My post was capped because I didn't have a throwaway account but I'd like some advice:
So I'm (23M) getting married to my GF (23F) early next year if all goes to plan. I don't have a lot of family (I'm no contact with my dad for several years now.) She, however, has a huge extended family.
For the most part we get on great. They tend to be very loud and have huge personalities, which is sometimes hard for me to deal with since I've always been on the quiet side. But overall very warm and caring people.
Something weird I've noticed since we got engaged is that my GF's cousins sometimes make jokes about our wedding night. It's weird for them to joke about it since I'm pretty sure her family is aware we've slept together before since we share a bed at holiday gatherings and vacations.
A few nights ago we were discussing wedding plans and thinking about places to go on our honeymoon (if COVID-19 clears up and we can travel by then). My GF and I were brainstorming ideas when she tells m... keep reading on reddit ➡
My family is stacked like pancakes during the quarantine. My parents are still into each other, and I’m grateful. Although I’d pass on seeing the ass pats and octopus entanglements I’ve witnessed. My parents have been taking “full advantage” of the quality/quantity time, blasting music on the reg as if we can’t do the mental calculus about what’s going on behind closed doors.
Last night, I was cooking with mom as we listened to one of my playlists that we share on Spotify as she was telling me how sorry she was that my college life is on hold. We’ve had the mother-daughter talk about sex but mostly abide the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. As she was blathering on about how special our lock-down time is, I jokingly told her that my siblings and I all know how much she and my dad are enjoying quarantine. She blushed, laughed it off, and I thought that was the end…until this morning when I wake up, perplexed and confused, as she detonates my own MY PLAYLIST against me, played at decibel... keep reading on reddit ➡
I know it sounds bad. It is bad.
This happened about three months ago. For context I live with my girlfriend in an apartment with one bedroom.
My sister was visiting from out of town. She said she'd sleep in the couch. I thought that would be that. We ate dinner, chatted, had a good time. When it was time to go to bed, however, i was feeling horny. I turned off the hall light and then opened the door to crawl onto out Queen size bed. I don't see shit. So I crawl in on my side, wait a few minutes, and then it happens.
I turn to my girlfriend. Her back is facing me. I grab her ass and whisper "I'd love to fuck you." those exact words.
Turns out my girlfriend is a good hostess. She had offered to sleep on my couch instead of my sister. I ended up grabbing my sister's ass and telling her id love to fuck her.
My sister turned to me. "Max?" I recognized her voice.
I hoped out of bed. I was mortified. I ran into the living room and, sure enough, there was my girlfriend. I ran bac... keep reading on reddit ➡
Before I get into anything, I am safe, and I am okay and recovering.
Thank you to everyone that commented and reached out to me. Your advice and words of wisdom meant so much to me. Well, everyone but the guy that messaged me to tell me that "guys won't like me" if I tell them why I broke up with my now ex-boyfriend.
I can't go into a lot of details, but the clinic I went to sent me to the hospital, where I had a full work up done, and met with a DV advocate and police officers. The scale of injuries were severe enough that I was granted an immediate order of protection.
This was the last text message I got from him before I changed my number. I have a feeling that many posters were correct, that this was the test to see how far he could go.
All of my big things are in storage at my parent's house, and I've been rotating be... keep reading on reddit ➡
I went to a gyno and he asked me if I started my sexual life and when I said no he just couldn't believe me that I didn't. I was 22 years old. I understand why he asked me that question but I don't understand why he just couldn't believe me and repeated the question. Then a psychologist got annoyed at me that I didn't have any sexual experience and asked me why. Then I went to a psychiatrist and he was too interested if I started my sexual life. Various other people that are not medical professionals asked me about this and were somehow shocked....like they found it weird. Why is this so important from a medical viewpoint and a social one? Why would a psychologist and psychiatrist care about this? I am now almost 25. I have no sexual experience because I'm just not interested, I believe I'm asexual. I'm not a religious person.
You know the ones I'm talking about. It's just too much. It's invasive, unenjoyable and awkward, especially when watching with another person.
