. She just wants my room for idk what reason. And i refuse to decorate her entire room by myself.
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My husband (40M) and I (38F) together for 10 years and married for 7, we are childfree since he had a vasectomy before we met and I can't have children (MRKH).
My husband has two sisters Emily (41F) and Olivia (34F). My husband is really close to Emily, they have a really good relationship and are very attached to each other, Olivia on the other hand is a very different story. Despite Olivia's efforts, he always kept her at arm's length and he was always cold towards her.
Olivia is really sweet, she always likes to help others so I really didn't understand why he acted like that towards her, I have a really good relationship with Emily and Olivia.
Emily has 3 kids (12F,9M,8F) my husband is extremely close with them, despite him being childfree he absolute loves kids and he is very good with them, Emily's husband passed away 6 years ago and he filled his role, the kids love him and he adores them.
Olivia and her husband (33M) have been trying for a baby for the last few years, they really want children. So 4 days ago Olivia and her husband asked us if they could borrow some money from us to pay for her IVF, I was happy to help, my husband, on the other hand, was absolutely furious.
He started saying things like ''how she had the guts to ask that from him'', how he ''already did more than enough'', how he ''paid and held her hand while they euthanized her baby'', how he ''won't ever forgive himself from doing that to an innocent and that he won't ever forgive her'', how ''none of them deserve to be a parent and how he took precautions because of that''.
At the end of his rant, they were both crying, her husband and I didn't understand anything, they left and he locked himself in the guest bedroom and refused to talk to me, he left the next day for work without talking to me.
I went to speak with Olivia, she explained while crying that she got pregnant from an ONS in 2010. She went to my husband for advice since they were really close, he told her that he would help her to raise the baby, he was totally against her abortion, she didn't have anyone else to talk to her about this (his entire family is really conservative), she pushed and he paid for the abortion and went there with her.
Their relationship was ruined after that, he stopped talking to her and no matter how she tried he never forgave her, she told me that no one else in the family knows about this.
I went to talk to my husband about this and we got into a huge fight, he said that h... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I (18F) run a small business, where I do calligraphy. I make redbubble stickers and do wedding invitations. It's not a large source of income for me, but it is nice to have a few more dollars coming in. I do hope to expand it one day because I put a lot of work into my designs and spend a lot of money on supplies.
My (25 M) brother got married to his (26F) girlfriend before the world went to hell but there is an incident that she still is angry with me for and refuses to speak to me. For her wedding, she asked me if I would do the invitations. I was fine with doing them as a wedding gift, until I realized that she was having a 200+ person wedding and wanted handwritten menus, invitations, and name cards as well as table cards with facts about her and her fiance. Of course, she picked the most expensive stationary and most elaborate designs that she could.
I told her straightforward that I would not be able to finance this, me being a broke 17 year old saving up for college, and that I could do if I were paid, in which I would just give her a regular wedding gift. I told her that I would heavily discount the price to where she would only be paying for supplies. She told me that "we would work out the details" to which I assumed she meant the price/budget for supplies.
Now I finish all the invitations- took me a significant chunk of time, but they are ready to go. I ask my SIL to reimburse me for the costs, and she flips her shit and refuses to pay me, saying that I'm taking advantage of her and that I should be nice to her since the rest of the wedding was extremely expensive and that I was doing this to purposely exclude her from her new family.
Here's where I might be TA. At this point, I had spent a lot of money and time on them, and I realized that there was no way she was going to pay for the menus/table cards. So I threw away all the invitations I had made. It hurt to see my work go down the drain, but I did use the designs I created for them as examples on my etsy site.
By this time it was too late to hire someone to make new invitations so SIL basically had to send emails instead of invitations. She managed to get printed menus for cheap though.
SIL still won't speak with me. Mom is on my side and brother is pretty neutral, he just wants me to apologize to keep the peace. AITA?
TLDR: SIL refuses to pay for wedding invitations so I throw away the ones I made for her
EDIT 1: So some have asked why I couldn’t just give that to her as a gift... keep reading on reddit ➡
My parents are on vacation in our second house, in the mountain. So, my and my sister invited our girlfriend and boyfriend to pass some day together. Me and my gf usually have launch before my sister and bf. We were cooking pasta when my sister went down the stairs and settle in the dining room. I was stirring the sauce, when i felt someone running and jumping happy behind me. Thinkinf that was my gf, i turned my head trying to reach her mounth for a kiss. She immediatly avoid me, kneeling down and screaming: "ouuuuu" Then, i noticed that she was my sister, visibly terrified. My gf was sitting at the table and was looking at me. I felt so akward! TLDR: i tryed to kiss my sister, thinking that she was my gf
(Sorry for my bad english, but I'm italian)
My wife (38F) and my sister (21F) were pregnant and gave birth around the same time. My wife gave birth in late September and my sister gave birth on the 2nd of October.
