I did Onlyfans for the majority of 2020. I worked so hard to make the sets, get the photos taken, put together my outfits, vet the photos, market myself, all of those things. But, I never made any money off it. It impacts my self esteem to this day, I wonder if I'm ugly to people or unattractive. I feel terribly insecure about my body, I feel uncomfortable in my own skin a lot, I feel like a failure and am insecure about the fact that I made no money too. I feel awful whenever I think about it.
Edit: I wanna thank everyone who has replied. The amount of kind words you've given me really gives me a good perspective of things and your words help me combat those thoughts of my own. You know, with reason rather than the over emotional thoughts I've got on the subject. I cannot thank you all enough! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Obviously by ‘ugly’ I’m referring to ‘ugly’ according to conventional societal beauty stands.
It’s so irritating that when an obviously ugly person says/ acknowledge that they are in fact, ugly, so many people will just throw around empty ‘everyone is beautiful’ bs or ‘you just have low self-esteem/ need more self-respect’, like, no?
The fact that an ugly person can openly admit that they are ugly is self-respect at best, at least they’re not deluding themselves. Because, not everyone is ‘beautiful’.
Obviously I’m referring to objectively ugly people here, people who have been slighted by society at large & are painfully aware that they’re not treated the same as conventionally attractive people.
It’s annoying hearing/ seeing all the empty “you’re beautiful” bs when you’re clearly not. Most people know that they are unattractive.
Going on a few years now without anything serious and the rejection I’m experiencing is absolutely wrecking me. I don’t feel like I should be doing so poorly with women but every time I get back to my hometown (a city of 350k) I just don’t do well at all. I pay for OLD just to try and get matches and it’s all just bots or someone asking for money. Please help me identify where I might be falling short.
For reference, not that all these things matter but I’m sure some will be asked: r/truerateme rating of 5.5, 5’10” 165lbs, very fit (climb mountains over 20k feet and run constantly as well as weight train), make a six figure income and invest as a side business (stocks and such, not quite an Accredited investor yet). I dress well as men’s fashion is one of my hobbies, and I have an incredible amount of life skills and hobbies, most of which are mainly male dominated, admittedly. I travel very often for work and have been all over the world. I’ve had much better luck dating and even hooking up overseas and in other big cities. What gives??
Edit: After reading a few comments it’s become clear I need to say that I don’t actually mention any of the personal facts listed above, with the exception of height and weight. Also, my OLD profile photos are not drawn exclusively from my hobbies or activities. In fact, most are candids taken by friends or professional photographers as one of my hobbies is amateur modeling.
Also, yes I have a long beard and hair, yes I’m aware it’s not every woman’s flavor. My experience with this has taught me that it neither hurts nor helps overall, it just attracts a different crowd with no real change in overall frequency. So, to the guys out there who want to grow a beard, do it, it’s not going to hurt or help your dating.
Edit 2: since I’ve shared this with a few users and it’s technically public anyway, here’s the link to view my tinder profile: https://tinder.com/@adventure_alexander
If you would like to provide feedback, feel free to post or dm.
Thank you to everyone who took the time to help me out. I feel a lot better about understanding how my online presence was misrepresenting who I am and the changes I’ve made as a result of your feedback have made an immediate difference. Truly a positive community. Y’all are awesome.
Just looking for an outlet to express my frustrations as I have been dating this guy for 2 months.
I see a lot of comments on this sub about "beauty is in your smile" or "confidence is the sexiest thing" and "self esteem is the most important thing" and it's like...I love me? I have no problem with me? I enjoy being around me?
That's not the issue. I genuinely just want to know how to look better.
Sometimes I just want to read a thread that's all about how eyelash extensions can elevate your game, or how to clear my skin, or the sort of holy grail makeup products everyone uses.
I'm tired of the Disney "beauty is your heart" stuff like lol I want a small waist pretty face with a big bank