I came across this revelation not too long ago. I’ve posted/commented on other subs about this struggle before. I realized many others related. When I was younger I was very passionate about, well, everything. In middle school I was already starting full-fledged businesses, in highschool I was teaching myself robotics + programming. Always wanted to work at startups, always wanted to be a part of something. But the key thing is: I would frown upon those that had no passion in life. I’d use that quote over and over again about most men dying at 25 but being buried at 75. I could not wrap my head around someone wanting a peaceful life where they just want to settle down and enjoy themselves. I considered it an early death.
Fast forward a few years, and that’s exactly what I wanted. My passion passed and I was prioritizing stability above all else. And I hated myself for it. I searched for ways to get back to my super motivated and passionate self. I didn’t want to become that adult I swore I would never become. Some people told me it may be a mental illness, and it can be in your own situation, but that never ended up being the issue. Others said to just get my shit together and get disciplined. Which I did do, but I really just improved my health/lifestyle. I never got back to that feeling where it felt like I wanted success more than anything. Where it felt like I was breathing fire.
So, to sum it up, it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that it’s okay to prioritize stability as you get older. It’s a part of growing up. Your priorities will change. I mean, if you’re able to pull constant overnighters and run your own business at 35? That’s great, good for you. But for most of us, that won’t last forever. And that’s okay. Or maybe it’s the opposite case for you, where you currently want to be a single CEO or something while your past self wanted a nice big family. That’s okay too. Your past self won’t be disappointed in you, because your past self is a construct you’ve made up in your mind. There’s most likely no way to fully recreate your past mindset. Right now, you are your present self. And all that matters is what your present self prioritizes and wants in their life.
PS: This is my first time posting here so I’m not 100% sure if this belongs or if the flair is right. Sorry in advance. Also edit for grammar.
Edit: Thank you for all the comment guys. I legitimately read through every single one of them and comment back if I have anything to say. Pt 2 is in the comments because when I originally tried to post with it in, the post was getting deleted by the bot.
I was up about 40% for the year of 2019, it was awesome, it was the first full year of working as an engineer and I have put in a bit of money into my investments. It felt REALLY good to see the growth it has done. Theeeeeen came the covid drop. I sold halfway down the drop, my entire brokerage portfolio and Roth IRA for about a 50% gains loss of my ENTIRE time investing. I did this because I believed that it will drop even more, which it did for a some days, but then it went back up, and back up, and back up, and kept going back up. I kept telling myself that it was a dead cat bounce and the market will drop even further than before and it never did. I tried to time the market and got rekt. I didnt even get back into investing late last year so I lost out on a good bit of money if I had just kept everything in.
Lesson: Timing the market is hard. It is SO much easier to just keep everything in and put MORE money into your positions on red days.
What I am doing now to not repeat the same mistake: I got back into the game late last year and I will not touch my investments ever again. I have also set aside a 4-ish month emergency fund that I will never touch. I believe part of the reason why I sold during the covid drop was also because I didnt have an emergency fund set aside and I got emotional with my investments. Now even my portfolio drops 50% in 1 day I still have 4 months of living expenses if I lost my job so I would still be carrying out my day to day living normally
2) Getting too greedy with GME or any other hyped up stock I bought GME because I wanted to "get rich quick". I put in $5k last Wednesday thinking I wouldn't take anything less than a $10k gain for some reason. Well I was up a good $3k Thursday, Friday, and Monday, but didn't sell because I was too greedy. I closed my position being down $3.5k. Had I held longer it would have probably be more like $4k or so now.
Lesson: Hyped up stock is dangerous, if you really want to gamble, use only the amount of money you are willing to lose or just bet on a sports game, it will be easier. Greed is also a dangerous game. It is euphoric to see a couple of thousand dollars of gains in a couple of days no doubt, b... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve been a long-time lurker on here, but I’ve been having so much fun with this build I created that I just couldn’t help but share it. This build uses one of my favorite exotics, Tommy’s Matchbook. I fell in love with this gun the moment it came out and have used it enough for my warlock to be considered a masochist. But as much as I love Tommy even, I must admit the gun has some serious flaws. The most obvious of these being self-damage (duh), and an abysmal reload speed. So, my goal was to solve these flaws while also creating a synergistic build of my favorite class (warlock) that could take on high level content. This is the result.
Ok so what will you be able to accomplish with this build?
· You and your allies will be able to have a consistent character speed boost
· You and allies will have a 100 reload and boosted handling consistently
· You will have a consistent 50% damage reduction
· You will be able to heal yourself in large chunks on demand
· You will have boosted grenade damage and cooldown
· Your allies will receive boosted grenade cooldowns
· You will be able to stun overload champs
· Break barrier champs’ shields
· You will have a 30% modifier boost to your super damage (in our case chaos reach)
· And you will have the option to add and additional 25% damage modifier added to all your ability damage to frozen or slowed targets (pretty sure this includes your super haven’t tested yet)
I know that seems like a lot but if you stick with me, I promise to break this build up into small bites to make this as simple and painless as possible. Still here? Dope let’s get started.
Starting things off with our subclass we are going middle tree Stormcaller. Most warlocks go the bottom tree void walker route and for good reason. Devour synergizes incredibly well with Tommy as it solves the self-damage problem pretty well. But we won’t be going this for a few reasons A. we have other more effective tools to solve the self-damage problem, B. it doesn’t address Tommy’s reload, and C. bungie unfortunately hates Nova Bomb and it simply can’t hang with some of the other super options warlocks have at their disposal with some of these new seasonal mods and exotic support we got. These and the reasons below are why we are going middle tree Stormcaller.
This is the big one. In bungie terms Pulsewave does this “being critically wounded triggers an energy wave that boosts yours and allies’... keep reading on reddit ➡
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