Something that annoys me so much is when you see people wishing the moms who had to be the mom and the dad for their child/children a Happy Father's Day. Father's Day is a time to appreciate the dads that were there for their kids, so why should we take away from that by making this day about moms too? Mother's Day is the day that's meant for that. If the roles were reversed and we were doing this for single dads on Mother's Day, people would freak out.
Edit: To clarify, I have no problem with someone's kid wishing them both a Happy Father's Day and a Happy Mother's Day, since it's their kid. My problem is adults trying to MAKE other people wish single parents both.
Second Edit: For all the people who still dont understand, if someone's child wants to wish their single mom a Happy Father's Day, go for it. What annoys me is the people who try to make Father's Day about single moms and take away attention from good dads who were there for their children
I’m 31 and my son is 7. My fiancé, his mom, passed away when he was born due to complications. I wanted to keep her memory alive so since he was an infant, I told him all about his mom and constantly showed him pictures of her.
I always told my son she went up to heaven and is now watching over him. We talk about death whenever he has questions about it so it’s something we‘re open about. He also has a really great relationship with her side of the family so that’s another way he’s connected to her.
I started dating my current wife when my son was just 3 but we waited a year before she officially met him. They both bonded instantly and my son adores her.
Fast forward 3 years later, we’re now happily married. This issue happened right after her parents moved closer to our city. They were previously living across the country, so the only time they met me or my son face to face was at our wedding.
They came over for Fathers Day for a small brunch. While we were all chatting, my son... keep reading on reddit ➡
I get sleep paralysis. I have for the past few years off and on. Usually every couple of months I’ll get a sleep paralysis dream. I’ve talked to my parents about it before. The fuck up is not that they know.
The fuck up is that I decided to try drawing what I saw over my bed last night. And then sent a picture to my mom.
Now, my parents are hella catholic. Like, homeschooled for 6 years and went to church every day catholic. Like, when things go bad in life my dad wholeheartedly believes it’s the devil actively attacking us so we lose our faith. Which explains their reaction when I showed them this picture.
Cue the panicked phone call from my parents who now believe the devil visits me in my sleep. I spent 30 minutes on the phone with them trying to find a bible or a rosary so my mom could sleep without worrying my soul would be stolen. They want me to talk to a priest and get my house blessed and use holy water every time I enter. The next time... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am currently pregnant with my first child and both my mom and step dad have been terrible to me and my partner the entire time. Told us we would be unfit parents because we arent married yet, legitimately screamed at my partner for "knocking up their little girl" even though we planned the pregnancy. I finally decided to cut contact with them a few months after I found out I was pregnant. Having a child can already be a stressful time and having them around to make it worse was not something i was okay with. If they cant be nice to my partner then they dont get to see our baby. Plus they are the kind of people who dont wear masks in public and actively choose to be in large gatherings with no social distancing, so them seeing a newborn is out of the question. One day I sent my mom a very detailed email of why she is not allowed to be apart of my life anymore and will not be seeing her grandchild. To make things even better, I also noted that we will be moving across the country short... keep reading on reddit ➡
You can probably guess that I had a strained relationship with my mother. She had an affair while married to my dad, and she ended up leaving my dad for her affair partner. My dad was a good man before the affair, but he took it hard and allowed it to destroy him. I was left to play son and parent to him while my mother started a new family.
It was hard to watch her play mom to her new children and pretend like I didn't exist. I might occasionally get a call from her, but she was so busy raising her new kids that she didn't have time for me. It was also hard to understand why those kids had so much more than me (we were poor) and why she was okay with that.
As I got older (teens) she did try to reestablish a relationship with me, but I wasn't interested. She was still trying to mend fences when she died last year, but I will at least give her credit for trying. She tried very hard to have a relationship with me, but my heart was too hardened for that to be possible.
One of the thi... keep reading on reddit ➡
This has happened way too many times at our local wildlife rescue. People find baby deer or rabbits with no parents nearby and think they're abandoned, so they bring them in to try to "save them". In reality they're just forcibly separating the animal from its mother and greatly reducing its survival chances.
Infant rabbits without their mothers don't do well. Even in professional care settings, they have about a 90% mortality rate. Taking them away from the nest should be a last resort, only when death is guarenteed otherwise.
