Anyways, hi everyone! This is my first post on this sub and I'm just looking for some advice to deal with an on going issue with my brother. Sometimes I don't even like to think of him as a brother. Anyways I'll get into what I'm trying to say. I am a younger teenage girl that needs advice.
So, my brother started like sexually harassing me. I'm pretty sure I'm using the correct words. He likes to act weirdly sexual around me and I'm very uncomfortable with it and he knows because I've had to give him lots of "lectures" about why I am uncomfortable with his behavior. He likes to call me weird names like, "daddy" "baby girl" and likes to make weird noises along with calling me daddy or other names sometimes. If you don't understand what I mean by weird noises I mean like moaning noises/sex noises. I most of the time have to get my mom involved because it's been on going for quite some time. I am a younger teenage girl, so it's not like I can really get into to many legal stuff and what not, but I just want advice as what could help him realize that this behavior really isn't OK!
My brother is younger than me and loves playing video games, (this may be weird that he is younger than me because in most situations almost like this that I have read up on most of the time the brother is older.) so my mom usually takes some game time away for maybe a few hours. Obviously a few hours of game time isn't enough. I just don't think she really realizes how much this affects me and how concerned/uncomfortable this really makes me feel. I'm not concerned for my perverted brother, but I'm concerned for myself. Concerned for what he could do to me as he gets older. Maybe this may not seem "that bad" and I'll be fine but it really creeps me out ESPECIALLY when he feels the need to "touch himself" through his pants/on the outside of his pants in his private area in front of me. I also found out that recently I think he's maybe made me feel a bit traumatized? I don't know, but I've been WAY more cautious and feeling a whole lot more uncomfortable around guys.
That's really weird for me as well because I've NEVER felt that around guys. I've always been perfectly comfortable around guys until he started harassing me like that. Sometimes I'll go and try to ask him something in his room and he'll be doing stuff with a stuffed animal saying, "baby harder!" and he knows damn well I hate that stuff and it makes me really creeped out. Some days he isn't weird like that at all or ma
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The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
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CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
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My dad is of the generation where he blames women who reject what he sees as positive male interaction. "I'm scared to offer a hug to a distraught co-worker in case she takes it the wrong way" "what happens if she reports me for holding the door" "I can't believe a compliment I give in admiration is up to her how she interprets it and I can be made to seem like a predator". Now I'm over 30 and have rebuilt my confidence I decided to set him straight once and for all.
Me: 10 years ago, when I was 21, a male cleaner at my old job liked my long hair. He told me it was pretty.
Dad: Okay, that was a nice thing for him to do.
Me: The cleaner and I didn't share the same mother tongue.
Dad: Oookay
Me: After a week or two of telling me my hair was pretty he started to brush his arm against it as he walked past. I asked him to stop and he said he didn't understand. He then started to twirl the ends of my natural curls around his fingers while he walked past while telling me my hair was beautiful. So I started to pull my hair out of his reach when he walked past.
Dad: Right, so did you tell someone?
Me: Of course, I told my boss who was male, the guy I shared a desk with and a senior female co-worker. The guys basically said 'he's paying you a compliment get over it' and the female co-worker said 'he probably doesn't understand you don't like it, so get over it'. It still made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.
Dad: But how did you get it to stop?
Me: Well, I didn't want to make a scene after all that everyone had said so I hid in the toilet with my laptop to work every day when I knew he'd be cleaning my area. I did this until I got an appointment to cut my hair super short and then straightened it until I left that job four years later.
Dad: But it's been 10 years and you've only just started to grow your hair out again now and leave it curly.
Me: It's taken me this long to regain my confidence and feel like I can stand up for myself and challenge anyone who thinks this behaviour is ok.
Edit: sorry for the formatting: mobile.
For context, I'm a grown male, married. I teach high school history and I sponsor a debate club after school. One of my students who I've known for years decided she was angry because I refused to let her kick someone off the debate team. She quit the team and told the other students and the admins that I had been harassing her and grooming her. She was questioned, and when pressed, the most convincing story she could come up with was a reference to a side hug I gave her in front of everyone at practice one day. Admin, who I have very little faith in, fortunately didn't think much of it and basically told the kid to take a hike after no one could corroborate any of her story.
I feel gross and disgusted. All my students have heard about this incident through the rumor mill and while I know some of the older ones came to my defense, I know for a fact that a lot of the younger ones are taking sides and some of them even believe this girl's crazy story. It's infuriating. I even called the mother to ask what on earth was going on. She said the student had told them about this incident weeks ago. I asked why on earth they waited until now to bring it up???? Oh.... because it wasn't a problem until the student NEEDED it to be a problem.
I took 3 showers yesterday. Three. That's how disgusting I feel.
By the way, I don't want this post to in any way discredit the stories of the thousands of students who are very legitimately harassed. I have personally seen this happen and that is part of the reason why I feel so disgusted to even be associated with that kind of behavior, however untruthful it was.
Edit: I've requested that the mods lock this. While 90% of the responses have been overwhelmingly encouraging, and it sounds like I am not alone here, I have received several very accusatory comments and even some very hateful messages from people.
Some of you are clearly not teachers. Some of you don't know what it's like to have a student come to 1st period with a gash on their face from their adoptive aunt and have them beg you to adopt them so they can get away, only to have you refer it to DFACS and watch as the student is sent to a group home. Some of you don't know what it's like to have students whose parents are both alcoholics. Some of you have definitely never participated in scholastic sports. Some of you have never had a parent look you dead in the eyes and tell you that you know more about their child than they ever will.
