My sister and her husband were sent to prison at the start of this year, and sadly won't be released for a few years. That left me to look after their 15 year old daughter Amy. I was perfectly happy to do this, but as most of their wealth was seized for being "ill gotten", it's meant that I've been having to care for her out of my own pocket. Once again this doesn't bother me, but it's meant massive life changes for the kid.
Firstly, they sent her to a private school. I can't afford anywhere near those fees, so I had to transfer her to a local school. She was upset at this at first, but she quickly made friends and is excelling academically so this isn't a huge problem. She's been off school for the last few months anyway due to the situation.
A bigger problem is clothing. Like my sister Amy loves fashion and designer stuff. She's still got a lot of stuff that her parents got her, but she's always on the lookout for new clothes. Unfortunately, I can't afford anywhere near the sort o... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was 8 my mom passed away and my dad remarried my stepmother when I was 11. My stepmother also had two children of her own Erica (11) and Becky (13). Growing up, Erica and Becky made it clear they didn’t consider me their sister and would continuously exclude me. They also recruited their cousins (from their mother’s side) and I was pretty much ostracized by them too so family events were horrible.
Erica in particular really hated me and I still don’t know why. She would joke about my mom’s death, break my things (including a necklace that passed from my mom to me), would have massive tantrums when my maternal grandparents bought me anything so I was either forced to share or it was confiscated (note: my stepsisters were never expected to share gifts they got from their dad’s family), would “steal” my friends and boyfriends from me.
When we were both 18, Erica ended up pregnant and decided to keep the baby. Our parents gave her both of our college funds to help her with the c... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me (26f) and my partner (26M) are getting married in 11 months, on a Saturday, 3 days after our day is 1 of our nieces birthday, her 6th.
We have 3 nieces, the eldest 2 belong to my future SIL (5 and 3) and the youngest is my brothers daughter (2)
When we booked the date, we were aware that it is close to her bday but we figured because it was not on her day it would be fine.
We have been asked by his sister if we could make our wedding a little bit more special for her. She asked for:
Her to pick out the dresses.
Her to wear a teara (is that spellt correctly? Tea-are-ah) while the other 2 have simple headbands.
Invite 1 school friend.
30 mins to an hour of her music playing.
People to sing happy birthday to her.
We said no to this, we want the flower girl dresses to all look the same and to go with the colour scheme, plus we know that if the other girls see her wear a teara then they will also want one. We do not want some kid at our wedding who is not with their own parents... keep reading on reddit ➡
Backstory: My brother (stupidly) got a girl pregnant when he was 17 and just abandoned the chance at parenthood. He tried to go through college but couldn't (if he finished my parents would only help him get a place to stay and help for a month until he got a job). I think this is enough backstory hopefully.
The real story is the girl he got pregnant from highschool lost custody of my niece (was a alcoholic) and her parents couldn't afford to take care of her. So since my brother's name was on the birth certificate they found him and he didn't want to take her in my parents couldn't afford to take care of her besides to use their retirement money so I offered to take her in. I have a decent job, a fully paid off car and a bit of property (I'm 34). My brother blew up at me the second I said I'm willing to take her in I have absolutely no idea why he got so mad at the moment but after he calmed down I asked why he was so mad. He said that I was trying to steal his child from him and hav... keep reading on reddit ➡
I fucking doomed us all.
There’s obviously a backstory here.
Six months ago, I watched my niece (5) and nephew (7) for five days while my sister and BIL were on vacation. They acted like absolute terrors most of the time. On the third day of them being at my house, we were in the yard swimming. My nephew asked to use the bathroom. My dog was inside, and he locked her in the laundry room because he “thought it would be funny”. My dog is older and has separation anxiety, and the constantly repeated rule at my house is “make sure Bonnie isn’t in the room before you shut the door behind you” - he both knew better and he admitted it wasn’t an accident.
I came in to find an incredibly stressed out dog and a laundry room door and wall that had been scratched to hell. When my sister came back, she didn’t really apologize, but I thought she was just embarrassed. I then forwarded her a quote from a contractor to fix the wall, replace the wallpaper and replace the door. She said she absolutely wasn’t paying that, that... keep reading on reddit ➡
This is kind of a complicated story but I’ll just get into it. I used to be in this controlling, kind of abusive relationship. When I finally broke it off a year ago, my ex started showing up places, trying to get me to take him back. Eventually, it developed into full-on stalking. He would show up at my work (and took to just waiting outside of it after he was banned), leave notes on my car when I was at the grocery store, leave all kinds of flowers outside my house and then stick angry notes on my door after he saw me throw them in the trash, wrote me all kinds of weird, obsessive emails and letters. I’ve had to change my phone number three times. The behavior escalated over time, and got scarier/more threatening. In one instance, he started a small fire in my driveway but the police couldn’t get enough evidence connecting him to it. It was after that instance that I put cameras in my yard (I previously only had them pointing at my doors).
