So my friend (36M) was telling me (34F) about one of his biggest adolescence traumas. He was in love with his best friend, a girl, and she never reciprocated. That's the trauma. I pointed out that maybe she was afraid he'd never talk to her again if she said definitely no, or maybe she was oblivious because she had a boyfriend, or simply she considered him like a friend only, after all they were best friends. I also told him he could have walked out on this relationship. He flipped out and left after telling me I always side with women (I'm a feminist but I think I can be fair. I never sided with his ex for exemple). He was verbally harsh when he left, but I did minimize his trauma. What bothered me is that I feel like he thought she owed him something. Sorry for the weird text, I'm not an English native. Am I the asshole here ?
TLDR - Idpol, economic and political anxiety, and atomization make you hate women
I feel like, at least here, misogyny is becoming more of a hatred of women than a belief that they are inferior.
So, for context, I'm a 19 year old Zulu male who lives in Durban, KwaZulu-Natal (South Africa). As I'm sure you are probably aware, our country has a shit ton of problems including poverty, crime, and AIDS, and social inequality.
This is on top our rape epidemic. Obviously rape is something that happens mostly to women and I guess you could call it a women's issue, but there is also a lot of male rape. I know it's cliché to talk about, especially on reddit, but it legitimately feels like a sizeable amount men, at least the ones in Durban, have been raped.
This has been a problem because ZA has been taking a very gendered approach to stopping sexual assault, which has left a lot of male rape victims out of the picture. Groups like the UN have also mostly ignored them, and I know some feminist organization have even lobbied to revert changes to the rape law that were added in the 2000s that protected male rape victims (but it's a very small group).
It seems like idpol is more concerned about helping your own tribe than actually fixing the problem. We know that many rapists and abusers have been abused themselves, so even if people legitimately didn't care about men
This has also compounded by the fact that a lot of initiatives seem to be focused on violence against women. I personally don't mind this so much, I believe all people deserve to be safe and women are people, but I think it does piss off a lot of men (perhaps rightfully).
There is huge levels of social inequality in this country, and that all deserves its own post, but it has certainly played a role in creating gender divides and further making the situation worse. There have also been an increase in gender specific programs for reducing inequality, they aren't super common but do exist and serve as excellent ways of alienating people.
All of this, mixed social isolation and atomization, has created a serious (and undue) resentment of women.
It feel like it isn't that a lot of young men think women are inferior, I think they think women are equal and feel jealous of the privileges they have. I think it partially comes from a desire to want to be protected is a country where violence and crime runs high.
Obviously there is a lot of blame to be thrown and you could argue that these men need to g... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi pls don’t downvote me for this I’m just here to share my 2cents and correct me if I’m wrong because not all information I have in hand is 100% accurate
We all know CLC hasn’t been doing great in terms of album sales like the highest sales they have is 18000+ which was quite shocking for me because for some reason I always have the thought that CLC album sales will be around 20000+ to 40000+ because Cheshires keep over hyping them. It seems like most international Cheshires dont want to put their money on their faves and they are all talks. (This doesn’t just apply to Cheshires, no shade but a lot of 4th gen girl crush groups stans think views> album sales🤭 but Cheshire is the most severe)
Cheshires also kinda have a bad reputation among Neverlands because they think Cube Ent favours Gidle more than CLC. Gidle has blown up and their popularity has soared in Korea after Queendom. Cube Ent gives them better promotion afterwards and I don’t blame Cube for doing that because Gidle brings in way more revenues than CLC. Their “I trust” album has a total album sales of 140k+ which is very impressive. All Cheshires do is complain, if they spend actually money on their albums,stream more, vote and promote CLC I’m sure CLC would stand a better chance in winning music shows. CLC really lack a core fanbase domestically as well as internationally who will invest their 💰 on them. I’m not putting 100% blame on Cheshires because CLC doesn’t really have the right timing and luck to breakthrough and as well as Cube’s mismanagement and of course their constant change in concepts made K-neitzens lose interest in them. I feel bad for CLC members I think it would be best if they depart their own ways because CLC is a mess right now after Elkie left. I don’t think continuing as a group will help unless most Cheshires decided to make a big change and do their best as their fans to stream,promote,vote and buy their goddamn albums instead of resenting other ggs for their successes.
A public requires citizens who pay attention and get involved with the government. Is bad civic participation part of the reason the us government is shitty?
So I finally got my hands on a second hand copy of BSG the base board game. I personally have seen the game been played on YouTube Multiple Times but I am planning on (for a first game at least) playing it with two others. So my question is:
Are there things to do for the first game to better understand it? Should the first game be without a cylon for example? Or any other things to know?
And what would you guys recommend for a three player game in general? Could also be future “house rules” to make it more fun for three players for example
Really excited and can’t wait to finally play it after searching for it for months !
