I am trying to link back to my original post, but I can’t figure it out on mobile — please someone help.
EDIT: I figured it out, that ass to the dozen or so people who posted links : )
Thanks for all the comments, not to mention all of the perspectives I definitely did not consider.
A few clarifications:
I haven’t dated since before dating apps were a thing and I was married for 7 years so please give me some grace for being Very Bad At This.
We went on an outdoor date (a walk on the boardwalk near where we live) and didn’t so much as hug. Wore masks anytime we were close to other people (turns out not many people walk outside at night when it’s 40 degrees, though).
Both he and I have kids, so the “single mom, run for the hills” thing goes both way, right?
My intended text wasn’t the exact phrase “thanks, you’re great” — I think that would be super rude! I would have been kind and appropriate (had I not instead just written “that ass” but, here we are.)
No, I don’t know why my phone autocorrected to “that ass.” I am glad it makes people think I have a much more interesting life and Google search history than I do!
Finally, the update:
He sent me back a link to the music video for “Mr. Jones.” I do not know if this was also an accidental text or if I’m missing some symbolism here. Counting Crows fans, please advise.
We then chatted about the Cleveland Browns as if nothing weird had happened.
In any case, I decided the universe (and Reddit) was facilitating enough rom-com vibes (and “don’t be so quick to judge” comments) that I might as well go on one more date with a nice, friendly dude, with, for what it’s worth, a pretty decent butt.
Tl;dr I am seeing that ass again.
Why YSK: People often ridicule the grammatical or other mistakes in people’s English to invalidate their point. Chances are they noticed it too and simply don’t care. Their point still stands stall if it’s coherent enough, anyone going out of the way to comment on their mistake is either losing the argument or are too immature to engage in one.
It’s very common in the Indian subcontinent.
Edit: About time I made an edit to have my final say and leave. I personally love English and it's not even my mother tongue. It is, for me, the most beautiful language ever and I want to be as good at it as I can. I made this post because a lot of non-native speakers out there are ridiculed everyday for bad, incorrect English. While it is important to speak the language you're speaking as correctly as possible, for some it may not matter so much because they don't need it anywhere in their life. Also, one should always look for when is one helpfully correcting your mistakes so you may learn and appreciate them. Enough preaching. Over and out.
Why YSK: because mistakes happen and minds change, especially during such an emotional and stressful time. You don’t have to live with regret because you messed up the spelling or you suddenly realize that the baby’s name just isn’t the right one.
CDPR decided to make an open world RPG placed in a huge and supposedly alive futuristic city, and they made the player character a walking time bomb. There is no room to add interesting stuff like creating your own faction, exploring the world and chill etc. cuz the player would die like in few weeks. In TW3 Geralt was looking for Ciri, and in Fallout 4 the sole survivor had to find Shaun but even those games didn't make the player character this desperate.
Why can't the open world games today be like good old Skyrim where you are allowed to do pretty much anything from the start and not bound by certain plot conditions? The basic setting of this game started all wrong and I don't see the way how to save this game.
This one makes me rage sometimes. So there you are, having made some sort of mistake.
For hypotheticals lets pretend you forgot to put your mask on before going into Walmart. (This isn't about masks dont make it about masks, just using an example).
"Sir you need to have a mask on." (Acceptable)
"Why yes here it is, I'm so sorry I forgot. You're right." (Puts on mask)
We are officially done here.
"Well you see theres a pandemic going on....." (wrong. The conversation is over)
"Yeah, you're right I'm sorry man." (Acknowledged twice now, problem corrected! We are done now.)
"When you dont have a mask on you can infect other people...." (why the fuck are you still talking)
Edit: First, oh my poor inbox.
Second, thanks all for making this thread awesome.
Third, I notice a trend in the naysayers - you can only make your point by assuming things incorrectly, adding your own imaginary details and then baking them into some scenario that has little resemblance to anything I've described. YOU, my friends, are what is wrong with the world today.
Just received this via e-mail! Looks like TurboTax is working with the IRS to get the 14 million people that were initially screwed out of the second stimulus that money to us after all! Should be directly deposited to our own bank accounts soon, currently doing a little happy dance ☺️
Thought I’d share to hopefully spread some relief!