I was horrified to learn that the police co... keep reading on reddit ➡
My niece is 17, and she’s kinda a bitch to her parents especially her mom, my SIL. About 17 years ago my manwhore of a baby brother had an affair with some random woman he worked with. His wife of 5 years forgave him, even after finding out that the woman he was with was pregnant with my brothers baby. Nine months later out pops my niece. Unfortunately, my niece’s mother past way very soon after she was born, so my brother had full custody of her. Unbeknownst to me, they have been telling my niece that she is the biological daughter of my SIL.
A few weeks ago I had a baby boy of my own and have been FaceTiming my brother and SIL regularly to show him off. This week when I FaceTimed my SIL, about 10 minutes in I heard the voice of my niece. She was yelling about some teenage nonsense at an incredible volume. My SIL called her down to her and asked her to quite down. My niece came down and started screaming expletives in my SIL’s face, my SIL, not wanting me to see this, she told me she... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (half-) brother [40M] and I are very close. We grew up in separate homes but both complicated abusive situations. We share a father. As adults we got into contact again and have been inseparable. He’s one of the most important people in my life.
My brother grew up very lower class. I grew up middle class and my maternal grandparents set aside a small college fund for me. The difference this money made in my life vs. my brothers is very measurable.
My niece was born about 2 years ago. When she was born, her grandmother and I set up a bank account which will be handed over when she turns 18. I contribute 25 bucks monthly to the fund and for her birthdays I dropped a couple hundred (with the idea that, right now, gifts make little sense, but when she gets older she’ll probably want a skateboard or a dress or a bike or something, so I might have less money available).
My girlfriend and I started dating a little bit after my niece was born. We’re coming up on our second anniversary.... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m a business owner. My sister in law (my brother’s wife) has always been interested in working for my company, but I never considered her. First, she doesn’t need a job and is the type of person that would not take her work seriously. Secondly she just doesn’t have the right skills needed for my business and I don’t see myself going out of the way to hire her. Also I don’t like her that much for reasons I will not go into.
I was talking to this sister in law a few weeks ago on the phone and she again asked me how my business is doing (she always asks as if my business is just a fun hobby).I just told her that we’re looking to change a few things on our website. Then she says her 19 year old daughter can help with it, she’s learning this stuff in college right now. I politely declined because we are capable of hiring a professional to do it, but my sister in law kept insisting because she wanted this to be on her daughter’s portfolio/resume. She also insisted that “if I could provid... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband assures me that i'm not TA, and I agreed at the time but now I feel a bit guilty because I don't want to upset anyone, a child least of all.
Since i've been home more for quarantine I Marie-Kondo'd my closet, which means getting rid of all of my old bathing suits (they all lost elasticity or were worn out) except for one - this is relevant later.
This past weekend we had a small family gathering at our house because its hot and we have a pool (and quarantine limitations had been lifted in our area a while ago so we finally decided to get together for the first time in 3 months). My husbands parents, his brother and wife (SIL), and their 2 kids, niece 9f and nephew 6m came over.
So we're all in the backyard BBQing and getting ready to swim. I change into my swimwear and come outside and start applying sunscreen. SIL rushes over to me and pulls me aside and asks that I cover up or change into something less revealing like a 1-piece as niece has been sensitive lately and... keep reading on reddit ➡
I definitely didn’t expect my last post to blow up the way it did. Thank you so much to everyone who commented. I appreciated that I got advice from all over the spectrum, from people who completely agreed with me to people who completely agreed with my SIL, and people who thought both of us had a point. It helped me see that the problem is more complicated than I thought, which helped me understand that my SIL wasn’t just being a dick. It also helped me decide what things were and weren’t fair to be angry about.