Edit: Also, PLEASE DO NOT TRY TO TAKE CARE OF A WILD ANIMAL BY YOURSELF! Baby wildlife relies on species-specific milk from its mom, it will usually starve if you don't know what you're doing. We have to keep 4-5 differently mixed formulas to make sure every species is getting fed what it needs. If you keep it for more than a few days, it will become accustomed to humans and that will DESTROY its survival chances. Also, with many animals, it's often illegal! P... keep reading on reddit ➡
My family is stacked like pancakes during the quarantine. My parents are still into each other, and I’m grateful. Although I’d pass on seeing the ass pats and octopus entanglements I’ve witnessed. My parents have been taking “full advantage” of the quality/quantity time, blasting music on the reg as if we can’t do the mental calculus about what’s going on behind closed doors.
Last night, I was cooking with mom as we listened to one of my playlists that we share on Spotify as she was telling me how sorry she was that my college life is on hold. We’ve had the mother-daughter talk about sex but mostly abide the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. As she was blathering on about how special our lock-down time is, I jokingly told her that my siblings and I all know how much she and my dad are enjoying quarantine. She blushed, laughed it off, and I thought that was the end…until this morning when I wake up, perplexed and confused, as she detonates my own MY PLAYLIST against me, played at decibel... keep reading on reddit ➡
This happened when I was 15. My mom was (lets be real, she probably still is) a mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive narcissist. Some highlights are when she was teaching my twin sister and I to read at the age of 4 or so. It was around 2am and my sister was having trouble learning so my mother's solution was to beat her with a sandal every time she got a flash card wrong. Same thing happened when my mother had me transcribe an essay she had written to my handwriting when I was 7. Everytime I started a letter from the wrong position (like starting a capital M from the bottom line) she would beat me with one of her birkenstocks. This too happened later at night so when I got too delirious for the exhaustion and pain she would drag me, by the neck, and literally throw me into a cold shower to wake me up so we could more easily continue the waking nightmare. When I was 13 I told her to wanted to live with my dad (they were divorced) and she told me she didnt care what I did... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my gf and I have been live together for about 6 months, she moved a few hours away from her home to live with me. This was her moms first visit here this weekend.
I’m currently on night shift for a few weeks, I work 7pm to 7am with 2 hours drive time to and from. I went to bed around 11 and the gf’s mom was coming that day, she got here around 12. My gf told her to be quiet since I’m working nights so sleeping during the day.
At around 12:30 she comes in my room, wakes me up and tells me “stop being so lazy, you don’t need to sleep all day, now help carry my bags from my car”. I flipped out, told her to fuck off and grab her own bags and stay out of my room. I had about 1.5h of sleep so far so not in a good mood. Well let’s just say she turned into a miserable cunt all weekend.
So aita here? Did I go too far
Not all in the same sentence btw!
Edit! Wow this post took off. I’ve received twice as much karma in this one post than I have from 10 years redditing!
And wow! Silver! My first and only. Thank you so much.
Usually when people come out to their parents, it's because they want to become closer to them or some shit like that, but not me. I came out because I was annoyed.
My mom had made comment about me growing up and marrying a beautiful black woman and having kids in my mind 30's(no sooner).
This annoyed me because she's basically saying that I'm not allowed to marry anyone who isn't black, and that I have to have kids. I've told her time and again that I don't want kids, but since I once said that I wanted kids when I was 12, then I must still want kids.
In my annoyed state, I told her that I'm gay. Let's just say she didn't take it very well. I repeated myself a few times, but it was as if she weren't capable of putting the words together in her head. I got annoyed again and said (quite loudly), "ATTRACTIVE MEN MAKE MY PENIS HARD!" That got her to shut up.
I've since been told that I was being insensitive to her at such a delicate moment. So people of Reddit, AITA for coming out t... keep reading on reddit ➡
Whenever her co-worker introduced her he'd make a comment about how attractive she is. She told him to stop and he said that women these days can't take a compliment. So we told her to introduce him as her "attractive co-worker" (he's obviously not) to others. He got confused and the guy they were talking to grinned at her. That dude was known for making such comments.
