I have a friend who is baffled why men don't enjoy movies or books in the "romance" genre. She says it's because men are often too insecure in themselves to feel like they can enjoy that sort of thing.
In my opinion, it's a lot more simple and upsetting. Where women look at romance novels and see love and caring, men look at them and see work.
To be fair, sometimes these movies and novels hide it pretty well. Maybe it starts with a happenstance encounter, a "meet cute." The relationship will progress - sometimes it will look like it's by accident. Loving glances are exchanged. Meaningful gestures of affection are performed. Eventually things reach a head and the characters begin ravishing each other, unable to keep their affection hidden any longer.
What most women will see is a guy who is empathetic and open and aboundingly loving.
What most men will see is a horrifying amount of work and luck. These novels and movies often treat the man as an almost omniscient entit... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I'm lap swimming, and we have 7 swim lanes. 7. That is a ridiculous number of lanes. And, as per usual at this time in the morning, they're all occupied. Now, usually, you share lanes under these circumstances. Not a problem.
Except this time I'm somehow the only woman swimming, in the crappy shallow lane.
Man comes in, and wants to swim. That's fine. He has to share a lane (which is risky due to COVID anyway), but he won't share with any of the men in the good lanes.
No, he absolutely has to share with the only woman in the pool. And of course, every time we pass he has to graze his hand across my ass.
Eventually, I told him if he couldn't keep his hands to himself, I'd either start hitting, or he could move to another lane. I was here first, and the only reason he came into this lane is that there's a woman here. Seriously, this is the worst lane.
(Yes, the lifeguard told him to get out after I yelled at him. Apparently he's way more obvious about the groping when you ca... keep reading on reddit ➡
Had to beg my bf to pull over so I could go. **Some details changed because he knows my main
This happened last week and I am still so embarrassed I could die. We were on a 2 hour road trip or so up north and I didn’t realize that there were almost no rest stops while we were driving. All I had to drink was an iced tea and after an hour I was squirming so bad I was holding back tears. He kept reassuring me that we were almost there but we couldn’t find anywhere to stop. I was honestly so afraid I was going to pee my pants in his nice car that I had to ask him to pull over to the side of the road. I haven’t had to do that since I was like 5 years old.
He was so, so nice about it; opened both passenger side doors to cover me and held a jacket open in front of me so I could lean out from the car and go, even asked if I needed anything to clean up afterwards. I cried afterwards and I still feel so humiliated and afraid at the thought of taking a long trip with him again. He told me not t... keep reading on reddit ➡
My words might be all over the place, just trying to gather my thoughts.
It’s crazy to me how in this day and age we advocate for women’s mental health, we advocate for people to be understanding of women’s needs. But i noticed with the whole Will smith debacle (His wife jada was sleeping with someone while they were still married but taking a break) anyways in the video he looks really sad and like he’d been crying - might’ve just been tired but nevertheless, the internet wouldn’t stop with the jokes. If the shoe were on the other foot it would be people banding together calling others insensitive. I know that it’s popular right now to say “men are trash” and i just think if people went around saying “women are trash” everyone would be up in arms. We should be advocating for good mental health for ALL people. I know statistically speaking men commit more crimes and stuff like that, and it’s more of a reason to lift men up and advocate for their mental health.
Edit: Hi all, didn’t... keep reading on reddit ➡
This happened about ten years ago, and I was in my early twenties. I had recently broken up with my long term boyfriend and a good friend of mine invited me to come to a party in her city for a night out to get my mind off things. I was a very inexperienced drinker, had a few too many drinks before even leaving for the bar and opted to stay back at her place.
She lived in an apartment with a few other girls, and one of the girls boyfriend and his friends also stayed back to have a few more drinks before going to the bar.
I was in my friends room and could clearly hear the group of guys (I think there was at least 3), discussing how they should rape me before going to the bar. They talked about how they might strike out with the girls at the bar, and they wanted to make sure they got an ‘easy lay’ before they headed out.
At that point I realized I had to do something. I was in my friends room, I didn’t have my phone near me and I honestly panicked. At that point I jumped up and lo... keep reading on reddit ➡
My friend sent me a disturbing TikTok video today where a girl exposes a website men have been using to share nudes of women local to their area. I went on the board to my state and on the front page I saw one of my sister’s friends, a girl I have known since she was 10 and I know would never post something like that publicly. Her name and face was included in all pics with men requesting more from whatever asshole was sharing them. I went to my local college page and after going through a 2 pages I saw 3 girls I recognized. I had to stop after that because I felt nauseous.
