People stop drinking for a lot of reasons, but often when asked why they suddenly find themselves being questioned, doubted, and that others around them accuse them of judging their own drinking.
If you just say “ok” and move on, you could be preventing a potentially awkward or uncomfortable situation.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and uncomfortably admit that I personally have dealt with suicidal ideation, in addition to several attempts in the past, and sometimes just having someone care and give a crap can be enough to talk you down from that ledge, so to speak.
Too often people dismiss cries for help and ignore those most in need, hocking it up to being dramatic or simply young. I've known well over 30 people who have taken their own lives and the vast majority of those individuals always reached out for help before deciding to end things, but it either wasn't given or taken seriously enough.
Even if it's just a stranger on the internet, offer to help.
Edit: I just wanted to put this out there - if anyone ever needs someone to talk to about any of this stuff, you can always hit me up. I will honestly respond as quickly as I can and will do my best to help you through any problems you're having.
Recently refinanced our home loan (and this happened when we initially closed on the first mortgage). We started receiving junk mail for mortgage insurance and pre-payment programs, which one can do for free just by paying additional principle each month. Luckily each comes with a postage paid return envelope.
So instead of just tossing in the recycle bin, I open up on offer, cut out all identifying information, stuff this and the original envelope in the other companies pre-paid envelope, and send back. Have fun opening up a bunch of junk mail!
Edit - clarity
My brother and sister in law have always struggled financially, and I never really have.
My brother and I had all the same opportunities, he just had an injury that made it much harder for him to work and put him in a lot of medical debt.
I’ve always been able to work, never had serious debt, and don’t have any kids or plan on any. I did pretty well for myself and had more than enough saved to put the kid through college.
So when their kid was very young and they were really stressing out over saving for college, I told them not to worry, I would put their son through undergrad or trade school or whatever he ended up doing.
That was 12 years ago give or take. He’s now a senior in high school and looking at colleges. This year I also got wiped out by the pandemic. I’m unemployed and I don’t know when, or even if, I’ll get a job in my industry again the same as it was.
I’m downsizing in all areas of my life. I’m not broke or starving or anything, but I’m being way more conserva... keep reading on reddit ➡
Something I’ve had to grow out of that has cost me so many opportunities. Growing up with severe social anxiety I found it so hard to accept things people offered me: drinks at their houses, going on outings with people who I think are inviting me out of kindness, money, job opportunities. There is NO shame in saying yes when someone offers something and usually they’re asking because they WANT to help. Help yourself out, you don’t have to do everything on your own
Throwaway due to obvious reasons.
Because of the pandemic, my (52F) three children took my invitation to live with me for a while since the three of them are living separately in the big city where Covid cases are prevalent. It brought me so much excitement because they hardly ever been under one roof for years now. Also I would worry less knowing their with me and our neighborhood have zero cases up to date. They are all wfh so they can easily uproot their work.
My son (23M - Dave) hardly lives with us since he was 16. Dave worked through his college and been working for two years now. Dave is the most reclusive out of all siblings. Smart but have a tendency to lash out and is very stubborn. He and her sister (28F - Daph) are not the closest (more to that later). Their other sister (27F - Lily) isn't too fond of Daph either but she's much more understanding of the situation.
Recently, Daph had a surgery on her abdomen two months ago. She had been a little bit snappy because of th... keep reading on reddit ➡
> hey @Cloud9 we are G2 esports gaming club, a middle of the pack team playing in europe. would you be interested in scrims after carefully watching LCS games we feel very confident that we could offer good practice, even high ping simulating NA reaction times. gib scrims pls
C9 responds with:
> Hey Fabian, Please message our Manager, @C9Vincent, to book scrims. We would love to see have good practice, whether in high ping or not. The team is already excited about the idea. Best, C9
Honestly, I think this can be very very good for C9, but may cause them to to soar above the competition in NA even more so than they are now. However, this could also set some sort of precedent for NA teams to get better practice in the future.
Grabbz responds: https://twitter.com/g2grabbz/status/1280210624178421766?s=21
> hot damn i just made a simple shitpost as per usual... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (22F) got married this February. I wore a custom-made dress from a designer in Russia that cost $800. It was my dream dress and I got so many compliments on it. After the ceremony I had it preserved in a special box and I intend on saving it for a long time, and want to show it to my kids one day.
My mom’s friend’s daughter (32F) is getting married in January 2021. She was supposed to marry in June but it was postponed for obvious reasons. Thus since her new wedding is in winter, her original wedding gown is not suitable as it is strapless and sheer.
My moms friend was talking to my mom about it and my mom said “Let me ask my daughter, her dress is long sleeved and made from a warm material, maybe she can lend it to her.”
My mom told me about it and I said ok, because me and the bride were (at the time) the same size. We’re around the same height (I’m 5’10, she’s 5’8) and were the same general weight.
I agreed to lend my dress to her 4 months ago because it was the height of th... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm just at a loss for words..
