Restaurant

My birthday is on Wednesday, which thankfully is a day off from work. so I was thinking of going to Cheesecake Factory or something, but I don’t have any friends, not even a boyfriend, so I decided that I want to just spend the day and eat outside because I love restaurants and I love food.

Is it normal?

I keep reading about restaurants and the shortage of staff. As a 22 year industry veteran, I have a theory.

Pre-pandemic, we worked our asses off. Those of us in the restaurant industry did our thing. The pay wasn’t always great. The conditions weren’t always awesome. However, every day, we went back because we loved it. We were passionate about the work and loved those we worked with.

Then, Covid hit. We still did our thing. We hustled to feed people. We wore our masks in hot kitchens. We increased our work load, without extra pay, in order to maintain safety when it came to our guests. Americans still needed to eat and we kept working.

Then, it started. The customers started their shit. While I’m obviously not referring to everyone, the number of rude, uncaring individuals in our restaurants increased... a lot. Many hard working restaurant employees were yelled at, cussed out, put down, threatened with violence and spat on. I can’t tell you how many absolutely abhorrent people I personally dealt with. Through social media, I saw that I wasn’t alone. This pandemic brought out the true nature of a lot of regular people. That true nature was ugly and disgusting. I’d seen a lot in my time in the business, but this was just more than any person should deal with. All of this on top of our own covid stress and worries.

That being said, yes, there are probably some people just sitting around collecting a check. Most of us however have simply chosen to find a new industry. Personally, I will never return to a restaurant. I have scoped my job search down. I’m looking to learn new skills. I’m starting my own small business on the side.

So, if you want to know why restaurant workers aren’t returning, it’s because we’re tired of adults who act like children. Im sorry, but your Starbucks will continue to close at 1:00, your order will take an extra 20 minutes, and your favorite place might be closed an extra day every week for a while. Many of us are over the way too many members of the general public act and we’re just not willing to deal with it anymore.

Edit: Thank you for the awards. There is an awful lot of feeling and emotion in your comments. We’ve all been through the ringer. I love you all.

I (21,f) have a aunt (30,f) who, a while ago, opened a restaurant a few months ago.

Once or twice a week I get lunch at a small restaurant in my work break. There is a nice, cheap one close to my work place. Always enjoyed it there.

Now my aunt figured out I go there to eat instead of her restaurant.

I have been to her restaurant before on different occasions and it's a nice place but

• it's further away from work (but doable)
• it's not super expensive but still less cheap than the other one
• food is great in both
• aunts one has less options on the menu I can/want to eat (vegetarian and allergies)
• wait times are often longer in aunt's restaurant
• aunts one has the nicer interior design and looks but i don't really care about that

So I prefer this other one for my lunch breaks.

My aunt found out I would have the option to go to her restaurant for lunch but choose not to and instead support the competition. She was very mad and my mom sided with her, saying I should support family and therefore my aunt's business.

Aunt and I had a good but not close relationship. Just relatives seeing each other a few times a year and chatting at family dinners She does not offer me any family discount or anything. I know she doesn't have to but at the same time I feel like I should be able to freely choose where to eat

So tell me reddit ... AITA?

Sorry for the sort of clickbaity title, lemme explain this real quick. For Mother's Day, I wanted to do a little something for my Mom : nothing too expensive, just a nice moment with a meal she loves, some flowers and her three children and husband.

I was chatting with my siblings about this. It somehow morphed into something much bigger. Their partners will be there too (at first I didn't picture it like that, don't they have their own moms to celebrate?) and then I was already seen like an asshole by my sister for even suggesting they might not tag along. Geez guys, this is Mother Day's, not Christmas. The restaurant choice has changed for something nearly twice as expensive and other little things were added.

The plan was to split the whole cost in three and that included the food for all five of us (my mom, her husband and us three). Now we're seven instead at a much more expensive place and the "split in three" arrangement somehow still holds. I'm single and I'm pissed that I will have to pay the same amount as the others - I think my bro and sis should pay for their SO, or their SO should pay for their own meal. I hate how it's taken for granted that I will pay for their share (even though I barely get along with them in the first place).