My Parents want to watch Game of Thrones with me but I've always declined because the show is so rapey and raunchy.
Speaking of rape, there's so much of it in some of these shows, especially the historical fiction types, and sorry to use this phase (it makes me cringe) but it triggers some people and doesn't make them feel good.
Imagine just wanting to watch a cool medieval fantasy show, a graphic rape scene suddenly comes on and it just brings back all your ptsd. Been there. Done that. NOT. FUN.
Are constant sex scenes really necessary? Look at Lord of the Rings, one of the most popular movies of all time. Lots of lore, no random privates flashing on the screen, good to watch with the family or alone. I wish more would follow this example.
Sex sells. I get it. I really do. The actors are beautiful, and I respect them for doing what they d... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m 26 and a guy. My friends brag about their sexual conquests. I play along, and have had protected sex with girlfriends before. But I always feel this lingering worry that I might have inadvertently knocked her up. And that my life is over. How can so many guys feel nonchalant about having sex, either with a girlfriend, one night stand, or friend with benefits, knowing that one tiny rip in a condom could totally upend your life? I also worry about the woman deciding to make a false “Me Too” allegation after the fact. But that’s a whole separate conversation...
The RA post from the other day about the woman who didn't want to have anal sex with her fiance despite trying it in the past with other partners had WAY too many people proving rape culture still exists. How?
By suggesting that because a woman has done a sex act in the past, she's wrong if she doesn't want to do it again.
By suggesting that a woman is obligated to try something with you just because she's tried it with someone else.
That anal sex "comes standard" and is something anyone has the right to expect.
By largely concluding that she was the asshole for saying no to a sex act.
So, just a reminder: you are never entitled to a sex act with another person. No matter how many times they have done it in the past, who they've done it with, or if you're literally in the middle of sex and they change their mind and want to stop. No matter what. You are absolutely entitled to end a relationship if you're not getting the amount of or kind of sex you want but you are not e... keep reading on reddit ➡
ETA: Hey everyone - thank you for your kind words and messages. I'm in the process of getting checked out. Phone was checked, no installed software, I did have my location shared with him through google maps, which has been turned off. Phone is being kept on airplane mode, friend suggested I not block him, let him text me and leave messages, see what he says. I only kept reddit and a few other apps. I'm safe, and still trying to process. I will get to talk to a counselor tonight. Thank you again <3 I am not getting back together with him, our relationship is over.
I am usually a fan of vanilla sex, my boyfriend isn't. He likes the BDSM side of things. When we first got together 5 years ago, I had barely done anything other than missionary. He is my second relationship, and my third sexual partner. We explored some things, and I found out that I enjoyed bein... keep reading on reddit ➡
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Recently, there has been a massive amount of posts suggesting that sex-workers 'prey' or 'take advantage' of emotionally fragile men and con them for their money.
This rhetoric is insane. It's widely seen in /r/ConsumeProduct and in any set of comments where a post references a web sex worker. I'm a stripper. Every single night I work I'm sexually assaulted (or just plain physically).
I can do NOTHING about it because it's "part of the job".
I have to allow them to sexually assault me "3 times" before I'm allowed to end a dance.
These men walk into the strip club, pay the entry fee, and take out cash from our ATM, hundreds of dollars - and somehow I'm taking advantage of them?
These men who earn a yearly wage that's greater than my entire lineage combined, and are on average 2 decades older than me?
**I'm taking advantage of them? **
Men watch HOURS of free porn, [not knowing whether the porn is obtained consensually](https://fightthenew... keep reading on reddit ➡
She raped them. Say it with me now...
She. RAPED. Them.
Doesn't matter if the victim was a boy or a girl. It doesn't matter if it was a student, a child she babysat, her own children, or anyone else. If they're not adults, and she is an adult, it is rape.
This apparentl... keep reading on reddit ➡
I live in a semi-detached house with four housemates. We’ve never got on particularly well with our neighbours as they seem to be quite isolated and we’re quite a lot younger than them, I’m 21 and they must be in their early 40s.