I also appreciated seeing a few people comment making fun of me for needing my dog with me, and the majority of people yelling at them and saying I was acting pretty reasonably for someone who endured a violent attack. I don’t want to... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi everyone. I have fostered a multitude of dogs in my life, and dealt with a lot of behavioral problems--dog aggression, cat aggression, food aggression, separation anxiety, super high prey drives...I've seen it all, and I've certainly encountered my fair share of dogs who weren't safe around small children. So I feel extremely confident in saying my current 5 year-old lab mix is safe for kids. He's basically a gigantic teddy bear, and loves everyone.
However, it's always been my personal philosophy that dogs (and any other animal, really) should never be left alone with young kids, even if it's the sweetest, most mild-mannered dog in the world. The kids don't understand when they're pushing the dog past its limits, and the dog cannot reasonably be expected to put up with being harassed long after it's signaled that it would like to be left alone.
My niece has never been good with my dog. She pulls his tail, climbs on/lays on him, hits him, pulls his ears, gets in his face and yells... keep reading on reddit ➡
My niece has always been a problem in general, but she goes through romantic partners very quickly. In college, she frequently brought female friends to Christmases, and she's brought a boyfriend, a now late fiance, and another boyfriend since. The fiance died, and the boyfriend since cheated on her.
The kids are so, so confused. They don't know what's going on at all around her. I've never heard so many questions and kid gossip about one person. It's inappropriate that they would have to think about those things.
I told my niece on a family zoom call that this has to stop. We don't care what she does on her own time, but she can't have anymore plus ones to family functions until she finally gets married to someone. Until then, not even a fiancé can come. I feel bad for her that her relationships end quickly and poorly, but we can't do anything about that. All we can do is protect the kids.
I'm the matriarch of the family. Some of my siblings think that I'm too harsh, and the ot... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (20f) niece (14f) was on her phone, apparently talking to her boyfriend. My brother has always joked about being an overprotective dad. He has made offhand comments.
Last night, he saw her on her phone. She was smiling and she just kind of giggled?? And my brother asked her what she was doing. She hid her phone behind her back, and my brother told her to show it to him. He asked her who she was talking to. He looked a little annoyed so I jumped in and told him to leave her alone.
I would be horrified if my dad ever tries to read my texts to my bf so I understood her problem. My brother got super angry for some reason, and he snatched her phone. He read a few texts aloud which said things like "I love you" "I miss you" "I want you to kiss me" etc. I think it's just normal teenage behaviour, but my brother got super angry. He tried to call my niece's bf, probably to yell at him, and my niece grabbed her phone back. My brother snatched it again and threw it on the floor. The screen c... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hey reddit, I've got some family drama going on and need to know if it is really all my fault.
My BIL and SIL recently asked if my husband and I could watch their 7 yr old daughter for a few weeks. We said yes, and my Niece came to stay with us. I'm out of work due to COVID and my husband is an essential worker who has been working extremely long hours. So 95% of the childcare fell on me.
I've been a vegan for over 10 years, and was vegetarian for several years before that. Everyone in the family knows this. I cook vegan at home, my husband will sometimes add his own meat or dairy to the vegan meals I provide, but with his new work hours he hasn't had time to cook for himself at all, so all the meals prepare at our house have been vegan.
I did get some meat-based convenience foods for my niece. Stuff like chicken nuggets that could just be heated (I can't handle raw meat) and added to her plate. It pained me to do it, but I figured it would be best for everyone.
After a few day... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am currently working remotely and also part-time. I have two older sisters (names changed) Kim and Khloe. Kim has two children and Khole has one child. Kim is a single mom of two children, ages 10 and 12, both are pretty self-sufficient and not too hard to take care of. Khole is married and her child is 7, has Aspergers, and a lot of food allergies. Both Kim and Khole are having to go back to work, but their children's schools are not re-opening for the fall semester. Kim asked me if I would be willing to watch her two children during the day after she goes back to work. This doesn't present a huge obstacle for me because I have a large office space in my home, where I can add two additional small desks and easily help the two of them with technical issues etc. while still being able to do my own work. They also are old enough and self-reliant enough to prepare simple lunches for themselves like sandwiches or quesadillas. Basically, Kim's kids don't present very many obstacles for m... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm a M2F Trans woman and let's be honest my genetics have made passing hard. My Niece has taken it upon herself to remind me of this fact every time she's around.
Comments like "How's the Delusion going?" and "How's it feel to be a full time drag queen?" just drive me up the wall.
