So about a week ago or so, I introduced my partner to reddit after using it for over 3 years and she finally decided to get on the karma train.
Now I sold it as a platform 'like Instagram but for every interest you could think of'.
First few days went well of her just posting on comments and uploading things she likes. So far so good.
Then about 2 days ago the story took a deadly turn. She discovered karma. She started trying to out karma me (not a challenge at all, I only post about nerdy things) and has made it her ONE life goal.
This manifested yesterday on a long car ride where I lost her to her photo reel of things to upload to get that beautiful upvote feeling.
Then worse of all, this morning the true addiction became apparent. I was woken up to "Oh my God I already have 500 karma! Are you proud of me? I'm gonna beat youuuuu!"
So Redditors. I have lost my partner to all of you, please take care of her, because I am no longer her priority in life, the karma is. Press F3.
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Many of you were asking for an update so I thought I’d share. Here’s the original post btw.
M went to the funeral and I introduced him to everyone as my brother’s roommate and best friend. My sister was visibly bothered but she didn’t say anything. As expected, everyone including my parents were too upset to think about him being there and were still welcoming towards him. They didn’t speculate or react the way my sister thought they would. I knew they wouldn’t. We were all focused on my brother.
It was a beautiful service. I’m glad M was a part of this and that my brother got a proper send off. It was very difficult and it hurt so much to say goodbye. I really hope we did right by my brother and it was how he would’ve wanted it.
Thank you to whoever sug... keep reading on reddit ➡
cheaters are always cheaters, they will always eventually cheat you again
"but my partner cheated on me and we were able to remedy the situation, and fix our relationship", no, you just don't know that he or she is cheating on you again, or he hasn't started yet and it's just a matter of time or she it just got better at hiding, in the end he or she will eventually cheat you in the same way
I have been struggling how to put this problem into words without making it sound like a stupid first world problem and I just don’t know anymore so here it goes.
I’ve been dating this great guy for 6 years. He is a single father to 3 amazing girls (his first wife died several years ago)
Before the world went to trash he took me out to a very fancy dinner and asked me to marry him, the girls then came out and asked me to be their mom. And they all presented me with an amazing ring he told me was a family ring. I said yes.
Shortly after they all went back out west to help his parents settle somethings with the family company.
They recently came back, finished their isolation and got tested to be safe. And he came to see me as just said that he wanted to talk.
Well he dropped a bombshell that what I thought was a small family company is actually a million dollar tec company. I was shocked.
He never acted or looked rich. He and the girls live in a nice standard family home for... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm not saying your partner or my partner can't have a celebrity crush, but having a crush that you gggguuuuusssshhhh over is lowkey kinda rude and hurtful to your partner. I get what a celebrity crush is, but im watching my girl get so wet to nick jonas to a point that I just straight feel like...idk like im less than what she wants.... I just don't think its fair to be so blatantly obsessed with a celebrity in front of your partner.
Edit: Yo, I went to bed like right after I posted this. I was a little drunk and in my feelings, ill admit; but idk all the likes and comments I just woke up so appreciative of that. So thank you all more than you guys know.
Edit 2: Some of yall being getting so mad bout how i feel, and I love it hahaha
On their Steam Partner page FAQ
Q: Can I use the Steam community to let customers know of non-Steam versions of my game? A: In the game you ship via Steam, and in communications on Steam, you may only promote the Steam version and its availability via Steam, and not other distribution outlets. This applies both to full versions of your game and to content patches that change the existing version.
About time. Let's see if they enforce it. For those confused, there were devs that used Steam to promote sequels/other games using the Steam forums and News feed ( ie on the What's New section in the new Library )
The "unrestricted partners are bad for the game" hivemind has really ramped up with the initial Commander Legends spoilers, and it's honestly becoming really exhausting. I genuinely don't understand this sentiment at all - free partners allow for huge amounts of creativity and open up options for niche decks and strategies that otherwise wouldn't have a commander available to them. This is a very good thing for the format.
