AITA for insisting my in laws replace my sons car seat instead of my nephews?

Hey Reddit! I am married to a great man and we have a son together, “Noah” (3m). My husbands sister and her partner also have a son the same age, “Brody”. We don’t speak very often as we tend to clash a little bit, but are usually civil enough for the kids sake.

My in-laws live within walking distance to our house, and they asked to take Noah to the park. We of course, had no problem with this, and switched his car seat from my car into theirs. They had a fun afternoon and then came home. However, we forgot to take the car seat out of their car. No matter! I wasn’t going anywhere so I said I would pick it up the next day.

The next day came and they made excuses that they were using the car. I let it go, but a day soon turned into nearly a week and I still had no car seat for Noah. We didn’t need it, as everything we needed was within walking distance, but it was just a bit annoying. Anyway, on the Saturday my husband hears that MIL was babysitting Brody for the day.

MIL picked him up and used Noah’s car seat, despite Brody having his own. Apparently they didn’t want to make a fuss of switching them. (This is actually a point where me and SIL clash, as I prefer to rear face my son as long as possible and have bought a pricier seat to do so, whereas she believes this is stupid and a waste of money, and has an own-brand front facing seat which costs significantly less than our ERF one- and has been very vocal about how bad my choices are, how cruel I am, he must be bored/uncomfortable) so I was surprised to hear that she was happy to put Brody in such an “uncomfortable” seat.

Long story short, they ended up in an accident. Everyone was fine, Brody included, which in part was due to the car seat. Obviously, since it was in an accident, it now needed replacing. The problem lies here.

My SIL (and now MIL too) insist that, should their insurance pay for a new seat, they use the money to pay for a new seat to replace Brody’s front facing one. I disagree, it was their choice to buy that seat and they still have it. If they want a new one, they should pay for it. They used our seat that belongs to my son and now we don’t have one at all. So we should get the replacement, since it was our seat in the first place.

I think I’m right because it’s an expensive seat and we aren’t made of money. MIL and SIL are calling me an AH to put a price on Brody’s safety but I disagree, she was the one to put a price on it by buying him a cheap seat in the first place, say

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Unless a hoodie can replace my coat...there is literally no reason they should be like $60+

Okay so I left out a key point: I don't mind paying $60+ but if I am, I don't want to wash it 3 times and it instantly turns into something worth $20. That's all I'm saying.

Don't get me wrong I love supporting new brands and my brands I've been with forever. I understand people need to make their money...but it's a hoodie. We went from hoodies being like $20-40 range and just shot straight up to like $60...for a Champion hoodie....CHAMPION...the brand we got made fun of for like literally 10 years ago. Granted they have truly upped their quality. I won't deny that but still..it's just nuts. I'd be more apt and happy to spending like $30 on a hoodie as I'd want to buy more, but I don't wanna spend basically $40 away from 100 on a hoodie. I'm already aware someone's gonna be like "tHeN dOn'T". Okay look. I hate coats because they're so restrictive and suck to wear while driving. If all hoodies were like Carhartt warm, I'd shut up and wouldn't complain....but they're noooooot they're just overpriced and not half as warm.

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AITA for expecting my boyfriend to replace all my socks, the exact same ones as I had before?

This might seem silly. I (24F) like wearing cheerful socks, since my uniform is all white (currently working as an phlebotomist), it usually cheers up the patients too.

I've spent a few years collecting strange socks, ones with sushi, pizza, corgis, cats, Nick Cage, etc. I think I had about 30 pairs. My boyfriend (29M) has always hated them, and thinks they're childish. So I agreed to only wear them to work, and never on dates or around his friends/family. I thought that was fair.

On boxing day his parents came over for coffee and gifts (just the 4 of us, which is allowed where I live, and keeping a solid 3 meters apart). I accidentally put on a pair of 'childish' socks, and his mother made a comment about it. I explained that I wear them to work to cheer people up, and she liked that. My boyfriend didn't.

The next day all my socks were gone, and the drawer was filled with plain black socks. I asked my boyfriend, and he told me he threw them away and purchased some more 'appropriate' socks, so I won't embarrass him in front of his parents again.

I told him that that's insane, they were mine and he had no right to throw them away. Not to mention that I spend quite some time collecting them.

So I made a list of the ones I remembered I had, and told him that I expect the same ones as a replacement. He told me that's completely unreasonable, and that it would take a lot of time/effort/money for him to find those specific pairs. I haven't changed my mind yet, they cost me a lot of time and effort to find too.