My brother accepts me out of her earshot but remains quiet as he doesn't want to fight with her. But the second she says anything he seems to catch laryngitis. With the pandemic she has gotten even more insufferable.
Today I was on Skype with my boyfriend and she shouted “Maybe he should get a 'real' girl” and flashed the camera. I exploded and yelled at her to which she ran out of my room. Now my brother is arguing with me not wanting to hear why I erupted, all the while she's right over his shoulder smirking.
So I just quit fighting and went back into my room and locked the door, only for her to pound on it demanding that I restore the wifi(I may have been a little petty, but I pay for it and I only bl... keep reading on reddit ➡
*throwaway *on mobile *English is not my first language *I'll convert tithe currencies to the us dollar since it's a more well known currency
I (34M) own a restaurant and I offered my niece and nephew(twins both 18 now) a job at the restaurant during weekends and school holidays when they were both 15 my niece agreed but my nephew got a job that would allow him to work with his friends and didn't expect my offer (i had no problem with this)
When my niece started working and asked if i could pay her half of her salary and save the rest up for her, she told me that she could use the money for college or a car. I was very impressed at her wanting to save up and I offered to pay her in full but save and amount equal to her wages for her( she was earning double), she was being paid ~$11 and I was saving another ~$11 for her for every hour she worked. My niece worked Friday's and also weekends and school holidays. My niece has a decent following on social media you can even call her in... keep reading on reddit ➡
My (42M) niece (17F) recently confided in me that she is a lesbian. I supported her, let her know I'd be there, etc. Usual ally stuff.
However, she told me she was going to come out to the whole world this week. I let her know she should absolutely wait for her grandparents (my parents) to pass. My father is incredibly wealthy and has tens of millions of dollars in assets that he will be passing down once he is gone.
My father is a raging homophobe who has flat out stated any gay individual in our family would be written out of the will. And to make sure the rest of us don't just split more money with said gay relative, they will, instead, have that portion of the inheritance (put aside for that family member) donated to charitable causes. That money will be erased from the inheritance.
Since both my father and mother are incredibly poor health, (stage 4 cancer and debilitating dementia respectively) I told my niece she should stay in the closet for a while longer. If she com... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m staying at home for the weekend with my boyfriend (we’ve been together 9 months).
My 4 year old niece has been so excited for my visit because I haven’t seen her since May. At 6.30 this morning she came bouncing into my room where I was sleeping with my boyfriend. He is very much a morning person but as soon as she came in he pretended to be asleep. I thought it was a bit odd but chalked it down to a late night. For the next 30 minutes or so, she came in and out of the room, bouncing on the bed, tickling us, just generally being a fun loving four year old. At one stage she climbed on both my boyfriend and I. By this time he was awake, but not engaging with my niece. He was scrolling on his phone and not really hiding the fact he was annoyed she was there. To be honest I wasn’t too pleased she was there either (we had a late night!) but of course I didn’t show her that, I played along though half asleep! So anyways, when she climbed on us her foot ended up next to my boyfriend’s f... keep reading on reddit ➡
My niece is meeting someone for the first time and she asked me to be her safety net. He'll be picking her up at our building, and she asked me to text her to make sure everything is ok, be available all night and prepared to go get her if things go sour, and call the police in the worst case scenario. She doesn't live in the city, so she's also going to spend the night here afterwards rather than have to drive home late at night. My husband just heard me on the phone with her going over the details, and it blew his mind that these are normal precautions for women meeting someone alone for the first time.
My sister drop by unexpectedly to say hi with her son and daughter. It’s a common thing for her to just stop by randomly.
I actually had just made macadamia nut cookies and offered some to my niece and nephew and they were more then happy to eat some.
I ended up going to the bathroom and while I was in the bathroom a hear a sound of grass breaking and my sister yelling at my niece to be more careful, when I get out I see my mug my best friend made when we took a pottery class together, she gave it to me a few days before she passed and was the last thing she gifted to me so when I seen it I freaked out yelling at my sister for giving my niece the mug and ended up asking them to leave.
My niece was crying as she left and my sister was pissed.
My sister messaged me saying I was overreacting and that she can’t believe I care more about a mug then my niece feelings.
Hey everyone, thank you so much for the advice on my previous post. It blew up while I was asleep and I couldn’t respond to everyone’s comments, but I did really appreciate all the people who took the time to give me advice on how to handle my brother. This update is kind of a mixed bag.