Yes, Thrasios+Tymna is busted. But who cares? cEDH commanders like [[Kinnan]] get printed nearly every set these days and they never "destroy the format" like some people are claiming partners do here. Why? Because the nature of EDH itself is a creative and social one, meaning that people like to have fun in their games, and usually they like to play multiple different decks too. Most people aren't running out T+T at every table hoping to win every single game. If they are, they're probably playing cEDH -- which is a completely different format. So again, who c... keep reading on reddit ➡
In person and when you can’t be together in person
Edit: update at the bottom. Tl;dr version - she moved out.
Using a throwaway because my girlfriend follows my main.
I [m32] have been together with my partner [f29] for almost a year. We were very casual but when our city went into lockdown she came to stay at my place. I am lucky enough to have quite a large house but for personal reasons I have chosen to live alone for the past few years. Things have been fine although I will admit I miss having my own space. Yesterday my partner went into my office looking for scrap paper and ended up getting nail varnish all over something I needed. She apologized which I accepted but I asked her not to go in there again, and she agreed that she wouldn’t. This morning as I was leaving I had the office key in my pocket (all the interior doors actually use the same key) and on a whim just twirled it in the lock. I just came onto my break and my girlfriend has been blowing up my phone about how I’m locking her out of parts of her own house. It’s... keep reading on reddit ➡
Recently people have been saying how fucked up it is if you have a celebrity crush while others have said that being attracted to such people is 100% normal.
While I agree that finding other people attractive is just a part of being human it becomes concerning if you feel the need to continuesly tell your partner this. Obviously I don’t know how your relationship works so maybe you and your partner have a bond over talking about who you find attractive. However, if you are in a closed relationship with someone I don’t see what the point of telling them that you find someone else attractive is, just keep it to yourself. For example, if you see someone on the street and think they look cute why would you tell your partner about how cute they look? Or if you have a celebrity crush on an attractive celebrity, why won’t you just have that fantasy in your head, what will telling your partner who probably doesn’t compare to that celebrity do?
There’s nothing they can really do with that i... keep reading on reddit ➡
My sister had plans to stay with us for months. She lives in a city that’s had a hard time during the pandemic and wants to stay with me, my husband, and my kids for ~2 months to unwind and escape. We live in a very tranquil/picturesque part of our state. I was totally ok with this. We have a big house and my kids love their aunty.
The issue is she tells me she’s been in a new polyamorous relationship since late last year. And she wants to bring her 3 new partners along. I haven’t seen her all this time and I haven’t met any of these people. I only know her long-term boyfriend of 5 years as they’ve visited us many times in the past.
We’re now having a rough time because I basically said no, I don’t want your other romantic partners here but you and your bf are still welcome like in my initial invite. She has tried to explain the dynamics of their poly relationship and I tried to understand as best I can but I still don’t want 3 additional strangers all sleeping together... keep reading on reddit ➡
Strangulation is a clear, well-documented, well-researched indicator for homicide in cases of domestic violence.
The CEO of HOPE International, the leading domestic violence and sexual assault prevention organization in the United States, stated that “victims who had been strangled were 750%more likely than other victims to be killed.” Other sources estimate it could be as high as %1000.
“Strangulation inhabits a category all its own in domestic violence as a marker of lethality. A kick, a punch, a slap, a bite — none of these, though terrible, portend homicide like strangulation does.” - Washington Post, "Which domestic abusers will go on to commit murder? This one act offers a clue" by Rachel Louise Snyder
“US studies show that in close to 50 per cent of deaths **involving intimate partner violence, wome... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've had a low libido in general, which has dropped even more recently because of my struggles with metal health and resultant medication. My struggle with depression has also caused some erectile disfunction and an inability to cum on occasion. My partner is kind, generous, understanding and extremely supportive but I know this is frustrating for her as she has a much higher libido than me. We have a pleasurable sex life with plenty of foreplay and lots of laughter and fun during sex. But because of my lower libido, inability to maintain an erection and feeling like I'm letting down my partner, I'm struggling with my feelings of self worth and masculinity because...well because this makes me feel like less of a man.