We live in Florida, and despite my sister giving birth later, when we saw her during the holiday season, she was already back in a bikini and wearing her usual style of bra length tops and ripped skinny jeans and looked flawless. She's an influencer and her followers have begun commenting the hourglass emoji under her content again.
My wife has expressed envy at my sister when we'd go out in public and people would be vocal about how surprised they were that my sister was her son's mother and not a big sister in high school. My wife works out all the time, going on runs every morning before work and going to the gym during the weekend. Recently in therapy she said she can feel me being so uninterested in her since our daughter was born and says she desperately tries to get facials and works out to try to keep my attention.
I felt bad that my wife seemed to be exercising so much but the scale never seemed to budge and she was left agonizing over the fact that she had the beginning of the stereotypically gaunt" runner's face."
So I asked my sister what her secret was to being so fit because I knew she didn't like to work out much because she fears gaining muscle that would make her look unfeminine about as much as someone would fear dying.
We went over to my sister and her husband's home for Christmas and she showed us the contents of her fridge which were mostly fruits and vegetables and didn't have stuff like pasta or bread in it, which I noticed that my wife continuously was eating, along with chocolate covered pretzels she compulsively munches on.
So I offered got the groceries the other day with no junk food. However, a few hours later I come home from a run and I see the unhealthy crap my wife likes back in the pantry and fridge, some of the bread already eaten. My wife herself said that if she could adopt whatever my sister does and see it work, she'd do anything to look like my sister.
So in an attempt to be a problem solver I tossed the new junk ( including stuff for pasta, bread, ice cream) out. When my wife came back inside I was making lunch and she scrunched her nose up at the soup I was making and went to the pantry before I could stop her. She got furious when she saw that I had tossed out her food and I said that she wanted to look like my sister so I was trying to... keep reading on reddit ➡
●I M37 lost my wife of 10 years and it was so devastating for me and my daughter. It's unfortunate but life goes on no matter what happens
My family knows how much I struggle as a single dad and my sister doesn't really get it. She had issues with my late wife in the past but now started "helping" with my daughter. She re-decorated my daughter's room without my consent, she'd insist I let my daughter go spend days at her house but my daughter is comfortable at her home. She then started calling my daughter with another name and I'm still trying to understand her logic behind this. I told her to stop doing those things and to be respectful and supportive and she defended herself saying I'm lashing out of grief.
I recently. started teaching my daughter to do stuff on her own like brush her hair/clean her room/wash her cups/make sandwiches while I take care of bigger stuff. My sister said that what I'm doing is wrong. That I'm giving her more than she can handle. She's just a kid and although I told her I'm teaching my daughter to be more independent she said that I'm clearly doing this for my own benefits and avoiding responsibility.
I got into a fight with her about it. Told her she has zero say in this. And the next day. A CPS Officer came to my house and took a tour around the house My first thought was "maybe he got the wrong house" until he started reading the report to me saying that I'm never home and that I make my daughter do things that aren't her responsibility, neglecting her education (btw she's homeschooled) and that I'm not taking care of basic hygiene and whatnot. I told the officer my story and explained that I'm adapting as a single parent and he proceeded to aske my daughter some questions.
It was clearly a false report. However I was told that I will have a permanent record with CPS. and I was shaken up by this. I told my family about it and my younger sister told me that my sister was the one who called CPS after we had a big argument. I was so mad I confronted her after she hid herself. Called her immature and stupid to pull this crap (she's in her 40s) and that she's no longer my sister. Then cut contact. It's been months and now my dad started bringing her up knowing how uncomfortable I was. He said that my sister feels sorry for what she did and wanted to talk things out on Christmas dinner.But I said no. He and the others insisted saying that I should be the bigger person. the family will be incomplete without me and my daugh... keep reading on reddit ➡
My(28F) sister Amanda(30F) never met her bio-mom. My dad(51M) raised her alone until she was barely 1, my dad and my mom got married in 1992.