I think he's being controlling, he thinks I'm being unreasonable and demanding.

AITA?

I think I might be an asshole for asking for the exact same pairs, I know that'll take a lot of effort to find.

Edit: Thanks everyone for replying, I've realised that this might not be a 'normal' fight and am evaluating the relationship.

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AITA for asking my sister to replace my son's video games that she sold without telling me?

I'm stressed and don't know what to do. I'll keep this as concise as possible, but if more info is needed I will answer questions in the comments.

I'm 44F a mom of four kids, Joe 16M, John 15M, Jackie 13F, and Janice 11F. My husband Jake 48M and I make a comfortable living, our children don't go without but they are thankful for what they do have.

Jake is into console games, which our kids also enjoy. Joe and John have consoles in their room (they each received a PS4 for Christmas, and John was excited to buy some new games with his Christmas money). We do allow them to play games like GTA but limit their time and they understand very well that they're just games and not to be emulated.

My sister (Tina 40F) has two kids Mike 15M and Molly 14F. She's a single mom and isn't home often due to work so sometimes my niece and nephew took advantage. For example Mike was grounded over Christmas break for sneaking beer into the house, and Molly is grounded for being caught having sex with her boyfriend last week.

Because of this, my retired mom became their after school babysitter. This began after Molly was caught last week. Ever since, Tina has gone into overdrive looking for something to blame for their behavior.

Here's the situation.

John loaned a few of his games to Mike. Tina found them while snooping through her kids rooms and became furious! She decided to take all of their consoles and games when they were at school and sold EVERYTHING, including John's games.

Mike called me up in a panic two days ago and told me what she did. John had texted him about the games the night before, but he didn't know what to tell him because he had already told Tina that they weren't all his games but she didn't care because they were rubbish! I immediately told Mike that it wasn't his fault, and I would handle this.

I called Tina that night when I knew she would be home, and I told her that I know she sold all of the games in Mike's room and asked her to pay back for the ones that were John's. She told me that children shouldn't be playing such filth and wasn't giving us a cent. I told her that John bought them with his money and I don't care how she punishes her kids, but she is not punishing mine.

She began crying and accused me of calling her a bad mother, yelled at me to go fuck myself, then she handed the phone to our mom who scolded me and told me my kids shouldn't be playing those games in the first place because my niece and nephew probably picke

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CMV: We should be embracing automation to replace monotonous jobs

For starters, automation still provides jobs to install, fix and maintain software and robotic systems, it’s not like they’re completely removing available jobs.

It’s pretty basic cyclical economics, having a combination of a greater supply of products from enhanced robotics and having higher income workers will increase economic consumption, raising the demand for more products and in turn increasing the availability of potential jobs.

It’s also much less unethical. Manual labor can be both physically and mentally damaging. Suicide rates are consistently higher in low skilled industrial production, construction, agriculture and mining jobs. They also have the most, sometimes lethal, injuries and in some extreme cases lead to child labor and borderline slavery.

And from a less relevant and important, far future sci-fi point of view (I’m looking at you stellaris players), if we really do get to the point where technology is so advanced that we can automate every job there is wouldn’t it make earth a global resource free utopia? (Assuming everything isn’t owned by a handful of quadrillionaires)

Let me know if I’m missing something here. I’m open to the possibility that I’m wrong (which of course is what this subreddit is for)

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AITA For refusing to replace a mattress after my son 'destroyed' it?

My son is seven and he suffers from some pretty bad night terrors that he is in therapy for. Due to this he also wets the bed, quite a lot. Normal pull up style pants don't work and I have to change him at least twice a night to protect my bed (he sleeps in my bed because it helps soothe him).

Because of this he has relatively thick diapers (although we call them superman pants), and sometimes they still leak. We aren't sure why he pees so much, but I work with it.

New years day my mother had a pretty bad fall and she was in hospital. Usually I would take my son with me, but at the time his father was calling me every day begging to see him. I spoke to my son and he agreed that he would stay with his dad for two nights. His father isn't an awful person but he certainly isn't the best, either.

With a packed bag I sent him off, said goodbye, gave the instructions to his father to help him through the night and set off to the hospital a few towns over to see my mother. She was fine and waved me off from driving all the way up, but it was still lovely to see her.

