Edited to add: This was intended to be sarcastic . No one should call other people "crazy" -- it's an ableist and pejorative term.
A few years ago, I saw a post on Reddit that completely changed my life. It was a story about a woman completing her degree while working full-time and praising her boyfriend for everything he was doing to make that process easier for her: cooking, cleaning, writing words of encouragement on her mirror, putting together little celebrations for each accomplishment she had, etc.
I read that post over and over again... do great guys like this really exist? Didn’t seem real. I was completing my degree then and living with an abusive man who made every day absolutely miserable. I’ve seen nothing but examples of women settling for terrible men my whole life. From my mom’s relationship with my dad, then her even worse relationship with my step-dad, to the few guys I dated before living with that abusive man... they were all terrible. Cheating, name-calling, physical abuse - I was under the impression that that was just part of the package of being with someone. I remember the first time my ex cheated and I told a bunch of my coworkers looking for support, and surprisingly, they all had similar stories of their partners doing the same thing. They told me things like: “You can’t really blame him, it’s just part of a guy’s DNA” “This will just make you two stronger in the end” “What did you do to make him cheat on you?”
I couldn’t believe the prevalence of this - was this just the side of relationships no one talked about? Is this how all guys are? Did these perfect relationships only exist on TV? I kept hanging on to that post though... I read it over and over again. It sounds silly, but it was my connection to hope.
I ended up leaving that abusive man a couple of months later. The final straw was when he punched me in the face because I didn’t get him the correct dipping sauce for his fries... yep. My family and friends were supportive, but I literally heard comments like “but you guys were together so long, you’re just going to give up?! That’s sad” “You should have at least had a kid with him because now you’ll probably never find someone in time.” “I chose to stay with my husband after he cheated and it transformed our whole relationship”
Did I make the wrong decision? Should I have tried to stay? Did I just give up on an 8 year relationship and now I’ll be alone forever? Or be with another guy who acts just like this? Maybe the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
I was wrong - it is so much gr... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've been in love with my best friend for a while now, but lately we've been much closer, with the "I love you"s and whatnot. He loves me despite my faults (I have a psychotic disorder that makes me a big difficult to handle), along with being so accepting and supportive of everything I do. I love him so much. I hope the world looks at us and sees us as two men who are not only in love, but best friends as well. I really hope I'm as supportive of him as he is of me. I try, but I worry sometimes that it isn't enough. Anyways. Just wanted to say that. I have no-one else I can tell.
I would sit in class and dread when they would say this, especially in a class where I didn’t have any friends. I would feel even worse when everyone else in the class would beg the teacher to let us choose our partners and I’d always secretly hope they’d pick for us.
I understand that it gets people working together and everything, but I always preferred when the teacher would choose the groups for us. That way me or no one else had to deal with the embarrassment of the teacher asking the whole class “WHO STILL DOESN’T HAVE A PARTNER?”
Breaking students into groups this way really promotes exclusion and embarrassment in the classroom. When broken into groups for assignments, groups should always be formed by the instructor.
How are you supposed to do your best on an assignment in school when you were just publicly not chosen by anyone in the class?
I’m not antisocial or anything and I think society has become way too sensitive, but I think this is an exception. Especially in a class with an odd number of people, you’re just opening the door for someone to feel bad. School is stressful enough as is, we don’t need to add this kind of thing to the mix all the time.
I know people of all shapes and sizes have sex, but it boggles my mind how people work up the confidence to be vulnerable in that way. It seems like it'd be easier for people with conventionally attractive bodies, but insecurity isn't always rational.
The thought of being vulnerable like that with a guy I really like and am attracted to is terrifying. I worry that my body either wouldn't be attractive enough for him, or that he'd fake being more attracted than he is. ('He' is just hypothetical right now, covid's a thing.)
My body's not very unusual in any way, I just struggle to find it attractive oftentimes.
Edit: thank you all for your perspectives! It's great to be able to hear so many different thoughts on this. I'm working on reading every comment. Hopefully this is helpful to others, too!
I've been to McDonald's 3 times for 2 cups of coffee each time. I'm not allowed in until the Dr says so she's not having major contractions yet and I've been here for 5 hours so far in the car on my own excited, but getting sleepy.
My bedtime is usually 9pm I know I'm weak, have some conversation and keep me awake please reddit.
Edit: false alarm sorry, apparently she's coming home, the doctor says nothing is happening we think he's wrong but he's the expert so let's see. We'll get some rest, she's still in pain and they haven't removed the stitch or anything 😬
Edit 2: we're at home, managed to get her to sleep, I think the doc is right but now I'm on a coffee high, I'll update again if anything changes but goodnight reddit take care I'm going to try force myself to sleep!
Title + do they carry this behavior into the relationship in other ways and how do you reconcile that divide?
Do they cook, clean, and/or do other thoughtful things and the mask thing is the anomaly, or is it pervasive?