We moved in last September and at least three nights a week they have what can only be described as the most disturbing intercourse I have ever heard. Their bedroom wall is on the other side of mine so I can hear everything, like absolutely everything. The noises sound animalistic like it’s concerning. I’m all for sex positivity but it lasts for hours.
Last night I ran into the woman as we were both going to the shop at the same time. She complained about the noise we were making in our house!! We have quiet music on sometimes and may move around but there’s 5 of us. It wound me up a bit so I said “I will when you stop the exorcism ritual you have going on next door”. Apparently this offended her a little. The man I assume is her husband knocked on our doo... keep reading on reddit ➡
We've been together for two years now. To be completely fair, we haven't exactly been treating each other very well lately, I've also lost my temper with him at times and we do rile each others up. The whole quarantine thing has been very difficult for both of us. He has to work from home which is very challenging for him and I'm stuck at home with no job so I don't have much of an escape, I do the housework and try to keep up with my hobbies but mostly I just use my free time to sit around and watch shows. He doesn't mind as long as I'm keeping the house clean and doing at least one or two useful activities a day. The one thing he is very particular about though is the sex. He always asks me to wear full makeup in the way that he likes it. This usually takes me at least half an hour to get done. I didn't use to mind at all, I loved making him happy and making myself more attractive for him so we can both have more fun. My mood just hasn't been at all great lately which means I've been... keep reading on reddit ➡
Okay, I just got down watching a Reddit video around child abuse and neglect. A kid literally 15 years old got arrested and charged with distribution of child pronography. You know what he did? Sent a dick pick to a girl. That in my opinion shouldn't be a huge offense they are kids still and kid's do stupid things!
I say give them a Stern talking to about the dangers of sending nudes through the internet. Then talk to there parents about online safety etc. Same with people who are like 19 and screw a chick who says they are 18 but really 16 years old.
There was actually a case a few years ago. About a 19 year old. Who meet a 18 year old online. She turned out to be 14 years old. Now he's a sex offender for 20+ years. Thankfully, I believe that case got dropped after public outreach!
Also in some states a individual can be put on the list for pissing on the side of the road or on a playground. There was actually a case of someone getting on the list because he took a piss at like... keep reading on reddit ➡
This isn't just all the silly fictional drama shows either. I was watching a documentary series about the romanov empire and even THAT had so much unnecessary sex in it. IT DOESN'T MAKE THE SHOW MORE WATCHABLE. IT MAKES IT AWKWARD. Especially if you're trying to watch these things with family members
I'm sure anyone who uses Twitter frequently has already seen the thread. There was a woman who did OnlyFans that said that men who wouldn't date sex workers were insecure. All-over Twitter there is this sentiment that ridicules men that are not comfortable dating sex workers.
I do not want to date a woman that is a sex worker period. I am not sexist for not wanting a woman that has an OnlyFans or does sex work. I'm sure many women would also agree that they would be uncomfortable dating a male sex worker as well. If I am in a relationship, I do not want my partner to be intimate with someone else, and I don't think that's too much to ask for. I also do not feel comfortable with my partner displaying nude for everyone to see online. If that makes me sexist, evil or too demanding, than so be it
If I see another random celebrity make it to the front page for being sexy or interesting I'm gonna barf, man. How could you idolize the attractiveness or interestingness of someone you'll never meet, will never be interested you, or couldn't care less about you? Who gives a shit?
Look at the people who you're friends with and rejoice that they're so fucking cool you actually like them and they actually like you. Appreciate that people who you could actually have real sex with aren't objects, that they have emotions and opinions and fucking hot desires that you could actually be involved with. Enjoy reality for a moment and see that it's peoples' flaws and imperfections and real-life quirks that make them stand out to you, people you actually know or could put some effort in to know.