Amanda knew that my mom wasn't her bio-mother, she started pressuring my dad for information on her mom when she was around 17, my dad always gave her vague answers and refused to talk about her bio mom, which put a strain on their relationship.
Enters our uncle (49M) and revealed the ''family secret'', apparently, Amy's mom wanted an abortion (she was 19), but my dad and his parents were able to ''bribe'' her, they offered her money if she followed up with the pregnancy, and she accepted, my grandparents sold one of their houses and gave her half of that money to Amy's mom when the pregnancy was viable, and the other half she received when she waived her parental rights over Amy to let my mom adopt her when she was 4.
My uncle wasn't supposed to tell her that, my grandparents were furious. Amy stopped her crusade to met her bio-mom and her relationship with my dad went back to normal, Amy never mentioned her bio-mom again, dad got her into therapy after that.
A month ago, Amy found out that she was pregnant, the pregnancy was an accident, she switched birth controls. The problem being, Amy is about to start her surgical residency and her hours are insane, it is basically impossible to raise a baby while working in that rhythm, so she wanted an abortion, the problem is that Mark(35M) her fiancé (6 years together) wanted her to keep the baby, it caused a big fight.
In a dick move to convince Amy to keep the baby, Mark told dad about this (until that point no one in our family knew about this), dad talked with her and they got into an enormous fight. Amy went got the abortion 10 days ago, Mark ended up breaking up with her, she is obviously really sad.
My dad was acting like a jerk, he was pretending that Amy didn't exist, he didn't want to talk or see her.
So on Christmas day, we were exchanging gifts, when everyone had already finished giving each other gifts dad got up and gave Amy her ''present'', he gave her an envelope in front of everyone and told her to open it.
It was 3 pictures with something written on the back, a name, an address, and a phone number.
Dad told her that he was tired of ''babying'' her, that this is a photo of her bio-mom and her two sons, that was her bio-mom address, and that he contacted her bio-mom and she is willing to speak with Amy, he gave her Amy's number, dad thinks that th... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (26F) sister, who I’ll call Emily moved in with her husband (29M), who I’ll call Roger two years back. Emily and I were never very close, but we were family nonetheless.
Recently, they decided to get their house renovated and because it’s been quite disastrous at their place, they asked if they could move in with me last week, I was a little shocked because we haven’t spoken in a while but I said it would be fine with me.
Emily wanted to have a talk-
She asked if her and Roger could have the place to themselves on Christmas Day and Christmas Eve. I asked where she thinks I can go, her response? “I don’t know, get a motel.” She continued to tell me how I can afford a couple days in a motel and it won’t kill me.
She told me it’s nothing against me, it’s just that they have their own traditions and like to spend the holiday together. They chose to get their house renovated during this time, KNOWING it would interfere with their Christmas traditions.
So, I asked them to leave. I can’t put my life on hold and move out because they want to spend the holiday with each other.
They won’t be homeless, my parents took them in but they called me absolutely infuriated because I refused to let them stay, and wouldn’t let them enjoy the holiday after all the trouble they went through with the renovations.
EDIT: thank you for the awards and support! I keep seeing the “how could you be an asshole” comment, I understand it, but my entire family did turn against me, that sort of thing messes with your head. Thank you nonetheless for all of your help.
I am 18M and my sister is 16F. I am still a senior in high school, so I live at home with my family until I go to college in the fall.
My sister has anorexia, and my family is doing our best to help her overcome it. However, I feel like sometimes the efforts my family goes through to help her negatively affect the rest of us, specially myself.
I am an athlete. I play basketball for my high school, and due to covid, our season is postponed until later in the year. As a result, I am taking this time to build muscle and get bigger in preparation for my final season.
I am 6’2, and about 180lbs at the moment. I have to eat between 3000 and 3200 calories every day in order to gain weight at the most efficient speed. I lift 4 times per week, and play basketball 3-4 times per week as well. I am active enough for this calorie intake to be healthy.
My sister gets really anxious when she sees me eating what is, admittedly, a lot of food. We got in an argument over it this morning because she was uncomfortable watching me eat my giant breakfast.
I basically told her that her ridiculous fear of food is not my problem, and that I am not going to starve myself to make her feel better about her disease. She got even more mad, and brought up how the high-calorie groceries in the refrigerator meant for me to eat scare her away from the refrigerator when she tries to find something to eat. Once again, I told her that’s not my problem, and “if you’re scared of fucking yogurt then I can’t help you.”