Thanks for every comment in advance :)
Just a quick Public Service Announcement that the new PSYK ETF has a 4.85% of their holdings in Johnson & Johnson, which had to pay over half a billion dollars in a landmark court ruling that found they were partly responsible for the opioid epidemic. This is an evil company, and personally I don't want to be investing in them. I will stay away from PSYK.
most of the big reasons why I'm anorexic are pretty clear to me, but I avoid talking about the fact that my fear of being sexualised is fuel for my ed.
I don't even know why I feel like this tho. I don't know if I'm asexual, I think I am but I'm open to changing that label in the future. I am not a victim of sexual trauma, I just don't want to be viewed by anyone sexually. I still feel like a child.
I don't even like bending over out of fear of any implied sexual undertones. it just makes me so uncomfortable.
I have a very flat chest and the thought of getting bigger boobs if i gain weight disgusts me. the same goes for hips.
the only thing I can think of that has triggered this is the fact that when I was about 9 or 10 I started getting boobs before most other girls in my class and I used to get made fun of for it. and being fake asked out as a joke multiple times.
I just think I'm so ugly and disgusting that thinking someone could be genuinely attracted to me is unbelievable. I cant even comprehend that.
I dont really know where I'm going with this, just a rant I guess. this subject makes me so uncomfortable I have not even told my therapist this.
I know problems with Zephyrs are a dime a dozen but I've never had such an egregious case of Zephyrs providing less than perfect cards.
Mass dispel would've been lethal here with none of my minions having attacked yet, but it wasn't offered: https://imgur.com/a/IMFI4NO
Fairly sure this is a straight up bug, thought I'd post so it can get some attention.
In the strangest way possible I feel partly responsible for this disaster.
I was browsing /pol/ the night Q posted first (I used to treat it like a zoo full of disgusting animals) and I laughed it off as another kid trying to start the next epic 4chan maymay. I thought it would die on page 10 with people telling OP to kill himself. Unironically if I had just spammed hentai and killed the thread we might not be in this mess. For once I could have shitposted and probably saved relationships and heartbreak. Also, one hundred percent guarantee you the original Qanon was just that; some dumb kid. Watkins just picked it up later to promote his dead Chan. Poor bastard didn't see this coming but he's the best shitposter of all time.
In Alex’s divorce episode, she said suitman wanted to start a podcast company. Suitman left hbo in august with no mention of what he is doing now. Sofia launches sloot media shortly after. He helped her get started.
I know people think it’s milf hunter, but she went to that hella expensive resort in Arizona (where celebrities go, 5k a night) milf hunter can’t afford that. However, Suitman most definitely can.
Shes nervous to announce because of how much shit he got for it from barstools and fans. She’s worried people will bash her for it.
Edit: please note that I use China as an example here. I’m not saying that similar situations don’t or didn’t exist in other countries. Of course they do.
Basically the title.
Of course, as a regular citizen, it is extremely hard to see through the propaganda of one’s own government. Especially without other sources (30s and 40s Germany) and with the internet and other media completely controlled by the regime.
But still, German citizens of that period of time are often held (partly) responsible for what happened back then, because most people didn’t speak up against Hitler and his party when speaking up was still possible.
If we believe they ARE responsible, then so are Chinese citizens today/ the past decades.
Yes, there was censorship before Xi Jinping‘s time as General Secretary, but much less than today. It was possible to notice the change, and therefore possible to speak up.
I’m NOT saying that it wouldn’t have been dangerous to speak up against the Chinese government, I don’t even know if I would’ve done it if I was in that situation.
All I’m doing is comparing the two cases, Nazi Germany and China, and coming to the conclusion that IF we judge German citizens, we have to judge Chinese citizens too.
I’d be happy to hear your opinions, and please tell me if I’m missing something important here.
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Tried dual-booting (win10+debian10) and setting its flag as "home" with "do not format" checked. Among the traceback , the errors are "problem loading UEF: db X.509 certificate (-65)" , "failed to mount /home" , "dependency failed for local file systems" , "failed to start raise network interfaces".
I set up /root the same way I did it in the past when it worked (it was an empty SSD though).
Listening to the Everything Iconic podcast where Meredith is being interviewed by Danny. They talk about their love of Chicago and she says ~20 min mark that her and her husband sold their Chicago home recently because they weren’t spending time there due to the pandemic “and the rioting going on there.”
Interesting choice of words...
It has been freezing for days now, which is unusual here. Just couldn't leave him without doing something.
The flowers were intended as a partial excuse/surprise for having to get up early on Sunday. I'm organising something for a local committee/club. Of course forgot to tell her: she's gotten aware when the local baker told her last week he was ready for Sunday. (Good chap btw: he's taken 2 weeks off... and does a nightshift in the middle of his holiday-at-home to bake for us.)