The final cost is more than three times what I was prepared to pay for the little event I initiated in the first place. I'm shutting up right now as to not rain the parade but this kind of thing happens all the time when you're single going out with couples, and I might consider calling them out on this next time because it's getting real annoying. I'd be less pissed it they would at least acknowledge the problem but afaik, they most certainly didn't think about this at all. I think they would be surprised, uneasy and bothered if I were to point it out, and that's why I haven't said anything yet. What do you guys think?

The good thing is that it's definetly going to be a nice event! :)

Me f30 and my husband M32 have been married for 4 months. He likes to be independent in everything. Especially when it comes to money. He's bad with money meaning he never plans for tomorrow and enjoys buying new things everyday.

I approached him with the idea of having a joint account. And he said okay. But sadly he took it as in his salary was doubled up and kept purchasing stuff that are expensive without evening running it through me. It was just like grab money and go spend it. Not okay because we have commitments.

I talked to him. His response's that since his money's in that account meaning he doesn't have to tell me about where he spends it because technically...it's his money. He admitted joint account was bad idea and unnecessary; In his words "am I crazy to think that everyone should just be able to have their own money to spend regardless of wether they were married or not?"

We decided that each of us have our own salary but both equally pay for everything. He agreed long as he could buy whatever he want with his money.

Last night he suggested we go eat at a restaurant. I assumed each of us pay for our own meals. We arrived and he ordered more dishes than me and two types of desserts. When it was time for paying. I asked the waitress for separate bills and my husband looked confused when he heard. He said "You're not gonna pay for my meal too?" I told him it's his decision that each of us pay for everything 'individually'. Told him this is what separate finances means. He got upset saying he spent all the money he had before coming to the restaurant and didn't think I'd actually decline to pay. So it's fair that I pay for dinne? After he argued and threw a fit I just paid for my meal and was about to leave when he called me selfish and mean.

He came home 2 hours later telling me his buddy came and paid for his meal no problem. He said I shouldn't have declined to pay for his meal and was being mean to him. I told him to not take his misplaced anger out on me but he still argued with me about what I did and how unacceptable it was.

After that I took some time to calm down. We had a talk this morning and when I suggested therapy first thing he said "Okay, But who's paying?" Then reminded me of what I did and how unacceptable it was. He keeps bringing it up and wants me to apologize.

In case our jobs are relevent: I'm a secretary and He's a Police Officer.

Everyone is hiring and we have options now. We can demand to know what we are potentially working for and choose the best offer. Employers still act like saying "hey take a chance and work for us. we want to know everything about you but we won't tell you anything about us" is an acceptable way to get staff. Stick up for yourselves and ask the hard questions!

I sent in a job application today for a job that wanted "badasses" and "expected a lot" from employees (i.e we expect you to do the job of 3 people by yourself). They didn't post anything about compensation, flexibility or benefits. They said they would only "talk turkey" if you sent them a resume. They also wanted you to answer 3 questions: what is your favorite drink, what is your favorite part of working in the hospitality industry and what do you expect to get from working at x restaurant.

After getting laughed at in the Facebook group they took the post

Feel free to use the format if you feel like it:

Dear Hiring Manager,

I am looking for job because if I don't have one I will starve and become homeless. I have 12 years experience in the industry.

My favorite drink is a non-alcoholic one I can relax with at the end of the workday because my job isn't so unnecessarily stressful due to lack of staff and bad management that the only way I can get to sleep is to get blackout drunk.

My favorite aspect of the hospitality industry is its ability to pay me enough money to live with flexible hours and management that understands I have a full beautiful life outside of work.

What I want to acheive by joining RESTAURANT X is money.

My availability is dependant upon compensation and benefits.

If you would like to talk turkey and see my extensive resume please send your compensation package and references from your old employees. Please include why your pre-pandemic staff isn't returning in your response.

Thank you for your interest!

-fringeandglittery

In Zhongli's quest added in 1.5, Azhdaha is mentioned to have forgotten his contract with Morax as well as his own goodwill towards the people of Liyue due to erosion.