Fucking Kylie Jenner? Jeff Goldblum? Chris Hemsworth? What about your mate that came and got you when your car broke down in the middle of the night? Or the actual fun and excitement of flirting with... keep reading on reddit ➡
I was adopted at the age of about a year because my mother was unfit to take care of me due to psychological and financial reasons. The family I was adopted into started normal but turned sour quickly when my dad started touching me when I turned 4. This was a slippery slope to a long line of sexual abuse until he finally decided to make money off of it. He let his friends join in, and they would even video tape what they did to me. My mother was emotionally and mentally abusive towards myself and my adoptive brother, whom of which they got a year after they adopted me. AMA.
It’s everywhere: tiktok, Instagram, netflix, mentioned in every rap song. Everywhere there’s next to naked girls showing off their bodies and people eat it up. These people flaunt and gloat to fuel their ego and vanity and often become highly followed for simply having a nice body. This only makes the younger audience want to be like them. That’s why there’s a billion high school girls doing tiktok dances in bikinis or showing how good they are at doggy style or revealing when they lost their virginity. I just wish people praised actual talent more and weren’t so mind controlled by sex. And it doesn’t help that society today always tries to promote “sex positivity”, like sex is THAT important. It isn’t!! Sex is something completely unnecessary to survival, yet people act like it’s the only thing that matters.
Edit: by survival, I mean literal survival. Having kids is necessary to pass your genes on, but it wont affect your lifespan.
Edit 2: When I left this post, it had 12 upvotes, a... keep reading on reddit ➡
Is it just me or is it really freaking weird that so many parents are persistent about their kids and their sex lives. I’m 18 and after being sexually active for 2-3 years, I’ve done a lot of thinking about sex and how parents feel. My mother cried when she thought i was having sex and i didn’t realize how uncomfortable that made me until now. My father too. He always says things like “you know I trust you.” and “abstinence is important” whenever i am at my boyfriends house or sleeping over. My mother isn’t religious at all and my dad is like mediocre religious. I just find it really weird that parents involve themselves so much into the sex lives of their children. In actuality it’s none of their business if i’m having sex and i feel like it never was. Educate me, tell me ab safety and all of that but to cry if i’m active ? or tell me that you trust me implying that you trust i’m not having sex with my boyfriend ? I don’t know, anyone else ever feel this way or feel differently ? It’s... keep reading on reddit ➡
Think about it, everyone’s sex lives would benefit if no one faked pleasure during sex. It is seriously stupid that some people fake an orgasm and then bitch about that person later on when they’re completely oblivious and think they nailed it.
This goes for every relationship, one night stands, marriages and first times. Thinking you can pleasure someone effectively and then finding out you can’t is a huge blow to anyone.
I'm sorry for the lack of better phrasing.
Whenever I have penetrative sex and try to focus on what it is that makes it pleasurable (besides the obvious mental stimulation that my hot bf wants to have sex with me) I just cant put my finger on it.
I don't feel it in my vagina. I feel sth near the entrance that now he's going in or out. I also don't feel when he cums. I still moan because it feels good but I suspect what I'm feeling is mostly how he moves his whole body.
I somehow feel more when he's fingering me inside but I really have to be in the mood for that and even then it doesn't feel like I have one spot where I feel more.
Anyone else? Is this normal? I know it's normal to only orgasm from clitoral stimulation but I hardly feel anything in my vagina?
I was watching some foreign TV shows set in rural areas in Africa and Latin America and was just wondering this
i wish i could delete them from my memory i miss sex with them so much. no one seems to "compare" i have NEVER lusted over someone so much in my life. god dam. what can i do?
r/Askreddit still has some good posts, but it’s gettin annoying how many daily posts repeat the same trend. I guess sex sells, and I don’t mind an interest intimacy post every now and then. But it gets annoying and vapid.
To me sex is the closest thing that exists to a religious experience. It feels to me like you are worshipping your partner. It’s a declaration of the amazing way you feel about them. It’s you saying to them that you like them so much that you want to share the most private and intimate things about yourself and your body with them. There is nowhere to hide physically or emotionally. The parts of ourselves that we keep hidden away from the world at all times are suddenly exposed to our partner, and we are getting to know them better than they would let anyone else know them.