She then stormed off to her room, and my mom is pissed at me because my sister now refuses to eat her breakfast.
AITA for being annoyed?
Edit: Okay so the common sentiment is that I was in the right given the situation, but should have been more kind to my sister. I get that. It was 6:30 maybe 6:45 in the morning, I was grumpy, and not in the mood for a civil debate lol. But on top of that, I’ve been growing increasingly frustrated with the number of changes I have to make in my daily life to cater to my sister’s disorder. I feel like my parents are pandering a little too much... but all of that would have to be explained in a separate post.
I’m not exactly sure what can be done differently? Obviously other than refraining from insulting her... which I can probably manage. She always has something to say when she sees me eating. Like, I’ll be in the kitchen eating and she’ll start a fight like this...
Some people have suggested that I eat in my room. Which, if has to happ... keep reading on reddit ➡
Thinking of the third graders I knew on diets. The women starving themselves for their weddings. The sleepovers where classmates compared their bodies. The times my friends chose salads or steamed vegetables over food they wanted. It’s so tragic.
Edit: In the event my sister actually finds this post, I just want to publicly say that she’s the most insightful 17 year old I’ve ever met and I love her endlessly.
I [35F] have two sons [10M and 8M]. My sister [24F] is an animal educator/conservationist, she does shows at schools with animals to teach kids about the environment and conservation.
My sons and I visit her frequently and she sometimes babysits for me since she has no children/works from home currently. She has a lot of animals in her home. Mostly reptiles (I don’t know the specific breeds but things like snakes and lizards). She says all of them are “completely harmless.”
My sons are OBSESSED with them. Every time they go over, they play with some of the animals my sister has. This bothers me, mostly because wild animals are unpredictable and dirty. So I had a conversation with my sister and told her that my sons are not to be around or play with the animals anymore when they visit.
My sister was surprisingly unhappy with this and tried to argue my sons are genuinely interested, the animals are harmless, and she supervises them at all times. I stood my ground and said no, I’m not comfortable and it needs to stop immediately. I’m their mother so what I say goes. So she finally agreed.
The next time we went to visit, my boys wanted to see the animals. My sister apologized to them and said “your mother is not comfortable with you being around the animals.” I was furious! She put the blame on me completely and made me the bad guy. She couldn’t have just said “sorry but you can’t see the animals today” or something like that? She had to pin it on me!
My boys are now extremely upset with me and my husband is taking my sister’s side. He says that if the boys are passionate about the animals then we should allow them to explore it. I disagree, they are still too young and animals like snakes and lizards are unsanitary and unsafe. If they got bitten or pooped on then what? I am trying to protect them!
All of them are making me feel like an asshole, so I need an outside opinion.
I know it sounds bad when summed up that way, but I couldn’t think of a better/more descriptive title, so please hear me out before judging.
My (25F) sister Julia (28F) was overweight growing up while the rest of us (five girls, no brothers) were always petite. No one in our family ever treated her badly for her weight, though my mom did try to help her diet several times throughout our childhood for purely health reasons. She was hospitalized for her eating disorder for the first time when she was 18, and she’s been in and out of treatment facilities since then. She’s been “recovered” several times over the years, but it’s never been permanent.
Pre-pandemic, Julia seemed to be on a recovery kick again. She looked healthy, seemed to be eating normally, and even asked if I wanted some of her old smaller clothes she was giving away (she has some nice stuff from when she was thinner—as I mentioned the rest of us are pretty petite). I was hopeful she could keep it together and felt okay about asking her to be a bridesmaid at that point.
That was the last time I saw her though (Feb. 2020), until I saw her Friday for Christmas. Julia has gained a LOT of weight in that time, probably 20 pounds, which is a lot because she’s short. This is a huge red flag to me because prior relapses have been preceded by weight gain, which seems to trigger another relapse.
So the way I see it, there are two possibilities from here. The first is that she relapses and loses all the weight, in which case she might not even show up for the wedding (she’s missed big family events because of being in residential treatment before), or maybe even worse she’ll continue to gain weight, in which case things like dress fittings could be a nightmare for her body image. In either scenario, I think it makes more sense for her to not be a bridesmaid. That way she can wear whatever she wants, be skinny or fat, show up or not, and it won’t affect the day as a whole.
So I texted her after Christmas to be ask if she was doing okay. Sure enough, she admitted she’d been having body image issues since gaining weight during lockdown. I kindly asked her to step down from being a bridesmaid, explaining that it was for her own good and I was only doing this because I cared about her. She seemed upset but agreed to step down.
