I think this was the big eye-opener for me; the first of many events that showed me the subtle sexism rampant in the world.
I was chatting with friends while my mom was in the kitchen when the "where does she work?" question came up. When I responded and the followup was "is she a doctor?", I distinctly remember my mom setting down what she was working on, looking my friend directly in the eye, and saying "thank you" to her in an utterly serious and sincere tone. I was confused as to why until I asked her about it that evening. It had never occurred to me that time and time again, people just assumed that she wasn't a doctor.
For reference, she wasn't a nurse or a doctor, but the lead tech in the blood lab. Obviously we'd never expect someone to randomly guess that, but the fact that it took over 20 years for someone to guess doctor instead of nurse was, in hindsight, tremendously depressing.
I've unfortunately lost contact with the friend who asked this, but if y... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm still angry over this and I may not write very well, and also I probably don't judge the situation very well being this angry so I came to you.
I'm a student. I have a student bank account, where my college gives me money for transport (when we had physical classes) or scholarship. These kind of bank accounts have no fees, but are age restricted (can't have one if you're over 25) and need an overseer. When I asked the bank about it, they told me it's just a security thing so I chosen mom because she's more tech savvy than dad.
Well through some incredible luck I managed to get only top grades last year so I was awarded a study scholarship. Great! I've been saving it up, looking forward to word wide Black Friday, eyeing an amazing drawing tablet. I do digital art on very old intros, the tablet I was eyeing is as big as my monitor, is a display one and all around amazing.
Black Friday rolls in, and Amazon Germany (closest to me) has it in stock at an amazing price! A price I could... keep reading on reddit ➡
Broke up with my girlfriend this morning. I’m 29, she’s 25 with a 7 year old son. Just couldn’t do it anymore. Had started dating since the beginning of the year and the kid was a burden every step of the way. His dad isn’t in the picture so all he has is his mom, I get it. But everything we did, and I mean everything, revolved around the kid. Date nights of just us two had to be planned a month ahead. Outings were pretty much always us three. We were intimate once, when we had ONE weekend outing while the kid stayed with grandma, and even in those 24 hours I remember the kid called his mom every three hours and had multiple tantrums.
The kid is adorable and I initially really liked him and honestly wanted to make it work. But as time went on I realized the kid was only lovable if everything was centered around him and his needs. The breaking point was our outing yesterday. The three of us went to a park (not much else to do) and had a lunch. The kid interrupted us every 5 minutes (li... keep reading on reddit ➡
Help please! I’m getting my 3 kids (8, 6, 5 years old) a switch for Christmas. Having never used video games myself, I don’t know what I need. If I get the switch, a few games, and an extra 2 joycon controllers is that all I need for them to be able to play together?
Are there particular games that are good for 3-4 little people? I’d like them to be able to play together as much as possible to avoid fights.
Lastly, since they aren’t avid gamers, do we need the family subscription for online to play with cousins/friends, or just an individual membership for all of them to share?
Thanks for any suggestions for this newbie!!
ETA: Thank you all SO much for the wealth of fantastic recommendations and tips! This is so helpful and is sure to make my kiddos Christmas more merry!!
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I'm (26f) recently divorced after learning my sister (27f) and husband were having an affair. I cut my sister off the day I found out. We have not spoken since, we have not been in the same room for more than ten seconds and I will not have a relationship with her moving forward. This year has been rough and Covid made some things easier regarding there was no visiting family so the pressure was gone. But recently my mom wanted to have a family dinner again and I told her I would not go because I did not want to be in my sisters presence. She told me I can't avoid her forever, she's my sister and we share family. I told her I can and I will. Her response was telling me I am being unfair making her choose between us and I said I'm not making her choose because I'm fine not being invited, I know my stance means I will end up being excluded. But I will not play nice with her and my ex. Especially now that they are getting married too. We're never going to play happy families. I don't want... keep reading on reddit ➡
Dad made great money growing up, until I was 12. Then he was unemployed for a while, but mom wanted to continue living in the $2300/month home and buy stuff, and dad was/is an alcoholic and a heavy smoker (he's quit smoking now, yay!) So a lot of money was just being wasted.
They are now in a cheaper home, but dad is the only one who works (mom can't due to physical limitations) and he works as a salesman. He brings home around $30k.
I just got a job that pays $44k/year + bonuses and overtime. I can bump that to $50k with working more and harder, which I don't mind doing. When all is said and done, including the measly 3% I have going to my 401k, I'm left with about $900. I try to put $450 into savings, and use the remaining $450 towards debt (car note and student loans, in addition to the monthly payments, namely).
Dad's health is declining due to a bad COVID pneumonia case. He's been battling it for 3 weeks. Mom is concerned he'll need to go on disability and won't be able to w... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m in my early 20s. I have small boobs (32A). Every time I wear a bikini or a dress that makes it obvious I have small boobs and I happen to be around my mom, she subtly makes fun of it. She tells me, “where are your boobs? they are the size of a tomato lol” She says that a lot even when I’m around my younger sisters, who have slightly bigger breasts. It just fucking hurts. I act like I’m okay but it kills me inside. Whenever she does that I just say, “so what? I don’t care. I’m content with it.” And I mean it. I jokingly tell her that my face makes up for it or that, other parts of me make up for my lack of big breasts. I struggled a lot in my teenage years because I wanted to have bigger boobs but now that I’m an adult, I’ve accepted my body and the fact that my boobs will never become a B cup. Sure, I still think it would’ve been nice if my boobs were a little bigger. But that doesn’t mean I don’t accept what I naturally have. I just can’t change it and I don’t want to surgically a... keep reading on reddit ➡
I've heard many, many people say that janitors and cleaning staff are losers. While to them they are "losers" to me they are the most hardworking, caring, and kind people I have ever met. They don't deserve the shit given to them. I know plenty of people who say they are low lives, so in my opinion, this opinion is unpopular. People are assholes
Edit:I've literally been two seconds away from crying reading some of the replies down here
My wife and I have been having a discussion and she finds it really weird that I’m keeping this secret.
