I knew of the "kama sutra" vaguely, but always thought it was some ancient poronographic type book considering how it was mentioned with snickering laughter. But I looked into it a bit and seems its actually incredibly sophisticated for its time.
Have a look at the table of contents:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kama_Sutra#Contents
Includes things things like
- Earning her trust, importance of not rushing things and being gentle, moving towards sexual openness gradually
- Earning his trust, knowing the man and his advances, how a woman can make advances
- Why love life gets dull, examples, familiarity and doubts
- Remarriage, being unlucky, harems, polygamy
- Looking good, feeling good, why and how to be attractive, bewitching, being virile, paying attention, genuineness and artificiality, body art and perforations,
Just compare this to our current culture where any discussion of sexual topics is highly taboo and bad.
It is really interesting how much culture can change over time.
Right so, does anybody else get a flare-up after having sex?!
I have noticed that I feel AWFUL the next morning: I'm aching everywhere, I'm exhausted!
I feel fine right after, just tired and a bit of pain. But as soon as I wake up, it's hell after a night of... adult stuff.
Hello, my beloved Semen Retention Community.
A few things about me, I’m 26-year-old fella from Germany who absolutely fell in love with Semen Retention and life in general. I started this path of retention out of necessity, I lived the avoidance lifestyle which involved drugs, procrastination and the drug of the modern male, porn. I never knew that shit is as harmful as it is, until my life fall apart and I started to open my eyes for the life I was living.
So fast forward to today, I’m now at a point in my life where I see the beauty in attacking all my demons with no intention, no possibility to surrender. One of my biggest demons is vulnerability; true closeness to women, and there is also the thought, if I meet the right person, a partner.
My question goes to experienced SR practitioners who have a direct comparison between the state of serious semen retention and a relationship with a woman with whom one really feels connected and leads a balanced relationship but also releases a few times a week/month. ^(Preferably, the relationship should have been after practicing SR!)
I should also mention all the “benefits” are more then real and it is a practice, that is nourishing like little else. But I really feel the higher, and yes I’m sure celibacy is a way of greatness, and something every man should know of, and practice from time to time. But I’m sure the feminine isn’t there without a reason and at the end of the day, the masculine and the feminine perfectly fit together. God’s creation never fails, at least in my experience.
I (f/24) befriended a guy (m/27) at work. He and I became close and we both had a crush on each other, but after some time I no longer had feelings for him since we seemed great as friends and I didn’t want that to change. We ended up kissing, holding hands because he wanted to, but it never felt right.
One day we hung out (also confirmed as a hangout because the day before we talked about it and he said he understood my feelings), hiked around, and then after he took me to the hotel. I had no knowledge until I asked where we were going since he said we “needed a room” to connect some chords for making music. I asked again and I was confused about going to the hotel room. But I was feeling tensed and stuck going there.
We got into the hotel room and we ended up having sex. I didn’t say yes or no, but I was just frozen and again, tense throughout. Before the intercourse the one thing I asked specifically was if he put on the condom to which he said, “yes I did it’s on now”. But after, he pulled out. A few minutes after I told him why he came out and where the condom was and said “what are you talking about you never said anything about putting the condom on”, and he kept saying he didn’t remember me asking that one question that I asked before which was just minutes before.
I’m learning to say no for future occurrences as I had trouble saying no with this situation. But I felt disgusted in myself, dirty, and violated, and wanted to ask if this could be considered as an assault ? I searched about this and found the term “stealthing” but I’m not too sure if this can be reported.
It’s been about two and a half weeks since this occurred, and we don’t talk anymore but it ended badly with him name calling me, saying that I led him on.
Tl;dr: Guy I met took me to the hotel without my knowledge and said he used protection but lied to me after, it is legal to press charges in California?
Edit: sorry, I’m not too knowledgeable on these things and I don’t know what to do or how to deal with this because this affected me for a bit and I get flashbacks and I feel that what he did was wrong :( thank you
So the other I was talking and joking with a friend about bad hookups. I was telling how this guy was really awkward, and I didn't like the way he touch me and how he kissed me, so I left ten minutes after getting to this guys house. My friends was in awe because he said he always "stick" through bad hookups, because he didn't wanted to disrespect a guy by telling him he had to go or telling him to leave. I obviously told him this wasn't healthy.
