Long time lurker, first time poster. Posting this because I can see both sides and I’m genuinely curious if I shouldn’t have done this.
I (29F) love to crochet, and I’m currently pregnant. One of my favorite things to make are baby blankets, so naturally I’ve made a few more this baby we are expecting. I also have an almost 3 year old son, who I’ve been trying to involve as much as I can so he’s somewhat prepared for his baby sister. I decided to let him pick out a color yarn for one of the blankets, and he picked a literal rainbow colored, vibrant, variegated yarn. He loves colors and bright things, most baby blankets are done with soft, muted colors, so I had no problem with one blanket in this color. I started working on the blanket a few days ago and have made some decent progress. My son loves to see it and mentions the “rainbow for baby sister” every time he does.
I have several friends who know I crochet, and while I don’t advertise anything I do occasionally do commissions. I had a friend ask me what I was currently working on and if I’d be able to make her a blanket for her sisters upcoming baby. I sent her a picture of the rainbow blanket I’m currently doing, and she asked who it was for. I told her it was for my baby and she asked whether I’d had a secret miscarriage before this baby. When I told her no, she went off on me saying it was very disrespectful to make myself a rainbow blanket when I hadn’t suffered a miscarriage and therefore I wasn’t having a rainbow baby. This really surprised me as the thought hadn’t even crossed my mind, I have no intention of posting anything about this blanket anywhere or mentioning anything about it, but I can see where someone may think this baby is a rainbow baby if we use the blanket in public. AITA for making a blanket that could disrespect someone who has suffered through pregnancy losses? I can see her point but I was really just trying to involve my son.
Edit: Wow, I never expected this much of a response! I posted this on a lazy, rainy Sunday while I was working on the exact blanket in question. Thank you to everyone for your input, I’d been second guessing myself and I wanted to be sure my pregnant, hormonal self wasn’t missing something I should have seen. I’ll try to respond to as many as I can when I get a chance tomorrow.
Last year (sounds pretty long ago - hehe) I decided it's time to upgrade from my previous PC (i5 4670K, GTX 780). My old PC did his job pretty well, just one broken RAM stick, the rest worked perfectly fine for 7 years.
Of course I planned to get the new generation hardware if possible. Didn't want to go completely balls to the wall and get a RTX 3090 / Ryzen 9 5950X but the more rational version: RTX 3080 and Ryzen 9 5900X.So the quest for my dream PC started.
For the longest time I wasn't really optimistic to be fortunate enough to get the sought after hardware. Button mashing every few minutes hoping any RTX 3080 card is in stock for a reasonable price - my personal limit was 1k for the graphics card. After a few days the optimism faded until there was one in stock and it even was the one I wanted the most: the Asus TUF RTX 3080 OC for 930€After being hyped about the succesful placed order the optimism faded again because there was a pretty long shipping delay. I was so relieved after I held the graphics card in my hands.
Fastforward about 1 month and pretty much the same scenario happened with the CPU - but I managed to snag a Ryzen 9 5900X for 600€.
Then there was the other problem I haven't that it would be a problem - availability of any of the other components.
Technically I should have been able to get my PC ready and assembled in time for CP 2077 release, because the last items availability was 3rd of December for the case. But because of the pandemic and everything else I got my hands on the case on the 15th of December.
So there I was building my PC after work over 3 days with the help of a good friend, who also had no experience with PC building, but we managed to get it to what it looks like today and I am pretty happy how my PC turned out.
My PC-dream really came true.
But enough of the boring story, you surely wanna see some pictures of the building process and my setup in general - so here you go!
Pictures of the building process: https://imgur.com/gallery/xundeam
Pictures of my setup: https://imgur.com/gallery/23NtgpH
Edit: I own the apartment in question an am her landlord
Not native and on mobile, TL:DR at the end
I (21,m) am currently sharing my apartment with „Fiona“(22,f) since my last roommate moved out 3 months ago.
My last roommate had an horrible taste in decoration and just put potted plastic plants everywhere (like, literally everywhere. Even next to the toilet on the ground). I was glad when she was gone and remodelled the whole kitchen/living room. It now has a cosy, wooden/metal vibe which took me quite some time to get right an I am hoenestly pretty proud of myself.
When I was interviewing new roommates and talked to Fiona, I made it pretty clear that the shared rooms (kitchen, living room) will mostly stay as they are. She said she loved the look and feel and gave me a compliment about how I did it. I told here „If you want to add any decorations feel free to do so, but please talk to me first because I had bad experience with the old roommate. Are you fine with it if both of us are allowed to veto new decorations?“ to which she said that that is totally ok with her.
2 days ago I come home and see that she took down 3 paintings from the wall behind the couch and replaced it with a equally huge rainbow flag.
Now as you can think wood/metal does not really fit (or atleast in my case) with a bright and colourful flag. I took the flag down, hung up the pictures again, and put the flag on the counter with a note: „Doesn’t really fit in the room imo, please don’t Hang it up in the Shared Spaces.“
(I didn’t even know she was part of the LGBT, nor do I really care. It is not about the meaning of the flag, it is simply that it looks bad in our setting)
When she came home she got pretty angry and said I would be homophobic and would try to suppress her. I told her that I don’t give a flying fuck about her being gay or not, I just want the livingroom to remain Nice and told her, that she agreed to me/her being able to veto new decoration.
Than she said that the flag wasn’t decoration but part of her and her life. I said to me it looks like decoration and that I don’t want it in our shared space.
TL;DR - I have remodelled the living space to have a cozy wood/Metall atmosphere, told the new roommate in the interview that I care about how the shared spaces looks and that both of us are able to veto new decoration. She put up a LGBT flag, I put it down because it didn’t fit. She says I am homophobic and want to suppress her, I told her that I... keep reading on reddit ➡
i want to start by thanking EVERYONE who showed any type of love and especially those who joined the olivia/eternal cable GB
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