Edit: This art installation might help some to understand how color is reflected, and more specifically how that color must be present in the illumination source in order for us to see it. Anything in the room that is not yellow appears to be in black and white.
My dad married my stepmom when I (M19) was 16 and since then she has a habit of asking me to do favors for other people. She’s kind of a people pleaser so if a neighbor or her friends mentioned needing help with something she’d say either me or my dad will do it without even asking us. Which was always super annoying because it’s like I had no choice now because she already told them I would help.
I moved out when I was 18 and my college is a 16hr drive away so I rarely get to see my dad. I would sometimes on holidays or some weekends depending if I was spending it with my mom or not.
And literally everytime I’m here the first thing she does is ask if I can help out so-and-so with some house stuff because they just had surgery or asking if I could give one of her friends a ride since they don’t have a car.
This is always an issue and I’ve started telling her to stop telling people I’ll help out when that’s not why I’m there. My stepmom always apologizes but then she does it again. My dad gets annoyed too but he just goes with it.
I barely saw my dad at all last year and this last weekend was the first time I got to come visit in like 9 months. I got there Thursday night and on Friday she was talking with her sister on the phone. I guess she just bought a house and was talking about painting the rooms before moving in.
I heard my stepmom in the living room say “Oh hey maybe Tyler can come over to help you paint.” I was shaking my head no at her but she just kept talking.
When she hung up I told her I’m not helping and she didn’t even ask me. My stepmom says I have to now because she just told her sister I will. But I said I’m here to spend time with my dad not spend a whole Saturday doing someone else favors.
This was gonna be our first time together in months and I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible. Especially since i was leaving Sunday.
Where I feel like I’m TA: She said if I didn’t wanna help then to call her sister and tell her. I got mad at told her to call herself because she’s the one who should look bad, not me. That’s what my stepmom ended up doing and she was pissed the rest of the weekend.
She said I made her look bad and it really wouldn’t have killed me to do her sister a simple favor because it’s not like I had something else important to do.
My dad is already used to her being this way so he thinks I should’ve called her sister because I should already know my stepmom hates looking bad in any way. Thats why I’... keep reading on reddit ➡