So, again for anyone that need to hear it. YOU CAN FINISH A SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WHEN YOU WANT TO, whenever you don't feel safe, you're not liking it or whatever, remember that you are owner of your own body, and you can do with it whatever you feel fit.
During the summer of 2020, I was sexually assaulted. Hard to cope with and I finally came around to being able to say out loud that I was assaulted. There are moments where I still cry whenever I say that I was assaulted.
I was so hurt from my assault, that I felt like I failed, and my need for a baby appeared. I saw it as “If I have another child. I can continue to protect my current child, and make sure that my second child will also be safe,” so the desire become more of a toxic need for me.
I ended up meeting my boyfriend after the assault, and he started off as a distraction. Things progressed into a full blown relationship, and I love him dearly.
At times I find myself withdrawing sexually or I feel discomfort with his touch. He is aware that I have been assaulted and supports me wholeheartedly. On days where I’m overwhelmed, numb, raw, or just hurt, I can’t have sex with him. I reject his advances and just want his company.
I feel like it happens so often where I just want his presence instead of sex. Some days I feel guilty that I can’t do “normal” girlfriend “duties” and other days, I just don’t care.
I was just wondering. Does it actually require like actual s*x?
This is def an odd one I know, but I was wondering if anyone has experimented or researched what kind of frequencies have a positive impact on sex. There are tones to help you sleep, focus and study, be more present and happier, but what about sex? Are there any specific tonal frequencies that would amplify the experience in any way? Tnx, cheers!
Too bad us Redditors cant find out if that's true 😔
It could possibly be the male character accidentally possessing her, or intentionally possessing her, or being asked by the female to possess her.
Hello, we were hoping for some advice. We are a 28F and 32M who come from conservative backgrounds and we didn't date or have any physical relations with the opposite gender before marriage. We talked for a few months, got engaged and then married shortly after. Our marriage has had its ups and downs, the issues we had/have deal with finances and not seeing eye to eye on certain religious aspects. However the biggest issue right now is the lack of intimacy.
I (28F) experience a lot of anxiety, apprehension, and pain whenever we attempt to achieve penetration. It's like I clamp up down there, making penetration next to impossible. The first few months of marriage, we tried a lot and were unsuccessful every time. I chalked it up to being inexperienced and figured over time the issue would resolve itself. However, we became complacent and discouraged and now we barely even try anymore (and don't often have the urge to try). We have tried marriage therapy (more so for the other issues we were having), a few sessions of sex therapy, and I tried dilators which was somewhat successful - I went from hyperventilating when even something the size of a Q-Tip went up to getting up to the 4th dilator (out of a set of 5) halfway up. We feel we didn't get much out of the few sex therapy sessions we had - they were costly and mostly we were given standard advice (set the mood, relax, etc), we were also recommended some products to use (a vibrator and lube), and some exercises.
I also want to note that a contributing factor may be that I was sexually abused in my childhood by trusted male figures in my life.
I don't feel any desire when we attempt to be intimate (even the few times I feel aroused, my anxiety takes over), and my husband says he doesn't either, though he did earlier on in the marriage. He says that he finds it difficult to be aroused when he doesn't expect us to be successful. However, when one or both of us does feel aroused and we engage in foreplay, I tend to get aroused much later than him, so by the time I am ready to even try, he is not so aroused anymore.
Recently, my gynecologist started me on fluoxetine, recommended that my husband see a urologist (and possible take Viagra), and consult fertility clinics as a last resort.
For those who had similar experiences and gotten through them, I was hoping for some feedback and advice. Thank you
tl;dr Married for 3 years, haven't had sexual intercourse, have tried therapy, but now finding it hard to e
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My girlfriend said me that during our sex sessions she feels tickling during penetration and a lot of pleasure . Is it a frequent sensation? None of my previous couples described it. In an sort of concerned because I have a small penis and perhaps she wants to be friendly with me. She feels also this tickling and pleasure so during oral sex and rubbing with my fingers . Thank you in advance!