Background - I have been with my current employer for 4 years, First promotion in year 2. I wasn't actively seeking a job, but was approached by a head hunter in April for a role in an established company of a similar niche. I got through the interview and they offered me twice my current salary after some negotiation. Had an official employment offer sent to me and everything. It was a huge bump and a good career move, even though it involved a relocation and considerable risk due to COVID.
I did like my current job and company, they have always been supportive of my risk taking and it paid off for them financially. We have great benefits and operate in the glove industry (yes the company is making record profits). I had a good relationship with my superiors and so I personally spoke with my superior about the offer so as to not surprise them with a sudden resignation tender. They immediately negotiated a counter offer (which is on par with my new emp... keep reading on reddit ➡
Dear reptime members,
Hello, I'm Eric from geektime.
We have only been engaged in this industry for a few years. Our international business has just started in the last month, and it is only 24 days before we join reptime. We don't understand many things, but we are studying very hard.
At first, we didn't use bitcoin and transferwise to receive payment, but reptime members were very happy to teach me how to operate and what to pay attention to. What's more interesting is that we are not very clear about many English professional terms, and reptime members are also careful to explain them to me.
I am very happy to meet many friends here, and I am so sorry for the last unsuccessful special offer. However, almost all members understand and support us, and we are very grateful. We hope to make more contributions to the community and members, so today I bring you Raffles and new special offers.
https://preview.redd.it/rwlh97z31fd51.png?width=2400&format=png&auto=web... keep reading on reddit ➡
Got my first job offer at a Fortune 500 company today and I couldn’t be more happy! I applied to endless jobs(200+) and got a few interviews but no offer. I basically felt like I was in a loop going nowhere and had my life on hold.
A little about me: Graduated in May. Although I did not have no previous software internship, I did work at a start-up(5 employees)while I’m school basically working on hardware and manufacturing. It was here that I went out of my way to solve a problem we had and developed a project management tool. This was the project that I can say got me this job. So to those that have no experience, work on project and be sure you can talk about it!
I'm using a throwaway account because my main is connected to our game and its other social media. I've been developing a pretty large sized game for the past year, it's coming along very well and recently a publisher reached out to us after following our twitter account for a couple months.
We've been talking for a few weeks and today they made the official offer to publish our game. I've researched the publisher a lot (not going to name them here) and they've published a few notable games and about 30 other successful but non-mainstream indie titles. It's not like Devolver or IGF or anything but I'm confident that they are the real deal. In addition to their past games, I would be joining two other 'upcoming titles' they have in the works.
(the good -- and this is basically their pitch to me, not purely objective)
They handle all of the marketing and PR for the game, pay for advertising, supply promotional art, pay for booths&attendance at trade shows (GDC, Pax, Games... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a marketing executive for a mid sized company and I hire a lot of people.
The number one mistake I see applicants make that is rarely mentioned is choosing a delayed interview date.
For example, we may offer the applicant a few time slots over the next couple days, but the applicant asks if we can do following week instead. Or we may ask if they can hop on a call tomorrow, but they ask if we have time 3 days from now. Maybe because they're busy, can't get off work, or just want more time to prepare.
While I understand the myriad of reasons people ask to delay interviews... even waiting a day or two often costs them the job. ESPECIALLY if its a secondary or followup interview.
Typically how the hiring process works is after initial screenings of resumes and applicants, hiring managers will block off spaces of time when they're available for interviews. Often they'll schedule some back to back in marathon sessions. We may block off slots for 10 qualified, pre-screened applican... keep reading on reddit ➡
I switched companies in July 2019. The HR at my previous firm said that they usually pay out the match only by Jan/Feb of 2020, and I should transfer my 401k only then as it would be beneficial for me to get the match the company provides.
When I emailed her this April 2020 to find out about the status of when the company will match 401k, this is what they said: 401K Retirement plan is a discretionary account which means contributions are not mandatory.
My offer letter when I took up the job in Dec 2017 clearly says that 401k is offered to all eligible employees and company will pay 3% of your annual salary into your 401k plan.
I am at a loss. Is there anything I can do about this? I don't know what discretionary account even means. It was not mentioned anywhere. I just want to get what was promised to me, and move my 401k account to new company.
Edit: thanks so much for the replies! A lot of comments say that I need to be on active payroll to receive the match. When I left the... keep reading on reddit ➡
Long time lurker, decided to create an account. You guys have been absolutely amazing and I CANNOT discuss this with my current friends/family due to the disparity of income.
I am a 37 year old attorney, married, one child, who recently made partner at a profitable firm. When I graduated in 2012 I had 100k+ in student loans and was making peanuts. Since joining this firm, my income has absolutely skyrocketed. Here's what I've made in the past four years before taxes:
For 2020, total compensation will be 1.5 million, including partner distribution.
I have $980,000 in cash/CDs and $300,000 in 401k, and on paper I own $1.5mil in shares of my firm (buyout amount). I would like to follow the index-fund route but do not want to invest yet because I'm terrified of an over-inflated market. Student loans are paid off.
We live in the same house since 2012, which we purchased for $350,000, now worth $500,000. The home... keep reading on reddit ➡