EDIT: appreciate all the support and advice guys. Thought I'd address a couple recurring points that have come up in the comments.
THROWRA because I don’t want this linked back.
I (26F) have one biological child (5MO) and two stepchildren (5 and 8)
I’ve been with my partner (29) for 4 years.
I always knew my partners ex wasn’t OK with our relationship but she sucked it up “for the children” and she was fine, really, she’d drop the children off occasionally and didn’t make life difficult.
Until Imogen was born (our daughter) and since it’s like she’s done a complete 180 and she’s started to refuse to send the children around, claiming they’re sad at our house despite us knowing they’re not, claiming we send them home dirty when we don’t.
She’s just making life super difficult.
My partner has been going around there literally every day from 9am-6;50pm, despite her not allowing him into the house unless it’s to use the bathroom.
We’re going to get some legal advice on custody when we can, I’m not asking for that here so please don’t.
Going around three times a week, four even I’d understand but he’s not spe... keep reading on reddit ➡
Or seeing you as 'perfect'
So this is, uh, a different type of post than I think I've seen here.
I met my current girlfriend a few months before the pandemic hit, and things have been going really well. We mesh pretty great, and seem to be very compatible.
But over the course of our relationship, I started noticing little things about her that just... didn't add up. She's taller than most women, which is fine with me, nothing there... but she also has a deeper voice than most women. No major issues for me there either. Then I noticed that her hands are definitely larger and more masculine than I expected.
None of this really set any things off in my head until we started having sex. I don't mean to seem like I'm bragging, but I feel like I know my way around a woman's genitals pretty well. But when I was with her I felt like things were a little... different. Suffice it to say that things seem VERY feminine down there... but there's also some hidden scarring and some different structures there I've never... keep reading on reddit ➡
My great-uncle Felix died recently. He was a wonderful man who everyone loved, especially his big Southern family.
In his early 20s, he met his lifelong partner Walt, and they moved from the South to NYC, where they lived together for over 60 years.
His NYC friends became another family. When I moved to NYC, I spent a lot of time with him and Walt. They were getting old, and Walt was sick. I watched him die over the course of a year. Though I never saw my uncle Felix break down--classic Southern male stoicism--he was never the same.
Felix eventually decided to move back South. It was heartbreaking to see him leave his home of over 60 years. Anytime I called he said he missed New York and regretted leaving a lot. But my family took great care of him and visited constantly. He made friends at his nursing home, though I'm pretty sure he never told them about Walt.
Cue Covid. We were barred from visits. Felix became depressed, saying he had nothing to live for. We tried talking through... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (32F) was married to my high school sweetheart for around 5 years. Before i continue my story, i absolutely loved him and i still do. We were in a relationship since high school and we kinda grew up together. We both graduated and found decent jobs with good packages. Our parents are from the same city where we were born and grew up and knew each other.
Mid 2017, my husband was diagnosed with a terminal illness and during initial treatment phase, he wanted to freeze his sperm. Then it was a hectic and heart breaking 20 months where we explored all the treatment options available. During treatment and right until after, both our parents and siblings and their partners were very supportive. They managed everything so most of my time was spent with him without having to navigate the insurance and other admin stuff.
By early 2019 he was moved into palliative care. From then on, my only aim was to make him comfortable. He had a couple of wishes and i made sure it was done. He always s... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I (31m) have been seeking the help of my partner (36m) during my apartment hunt. He has just been tagging along and reminding me of some questions to ask. Yesterday I found the perfect place, with all of the amenities I’ve been seeking for weeks. When I asked for an application, he asked for one as well, and said he wants to apply for it also. He hasn’t been seeking an apartment prior to this, so he wants to jump of this perfect little gem of an apartment that I found after being on various rental applications and websites almost constantly. We got into it over this situation, and I want to ask reddit who the asshole is in this situation. He says I should be supportive of him trying to get this apartment because my current one has all the amenities, and his does not. I simply want to move closer to midtown (better part of town) and he could “use the upgrade.” I feel like he is disregarding my search, effort, time, and my excitement I was expressing upon finally finding this place. S... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throw away account since my partner is on reddit and follows me.