Well, now our dad is furious with me, saying Julia is heartbroken. She of course hasn’t brought ANYTHING up to me directly (that’s how she always is). My mom and sisters are all... keep reading on reddit ➡
This morning my neighbors kid knocked on my door. He told me that his he went to school, but didn't know they got shut down again. So, he came back home, but his mom and sister had already left for work and he didn't have a key to their apartment (our landlord has very strict rules about the number of keys).
He said his sister doesn't get home until 2pm and he didn't know what to do. So I tried calling his mom and sister. Neither picked up and he didn't know anyone else to call, so I left them messages about her son/brother being home early.
In the mean time though it was too cold outside for him to wait outside and I was already running late for work. I wasn't comfortable with him alone in my apartment all day, so I asked him if he knew how to start the dryers in the laundry room. He said he did. So I gave him a bunch of quarters to use turn on all the dryers in the laundry room and told him to wait in there. The laundry room doesn't have a heater, but since its so small the dryers really warm up the room. I sometimes get sweaty in there just because it gets so hot, so I knew he would be warm enough. Then I left for work.
When I get home though my neighbor (the kids mom) confronted me. She was really angry that I had left her kid home alone and basically said I was a fucked up person to think it was okay to leave any child alone like that all day in the cold. I told her how I gave him quarters for the dryers to keep warm. She said he couldn't use them because he has some sort of sensitivity to the sound and the dryers are way too loud for even a normal person to handle. I disagree on that part since I've waited around in that room for awhile when it was busy. She said I should have made sure my "little plan" worked and there weren't any problems before I left. Also that I could have gotten him some food (didn't have any food in my apartment) just in case. Lastly she said that a decent person would take care of a child in need and I'm obviously not one.
Edit. I don’t know his age, but he was around 4 1/2 feet tall. I also found out he goes to the middle school that’s a few blocks away.
Growing up everything we got was pre-owned, or handed down. We didn’t mind much since a lot of people in my family had spending problems, and would get rid of things when they got bored. It was how we got gaming consoles and expensive toys. It was also how I got my ps4 for my 18th birthday(I'm 24 now). The only thing I have that’s expensive and bought not pre-owned is my TV, which broke.
I said I wanted a new TV, and would have to wait until my tax return. Then my parents said they’d buy me one on boxing day. I said they didn’t have to, but they weren’t affected by the pandemic like I was. I said okay, and we even picked out the TV I wanted. It was going on a nice sale for boxing day, and they said they’d buy it, and I could come get it on new years. Then we talked about having Christmas on New Years instead on the 25th(we did this a few times before). I was excited, also since the new TV was gonna be almost twice the size(30”-55”).
Well new years came and I went to my parents, and there was no TV. I was confused, but didn’t say anything outright, but said I was excited about the TV. They then told me I wasn't getting a TV because they gave it to my sister. I asked why and they got mad and said they bought it and they could do what they want with it. Well guess what, so can I. I was pissed so I left and took what I got them for Christmas. I was lucky to get a bonus from and bought them over $400 worth of stuff. I took it all and went home.
Which is where I am now. My brother messaged me asking what I did to piss off our parents, and I haven't responded. I’m so pissed off and hurt. I bought what they wanted, and was so excited to see their faces when they opened them. We sat there for an hours choosing the TV, and stuff for my siblings and nieces and nephews. We put a ton of thought into their gifts, and I thought my gift had the same thought, but it didn't. I thought since they gave my gift away like it was nothing, I would do the same. I know it's petty, but I don’t know.
Tdlr is the title.
I find it hilarious that people are telling me to return the stuff, and giving me options on TV's lol. Also some of you are putting my sister in a bad light, and I don't like it.
My sister and I never got along growing up, because she was bipolar. Our parents never got her the help she need, and treated her like crap the whole time. It wasn't until 5 year ago that she spiraled out of control, and was put in a mental health institution. I quit my job, and m... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (f20) have a sister (f17) and two step sisters (f15) and (f13). My mom remarried close to 2 years ago. She’s been persistent with forcing my sister to have a relationship with her husband and his kids and because of that my sister escapes to my house. I live with my boyfriend (m21) in a 2 bedroom apartment. So, my boyfriend and i agreed to let the second room basically turned into my sister’s room.