My family has been having dinner together one night a week since the pandemic started, usually at my parents’ house. This week, I thought my brother and his family would sit it out, and it would be just be me and my parents. But my SIL showed up, without my brother or niece. She said she absolutely did not want to discuss what happened, so we didn’t. But I can’t imagine how pissed she must be at my brother, to openly go against him so she could attend... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit: holy shit I didn’t expect so many comments when I woke up. Thanks guys for agreeing with me. Just to clarify one thing I didn’t make clear and a lot of people have asked: I live with my mum, just me and her and my sister has her own house. Either way, even if it was MY house, she shouldn’t be changing in my room. Like a lot of you have said, she can piss off into the bathroom! Or my old room. So baffling, can’t get my head round it
For the mummy’s and daddy’s that have said that they’d never let their kids wreck someone else’s place: good for you. Honestly that’s really great to know. I know so many “parents” that just don’t give a fuck about what their children do or what they break, so it’s refreshing to see that some people actually would care.
Gonna keep it short and sweet. Just want another couple opinions.
I (23f) hate it when my two year old niece goes in my room. There’s NOTHING in here for a two year old. A lot of electronics that I don’t want a two year old using... keep reading on reddit ➡
My sister (33) and her husband (36) passed away not too long ago, leaving behind their three children, 14M, 12M, and 8F.
We live in a pretty small town of under 2000 people, and their deaths kind of shocked the community. Everyone is talking about it. Their memorials were up in the grocery store the day after they passed. Another thing is everyone is wondering what will happen to their kids, and the expectation seems to be that I will take them in.
My circumstances... I am 23M. I am single and have no kids of my own. I have no income, and live off student loans while going to university in the next town over - getting my bachelors. I live in a mobile home in a trailer park. It's a 40 foot trailer, but still only a one bedroom. I own it, but I pay rent on the land it's on.
My main reason for not taking them in is that... I don't want to. I don't want kids of my own, and I don't think I'm in a place to take care of them. I've been told that money has been put aside to help, so I woul... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm getting married next year and we want my fiancé's 6 year old niece to be our flower girl. She is autistic and when she's excited or there's a lot going on she often fidgets, chews on things, flaps her hands, picks at things, and jumps. She also occasionally makes humming and popping noises. She doesn't have huge problems with social situations, and her parents and therapist are confident she won't get overwhelmed. She's extremely excited for the wedding and for being a flower girl. Every time we see her she talks about it.
When my family met her for the first time my parents took me aside and quietly suggested she might be overwhelmed by the wedding and we should reconsider her being a flower girl or even attending. I told them big social events haven't been a problem for her before, and her parents and therapist believe she'll be fine, but that there's a small lounge she can go to if necessary. They then admitted they were worried about her bothering or distracting people with h... keep reading on reddit ➡
My sister only calls me if she needs something and today was that day. She called me at 1pm to go pick up one of her 3 kids because they were sick(sore/red throat) in the nurses office and was being quarantined. (Which is apparently the new normal since COVID). She was an hour away and could not pick her up immediately. I said no.
I should also note, that there has been 4 positive covid cases this week in the school district, 2 last week, and 3 right before school started.
Now I should explain, I tutor for 2 different families who opted to do online school instead of sending the child to the actual classroom. One family the hold had severe asthma and viruses and infections can turn bad very quickly. The other family, the dad suffers from a compromised immune system and even something as simple as a 3 day common cold lands him in the hospital with pneumonia. So I have to careful who I surround my self with because I go to both of their houses.
My sister was LIVID that I di... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway and also I feel so crappy and selfish just writing this but I have no where else to get advice right now.
My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers. He grew up in extreme poverty with an abusive mom and 3 other brothers and 2 sisters. My husband was pretty much the only one that avidly worked towards getting away from that and when he turned 18 we both moved into our own place, and he keeps a distance from them for the most part but we still keep in contact with the kids and his mom (who adores him now and is very mentally... unhinged? Idk how else to put it) anyway we’ve just recently bought our own home and finished college (I am almost done with my school) so we are doing relatively good for ourselves.
However within the last two years things have gotten way worse at his family’s house. My husbands dad passed away and his brothers have gotten into drugs (they always have been but it’s way worse now) and CPS got called and his mom asked him if two of the... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my niece (15f, we’ll call her oliva) and I (15f) are really close in age, she’s a month older then I am. My parents had me when they were both 41, and by then my sister was 20 and already had her own kid. Because of our ages, we’ve never really had the typical aunt/niece relationship. We’re more like cousins, but she calls me auntie as a joke.