It’s a reminder that we are not alone, and even if the world ended tomorrow, we have ended loneliness.
My fiancé and I have been together for almost 4 years now. Our sex life was pretty good for the first year of our relationship, but started going downhill shortly after that.
We have sex a few times a week, but he doesn’t get me off. At all. He doesn’t even try. There’s generally a minute or two of foreplay IF there even is any, but then he just sticks it in and sex is over when he’s finished.
I’ve talked to him about this so many times and expressed that I feel left out of sex and that my own pleasure isn’t important. He always says he understands and he’ll try harder to make me feel like he cares, but I’m left hanging and frustrated every single time. When he does decide to try (which is about once every 10-15 times we have sex), he waits until he finishes and then just wants me to do the job myself while he kisses me. By then, I feel pressured since he’s finished already and it’s not enjoyable in the slightest.
We had a serious discussion about this a few days ago and I told h... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I love being eaten out but the last few months or so I’ve been so near to cumming and then my boyfriend just stops and we start to have sex instead, when I ask him to finish me off he just says “so you prefer being eaten out to sex” I love sex but I love being eaten out too, maybe even a little more! It’s harder for women to cum from sex but I don’t think he realises this, I do cum when having sex but I cum way more from being eaten out, I’ve tried to make him understand but he doesn’t. I try to tell him, eat me out first and then when I’ve came we can have sex. What should I do? Because I don’t think it’s fair that he ALWYAS gets his big finish but I don’t 😓 But also he doesn’t want sex as much lately, we use to have it quite often and now I’m lucky if I get some once a week, but I don’t know why. Does anyone have any ideas that could help me? Thank you
This will be our third child and the past two times she has spoiled the sex for me. I personally prefer not knowing whether it's a boy or a girl before it's time but my wife is different and finds it important so we made an agreement that she ask if she wants but she mustn't reveal it to me. For our first child I left the room when her gynecologist (whose a friend of mine) told her and the day hadn't even ended before she 'accidentally' let it slip by referring to the baby as 'he' and posting it on social media. She apologized and I let it.
The next child it lasted a month until she finally cracked and bought a bunch of baby cloths for guys (they had "mommy's little charmer", "Dad's little dude", "Baby Brother" etc). She displayed them all in the living room and was taking pictures of them. This really pissed me off. She apologized again and I forgave her but I wasn't going to let it go. So now I've called the gynae and asked her not to tell her the gender of the baby. She understood... keep reading on reddit ➡
Mine (F/🇺🇸) is a Iranian guy (17 years my junior) playing the violin. Naked in his living room. It was beautiful and I was in awe.
I love when people feel good enough to show their true selves. Especially with a stranger. Not many people have that capability. It is beautiful to witness. And beautiful to share with deserving people.
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There’s also an app under the same name which you can keep on your phone. It only takes a few minutes and you could really be helping a vulnerable victim.
I just got this email today and even knowing it seemed phishy, I couldn’t help but panic. The subject line included my username and a password that I have (stupidly) been using on various unimportant websites since I was a teenager. The email was looong and written using those weird characters spam emails often use, but it was fairly well written grammatically.
Essentially, I was told that this person (or human equivalent of decades old pond scum) had managed to gain access to my phone, had recorded me, and unless I paid it $1900 was going to send that recording to all of my contacts on messenger, Facebook, and email. It said I had a certain amount of time to pay up, and that even if I went to the police there was no way the email could be traced. It even went so far as to say there was a specific pixel in the email showing that I had read it.
Thankfully my boyfriend was with me and quick to notice it had to be a scam since I don’t even have Facebook. He was immediately able to fin... keep reading on reddit ➡
Yesterday my husband walked in on my daughter(15) masturbating when be went to put clean washing in her room. Let me just say we aren't a very religious household but he was raised in one and isn't very tolerant because of it.
He left the room immediately and I talked to him and he was furious. I tried to call him down and he did but he ended up searching her room for electronics to check search history and found the was using a sex toy.