She’s over almost every other week after fighting with my mom about her forcing relationship between her and the other two girls. Onto today’s events, my mom and her husband wants to get away for a week. My mom asked if i could take in all three girls (they don’t trust the girls home alone due to the house being wrecked and a lot more the last time they left them alone- another story for another day). I said i could take in my sister but not my step sisters because 1, i wasn’t comfortable having them over when i barely met them no more than 2-3 times and 2, it wouldn’t be enough space.
My mom suggested i let them all share the room my sister stays in when she comes over and i said i wasn’t going to force that onto her. She asked if i could just let them sleep on the couch and i said it wouldn’t be right because the couch is small and even the 13 year old wouldn’t fit.
She started getting pissy with me and said she didn’t like my favoritism and how would my step sisters feel if they knew i “didn’t want them around” which is not even close to true. I may be TA here, i told her i didn’t care to have a relationship with them and they’re strangers to me. I said that i don’t hate them but i can’t love them because i do not know them
She said my sister acted the way she did because of the way i behave which also isn’t true. My sister is her own person with her own feelings. I never once told my sister i disliked my step sisters. All i’ve said to her was that it was fine if she didn’t want to be close to them that a relationship isn’t a relationship if it’s forced.
My mom said i was an asshole for forcing them to postpone their vacation and telling her i didn’t love my step sisters. AITA here
Edit: My moms husband has no family (that i’m aware of) outside of his brother and sister. His brother lives 12+ hours away and his sister, an 8 hour drive (that’s how long it took her to travel here for the wedding). Other than that i don’t know of any other family he has. The girls mom passed away when they were pretty young.
Now, why my sister isn’t interested... keep reading on reddit ➡
I proposed to my fiance last week. Her and my sister have always gotten along really well. Last night, my fiancee began getting screenshots from random people of a post my sister had made in this group of over 110,000 people bashing my fiancees ring. We didnt even know these types of groups existed. My fiancee is incredibly upset. I called my sister and told her to take it down. She apologized, but said it was 'too late to take it down' and 'it was all in good fun'. She said the people in these groups just 'do it for laughs' and dont mean any harm by it.
Regardless of the intent, harm was done and now my fiancee (and I) dont want my sister to come to our home for christmas dinner (we live in an area with no COVID cases and lifted restrictions, even so its a small dinner, only 10-now 9-people coming).
My mother is incredibly upset that I uninvited my sister. Even though she thinks what my sister did was wrong, she thinks since my sister apologized, and since 'shes always had a dark sense of humor', we should accept her apology and not 'upset my grandparents' by not having all of their grandchildren there. I think once I explain to them why having my sister there will upset my fiancee, they will understand.
Since everyone is so curious, it’s a 3.5 round solitaire with a pave band. My sister insulted the band, said it looked gaudy, said “no one will ever believe it’s a real diamond”, though she knows it’s a real diamond from our great grandmothers engagement ring-and said my fiancée only likes it because “she has disgusting taste”.
She saw the ring before I proposed and said she loved it.
so my sister is pregnant and because I knit she has asked me to make baby blankets and the like. I agreed to do so as a gift to her and the baby. I'm not charging her for my time or any of the materials I have used. I'm not making anything other than the blanket as I often cook for her and her boyfriend and will be looking after the baby for free. The entitlement started when she messaged me to ask if I would do a photoshoot for her as I did photography as a GCSE and own a camera. I asked if I would get paid as I would have to travel to her and use my time to do the photoshoot and then edit the images and she said no. I would get food or drink as she wasn't going to pay the photographer who she was planning on hiring. I told her no and she said that as her sibling I should do it. She said I should do it even though we don't live in the same city and that she would pay for a taxi. I told her that paying for a taxi is not the same as paying me. She said she would ask my twin and I told to do that then. If enough people want it, I have screenshots of the conversation.
Edit: I keep getting comments saying that it's not entitled and that that's what families are for. Me and my sister are not close. We never have been and she is often extremely rude to me. My gift to her is the blanket which I am knitting for her. We have several other sisters who aren't getting/making anything for her so I think it's unfair to say that families should do stuff like this. I'm also a full time college student with a part time job for the people saying that she's not asking to much.
Edit2: OK thank you all so much for the up votes this blew up way quicker than I thought possible. Thank you for the silver award. I'm 17 and I usually get the bus everywhere and from my city to hers takes 3 hours when there's little to no traffic. I don't run a photography business and I was only planning on charging her £30-£40 for the whole thing. No I don't have to go into college but I still have online lessons almost every day and I have alot of course work. Screenshots are posted on my profile if you are interested.