When you ask Zhongli in a dialogue whether if the erosion has also set in for him, Zhongli responds that even he cannot avoid such things.

The reason why Zhongli listens to all his stories long time ago (such as in Zhongli's character trailer "Listener") is not to feel good about himself , but to remind himself about what him and his friends have done while also remembering his friends since most of the adepti that roamed with Morax long ago are gone.

miHoYo. Give this man his osmanthus wine. This shit's depressing.

It’s a fucking joke how cigarettes are treated here and the irony of seeing people smoke in front of a hospital entrance makes me laugh. Taking my child and sitting outside in a restaurant to enjoy a nice warm day when a cloud of smoke just consistently comes on our face.

Will there be any changes in the work to fix all this? Why is smoking so prevalent here when Germany is so careful with health and healthcare?

I went out to a ‘fancy’ burger place recently. Part of USP was that you could add things to your burger, like cheese or an extra patty. I order and make some alterations like the sauce and two extra patties because I was hungry and feeling greedy and the indulgent that day. It was a huge, decadent burger.

However, this burger came by default with tomatoes. Now, I’m allergic to tomatoes: nothing fatal but my face puffs up and I get a sore throat. This happens even if I eat something that tomatoes have touched so removing them doesn’t work. I expressly asked the waitress to not add tomatoes to my food saying that I’m allergic.

When the food comes, there are tomatoes in my burger. Due to the above reasons, I asked them to take it back and make a new one. The restaurant refused saying that they’d used a lot of ingredients for my burger so they couldn’t do me another without charging me for both. I say it’s their fault because I’d specifically requested no tomatoes at time of order. They told me to just remove the slices myself but I refused due to cross contamination.

When they refused to remake the burger, I put down enough for the drink I’d had and left the building.

I thought I’d acted reasonably but my girlfriend says that i should have paid for both because I could afford it and that a custom order would be expensive for the restaurant. I think that’s insane, especially as I warned them about the the tomatoes thing well in advance and that it was their fault I’d be paying for.

Me (31F) and My husband (35M) have been married for 14months. He's a middle-school teacher. Very close to his family. Loves to help out but can be firm at times. He adores his 1.2 yo niece. His sister's baby. He always babysits whenever he's got nothing to do. I help with whatever I can. We haven't gotten out for a nice dinner in a while.

I asked if we could go out to a new restaurant and try their food. And have good time together. He agreed. I immediately made reservations and took care of everything.

Since I couldn't take the day off I left work early and went to meet him there at the restaurant. I walked in and saw my husband sitting and his niece in a carseat by the table. I asked and he said his sister had work and wanted him to watch his niece. His family were out of town so there was no one else beside him. I noticed the restaurant staff were giving us looks since it's not a childfriendly restuarant and I was worried the baby'd cry or something. She was asleep then.

We ordered our meals. While he was calming his niece down cause she was crying out loud. He kept asking the waitress about stuff they don't have for his niece I couldn't take the looks from people unable to enjoy their meals cause of the noise husband's niece was making. Especially when he started singing “youre welcome” from Moana movie while swinging her. I got up to the restroom. Few mins later I heard him arguing loudly. I went to see that he was actually trying to change his niece's diaper on the table. The waitress was arguing with him. I was in shock. The manager came after my husband said he'd take a minute to get it done. The manager spoke to me and asked me to leave eventually. I was livid. We left and I blew up outside. Asked my husband why the table while people were eating. That he could've told me. Otherwise I wouldn't have picked a restaurant that doesn't allow infants. That he embarrassed me .ruined dinner and got us kicked out.

He started arguing with me like I was one of his students after I refused to get in the car. Giving me 0/10 for my reaction and claiming I picked a bad restaurant. Said that he was helping his sister. And I needed to understand that. After the argument I took an uber and went home. He went to his sister's place and called saying I shouldn't have left like that and make him feel guilty for wanting to help. But I didn't respond.

[Edit] I just want to say that my Husband is the one who insists on taking his niece. He doesn't consider this bab