He is absolutely furious and was yelling and saying some things I don't agree with and I think he went too far. She's had all her devices confiscated and hasn't spoken to anyone in the house since.
I really feel bad about what happened and that it isn't fair but I don't know what to do. Help appreciated.
EDIT: I worded a sentence badly
In pretty much all of my (29/F) casual sex encounters, I’ve only had one or two guys initiate or suggest the use of a condom the first time we had sex. Everyone else has tried to play it sly by thinking they could just slip inside without a condom, which absolutely FLOORS me!! It’s horrifying because I don’t really know their sexual history (and vice versa) or how many other women they’ve done this to.
I get it - we’re in the moment, things are getting hot and heavy, and condoms suck for a myriad of reasons... but safety first, dudes. I always stop them and say that we have to use one, no exceptions. I’ve had a few say they didn’t have any (!) but I’ve since learned to always keep some in the nightstand or with me. Am I a prude? I refuse to believe that this behavior is normal. Thoughts?
EDIT: Wow! Woke up to this thread blowing up. Thank you to everyone who shared their thoughts and personal experiences. The number of people - men and women - who have undergone something simil... keep reading on reddit ➡
Maybe it's because I'm young, maybe it's because I've not had any sexual experiences yet or maybe it's because I've never been in a serious relationship, but I have got this deep desire to find intimacy and companionship more than sex.
To be clear, I'm definitely not asexual, I do desire sexual acts aswell, it's just that I'm more focused on finding intimacy. I've only just started dating this year but the short bursts of intimacy I've had have been great.
Honestly things like being cuddled on the sofa with someone, or dancing with someone or even just those intense moments like looking into someone's eyes before you kiss them, are what seem the most interesting to me.
Many parents like to dance around the topic of sex or just briefly go over it instead of fully teaching the kid about safe sex. Also just telling them to abstain will not help if they actually do have sex and have not been taught how to have it safely. If a child gets pregnant and was never taught about safe sex, the parent has no right to complain about the pregnancy and should be held responsible.
I have been together with "John" for three years in total and we've had a great run so far. Even from early on I thought he could be the one, so I happily said yes when he asked me to marry him a few months ago, although wedding planning has been put on the back-burner for now by the virus. I thought things were great, but suddenly, I feel like we are at a serious impasse that has made things very tense between us.
With restrictions in our state winding down, we finally hosted a small get-together, which mostly included friends I had from college. I think with all the recent stress we all went a bit out and the booze was flowing freely. At one point we had a party game of sorts where the topic became kind of sexual. I don't want to get too explicit, but basically it came up whether I had ever had anal sex. I didn't feel comfortable answering, but a friend of mine who was super wasted blurted out that I did it with X and Y. I was super mad that she violated my privacy like that, but di... keep reading on reddit ➡
I feel like almost every post on subreddits like r/askmen and r/twoxchromosomes are about sex. Most users seem extremely well experienced and seem to hookup with someone every week or so.
Is that normal? Are people really hooking up every week or so? I'm not. Am I weird for not putting myself out there like these guys?
I know I'm coming across as extremely weird. I probably sound like the most socially awkward person out there. It's just bugging me a lot, I can't help but feel like I'm just missing out or something.
For reference I'm 19 M. Not a virgin, but really only did it once at 16 and it was extremely awkward and quite a bad experience. I haven't been with anyone since.
It's a topic that's come up between my husband and me every single time for over 10 years. To the point where, it's our normal to either have zero on-the-mouth kissing if stuff extends past oral, or stop everything for a quick clean up before continuing.
To be clear, this is not a problem in our relationship. Just a difference of opinion. We both respect each other's wishes.
I purposely tried to keep this vague as to who has which opinion. The whole reason I'm asking is because today he tells me that he believes I'm in the minority of people. Whereas, I think he is. So do you still kiss your partner on the mouth post-oral, but before any hygiene care? Does your opinion change if your partner had an orgasm during oral? Does your opinion change based on the sex of the partner?