The next morning I awoke to several calls from my sons iPad, (he has an emergency call button for, you know, emergencies).

Basically his grandmother had showed up to see him and wanted to stay the night. Seeing his 'baby underwear' they told him he could be a big boy for two nights and straight up refused to let him wear them. This angered me because my son really struggles emotionally and this has been a huge set back.

When he inevitably woke up screaming, with wet sheets, it didn't go well. She yelled and he didn't go back to sleep. I said my goodbyes to my mother, and when I got to my son I was met with a very clingy, tired and emotional boy.

I yelled a little, but my main aim was getting him home. He's been stuck to me like a leech. I tried to shower the other day and he sat outside my door sobbing (terrified sobs, too). He wound up sitting outside the shower curtain with one arm stuck inside so he could touch me.

Sperm donor had the audacity to call me two days ago demanding I pay for a new mattress because he couldn't keep a "piss stained" one in his house. I told him where to shove it and hung up. My mother, still in hospital, is throwing around some rather colourful insults. A few people thing I should give him the money to keep the peace, and that it's not him to blame, it's his mother.

I think he's as much to blame as his mother and he is never seeing my son again. People a

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The landlords will just think you're lazy and never bothered to replace the old ones.

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Twitch replaces "blind playthrough" tag to use more inclusive language. Multiple communities decide enough is enough.

A "blind playthrough" was a tag for a first time playthrough of a game. Twitch is opting to change that language.

Here is, as far as I can tell, the only thing resembling an official statement about it:

Happy to see Twitch has listened to everyone who shared feedback and removed the “Blind Playthrough” tag to encourage more inclusive language for our community. You can still use “First Playthrough” or opt to use it in combination with "No Spoilers" for the same sentiment.

This is cause for great concern on r/LivestreamFail

Main thread, controversial (over 4k comments)

>people are more concerned at how far this could end up going. like if using a term such as "blind" is offensive enough then what about naming the whole site after a medical condition?

>Jesus Christ, the modern left truly knows no bounds. This is beyond ridiculous...

Streamer opinion thread, controversial

>All jokes aside, who actually complained about this in the first place. No offence intended but I assume blind people don’t play many video games, and therefore probably don’t use twitch too much either.So it’s the classic case of people being offended on someone else’s behalf.

Also over on r/Twitch

Main thread (op-ed)

>[I wanna hear from actual blind people who were offended by this not some fascist pigs who use "inclusive" as a buzzword too hide how despicable their thought process really is.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Twitch/comments/k7dvgw/twitch_removing_blind_playthrough_tag_to/geqbe58?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2

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Sal Khan needs to make his own test to replace College Board

I think we all know how shitty College Board is. At the same time, there is one entity who we can all agree is wholesome and legendary. Sal Khan!

So I propose a proposal for him to propose:

The KHAN (Knowledge of Holistic Academic Necessities) Exam

The way I would take it just for fun even tho im done applying🙈 ily Sal

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I used chickpeas in my tomato sauce to replace meat, and it was amazing! This pasta and chickpeas with harissa only requires a handful of (mostly) pantry ingredients and about 30-40 minutes to make!

PIC:

https://preview.redd.it/hac8s5qhq6e61.jpg?width=2000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c732f3463f5d925e5a4ef527dfe5508fe1102058

Also, definitely not implying that the chickpeas add a meaty/beefy texture...just meant I used it in place of meat because I'm trying to reduce how much meat I eat!

I've definitely seen chickpeas and pasta before but I honestly always thought it seemed too heavy, so I never attempted it myself. I decided to try it out tonight and I'm hooked. I actually used shells and I loved it because all the chickpeas just kind of nestled inside the shells and it was sooooo good! The harissa sauce is smoky and spicy and only requires a few ingredients to whip up.

The sauce is not meant to be super saucy, but you could make it saucier by adding a bit of vegetable broth (About 1/2 cup) after the tomatoes or you could use 2 cans of tomatoes and just increase the spices! Anyway, here's the recipe!

You can omit the herb garnish, but I actually really liked it and thought the parsley helped kind of brighten up the meal. You could even add a little lemon juice and zest to it for a little hit of acidity and that'd be great!

Pasta and Chickpeas with Harissa

This pasta and chickpeas with harissa is a smoky, spicy, and super filling dinner recipe. Topped with an herb garnish, it'll be your new favorite weeknight meal.

Prep Time: 10 minutes

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