I truly appreciate
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Edit again again: Because most people are missing my point: my post was more to ventilate about my parents caring more about the guys than me. Every company and country has its policies about using others personal data for personal gain and unwanted touching so I won't be discussing that topic anymore.
I don't know if "sexual harassment" is the right sentence since English is not my first language. But this has me so frustrated and I can't even say anything about it without people telling to stop being dramatic.
So it all started when a guy in my work just couldn't keep his damn hands to himself. Everytime he saw me he approached me from behind and touched my hips or my waist to scared me up. Granted he did this to other young women but only I seem to be angry about it, maybe because he was young. I told my father that I was gonna put out a complain and he just straight up laughed in front of me, he told me it was just a joke and I was exaggerating things. I put a complaint anyways and he stopped, I felt proud of myself but also hurt by the fact my father cared more about the guy's inconvenience than me.
Then... a couple of days ago I went to buy a new computer to a big known store. The employee there helped find a proper computer since I'm not very close with computers but I know my bits. In the end I decided to not buy anything but he asked me for my number and my full name in case I changed my mind on the computer (I did like half an hour later) I went back home and the next day he wrote me early asking if I liked the computer. I thought it was weird so I didn't answer. Next day I see this guy sent me a friend request ON FACEBOOK. He took my name from when I give it to him (I thought I was giving it to the company not specifically him) and searched me on fucking Facebook, I barely if any use that thing but I thought that was very unprofessional. I made the mistake of telling my mom I was going to present a complain to the store and she look at me in the eye and said "but why? He just found you attractive, he may lose his job" like are you fucking kidding me. Of course I want him to lose his job, what the fuck is he doing contacting female customers like that.
I've never had a very good relationship with my parents but it hurts me so much that all my life has always been about how others needs are more important than mine.
Edit:typos and clarification
Edit 2: thanks to everyone for the support! I read all of your comments and they truly made my d
... keep reading on reddit ➡It's true, not all men. I myself have a loving boyfriend, and several male friends I cherish.
Not all men. But too many men. Too many men who don't take no for an answer. Too many men who view us as lesser, as meat, as fleshlights.
I've been harassed on the street since I was 11. I was told it was my fault for going out alone.
The world is changing, definitely, but it's not changing fast enough, and if I have a daughter, I know the world still won't be a safe place for her.
/rant
I know the front page example currently is actually from a porn photoshoot, but I've seen plenty of real examples of people going up to Buckingham palace guards and similar across Europe, where they know they can't react and probably aren't supposed to move, and behaving sexually near or on them.
It's so gross and it's shared readily and laughed at. It's sexual harassment! One of the most open examples of men getting harassed, in fact, and the popular opinion is that it's funny?! What the hell?
If someone cannot react and you don't expect them to move, it is not funny to behave sexually "at" them.
It happened between the ages of 13 to 16. The kids at the school I went to were completely out of control and undisciplined, and so was bullied a lot. Truth be told, I think these people were so unhinged that they didn't realize the severity of what they were doing.
I've been groped, had someone grab me and rub their body against me whilst they made sexual noises, someone shoved a pen into my anal area (whilst fully clothed) whilst saying 'i bet you like it up there don't you', and on multiple occasions people would pull my underwear down exposing my genitals to everyone.
It took me years to realise that what I experienced could be considered sexual harassment or borderline sexual assault. Now that I realize it, the memories bring me a lot of anxiety.
Landlord has been sexually harassing me. He proposed for me to live in the house for free in exchange for sex and cleaning and cooking, makes inappropriate comments about me. When I ignore him he sends me passive aggressive texts. How do I go about suing him? I am reading on Ontario law right now. If you guys have any information please share with me. I have written proof of him asking me to move in his room. When I refused he tried to subtly threaten me not to talk with other roommates. We share the bathroom and kitchen. I am very angry, this guy lies a lot and act like he is such a nice religious person.
Edit: I reported him to the police today and I will file in small claim courts once I move out on Tuesday. I was also able to talk to my other roommates and let them know what's been going on. Thank you everyone for your advices! I didn’t expect so much support, it truly made me feel better.
I’m a 15 yr old guy and I told my group of “friends” how I was sexually harrased 3 years ago. The women in the group were joking about it and laughing. If I were to laugh about a women being sexually harrased than I would be the dick. It hurt. Am I just being a snowflake. Edit: I told them that I felt uncomfortable with the way they acted and they blamed me. Blocked and I unadded them on everything.
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
https://coventry.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/public-sexual-harassment-during-summer-and-winter-lockdown
The purpose of the study is to investigate the occurrence of public sexual harassment (harassment of a sexual nature that takes place in public by people unknown to the victim - PSH) during winter and summer lockdown, coping mechanisms and the effects these experiences have had on womxn’s mobility (i.e., routes they may take or avoid, attitude towards public transport) in the United Kingdom.
The research is for a MSc Forensic Psychology thesis at Coventry University.
The survey should not take longer than 10 minutes. At the end, you will have the chance to OPT-IN for an interview.
CONTENT WARNING/TRIGGER WARNING: The survey includes questions/content about sexual harassment that could be upsetting to some people. Please proceed at your own discretion and remember: you can withdraw at any point.
Thank you!