EDIT It's not a germ thing. It's an aversion to indirectly consuming one's own fluids.
Edit 2 Vindicated! I win. He's the one anti-kissing.
Thanks for the responses. This blew up in a way my husband and... keep reading on reddit ➡
I know a lot of people would be upset for me saying this, but that is genuinely how I feel about this. I'm not saying it's okay to purposely misgender someone, but if a person look like a guy, I'm going to assume he is a guy. The same goes for women. I think it's generally pretty easy to tell the difference. Also, about sexuality, there are some people who are obviously straight, and others who obviously aren't. But if I can't tell, or don't know, is it wrong to assume they're straight? It seems most people are straight so I don't think it's wrong to initially think someone is.
“I was not a good husband. I was fucked-up. I was addicted to porn. I know, billion-dollar industry, just me, right? I was addicted to porn and, you know, I was 15 minutes late everywhere. I got some witnesses. When you watch too much porn, you know what happens? Here’s what happens. You become sexually autistic. You develop sexual autism. You have a hard time with eye contact and verbal cues. You want everything to be routine. It’s like, you can’t choke your woman every night. You gotta mix it up. Choke Out Thursdays. What happens when you watch too much porn is you get desensitized. When you start watching porn, any porn’ll do. “Ah, they’re naked. Woo-hoo.” Then, later on, you’re all fucked-up. And you need is a perfect porn cocktail to get you off. I was so fucked-up, I need an Asian girl with a black girl’s ass that speaks Spanish just to get my dick to move an inch. I’m a lot better now.”
UPDATE: So - my main issue wasn't actually lack of sex, it was the frustration of feeling like if I initiate it won't work, so I have to wait for him. I spoke to him about the issue and he explained that I often don't pick very good moments. For example, I'd initiate when he's stressed about a project or full up from eating a big meal. He says that he chooses the right moment to initiate and that's why it seems like we only have sex if he initiates. I do have a slightly higher sex drive so we're going to start planning sex time. This is another example of just communicate with your partner! The lesson I learn time and time again is to keep nothing to yourself in a relationship. Thanks for your responses :)
I stopped initiating a while ago because getting turned down makes me feel so awful. I have a higher sex drive than him so more often then not, he’s not in the mood and I end up feeling rejected and upset.
I’m sure loads of people have this problem too. The person with the lower... keep reading on reddit ➡
I remember being able to have my parents sign a slip so I could opt out of sexual education. My health class didn’t cover it either — we learned how to cook ramen and chicken (yay?).
Many people are so concerned about people who aren’t ready to have children becoming pregnant, or overpopulation. The basic truth is many people don’t know about their reproductive health, methods of contraception, and free local resources they can utilize.
Before you say you had sex ed or you know everything there is to know from media, can you honestly say you know every method of birth control (and they are limited enough to know them ALL)? How they work? You may know about the pill, what about a Nexplanon? Nuva Ring? Paragard? Kyleena/Mirena/Skyla..? Do you know what an ovum is? How about an ectopic pregnancy? Do you know what actually happens during menstruation other than “bleeding”?
I think being aware of more forms of contraception and just having general knowledge of sexual health in general... keep reading on reddit ➡
We're both late 20s, have good communication and a good relationship otherwise. I've had a yeast infection for 5 days now (due to lack of access, have gotten medication today!). It's been painful and itchy and gross. My boyfriend knows this. We usually have sex twice per weeks but recently it's been once and not at all since I learned about the test infection, so he's feeling sexually unfulfilled and rejected. Every time I've been over he asks for sex multiple times, even after learning I still have the yeast infection.
It bothers me that he's ok with having sex where I'll just be in discomfort or pain. I've even told him this, then he says that it's just because he's attracted to me and loves me. He doesn't want me to be in pain, but would rather some sex than none if I'm comfortable. But I've told him over and over that I'm not "comfortable" while I have a yeast infection...