So I just got a inhaler for some breathing problems I have related to allergies. We were chilling in my room watching tv and she asked to see my inhaler. So I give it to her and for no reason at all, she puts it in her mouth and starts fucking rapidly pressing it over and over again. So I freak out, and wrestle it from her and start yelling at her because man I don’t know if you can overdose on that shit.
And I also only got so many uses in one can and she just used up about 20. So I’m yelling at her asking wtf she just did that for and she just gets up and storms out. I kinda just sat there for a moment before I walked out to find her telli... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(19M) am living with my sister(25F), BIL(25M) and niece(8mF) for the time being and will return to my campus dorms when they've finished some renovations.
I know my BIL doesn't like me living under their roof but it's only for a little more than a week. I have been sleeping on the sofa and studying in the living room most of the times.
It was about 4am and I was up to play some games(I wake up early to play games to get energized) when I heard my niece whimpering. I went to the nursery and found my niece's diapers dirty. Nobody seems to be up yet, so I changed her diapers. I've seen how my sister does it so it wasn't rocket science to me.
Morning came and when my sister and BIL was up I told them that I've changed her diapers. Sister was like "Oh." but my BIL, his face twitched and told me sternly that I was not supposed to touch his daughter without their permission since I am not her parent. My niece is, 8 months old.
The idea kind of set me off so I replied "Wow, you'r... keep reading on reddit ➡
Long story short I cut ties and contact with my selfish MIL & SIL about a month ago. I was just done having them cross boundaries and not knowing their place.
My DH got a text from her (mother) and she asked if he could come over and talk to her that it was important. He agreed because he has sick family members and he was afraid that she had bad news.
Well I guess he showed up at her house and his sister was there... he said they ambushed him and started going in on him about “are you really going to let your marriage split up your family” “what is going on at home that you are acting this way towards us” ... “ever since you married her you just think your so perfect”
My MIL put my husband through a lot of abuse when he was younger from the men she chose and he has admitted she ruined his last relationship because she is a control freak.
Long story short they talked massive shit about my family... my family donated money to my SIL in a time of need and she told DH that wh... keep reading on reddit ➡
I know it sounds bad. My niece and I both play this video game and she calls me from time to time on her mom’s (husbands sister) phone so we can play together. Maybe like 2-3 times a month.
Husband has SEVERE depression. It’s escalated a lot because of Covid, working from home, isolating etc. He had a psychotic break after getting in a fight with his sister and cut off all ties with his entire family. Even people who were completely uninvolved. Including me and our dog. He ended up in the hospital and made amends with mostly everyone. After this He had one or two okay days a week and 5-6 really bad days. On the bad days he cannot leave our bed. He’s doing much better now. He has since mended all broken fences except with his sister.
His sister asked me if we could come over in a few days so I said we have to play it by ear because I dunno what kind of day it will be. She LOST IT. She said he always needs to be the centre of attention. he’s been this way his whole life and she doesn... keep reading on reddit ➡
The niece in question is my brother Tom’s 16 y/o daughter, Kate. All of the names have been changed. Tom also has a 20 y/o daughter, Lina.
Tom and I grew up in a nominally Christian household. I’m not very religious, but my brother became an evangelical just after college. It hasn’t caused too many issues because we have a good bond and respect each other’s view points. Tom and my SIL don’t make too much money, so when Lina was in high school, I paid for her to go to sports camp for two summers. I also had money set aside for my younger niece Kate, but so far she hasn’t joined any activities or hobbies.
Anyway, Kate recently revealed that she is going on a missions trip with her church over Christmas break. I got the ask letter in the mail last week. She’ll be going to a South American country to hold a vacation bible school for kids there. As far as I know, the county is almost 100% Catholic, so I don’t understand the need to spread the news of Jesus when they already know it. How... keep reading on reddit ➡
Honestly, the whole thread is a bit of a dumpster fire, with the top comments calling OP a karma-Whore and others saying the kid should never have been born getting upvotes. While I definitely feel like there is a discussion to be had about the morality and effects of allowing Down-Syndrome children to be born vs aborting them, I don't feel anyone over there is trying to have a nuanced or tact discussion
A few comments that stuck out to me
Karma whore (gilded comment)
[Might as well have been a pumpkin dressed as Woody. People need to stop celebrating genetic deformities. We have laws regarding things like incest to discourage such things. Why is there some politically correct requirement to pretend this is normal, or even worse "special"? It's not.](https://www.reddi... keep reading on reddit ➡
I work with a bunch of moms and grandmas, so they're always showing me pictures of their kids/grand kids/nieces, I don't really know why because I'm 22 and have no kids lol.