This humiliated him enough to make him stop. That pussy couldn't even take a compliment.
Hiya reddit, this is a throwaway account.
I'm 25f and my younger (half) sister is 22f. She's supposed to be getting married in September if she doesn't have to reschedule the date.
I was at my step-mom (sister's mom) and dad's place this past weekend for father's day. My step-mom wanted to show me the "mother of the bride" dress she ordered that had just come in because she was so proud of how beautiful it was. The dress was white and lacy and floor length. It looked like a wedding dress to me. I told her as much and she waved it off saying how that tradition was old and didn't apply to moms anyways and my sister wouldn't mind.
I didn't think this was the case, and took a pic of the dress without my step-mom knowing and later that day sent it to my sister saying "this is what your mom plans on wearing to the wedding".
My sister said she DEFINITELY didn't approve that dress and ended up confronting her mom. Now my sister is upset with her mother, my step-mom is upset with me, and my... keep reading on reddit ➡
My mom has six different kids all from different fathers, I'm the oldest and I live with my dad. Due to the legal system being flawed over here, she got full custody even though my dad was clearly a better fit.
So I lived with my mom until I was 18 and finally moved in with my dad. She was on baby number 4 by the time I left home and my oldest sibling was 7.
I'm living with my dad and life is great, he got married to a lovely woman and my brother (28M) is awesome, i have a new sister in law (31F) , nephew (8M) and my long time girlfriend (19) also lives with us. My dad was able to start a little company when he met my now stepmom and pretty much hit gold
My mom was never happy about the fact that I moved out, mostly because without me she doesn't have free childcare. I also feel like she's jealous
She called me up yesterday, to spare details, she started talking about how she and my siblings miss me and the I OWE it to her to move back and help her
I dont why, but I snapped
"You... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was 3, my mom divorced my dad because she fell in love with stepdad1, who instantly moved in with me and mom. Mom got me a nanny and started spending all her time with her new man. I remember many instances in which I asked her to take me to the park/movies and she'd respond that the nanny should take me, because that was her job. My childhood was not entirely bad because over the years I actually got to bond with stepdad1 and he would make an effort to include me in their activities.
When I was 15, my mom fell for someone else and broke up with stepdad1, who just moved out one day and I never got to hear from him again. About a week after stepdad1 moved out, I met stepdad2 and a week after that stepdad2 moved in with us. I didn't really like him and he didn't really like me, but we were civil to eachother until one day.
That day, mom and stepdad2 were supposed to go to a theatre show that was to start at 7 PM. It was about 6:45 already and they were still on the couch watchi... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ok a little background story: I (22F) had some drug problems when I was 17, I was in rehab for months and I've been clean and sober since 2017 now. My mother (41F) helped me a lot during these difficult moments, and I'm so grateful for that.
But 1 year ago I started smoking weed again, it was a conscious decision because cannabis actually never made me get in trouble and it helps me with my anxiety. In fact, before smoking again I talked to my psychiatrist about it and told my mom and dad. My dad was very ok with that since he smokes too and doesn't think it's a big deal. But my mom freaked out.
She started yelling at me that she wouldn't go through all of that again and that she was disappointed because she thought the "junkie" me was gone. It's important to know that I have an amazing job and I'm graduating college. I live by myself and I'm very organized, responsible and clean, not a "junkie" at all. I tried to talk to her, explain everything but she just kept yelling. I eventu... keep reading on reddit ➡
Back in March his parents decided they wanted to come "wait quarantine out" at our apartment. For starters they never asked. His mother called and TOLD me that they were on their way and to prepare our spare bedroom for them. I was already apprehensive about them staying with us because his parents have always been EXTREMELY rude to me. They are overly critical of everything I say and do. They are massive control freaks who feel entitled to always be in charge. So right off the bat things are miserable. They verbally abuse me daily, tell me what I can and can't do in my own apartment, and are overall just the WORST.