So I’m a bisexual woman. Prior to my relationship with my partner who’s a man, I was with a woman for five years. My partner and I got together knowing I’m bisexual and have never had a problem. I’m very “straight passing” meaning that people just assume I’m straight when I’m not. The only times this bother me is when people question my sexuality because I’m currently dating a man. That being said, my partner’s mother is very skeptical of my past and said I was just in a “very long phase”. She sometimes gives me comments like, “See, this is why women need men in their lives” or “I’m happy you straightened out”. I usually ignore them or tell her it’s impolite and leave it.
A few months ago my friend gifted me a cute pride pin. I normally don’t wear pins but I really liked the design and thought it’d be super cute on my shoulder bag. It’s MONTHS since I’ve last thought about the pin.
Well last week, I went over my p... keep reading on reddit ➡
We have enough pasta and basmati rice to see is through and neither of us are fussy eaters. Please help
Me and my bf were discussing dreams and how we'd accomplish them. His dreams were typical dude stuff: Drive fast cars, have a mansion and spend the money on useless shit.
I said that I'd probably not change any aspect of my life except my job. My dream is to have a fuckton of money but still be me, you know. So I'd keep the cash, start working from 9 to 1 instead of 8 to 6 and pay off my loan. Maybe I'd sell my car for a new one - something fancy like a mini Cabrio. But that'd be it. No one would know because I'd keep it to myself.
This enraged my bf, he started saying that I wouldn't love him if I wouldn't give him at least 30% of the money and that I'm selfish. Here's the thing so: My boyfriend is in debt big time because he can't control his impulses.
So am I the asshole in this case?
I was browsing the PoE Twitch directory and noticed the streamer "PathofMatth" was conducting a HH giveaway. I remember a few years a streamer got a warning about giveaways, so I was curious to see how PathofMatth conducts his giveaways.
Here's the thread from a few years ago. Tldr: giveaways within your community are strictly disallowed and are considered by GGG to be RMT.
This is how PathofMatth goes about it:
Choose a global channel so high (794) that no one will be in it.
Get his community to join that channel.
Get them to choose a random number.
Pick a random number and give it to the first person who chose that number.
The giveaway is obviously intended to be 100% exclusive to his community. There is no realistic way a member outside his community would part... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR: Just had a miscarriage. Partner left me the morning after to go mushroom picking. Said it was my fault that I hadn’t asked him to stay. Now, he wants to go with me for the follow-up clinical visit. AITA for not wanting him to be involved in the follow-up visits.
I just had a miscarriage.
Thankfully I am medically fine based on my clinical visits. I have one follow-up visit to ensure that there are no complications. My partner was there during the 1st visit that’s when I found out that it was a miscarriage. There were associated pains physically on the day it happened and I honestly thought it was just post-workout pain because I have been playing badminton the day before. All in all it was a shocking and tiring day physically and mentally and I was glad he was there all throughout.
What I couldn’t wrap my head around was that the very next morning he told me that he wants to go mushroom picking with people from his work because he said “ it could be fun”. He left me, to go... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was in third grade, my parents separated. As a then 8 year old, I didn’t handle it well. They seemed so happy, and I didn’t know what happened. I had so many meltdowns begging for them to get back together so we could be a happy family again.
Fast forward a couple of years. My mom has a new girlfriend. I was ten, and I was a little shit. I still couldn’t come to terms with my parents’ separation, and now I had been hit with my mom’s sexuality.
Around the time my mom and her girlfriend got together, Mean Girls had come out and was at its peak. I asked my mom’s girlfriend, who was genuinely making an effort, why she was so obsessed with me and said that I didn’t want to be a lesbian with her and my mom.
Although I’ve since apologized and matured over the years (I’m now 26), I can tell that my mom’s now wife is still hurt by my words. I wasn’t at the wedding because of how my past self was.