But anyway, I never really know what to say so I'll literally just go "Oh" and try to think of a good question about them.
And often times it's some college hottie that I'm surprised is related to whoever's showing it to me.
So what am I supposed to say?
EDIT: alright I think I've got it figured out guys, thanks, I was probably overthinking it
Hope my next post gets this big a response because it's gonna be a lot more important lol
EDIT: oh my lord I do not give a shit about this post and it's my biggest ever, fuck my life. Meanwhile any post I actually care about gets <10 comments. This is why I can't have nice things.
I have twin nieces who are just about 3. I also love to crochet and have made a plethora of really beautiful heirloom items for the girls including their christening dresses, angora cardigans, and many detailed dresses, rompers and sweaters along with some fun items like stuffed toys and dress up beards and hats. You get the idea.
I decided to go stay with my sister and her family breifly so I wouldn't be completely alone. I've been here for 4 months and am leaving next week to return home as restrictions are lifting and my job is resuming soon.
When things where my sister lives began getting less restrictive we started seeing my BIL's cousin Beulah (fake name) and her husband along with his aunt and uncle. Beulah announced she was pregnant and having a little girl shortly after lockdown began. When they came to visit one of the first things Beulah mentioned was how excited she was to have the heirlooms I made for the twins handed down to her baby. She said "you can give me all the p... keep reading on reddit ➡
We have dinner with my sister at least once a week. My son is so picky but his Auntie tries to cook things he likes. Often times I tell him he needs to eat because we don’t have anything at home. Today my niece looks at me and says “we can get you some food to bring home.” I told her he could just eat it here. She goes but Auntie you never have any food at your house. I then explained that just meant I didn’t take anything out of the freezer to cook for supper but we did actually have food.
My brother-in-law (BIL) and sister-in-law (SIL) are quite large people. Their kids have always been heavy, but since covid started, have been gaining weight at an alarming rate. I'm talking at least 2-3 pounds per week. Our family is pretty disturbed about the whole situation, but it's very difficult to bring it up to BIL. We've tried in the past and he went ballistic and threatened to cut us out completely.
Last weekend we had the kids over for a sleepover. Without permission from their parents, we took the opportunity to teach them about nutrition. We didn't make them feel bad about themselves, but explained why it's important to drink water sometimes (instead of soda) and eat fruit (instead of candy all day). They had a great time and wanted to do it again.
A couple days later, BIL finds out and goes completely insane and throws a fit. He's being very dramatic about the whole thing. So, AITA?
Like I said, covid swept through the family. Dad is type 2 diabetic, both parents overweight, and one brother is downsyndrome. Glad to say everyone has seemingly fully recovered. My parents had far worse symptoms then anyone else, such as fatigue, fever, and we're feeling super sick. I had eye pain, and the worst cough, but no fever or fatigue. Everyone else had some fatigue and fever but no cough. I initially was very worried for my downsyndrome bro as they're prone to lung and heart issues, but he pulled through great. Feel free to ask questions.
(Same throway account I used as before. Also writing on mobile so I'm sorry in advance for any formatting mistakes.)
Ok, so this is kinda a weird scenario that I'd like some input on. My (2 yrs old) laptop is out being repaired by Best Buy ATM (the hinge on it broke and the charging port stopped working) under warranty.
But just today, my parents began pressuring me to give it to my young (7 yr old) niece once I get it back. According to them she needs a computer for her online classes due to the global situation (her mom, a nurse, only has her own work computer), although they acknowledged that I also need one for my fall College courses.
The thing that everyone has acknowledged is that my nephew is highly destructive and would probably break whatever they get, as my sister is big on them sharing everything to try and get them to behave together (he is younger than her). That's why my parents want them to have my computer instead of buying a brand new one, as it's an older model th... keep reading on reddit ➡
Some context: We live in a Country, where the first day of primary school is a huge deal. The only thing bigger is getting married or having a baby. Due to corona we told our son for months now, that we would make the best of it though, with only six guests- the parents and SIL with 13 year old daughter.