"We are happy to share that stimulus payments will begin to be deposited on January 8th for millions of our customers affected by the IRS error. We expect most of these payments to be available that day, but banks could take a few business days to process. Payment will be deposited into the same bank account that customers received their 2019 tax refund." - TT at link below.
EDIT: A lot of skepticism in these comments, which is totally fair. Don't blame you at all. For financial reasons, it's wise to not count on it. For personal reasons, I'm going to hold onto hope for a little bit. Take care guys!
FINAL EDIT (01/09/20): Great news! There are tons of comments from people confirming they HAVE received their stimulus checks, myself included. Sort the comments from “best” to “new” to see. If you haven’t yet received it, I hope you do soon. Best of luck everyone!
TL;DR: Discovered FIRE at age 26 with $172,000 in student debt. My wife and I rearranged our entire life to hit FI as quickly as possible - Heavy work schedule, plus planning to build NW with BRRRR (Buy, Rehab, Rent, Refinance, Repeat). We are now ~seven years in (out of then-estimated 12 total) and decided to slow down: sold the rental units, paid off the personal mortgage (both financial 'mistakes' I'm very happy with) and am taking a more relaxed, surefire path to FI involving low (but comfortable) expenses, no rentals, and reducing work schedule. Journey, thoughts, and numbers below.
Journey before destination.
#This is way longer than I intended; it also has all the info in it I enjoy hearing about other people’s FIRE journeys. . . sorry for the length.
###Background (Skip this if you want; I enjoy reading these, so I lay it out for others)
I had terrible money habits growing up: they continued until I was 26. Really bad. I grew up on foodstamps, and we never had any excess money; anything that came in went right back out on expenses. I’d like to say they were necessities, but looking back. . . I think we could have done a lot better. The scarcity mindset that living at the financial edge instills is real, and I continued to spend every dollar available to me (by work or by loan) until I stumbled across FIRE. Constantly racked up credit card debt, and took every dollar that was ever available on student loans.
I regret taking the amount of student loans we did; we could have done less (though not anywhere near zero) They say “That first 100K is hardest”, but it’s really that “That first 100K from zero is hardest” because if you hit a low point of -172,000, compound interest doesn’t really help you for that first 272K. . .
Income/expenses listed are at the end of that calendar year.
Graduated in 2011 with a Civil Engineering Degree, wife was a student, working on a Masters in Public Health. This was the absolute peak of the financial crisis for engineering. I took a (not quite full time) temp job as a web developer making $20/hr, and we maxed out taking my wife’s student loans:
Income: 31K me, 0K wife, 31K comb || Exp: ~40K || NW: -$163,000
Wife graduated grad school halfway through the year and got a fellowship for $24/hr. My temp work finished halfway through the year, and I ‘worked’ full-time applying to engineering jobs. Finally got one after a few hundred resumes, but wouldn’t start... keep reading on reddit ➡
In 2003, NBA agent Bill Duffy somehow forgot to notify the Miami Heat that his client, Anthony Carter, was going to exercise his $4.1m player option. This made Carter a free agent, and since he wasn't a very good player all he could get was a minimum contract with the Spurs ($750,000). To make up for this, Duffy worked out a 17-year payment plan to pay back $3m to Carter. This year he made the final payment.
This mistake didn't cost Duffy his career, and he's currently the agent for Luka Doncic, Rajon Rondon and Goran Dragic.
Oh, and this strange event allowed the Heat to sign Lamar Odom, who they later traded for Shaq, who was instrumental in their 2006 championship! Butterfly wings, etc.
A better phrasing of the last line of this post would be “and you can empower them to be their best”
To clarify for many who seem to be misinterpreting this —- consequence does not inherently mean punishment, it means any and all response to clarify to the person that the action was incorrect and to needs to be modified with clarity around the ideal modification. It may include punishment, but only if necessary.
Further clarification —- this assumes that you are on in the right and are doing this in an ethical and above board manner that allows the person to be both heard and respected as is suitable relevant to their specific actions taken.
Further further - good accountability helps people reach their full potential and is not a net negative but a net positive. Coaching is a form of accountability.