Simply because you have wealth doesn't mean you are a success as a person. You can have a hundred million in cash and still be a complete failure as a human being. For example a fork lift driver who supports his family, treats them with kidness and supports them is more successful to me than a CEO of a bank that earns fifteen million a year but cheats on his wife and beats his kids. Money comes and goes, but once you lose your integrity it's hard to get it back. Integrity is more valuable than money.
I thought of this question after I saw a muscular guy wearing a tank top getting out of an overly loud lifted truck with a sign across the back saying “Lions Not Sheep” at the grocery store. And no he wasn’t wearing a mask lol.
I’ve posted here before about my MIL, and now I’m back with another issue.
My daughter Tess (9F) has gone to church with MIL periodically since she was little. I don’t love that, as I’m not a religious person and my MIL is an aggressive Baptist, but my husband thinks it’s a good bonding activity and so I don’t complain. Plus, it gives us adult time on Sundays.
Well, because of the virus, services have gone online. Tess still goes over to MIL’s place and helps her set up the laptop for them to watch together. She also Zooms into a girls Sunday school group after the service.
Last week, Tess came home chattering about the “ball,” and how MIL is going to take her shopping at a fancy shopping center in our town. I thought she was playing an imagination game, so I just nodded along.
Then, my husband chimed in to remind Tess that “the budget is $50.” I was super confused and asked him what was up.
He gave me kind of a shady look and said that the girls Sunday school class was having a dance this June. I asked him how COVID would affect that, and he didn’t know. My spider senses were tingling so I pulled him aside to the back porch.
Eventually I gathered that he was talking about an annual purity ball for the 10-14 year old girls. He said my SIL had done it in middle school and it was just a fun thing and not a big deal. I started blowing my top, to be honest, and I informed him that “purity” ideals are bad for girls. I thought we were on the same page about those topics, but he thinks it’s just a “fun thing for girls to do and get dressed up.” My husband claims that he wasn’t trying to hide it from me and that he thought I knew, given how popular the purity ball is at their church.
I put my foot down and texted MIL to ask if she’d signed Tess up. She said not yet, and I made clear I wouldn’t allow it. Period. Ever. MIL sent back her usual stuff implying that I’m a hoe who led her son down a bad road and I’m an unfit mother.
AITA for forbidding the “purity ball”? The only reason I could be the asshole is I unilaterally decided against my husband’s input, and I think Tess will be disappointed.
Edit: Wow, I didn't expect to get all the upvotes, awards, and comments. Thank you everyone 😃💕
It’s been a while since I posted this and a lot has happened since then.
Original post here
And by a lot I mean I finally became a dad!! My son is healthy and beautiful, most beautiful baby I’ve ever seen. One of the best things to ever happen to me honestly; despite the drama.
Thank you everyone who was helpful and encouraging in this situation. It felt good to know even with what everyone else was saying, I had a right to say no to my ex’s demands and I’m not the one at fault for what happened.
Several of you had suggested I talk to her about switching it around so that I could ask about getting full custody instead of being cut out if her husband had such a problem with me being around. Was a great idea and I feel pretty stupid for not thinking about it myself.
So here’s what happened, I decided to try again and contact her husband because throughout this whole time he was refusing to speak to me. But I just wanted to see if I could get through to him as a last resort.
He agreed for us to talk and I was shocked to find out he’d actually changed his mind about accepting the baby 2 months ago (before I made the post). Originally, he did have that condition that he’d only take her back and adopt my son if I wasn’t in the picture, but decided he didn’t want to raise another man’s baby.
So she lied to me about him still having this condition and this was just her attempt to try to fix everything even though he was planning on going through with the divorce.
He was pretty mad about what she was doing too so he was kind of on my side about it. Did get a lawyer involved and had another talk with her as well after he spoke to her pretty much saying he’d never take her back no matter what she did at this point.
That got her to see trying to keep me out wasn’t going to do anything. I brought up the full custody thing to see if that was something she wanted and she agreed.
To her there was no point in having my son full time with this whole divorce going on and she doesn’t even have her own place (he moved back into their house with kids and she ended up leaving).
Going through with my attorney, I was able to establish paternity after my son was born so that I’d be legally recognized as his father instead of her STBX.
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