Well, life has a way of being funny. I discovered that I’m bisexual and polyamorous.... keep reading on reddit ➡
He understands that my mind is a constant hurricane. Understands that my messiness isn’t due to laziness or for lack of trying to be tidy. Comforts and helps me when i get frustrated with myself for not being able to find my hairbrush (for the 8th time that day) because I left it on top of the microwave, in the cupboard, etc etc etc. Doesn’t mind driving all the time because it’s safer for us. Reminds me to call friends and family back and on their birthdays / holidays. Treats me with politeness and care when I ask the same questions over and over. Understands that I try my best and still sometimes suffer.
TLDR: partner is amazing and is the key to feeling like I can live with what goes on in my brain. 10/10 would recommend this strategy when choosing a lifelong mate.
Edit 2: holy cow, so much love! I’m making my way to the responses. This community is so helpful ❤️
I've had a very tumultuous 2 year relationship with my GF. We've had a lot of highs and lows but I've always been patient and tried my best to make it work, no matter what.
During an argument with her, her son made a comment that had me thinking she isn't being faithful. She's also been acting very weird and distant. So I decided to find out once and for all. I bought a hidden audio recorder, stayed the night at her apartment, left for work in the morning and left the recorder on a dresser. The recorder has a battery life of like 14 hours.
The first day she was going to have an old friend over. She told me in advance this would happen. My GF has basically adopted her cousin's 5 year old girl because both of the parents are on drugs and cannot care for it. So she allowed the father to come over and visit his child he hasn't seen in forever. They play and chat for a while, that's it, nothing else.
So I was pleasantly surprised and felt reassured in our relationship by the findings on... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife(F, 33) and I(M, 32) have had an open relationship for 8 years. Up until this week, I'd have said we were an exemplar of what a happy, healthy open relationship should look like.
The only hitch in our sex life has been that she's really into rape/domination fantasies, which I was initially extremely uncomfortable with. We've eased into it, to the point that I'm comfortable with it and will do it for her pleasure, even though it doesn't really do anything for me.
The one exception is her choking fetish. She's repeatedly encouraged me to choke her(Google erotic asphyxiation if you're not familiar). But I just can't. She first brought it up 2 years ago, and I've tried many times in the hope that I could ease myself into it like I did with her rape fantasies, but I just bear to see my hands around her neck choking her. The one time I pushed on through I broke down crying afterwards and she apologized for pressuring me and hasn't asked since.
I suppose I should have realized that... keep reading on reddit ➡
There's a debate in r/AmItheAsshole because a man found out that his wife (who was previously in an abusive relationship) had been squirreling away 10% of her income for the past 4 years. I keep reading about women who save money and have some kind of Fuck Off account so they can get out of an abusive relationship if they need to. I guess I'm just wondering how many women actually do this?
For the women who do keep a separate account from their partners, is it secret or do they know?
The partnership announcement was made about 1.5 hour ago, and Riot Games talks about being "excited" for a partnership with a city that "will be the home and workplace for more than a million citizens from around the world who want to be part of building a new model for sustainable living, working, and prospering in Saudi Arabia."
This announcement was then posted on the official LEC account, which resulted in people either being outraged or mocking those who are outraged (as you would expect), and was then [posted to the r/leagueoflegends subreddit](https... keep reading on reddit ➡
I just got into cycling this year (road and MTB) and consider myself definitely fitter than your average woman, but still very much a biking newbie and slow especially on hills. I am starting to see a guy who is a super fit endurance athlete and can add 2,000 ft gain to any trip I do in the same amount of time. I wondered: people who are super fit, how do you truly feel about going out riding with your partners who are beginners/less fit (but still enthusiastic)?
A relationships post hit r/all . They didn’t want kids. She is pregnant. Now she wants to keep it and he does not.
Poster is the He, and he mentions that he thought the were both using protection, but maybe she was not. And he thought they had both not wanted kids, but apparently she was lying or changed her mind.
Dear people: birth control fails. It fails, it fails, it fails. If you are having sex, you should assume a pregnancy could potentially occur.