The posts include both location and names as well, incredibly personally identifying information that sometimes had a social media handle. There are town specific threads. All the posts were of women, there were posts requesting women, even of mothers and married women.
Women need to stop sharing nudes, even if you don’t include your face in them they will still post a picture of your face above them in their sick... keep reading on reddit ➡
My boyfriend and I both currently work in (different) restaurants. I work as a server, and he works as a bar manager.
Yesterday, he came home from work and was fairly distant and quiet. I could tell his mind was elsewhere. So, I prodded a little bit over the course of a few hours, as I was concerned for him.
Well, when he opened up...I was shocked.
Yesterday, a family of 5 walked into his restaurant, and the father wasn’t wearing a mask. Currently, his restaurant requires that everyone wears a mask while entering the building, walking around the building, working, or leaving the building. And they hold to it.
So, a young teenage hostess asked the father if he had a mask...they have masks to provide to guests should they not have one.
The mother answered “Oh! He doesn’t wear a mask.” And chuckled.
The father...then lifted his shirt, revealing a gun on his hip, and stated “When you have one of these, you don’t need a mask!”
The hostess made a quick and smart decision...she de-esca... keep reading on reddit ➡
Before /r/TwoXChromosomes was made a default sub on reddit, this environment felt much more supportive for women. For instance, when women posted here looking for reassurance after an uncomfortable public encounter, women would provide that support. Today, however, those types of posts are flooded with men trying to question the validity of women's experiences. Things like: Why didn't you call the police? Are you sure the man in question had poor intentions? Why are you generalizing to "all men"? etc.
Believe it or not, you're not the first man to ask us these questions; you're the hundredth. We've thought about all of them, and we have damn good answers. But we don't owe you an explanation or justification for these things, especially when we're posting here looking for support after a distressing encounter!
Women are constantly having to explain and defend themselves from the men here. This sub is no longer a safe place for women to seek support from other women. But we can change... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit 1: Dear people in the comments section, I NEVER said women don't shame fellow women for not wearing bras? All I'm saying is men feel the need to comment more on the topic and frankly, it's getting annoying.
Edit 2: To the idiot saying 'and then you complain about getting raped', get the fuck outta here. You're disgusting.
Edit 3: Thank you for the awards! They made my day :)
Before the whining about "mansplaining" begins, I'm a woman, so don't waste your nail polish.
I hear too often how women "can't tell him" various things bothering her, because "he has a fragile ego." No, you can't tell him these things because you're attacking him and being hateful when you tell him.
You also can't tell him things because you only tell him negative things. You're ungrateful.
If you tell a man, "I like it when a guy gives me chocolates," he'll probably give you chocolates. If you snap at him that maybe you'd forgive him if his lazy ass got up off of the couch and got you some chocolates... You're likely to get only a big argument.
If he gets you the wrong kind of chocolates, and you tell him so with all the fury in your rotten little soul, you're to blame when you get no more chocolates.
If you tell him how much you appreciate how hard he tried, and actually, you know, appreciate that he DID try... And then say that your favorites are X type, but you will enjoy the... keep reading on reddit ➡
I understand that there are A LOT of men who sadly do apply to that statement but if any similar generalising statement is made on some other group to this degree, it's considered wrong/racist/sexist. If you disagree, you're just privileged or you're one of the ones who are trash and I just don't understand this line of thinking.
Edit: Thanks for all the replies guys! You've helped me understand this clearer than ever and I really appreciate that
Edit 2: When I said "I don't understand this line of thinking", I meant the part about the backlash received when someone disagrees with such a blanket statement. I am not offended by the statement in any way
After taking a dump, why are there still some guys not washing their hands? Especially with this pandemic going on. Doing this at home is one thing, but in a public/office restroom after wiping yourself? It Just doesn’t seem very considerate.
Whenever I’m in public I have a habit of smiling at people. I’m conscious of it and if I catch eyes with someone I tell myself “you have to smile at them!” So I just wear a small pleasant smile on my face at all times when I’m in public.
I do this because I’ve been conditioned by men to smile. So many times they’ve said to me something like “You should smile more honey!” Or “You’d look better if you’d smile!” By complete random strangers I’m just passing by. I once got told that while I was I was trying to get into my car during a hurricane, and I had dropped something made of glass and it broke in the parking lot... and some asshat tells me I need to smile more?
So I just started smiling all the time while I’m in public, to avoid men making those comments. See, I’m smiling! No need to come up and tell me to smile, I’m already doing it! I’ve asked men about this and they can’t believe it. No one would ever tell a man he has to smile in public all the time.