We go to the restaurant, the daughter is cursing like a sailor, how everything sucks. The niece orders a dish on our dime of course as is customary. She’s very openly claiming, that the food looks disgusting, and that she wants something else. I offer her to switch, she declines, but she won’t eat her food since it’s disgusting and too spicy. I offer some waffles to lessen the spicy feel, she declines again. My son is sitting next to her the whole time and can’t have a decent conversation with any of his guest. So after an hour of bitching she just takes off and leaves. Her mother races after her and we don’t hear from either of them but we want to go. I ask MIL, if we should wait or... keep reading on reddit ➡
So this’ll be a real quick post, but I’ll try and get a bit of backstory into it;
My (38F) sister adopted her daughter and my niece Jennie when she was 3.
For whatever reason Jennie has never been the smartest bulb of the bunch; she failed literally every subject she took other than religious education and catering.
She’s horrendous with geography and history, especially maths, she’s optimistic but slow and doesn’t or can’t really keep up with the news.
My sister has signed her up for tutors but for whatever reason Jennie never took, we’d be watching a film or even an episode or something and she’d constantly be interrupting or talking and her teachers told my sister Jennie was a distraction so throughout her schooling she consistently struggled.
My son (15M) has autism which is relevant.
I had been discussing my sons behaviour with my sister and talking about how hard it is to cope with, I love him as he’s my baby but sometimes I need to vent.
When she said something like “Oh... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway account and from mobile.
My sister and I have a strained relationship. A couple years back my sister married her husband. She married a Korean man which caught a lot of us off guard. She never dated Asian men before him and never expressed interest in Asian men so to find her marrying someone from there just felt sudden. Part of me felt she did it to "finally make a minority of herself" but he was nice enough.
Eventually they had 2 daughter, my nieces. I love my nieces dearly. I have no daughters of my own (3 sons) so I was admittedly quite excited to get to connect to little girls.
My relationship with my sister started improving slowly when my older niece was born as I really wanted to be in my niece's life. It got to the point where she would trust me to her little one on playdates with my sons. As my niece got older however I started remembering why there was that tension with my sister in the first place. My niece was learning Korean before English and during her ea... keep reading on reddit ➡
My niece spent Thursday and Friday night with me so my sister could have some alone time. She's a single mom and covid has been really tough for her.
In my opinion, my sister has some pretty fringe views on diet, including a total ban on sugar for her daughter. When I say a total ban, I mean a piece of fruit is considered an indulgent treat in their household. Sugar is the absolute devil and my niece has never had birthday cake, chocolate, or ice cream. Of course other junk foods like pizza, chips, etc are banned as well. Anything that isn't a whole food is off the table.
I'm fully aware of the fact that sugar is forbidden in my sister's home, but the thing is my sister asked me to watch my niece at my home and sugar is definitely allowed here. While I didn't let her gorge herself til she puked, we made our own ice cream yesterday. It was hot and it's a fun activity and honestly I wanted her to experience that food can be joyful and fun, not a chore that needs to be done three time... keep reading on reddit ➡
She had access to any BC she needed, including EC. She waited until her second trimester to tell anyone.
My nephew (22) is beside himself about being an uncle. Of course it'll be great for him, he won't be the one with the major responsibilities. My other niece (21) has accepted it and is already buying baby clothes. My sister was totally blindsided and apparently wanted her to have an abortion but my niece refused.
They were so tense when they told me. Everyone knows I'm CF. Thank the fucking stars that my nephew had given me a head's up because there is no way I could've hid my disgust and disappointment. My mom, religious nut, is beside herself with joy.
There is not a goddamn person in the family who is lamenting it but me. Everyone is celebrating, no one wants to admit she's thrown her life away. I want to talk to her but it seems like she's dead set against abortion and I honestly don't think I could get to her.
I just saw a post of my nephew with h... keep reading on reddit ➡
Niece Motorsports has started 156 Truck Series races:
In 33 starts, Chastain has 3 wins, 11 top fives, and 24 top tens.
In 123 other starts, Niece trucks have earned 1 top five and 11 top tens.
Win rate: Chastain 9.1%, other 0%
Top five rate: Chastain 33.3%, other 0.8%
Top ten rate: Chastain 72.7%, other 8.9%
Quite an absurd disparity considering Chastain has often shuffled between trucks the last 2 years. Seems like he is the only constant in the equation.