Hello internet stranger friends. I have been embarrassed to tell you all—how long it has been. The truth is for about 36 years with three one year breaks during that time period. And when I quit before, “friends” and my ex wanted me to start again. I guess I wasn’t as fun as a non stoner. But I remember life before pot and I was fine. And I was funny.
I had been ramping up to quit and then I found this Reddit feed and reading all the posts has given me the strength to stop. I don’t want to start again.
But now I remember all the memories I have been hiding from all these years. I quit drinking 18 months ago and now I am quitting this and all the memories and things that were done to me and things that I have done have come flooding back.
I’m sad that I have been a stoner parent. I am all the sudden extremely depressed about my divorce. Which was 11 years ago and he was seriously abusive and I was lucky to get out but I feel horrible about how my children suffered because of it.
I keep telling myself I want to experience my suffering raw. So I will not pick up the pipe. I am committed. I want to know who I am without it. I want my sons to know me that way too.
I live in Boulder, CO. I went to the grocery store today and there was an armed security guard. I said “You’re new here.” He told me he was transferred there from a daycare center (yes you read that right. They now require armed guards at local daycare) because there was a copy cat shooter that tried to go into that store and when stopped, he drove off and went to two other stores before they caught him. The bright side of this is the fact that I actually talked to the security guard. Normally I would have been stoned and paranoid and would have avoided any interaction with people.
I was on my way to the king Soopers when the shooting happened. I was supposed to leave for the store at three but I had a mechanical issue with my sewing machine so I took time to fix it and left at 3:15. The shooting was at 3:22. I saw that crumpled guy in the parking lot. This whole deal has really affected me. And I think it is adding to this overwhelming feeling of sadness.
Plus covid loneliness.
I’m trying to think positive. Good things have happened since I quit. Actually, I have been doing really well until today.
I started CrossFit again last week and I have already made three friends. Last time I was taking classes there for two years (pre covid), I never met one person. I would come i... keep reading on reddit ➡
Sewing stuff, so easy and fun to buy. But frankly, I have way too much and need to consolidate.
I am never going to make 75% of my fabric or pattern/book stash. I am just looking for a pat on the back to let me know it's going to be okay to move on.
Deep down I know I should, it is my inner designer who loves options feels bad for past me for going overboard and losing steam on projects.
please encourage me, this is way harder then I thought it was going to be.
I have a lot of clothes that don't flatter me due to fit problems, and I wouldn't mind learning on them and making some mistakes.
I have a lot of things that are a size too big or baggy and make me look rounder than I am. I've got pants, tops, sweaters, shirts, dresses, in various cuts and materials/fabrics... I'm especially keen on taking things in at the waist, or the chest (I'm 🍐 shape and quite tall).
Can anyone list/recommend some beginner-friendly alterations to start with, and some more intermediate ones, or perhaps what to avoid doing just yet? :) Any tips welcome.
Background info: I'm budget challenged and have been all my life so I've never known much about clothes or had the opportunity to worry about fit, and 99% of my stuff is cheap second hand. I think better fitting clothes would make me happier about how I look now at a higher weight (thx quarantine and winter dip) without having to diet like crazy so clothing hangs well. It just seems like an incredibly daunting project to learn how to alter my clothes.
EDIT: I've read everything so far and you gals are more helpful than any youtube tutorial I've seen! Thanks so much for the amazing advice, and the awards. 🥰❤️ I really really appreciate it all!
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