I’ll guess I’ll give you a pass if you’re sleeping with someone of the same biological gender where a pregnancy is scientifically impossible. But otherwise, no. So many stupid reddit posts of “I thought she was on the pill”, “but she has PCOS”, “I thought they were infertile”. Birth. Control. Fucking. Fails. Even sterilization has a failure rate. Know this, accept this, embrace this.
And some people who don’t otherwise want children, would not want to have an abortion or give an unplanned pregnancy up for adoption. This doesn’t mak... keep reading on reddit ➡
Last night my partner said he was frustrated we weren’t being intimate anymore and that he doesn’t want to have to masturbate 2 times a day. When we first started dating he was really fit. Now that we are coming up on the 2 year mark he has let himself go growing a belly that hangs over his pant and moobs. I don’t enjoy performing Oral sex when my forehead hits his belly or I look up and see his belly and man boobs. I know this is very very shallow of me to admit. I don’t body shame anyone and I’m not a bully. I do not know what to tell my partner or if I should say anything at all. I have encouraged him to get active and he bought some new resistant bands. I love him a lot I just don’t know what to do. I just don’t get horny when he isn’t leading a healthy active lifestyle.
UPDATE Thank you for everyone’s comments, advice and opinions! I am at work so it’s taking me a little while to read through everything. I would like to point out to the people saying “ OP you are shallow” ... I... keep reading on reddit ➡
Simply put, if your partner says, "I think I'm getting fat", don't say, "That's not true! You're just seeing things!". Instead, work on reinforcing the opposite, like random compliments like "You're looking so slim today. Have you been working out?" It's a basic rule that people don't usually follow. Invalidating your partner doesn't just not ease their mind, but it makes them trust you less. This applies for more serious insecurities, it's just really easy to explain with this example.
The amount of women out there that believe that they can smooth things over by offering sex or that it's the way to show their male partners affection is really sad.
In my opinion, it just reinforces the false belief that the only thing men want is sex. Men should be shown affection in other ways; we are people too and not sex-crazed maniacs.
My current partner gives me forplay. And I can tell my current partner no without ramifications. He doesn't hurt me. Its not scary, or demeaning (unless we mutually agree on degregation beforehand!)
As such, my vagina really opens up for him. With my ex it was so tight always. It was painful and horrible, but he loved it. Like having sex with a Virgin.
Not just that, but I gave ex blowjobs CONSTANTLY to try and discourage him from having sex with me, and i just cant keep that momemtum up now that there is no threat involved for me. I give him my current partner one maybe every other day at most. So I know i could do better with that. But I cant help that my vagina is more open and not super tight anymore.
Anyways, is it weird that I feel guilty that I will never be able to provide as much physical pleasure for my partner as I did for my ex?
There is no greater satisfaction from hearing someone tell you they love you. I tell my husband that I love him whenever I can and I often ask how come he doesn't tell me he loves me, and his response is always "but you know I love you, so I don't need to tell you", it brakes my heart and by the looks of it this is not going to change even tho I told him plenty of times that I would love to hear it. He grew up in a family where they don't show affection and grow up in a family where affection and saying I love you is very important. So yeah, if you love someone tell them because that could make their day.
Yesterday I got to marry my 2's partner and best friend! And I owe it all to Rocket League and a Discord server called MiddleAgeNoobs. Crazy right??!!! Well here's how it all went down.....
You know they say you can have love at first site, well on October 3rd 2018 I experienced Octane at first site, and damn was it the most amazing Octane I had ever seen! It was just a typical night hangin out with the fellow noobs in a private match in the MAN (MiddleAgeNoobs) server, and then Azzy jumped in and dazzled us all with his twirls and air dribbles, and it was on!! He even ended up changing his steam name to match mine, and we pretended to be husband and wife for the night, and damn was I smitten. I wish I could say that we fell in love that night and became a thing right then and there, but we all know that's not how life works :/
Incoming!....My apologies fo... keep reading on reddit ➡