I have a very simple, but important question. Please upvote so this gets maximum visibility.
WHO ARE THE PARTNERS OF CEDE & Co.?
CEDE &amp; Co. is a partnership of people, not a corporation or a government facility. CEDE &amp; Co. owns all stock. That’ right! You think you own your stock? Wrong! You just buy a claim. But they continue to own the certificates. The CEDE &amp; Co. also owns the DTCC, which basically runs Wall Street. DTCC is the technical administrator and effectively does not allow the SEC to get transparent insight into their servers.
I want to know: Who are the partners of CEDE & Co.? What are the names of these people? How come they are not “famous”?
I think the answer to this question will lead us straight into the rabbit hole.
Thank you all for harvesting through the web. If someone can archive this and PM me the link in case they try to delete it from the web, that would be great!
CEDE &amp; Co. is worth $500 trillion. Divide this by 70 million shares, so each share is worth up to...
Me: Hi, I would like to get my stock registered in my name instead of CEDE &amp; Co.
... I will make a new post with the chat protocol!
I’ll start it off. I dated this girl for a while and then we meet up one day and she says that she want to break up I was confused because I gave her all my love and attention so I asked “why?” She said because I’m to nice. That shit just hit really hard even though it was stupid.
Edit: wow wasn’t expecting this to blow up like it did. To everyone who’s giving advice or say to stop being a nice a i guy that’s just who I am and to the people who think that I was “smothering her” what I meant by being nice was that I would care for her too much I guess. Anyway this was a long time ago so I’m good and to the people sharing I wanna thank you as well.
I realize how vile the title of this post is but I’ve finally “seen the light” and realized how toxic he is. I posted about a month ago about him giving me an ultimatum between him/our life/our home or my baby. I was a bit defensive and bothered by people mentioning that he didn’t want the baby which I thought was completely wrong.
He allowed me to take off work after my second miscarriage so I could dedicate everything to having a full term pregnancy/healthy baby. I put all my money into a “baby trust” and he started dedicating a percentage of his pay into it.
He used that smoke and mirror to attach the savings to his bank account so that his pay deposited directly. I thought him supporting me was so sweet when in reality he was doing everything he could to make me completely dependent on him, alienating me from friends/co workers, and made sure I wasn’t working so I wouldn’t be able to support myself, have any independence or back up plans. He didn’t want a baby and never did. It was just a tool he used to have complete control.
I tried giving him time to process, tried staying in the spare bedroom for privacy but he told me if I shut another door in his house he will take it off the hinges. I can’t help but compare his reaction to the Shannan Watts case. I no longer felt safe, I had a gut feeling that I needed to leave. The “baby trust” was bullshit and it’s in his bank account so I can’t withdraw it because we aren’t married and it’s not a joint account.
I’m now hitchhiking from Seattle to Maine where I have a room at my only friends home. While she can’t help me financially get to her she will be letting me live rent free for 6 months so I can save for my own place which is so much more valuable.
I didn't have a mom growing up so I’ll be enrolling in parenting classes once settled. I’m devastated that I wasted years of my life being controlled and gaslighted, I might be down now but I won’t be for long.
edit: I'm trying to respond to everyone but I'm seeing a lot of removed comments so I'm unable to read/comment. Thank you all for being supportive and sharing your stories, it's given me a lot of peace with my decision.
During my last relationship, my partner kind of out of nowhere gave me a call and told me that she had done some thinking, and she was a lesbian. Oddly enough she didn’t break up with me at that point, but that was certainly the beginning of the end. The breakup was rough and bad because I really loved her but clearly she didn’t love me back, and now we have broken off contact. She is now happily dating another woman and is fully out as a lesbian. I’m happy that she can live her truth, but I cant help but get, like... a complex, telling myself that I must have just been such an awful man to turn her off men forever.
Has anyone else experienced this? I feel really awful and alone with this experience, but I know I can’t be the only one. I am seriously just looking for some other guys to chat with who have had similar experiences.
Fellow vagina havers, how have you approached this in the past? What were the reactions you got from different approaches if you’ve tried more than one? What’s your best or favorite way of going about it?
Lovers of vagina havers, how have you been approached about this in the past? Were there ways of approach you appreciated more than others? Why is that?
I’m 24F and queer and if I have a potential sexual partner whose preference is to not give oral then we’re not compatible.
For a long time I was ashamed of this, thinking that a partner’s preference to not want to give oral was okay (which it is) but that my preferences weren’t okay. I’m glad I’m finally comfortable with the knowledge that both are perfectly fine.
After realising this I’ve had mixed encounters, and I’m uncomfortable with how many times I’ve been misled into thinking someone was up for it, only to find out they just said that so they could get laid.
So how do I improve my approach for when the world has returned to normal?
Edit: Thank you all so much for being part of a great and welcoming community! I was really down today with the lockdown blues and I thought I’d venture out and try to get some conversation going and boy did it ever get going.