Out of everything, the air conditioning caused the biggest debacle. Where I live it has been 85-90 almost every day. I normally keep my air on 70, but when they started complaining, I turned the air up to 75. This is already a little toasty for me, but I was willing to be a little hot to try to keep the peace. This was not good enough for them. They don't want the air on.... keep reading on reddit ➡
My Mom died last week and it very sudden, very unexpected. My Dad is still living. There are several guides available about the loss of a loved one and how to handle the estate, and I do have a good idea of where to start (notifying the credit bureaus, etc) but I cannot find an article about handling things when one parent is still living. My Dad is completely unable to manage his finances (he has a very hard time with computers and cell phones and is pretty severely dyslexic), my Mom handled absolutely everything about their money. Luckily I use their same bank and have been able to log into their account and get an idea of what is going on.
I am only child, my Dad retired 3 weeks ago (my Mom was a homemaker), and when he retired they also paid off their house. The paperwork for pension, social security, and the house was just beginning to be sorted out by my Mom when she died, but there are some guides online that I think will help me and we do have an appointment with my Dad's pen... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (16 M) was raised by a single mom. She and I are very close as a result. I never knew my dad (his choice), so it was just us, always.
Then last year my mom met George (fake name). George is really nice. He spends time with both of us, even taking me out for stuff on my own. I like him fine. But I never wanted a step dad or for things to change.
4 months ago, George came to me and asked for permission to marry my mom. I said no. I asked if they could wait until I went to college, so our lives wouldn’t change too much. George was disappointed. Then recently, I guess he told my mom this. My mom got pissed. She told me that while she wants me to be comfortable, George is a part of her life and she wants to get married to him. She says that she blames him for listening to me too but says that she’s not going to put her life on hold. I told her our lives would change and she said that we would still spend time together, but she had to share me. When I brought up them marrying when I went... keep reading on reddit ➡
My mom helped me set up my account when I was in high school, and she was an authorized user on it. She never accessed it, so I forgot. It's ten years later now, my account is the same. I moved back home temporarily and have mostly been going about my adult life as normal as possible. I went to planned parenthood for some routine STD tests, and since I don't have insurance here, I paid on my card. I got home before my mom did so I was just chilling. She gets home and is making small talk, asked what I bought today. I look confused, said I didn't go to the store. She says well where did you go. I say nowhere. She says why are you lying. And I'm like "WHAT DO YOU MEAN!?" Now, I have no reason to lie about going to PP because I'm an adult, but it's personal, y'know? She says she gets a text alert for every transaction I make over $100. And I'm like wtf. Since always? Yes. Now I'm clammy and my brain is running a million miles an hour thinking of all the purchases I've ever made over that... keep reading on reddit ➡
My mom never made me feel bad for not liking an ingredient or not finishing my plate. She always told me to listen to my body so it's okay if I'm full before the end of the meal. Whenever I show shame for wasting food she always says "it's okay, the dogs will love the treat!" and that mindset has made me a better adult. If I lose money or clothes or whatever I always think "Whoever found that must've really needed it!"
Which is a mindset I think parents try to teach with the whole "THERE ARE CHILDREN STARVING IN AFRICA" argument but it does the opposite, it makes kids obsessive over not wasting anything which can lead to some serious depression when we live in a world where 0 waste is absolutely impossible.
Thank you, mom, for teaching me the value of things, even if it wasn't in a traditional way.
Edit: I wish I could reply to all your comments but this has been so overwhelming and I am so thankful for all of your replies! You guys are the best 🖤 Thank you, reddit, for being... keep reading on reddit ➡
Editing for TW: rape, abuse
Edit: the mom was told that I’m undetectable and what that means, but she’s too overwhelmed with fear to really listen and comprehend.
For the last two months, my(28f) boyfriend (28m) have been staying with his mom during quarantine. I have my own home with roommates and so does he but she insisted we stay with her temporarily to more easily adhere to social distancing.
I am HIV positive, and my boyfriend is aware. My boyfriend is HIV negative. I’m undetectable, which means there is so little amount of virus in my body that I cannot transmit the virus to anyone else. I cannot infect another person, even through unprotected sex. If you aren’t aware of how this happens, people with HIV can take antiretrovirals to basically fight the virus and protect your white blood cells from being attacked so the virus is unable to replicate. A lot has changed over the decades.
A little background: I have been HIV positive since I was 15 years old. I have a lot of trau... keep reading on reddit ➡