Edit3: thank you so much for all the awards it means so much. I'm trying to respond to as many people as possible but there's just so many of you. If you want to ask a question please message me as I'll probably get back to you much quicker.
i swear im going crazy with this. i have two cats, Tonks and Dio. Tonks named after the HP character and Dio's name is a little funny; named after digiorno pizza. Just liked Dio and my mom and i thought it was funny. So now my sister has been saying shes gonna start trying for a baby. Im like cool okay congrats (not a big fan of kids myself but good luck to her). Fastforward three months and shes pregnant and starts talking baby names and shit and nice have fun
well her boyfriends friend texts me yesterday saying her bf's family has a tito Dio and would appreciate if i rename or (and i cannot believe this) rehome my cat. friend said he coULD TAKE him. like what the fuck? no you're not taking my cat and no im not renaming him so thats what i tell the friend. and like two hours later my sister calls me and just says something like she cant ever be over at our (mine and moms) house with a cat named after her son. its disrespectful. like i cannot understand how shes functioning rn mentally this is so stupid.
my mom said something like "well we can call him deedee or d hes already 11" thats even more reason for me to not change his name hes fucking 11. hes had this name for a decade???? i know i SHOULD care more about a nephew than a cat but this is like my kid. I dont want him to be confused and scared for the last half of his life. and i know my sister. shed bring her son over and let him fuck with the cats and call it cute and take pictures even if i tell her to stop. idk its so stupid. i didnt even change the cats names because i already told my sister mostly all of this its just she and my mom are really putting pressure on me to just chill. AITA for not renaming/rehoming my cat because my sister likes his name?
edit: holy shit uh forgot how reddit feels abouts cat when i rage posted this after drinking like 4 whiteclaws lmao
just wanted to edit to clarify people upset with my mom, dont be. we've talked since and agree that they're being huge assholes. she loves our pets all the same (she even knitted our cats and dog christmas stockings this year with names)
also dio and tonks AND our dog are all mircochipped and indoor cats. we work at home so if they tried to come and take the cats i dont think our 70 found pit bull would take kindly to that.
I haven't been able to work in the last 2 weeks because I was waiting for my covid results, and because I've been at the house, I've noticed a pattern.
I live in a house with 3 of my siblings, my mom, and my stepdad. We're all independent of each other because we all have different schedules and needs, so we don't eat together. I've come to realize that my youngest sister has greatly taken advantage of that. She wakes up before the rest of us and lays in bed until the next person gets up, which is me. She asks me everyday to make her an egg while I make my breakfast. I make her an egg and toast I make myself some eggs and we eat together pretty much every morning. Then my stepdad wakes up and usually by then I'm already at work, but because I haven't been working I was in my room. I heard her ask him to make her oatmeal. He makes her oatmeal and makes his oatmeal then they eat together every single day roughly an hour after I make her breakfast. Then my stepdad goes to work and my other sister wakes up. The little one asks her for frozen waffles and they eat waffles together every day after she eats her oatmeal. Then my brother gets up at around noon and makes pizza bites or a hot pocket or something like that and she asks him to make some extra for her. He does and they eat their junkie lunch together everyday.
Basically, my youngest sister gets up to 4 breakfasts a day because we don't communicate about who is feeding her, so everyone just does it. She knows our schedules and plans her feeding times around them.
Edit: To everyone thinkng that she's being neglected, abused, not properly cared for, going to get obese, or anything else negative like that- go away don't bother commenting. I've gotten plenty of those already and I'm sick of defending myself to a bunch of strangers. I know what's going on in my house and family better than any random on reddit who has never met any of us and clearly knows nothing about children. Thanks:)
Our genes suck and my mom and aunt have both gotten cancer in their early 40s and my grandma died in her 50s. I (31F) got screened when I was trying to get pregnant and it turned out I was positive. As a result, I've gotten surgery and now can't have any more kids but my risk is lower. My sister is in her 30s and really wants children. She's an amazing aunt but I kept pushing her to get tested and figure out what to do. She and her boyfriend are newly in a relationship and are planning on having kids.
I know it's scary but having your parents sick as a kid was terrifying. My mom passed away a few years ago unrelated to the cancer but I'm sure she would have wanted my sister to get tested. It's been a source of many disagreements but she always changes the subject or ignores me.
