I (25F) just found out my fiancé (28M) has been cheating on me online with a catfish. The kicker is that he is being extorted because his face is in frame of some x rated screen shots. I’m sure he only told me about it because he has being blackmailed and thought I would wake up to the evidence in my dm’s. I read through messages and they had been talking and planning for days. He was trying to arrange calls earlier in the week while he was at work and I was home (working from home, thanks covid). He literally committed the act while I slept in the room next door of our shared home and had offered to do the same thing the next day. He woke me up to tell me because he was getting threats right after he ended the call which has resulted in routine panic attacks when I wake up every morning re-living the situation.
We’ve been together 4.5 years, engaged for 6 months. He’s the only person I’ve ever loved/dated. I’m 99% sure I need to end it and cancel the wedding but I can’t deny still loving him. What do I do? Any advice for processing and moving forward?
Edit: this is my first experience with Reddit and I’m overwhelmed by the support here. Just wanted to thank anyone who’s taking the time to help me out.
Edit ****Thank you for all of the wonderful responses****
Edit - to answer a point about 'contacting his friends'
Someone posted a point about me contacting his friends, and seeing that as hostile. I want to explain my thoughts regarding this:
I made specific contact with a couple of very close friends who have known him for over 30 years. When he had his first breakdown they all told me categorically, that they would do anything to support me and him. So contacting them was really not 'hostile' in any way. I reached out because he needed someone who might be able to remind him of the 'old' days, or ignite a positive memory. So much of what Steve Hassan talks about is the isolation cult members feel. I can't support him very well at the moment, but his friends were happy and grateful that I had contacted them. I am sure this would be different in other cases, but I genuinely believe I did the right thing.
I thought it might be useful to update some of you, about how things have gone since I told him to leave. After 10 years since his first breakdown, and then the following depression, he fell into the conspiracy theory hole about five years ago, maybe longer. At this point he has therapy and medication for depression. We have two children together, and we have been together 15 years.
Trump was suddenly the only thing he talked about around the election in 2017, and HRC was just evil.We tried to carry on, I tried everything, gentle questioning, screaming, crying, shouting, ignoring. Nothing would stop him trying to evangelise his beliefs.
We started therapy this year because I could literally take no more. It seemed to really help, but nothing touched his beliefs.
Finally I told him to leave after he blatantly told my daughter that Covid is a hoax and only designed by the world government to change our DNA. I snapped and that was that.
5 months later he is living in a shared flat, still working 100%, but is completely detached from the life he used to have. I allow him to see the children for a few hours a week, he doesn't ask for more. (So far he hasn't argued at all about money, and is paying for the house here - so I must just clarify that)
To the odd friend he has left, he says that everything is my fault, I am crazy and neurotic and I changed since we had our children and takes literally no responsibility for any of the break-up.
Now he sends me videos of songs he is learning on the guitar. However I know he... keep reading on reddit ➡
Background: I first invested in GME after the 40% drop from $15 soon after the MSFT partnership.
Back then, I stared at the charts literally 24/7.
What'd happen was always the same thing: the price would touch $12-$13 just to be pushed back to $11, $10.5 in the worst case.
GME holders' hopes kept being constantly crashed, usually by 10am short attacks post sick price spike, and by power hour short attacks. In the middle was just a sad looking price movement who just couldn't go up that much.
After forming a double bottom (i.e. a pattern that looks like two saggy tits), the price finally broke out and it climbed out of the $10-$13 limbo in November.
What's happening now is eerily similar: $47-$49 is the new $10 (i.e. the bottom), and if you check the 15M chart you'll see the two biggest boobs you've ever seen in your life. Yes, a massive double bottom is forming. And yes.
On low volume. We're dropping like flies on low volume. Pathetic scare tactic.
Morale of the story: they're using the same scare tactics they were using back in October.
I'm holding with confidence. Q4 ER is gonna be crucial, especially because since Cohen has joined the board he's been dead silence.
I like the stock & I like the dog guy. I hold.
I've been in the crypto space since 2017 but started investing more heavily in 2020. I lost my job in October due to the pandemic and its financial effect on my industry. I decided to buy more ETH because I strongly believed in this project and researched the hell out of it for 3 years, also followed every update religiously. Bought in around $350, and later for sub $600.
I thought I was an idiot buying during a pandemic and a mild financial crisis that affected me and my family so heavily. But no, here we are guys validated for our choice. Feels good man.
The best thing is that this is just the beginning for Ethereum. Stay on board! 🌕