There’s some really great comments underneath by some really helpful and insightful people that I 100% recommend checking out if this post interested you! I hope everyone who contributed and continues to contribute is enjoying their day and if not then I hope your weekend brightens things up. Much love and great sex to all of you!
I'm scared. I'm nervous. I'm watching the dips. I'm right here with all of you.
I think it's important that we trust each other. We are partners. I'm not giving financial advice. I'm telling it like it is. We are "MEMBERS".
Hold the line. Trust that there are people out there who aren't trying to beat you to the punch. I'm holding. I want this thing to go to $1. I want it to go to $10. I want it to go to $1000.
LET'S STAND TOGETHER. We can do this. We can make history. This week has been like nothing anybody has ever seen. But we have power here.
I want to marry my girlfriend. I want a ring. I'm 23 and I want a better life for my family and for the people that I care about.
God bless you guys. Wishing you wealth.
EDIT 1: As this post gets more and more upvotes, the question I want to ask is this: "How can we create a sense of community with one another? How can we build trust? If we can build a sense of trust that's an imperative of the "brand" itself, we can move mountains together.
EDIT 2: I think positivity and trust is the key. I know that sounds cringe, but I'm WSB has taught us we are powerful. If we can figure out how to operate like a business, we can do what Wall Street has always done.
EDIT 3: PLEASE let me know what you think. I’m trying to learn. We may be onto something real...but who knows? https://www.reddit.com/r/dogecoin/comments/l7fm0g/32k_wall_street_bets_taught_us_that_if_we_trust/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY IDEA HOW WE CAN MAKE THIS HAPPEN?
Wishing everyone out there the best. You guys are helping me change my life. And I'm here with you. God bless and Godspeed.
This is both blatant market manipulation and morally abhorrent. WSB should bring a gofundme to crowdsource funding for a class action lawsuit against Citadel, calling for market makers to be permanently banned from having a vested interest in any one company or stock.
me & my partner have recently had a new baby girl, last night he got extremely drunk & started telling me the baby is getting on his nerves & that he doesn’t get enough sleep etc. I look after baby all day whilst he works & when he comes home he does help but he goes to bed every night at 11/11:30pm and I don’t disturb him. I stay up some nights until half 3 and I wake up at 8/9am every morning...I don’t know what else I can do. He told me he doesn’t want to be a step dad to my older daughter & that this life isn’t for him & that he wants to work more & be less tired! He told me he deserves to get drunk every weekend due to him working all week he packed some of his stuff & left home :( I’m unsure of where he went but his mother messaged me this morning saying he got in at 5am...what should I do, because this keeps happening every few months he does this to me & I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells and worried that he will up & leave me again :( it makes me very anxious when he drinks because I know it will most likely result in him running away again.
For background, I (28M), have been working in investment banking for the last six years in a bulge bracket bank in New York. I am not an American citizen by birth, but I have been in the country for a decade, while my partner is an American citizen by birth.
I just recently completed the naturalization process not too long ago, and decided to purchase a new apartment in my own name as a sort of "completion gift" to myself. I managed to pay 80% of the cost up front due to one of my deferred compensation plans paying out recently, and I would be paying off the remainder over the next three years.
Me and my partner have split finances, so this financial obligation really only affects me. She found out about it not too long ago when I received a few documents in the mail and left on my desk. For reference, I have already moved in to my new place which she has been aware of.
After finding out, she got angry at me for not consulting her about my choice to purchase my own place. AITA?
I am currently a university student. All classes are being delivered online due to the pandemic and as such we log into Microsoft teams to participate in our lessons.
I logged in this morning for a group tutorial, all was well. Then I had a 30 minute break before my next class. Statistics this time round. In this 30 minute break my gf decided we should participate in some extra curricular activities if you know what I mean. So wham bam we got it on. Time was against us and whilst I managed to achieve the intended result she was somewhat lacking. Had time been on my side, and I was a better lover, I would have facilitated the equal achievement for my partner. However as previously stated I was required to study some statistics.
The lecture started and my partner continued next to me in the bed while I some what distracted tried to continue my studies. She achieved a spectacular orgasm with the full on porn sound effects, fantastic.
My lecturer tried to stifle a laugh. Then to my horror I saw I was not muted. Fuck. I think it was unmuted when I made the teams window fullscreen.
We valiantly carried on as if nothing had happened and my WhatsApp group exploded with comments. This has gone well.
On the bright side the lecture is recorded so I can relive my moment of shame at my leisure. Fuck stats.
Managed to unmute my mic whilst my partner orgasmed loudly next to me. In an online class.
Edit: I have reviewed the class. Whilst it's hilarious I cannot post the video, or audio, without seriously breaching the uni social media policies. You can clearly hear other students and the lecturer's voices and its not on to broadcast that. I have broadcast quite enough.