Last week she called me crying. It's cancer and advanced since it's not easily detectable. I was distraught as well but when she started saying how could this happen, I mentioned that this shouldn't be a surprise given our family history. She got really silent and asked me what I meant and I unloaded on her. I've seen my mom suffer, my aunt pass away and I'm so fucking sick and terrified of this stupid disease. It's INCREDIBLY unfair that we have it, that our genes suck and I didn't want us to go through it. She is working part time and I'm not sure about her insurance and I'm not sure how we're going to get care. I work as an engineer and have money saved up so I'll help her out but I can't help feeling that she needs to take responsibility for this. She's buried her head in the sand for too long.
I'm terrified of losing her. She started screaming back at me about how cruel I am. She says she doesn't want my help and that I just rub her face on how perfect my life is even though I'm the youngest. It was ugly. She hasn't called me back even though we text almost everyday. My family wants me to apologize, I kind of feel that she needed to hear the truth because she needs to make some tough decisions. I'm not sure, I think seeing how scary this disease is and what this means has made me really over protective and reactive but I feel knowledge is helpful.
I’m a 32 year old single dad with 16 year old. We don’t have good relationship with my family because they’re upset that I decided to take responsibility of my son. I haven’t talked to them in years, however I’ve been talking to my sister occasionally, She’s 42 and has 15 year old daughter.Few weeks ago she told me that she was really struggling financially and couldn’t pay rent. I told her she could stay with me for a bit until she got back on her feet.
So they moved in with us 2weeks ago. She met my son for first time since he was 5, her daughter hasn’t met him before. The daughter went straight to where I told her her bedroom would be and didn’t come out for dinner. She’s been acting like that ever since, I don’t know if it’s usual because my sister isn’t paying any attention to her. My sister has also been acting snobby and I’ve been ignoring it thinking it’d go away. She “discussed” more like lectured me on my parenting styles and how “no offense” but it’s really dangerous to let 16 year old go out past 9 pm and have a boyfriend and give him so much freedom while he’s still a kid. I tried my best to ignore it.
But yesterday my son was going to a sleepover, I was in kitchen and so was my sister. He came in to say bye, kinda jumped on me and hugged me, told me “love you, bye” and left. I think that’s pretty fucking normal, but my sister started looking at me weirdly and asked if he always does that, I asked her what he was asking and she straight up told me that it seemed creepy and perverted to have physical contact with my son. I had it up to my neck at that point and I just snapped. I told her that just because her daughter has shitty relationship with her and refuses to talk to her doesn’t mean that it’s not normal to have close relationship with their child and she’s actually sick and delusional for even thinking about something like. She got offended of course and went upstairs to her room. We briefly argued after few hours and she basically said that “she had good intentions and didn’t mean anything to offend me so much and I should apologize for insulting her and sticking my nose into her and her daughter’s relationship”. We haven’t talked after that and I haven’t apologized to her. So I’d like to hear unbiased opinion on this.
My sister and her children really like my dog, so much so that they always ask me when I'm leaving so they can watch him. I left the city for a few days and they watched him. It was the first time they had him overnight. On the last day, as I was coming home and they were driving to my house to drop him off he shat in the car and all over my sister. There was diarrhea on the windshield and dashboard and steering wheel as well as my sisters chest.
She shows up to my place, I just arrived home, and she was pissed saying im a serious asshole for not "properly potty training" the dog and that I need to buy her a new Gucci sweater (she spent like a 1000 dollars on it) and pay for the car cleaning. I asked her if she fed my dog the dog food I gave her and she said yes, and she was even nice enough to buy him taco bell. WTF. Turns out she gave my dog a a quesarito or some shit. A spicy burrito, no shit my dog shat all over the car. I told my sister she's a fucking dumbass and I'm not paying for the damage, its her fault for feeding the dog the taco bell burrito, and I later found out, they swapped the buritos by mistake and fed her the one that was loaded with hot sauce.
My sister is pissed and she's bitching about it to our parents and otehr family members saying I ruiend her 1000 dollar gucci sweater and her car, and im a selfish brat who wont pay her back. She posted this on facebook too, so I responded back to her post giving the whole story, that they fed my dog a taco bell burrito and its entirely their fault. She deleted the post after people were making fun of her.
I am absolutely sure Im not the asshole but with a dozen family and friends telling me otherwise i want a sanity check and the internets opinion, i sent my family a link so I hope she realizes she's a jackass.