I bought a house prior to covid and so during the lockdowns I was able to get some really cheap contracting done because people needed work. I got it fixed up to rent it out, not to my mom, but just anybody.
When it became clear people were losing jobs I didn’t want to rent to a stranger just to kick them out: so I kept renovating at a slow pace just to keep the house on the ups.
Fast forward. I find out my mom is being evicted for not paying rent. I refuse to send my mom money. I used to and it damn near made me broke. She has a gambling addiction and drinking problem. She lost her job.
So I tell her I have a friend who owns a house one state over. With nothing to lose she found a job out of state, applied With an agent I know out there who handled the beginning part but really it’s my house and she wouldn’t have been approved otherwise
I rent it to her at below m... keep reading on reddit ➡
Original post here.
I got a much bigger response on my original post than I ever thought I would. A couple hours after I posted it, I realized I left a lot of information out and wanted to clarify some things, as well as provide an update on the situation.
Some people asked if I pay rent or own the house. It's my parents house, and I don't pay rent. I can't afford to move out right now, and my parents don't want to let me move out until after my first year of uni.
Some people also asked if I'm autistic. I have ADHD, which shares a lot of traits with autism. I stick to a strict routine because it's the only way I'm able to remember to do everything I need to in the morning.
A lot of people suggested packing my lunch at a different time, or even the night before. I had tried this before; no matter what time... keep reading on reddit ➡
This happened on Halloween and the day following. My neighbor, 38F (super vegan) has 2 kids. I (26F) also have 2 kids.
My apartment complex didn’t do traditional tick or treating on Halloween.
Residents were advised to set out prepackaged individual candy bags on their patios/front door areas if they wanted to participate- but the traditional “knock on door, physically hand strangers candy” was not permitted.
So, Halloween comes and the kids are all dressed up and each building has a scheduled time where the kids go door to door. I ended up having to work late so my neighbor offered to walk my kids around with hers at our buildings scheduled time. About 45 minutes later my kids came home with a small bucket of candy (6 little goodie bags each from individual apartments that participated) everything was fine, and my kids didn’t say anything weird had happened. They were just excited to eat candy once they got home lol.
The next day I took my kids to the park directly across from ou... keep reading on reddit ➡
When I was six my mom remarried to my stepdad. He had a three year old daughter and his wife passed away in a car accident the year before. Even that young, I could tell my mothers attention was not on me but my stepsister. She catered to her every need saying it’s because she needs a mother figure, which I get. She was enrolled in many sports as a kid while I wasn’t in any because there wasn’t even money (she did 3, I did none). My mom would buy her the newest clothes and shoes and technology and I would have her hand me downs. She basically treated my stepsister like her daughter and I was an afterthought. While my stepsister had my mom and her dad, I had nobody. My dad was never in my life. They would go on family vacations without me. My stepdad loved that my mom prioritized his daughter over me. When I was ten they decided they couldn’t give my stepsister the attention she deserved with me in the house so they sent me away to live my with aunt in a different state.
For three ye... keep reading on reddit ➡
This woman has 3 kids (pregnant with the 4th) with 4 baby daddies. All of them have abandoned her right after she found out she was pregnant. All of her pregnancies happened less than a year after meeting these men (one of them was only 2 months into dating).
She constantly tries to get sympathy online and it's like okay you had kids with these men you barely knew and now you want everyone to feel sorry for you? I'm sure it sucks but maybe she should try actually getting to know people before having kids with them.
Edit: READ THE POST!!! so many men commenting on here when they clearly just read the title.
This is a common problem with women, who feel like they aren't heard or given any consideration unless they resort to yelling.
I've felt some guilt in regards to raising my voice in different times, which surprises people because I'm the "super nice" and "quiet" one.
But just some of the worst examples (extreme ones that don't represent the little, more common instances where men ignore women) in my personal life that made me look into this phenomenon more and notice this: My ex boyfriend, I hope he's doing well, would often have fits of rage where little inconveniences made him lose his shit way more than he needed to, he would run to me and, being young and stupid, I would always be there and act as his personal therapist until he calmed down and stopped breaking shit, but this started to become a huge weight on my shoulders to say the least and I would usually wait a few days... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm building my son a gaming pc and need advice on my part list..
Intel7 9700k Msi mpg z390 gaming edge AC motherboard Ram-g. skill ripsaw 16 gb Ssd-barracuda 120 series 500 gb Case.. deepcool matrexx 50 ADD midtown Power- corsair rm 750w 80+gold fully modular at Cooling- cool master hyper 212 rgb
I'm wondering if I should buy a rtx 2060 graphics card or if that is overkill and I buy a 1660. And am I missing anything else??? So confused, know nothing. Built this on partpicker and it says compatible but don't know what I'm doing! Lol... son plays call of duty and wants to stream.
**Update: okay I have a revised list, trying to go with everything everyone said..... https://ca.pcpartpicker.com/user/Michelle32/saved/JN378d Thank you again to everyone who has been so helpful with this. I can't say how much it means!