I'm seriously considering ending our near 1 year relationship over this. Is that crazy? Is it normal for par... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I've been with this guy for a few months, he's my first one (I'm not his first). He is sweet and I really like him with all his flaws. He has bigger sex drive than me but I'm okay with it. He told me what he likes it rough and that he likes anal. But he's been very soft with me since I'm still figuring out what I like and we didn't do anal yet and I told him before I'm not sure if I'm ready for it.
Few times he tried to finger me while I was sleepy, either trying to fall asleep or waking up. I wasn't fully asleep yet and fully aware of him getting in the bed, touching me etc, so I told him to get the condom and continue.
But last night I went to sleep early, fell asleep right away and maybe 2 hours later I was woken up to my asshole being fingered. I was pretending to be asleep to see what he would do. He fingered me for a while and then I heard him open the condom and he was trying to put it in my ass. That's when I thought "That's enough" and turned around a told him "What th... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am a 22F who has been dating a 26M for about a year. Our sex life is spectacular, the best I’ve ever had. I’ve always had a real interest in sex since I was a child, so I have about 15 years worth of fantasies that he fulfills innately. It’s amazing, but I feel like I’m always on the receiving end, and I want him to feel just as good. I give great head, but what else could I do? I’m in the process of building muscle/flexibility so that I can ride and be in certain positions that he’ll like. But what can I do in the mean time? Super open to sex toys and quite literally anything. We’re both pretty open and ‘nasty’ so I’ll try quite literally anything. Help! Please!!
Added a few hours later:
Wow thank you guys! This is my first reddit post and I wasn’t expecting such a response! Keep them coming! Most common answer I’ve been getting is just communication. I guess I didn’t want to do that because I wanted to know his body naturally in the way he knew mine. But there’s a lot of variabl... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi all, I have to say I didnt expect this kind of response. Comments and messages have been overwhelmingly supportive and I'd like to thank everyone for reminding me that I'm not alone. I don't think this is a situation anyone ever imagines themselves getting into, and to be honest, my feelings are much too complicated to "just leave."
The reason that I made this post was partly for support, but mostly because i needed something tangible to refer to when something like this happens again. I needed evidence that I'm not crazy, that theres some messed up stuff going on here, that I could refer back to when i gathered the strength to do what's best for me, despite still having feelings of love. I don't know when that day will be, but at least now I can be sure without a doubt that this isn't right.
I've yet to have a talk with my husband. I don't know what to say, because I don't know what I'm going to do. After this incident I've really scrutinised some past behaviours and even... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi, I'm basically desperate at this point. We're both virgins and I've been trying to get him to have sex with me for 2 years now and every time I've been blatantly rejected, and I'm just reaching my breaking point. I've tried to discuss why he doesn't want to have sex many many times but every time he brushes me off and says he doesn't want to talk about it. I'm at a loss as to what to do because even when I tried to push it he'd just get really mad and cold.
I've made multiple advances, I haven't forced myself on him or anything but I've gone around to his place wearing revealing clothes and makeup etc, I've asked him if I can go down on him and I've sat on his lap while we were kissing and tried to get him into the mood but even when we kiss he acts like it's te last thing he wants to be doing and like he'd doing me a favour. I feel so rejected.
What can I do differently?
I've met two distinct sorts of guys when it comes to how generous they are in the sack. The ones who inevitably think they're sex gods and you need just enough foreplay to get to the "real thing" and the ones who don't seem in any hurry to finish up foreplay (copious oral, or even just touches all over you) because why would they? It's enjoyable on its own and just a prelude to sex, not a necessary stepping stone to finish off. And yes, while I won't deny that plenty of guys can be good at actual sex, the ones who win out long-term are the ones who are generous before. And it shouldn't surprise anyone should it? After all girls are expected to have that attitude right? Imagine giving a blowjob till you got hard and no more, how silly would that be? That's where the fun starts!
Do others also observe that there are distinct ways people think about foreplay and maybe one is better than the other, or maybe not, but compatibility on this issue is key! And while things might work out short... keep reading on reddit ➡