But now, we’re all... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm about 5 years married and I notice that our relationship isn't the same as it once was. I'm always drawing blanks on how to whoo her and make her feel loved, special, and listened to. How can I improve and get that spark back? I feel that I'm just annoying and a burden for her recently. I will answer back later in the morning. Thanks
EDIT: woke up to 4k upvotes, thank you reddit fam, I will try to start replying to your great suggestions.
EDIT2: I did not expect this to blow up like this, or make the front page! Thanks everyone for the great advice.
My fellow dudes..... I just got PROPOSED too by my wonderful fiancée!! After over a month of having her ring in a box in my car, planning out the perfect surprise trip to pop the question this absolute GEM of a woman busts in and ruins all my plans by proposing to ME! I couldn't believe it, I was absolutely ecstatic and immediately grabbed her ring too. I said yes!
It took me by complete surprise in the best of ways. I've ALWAYS wanted to be proposed too, but of course being the man I felt I had to do it. We had discussed it in the past and she said that it was a cool idea. Nothing else really came of it so I buckled down and made my plans after two years of dating. Then...she suddenly gets excited. Asks where my keys are (mail key is on mine) and runs to the mailbox in short shorts, Pokémon T-shirt (that is mine) and her rainboots (no rain in sight). Sprints the quarter mile to the mailbox (townhome community), sprints back, runs in COVERED in sweat with the biggest smile on her face... keep reading on reddit ➡
Now this isn't about anyone who was assaulted by many men, this is for those that brought their own pain.
Women that say this usually love the bad boy type, the cold and disassociated, and yet complain about how all men are trash because that's the kind of men they go for. They brought their own pain and gotta lay in their own bed now that they made.
I know this'll be brought up, but the men that say all women are trash go for the hoes and the cheaters and then complain they get cheated on.
Edit: holy shit that's a lot of upvotes, thanks for the rewards kind strangers!
Edit number 2: Can y'all stop calling me a nice guy I don't wanna reply I'm a asshole to every one of y'all lmao
Skinny guys, you’re cute too, I’m not totally shallow and just care about appearance. But I am way more attracted to big guys. I like big bellies, I like jiggle, I like husky men. It genuinely turns me on. I love to cook, and I love to feed a guy.
Some of the absolute nicest, genuine guys I’ve ever met are the ones who are overweight. I don’t know, it seems like they put more emphasis on who they are and how they treat people, rather than worrying about getting ripped and putting all their self worth into what their bodies look like. I don’t think you guys quite get the love you deserve and I’m here to tell you, that shit is so cute.
So my fiancee (27F) and I (28M) recently joined bank accounts. This is after we bought our house and was mainly my idea. We were sending eachother money for bills and it was just annoying. We both have access to the account, debit cards, all our money goes in and out from said account.
I pay all the bills, and usually know when what is getting taken out. My problem lies when I try to talk to my fiancee about it. Essentially we are trying to save for the wedding and I want to pay off some debt faster and it seems hard to talk about money.
Common things said are “you stress me out” “i work so i can spend it how i want” “you get your stuff, so i can get my stuff”. I am trying to manage all this since someone has to but we are not “struggling” as she says. Obviously right now we don’t have to pay student loans so it seems there is more money and it isnt a big deal, but in the very near future they will be back.
I know this could have been post in personal finance or relationship_advi... keep reading on reddit ➡
I was talking about this with my friend who is gay the other day, and who speaks with that kind of camp tone (if that makes sense?) and he was curious about this as well - he said he’s never made a conscious effort to change or modify his voice, and he’s always sounded the way he has even before he came out. Why is this?
I don't have to debate with you as to why I don't want a domestic abuser to be a part of the friend group
I don't have to convince you that women in media is good, it just is
I don't have to convince you that my rapist is a bad person, your a fucking dense mother fucker that can't handle responsibility
I'm sick of men saying that they're not sexist and progressive then when it actually comes to it, they act like nothings happening
I'm sick of women's work at home not being seen as work, she got half because she did half the fucking work
I don't say 'what about men' when you mention men's suicide rates, why do you say it when I talk about sexual assault?
You tell me 'not all men', not because that's true, but because you want to absolve yourself of any responsibility of the toxic masculinity you perpetuate is a massive issue that you don't want a part it. It's not up to you.
I can't just say 'no', I can't just 'tell somebody', women are doubted for simply being women
She's not d... keep reading on reddit ➡
I met this guy and he never ask for help, even when he really needs help, he doesn't talk about it with his friends or anyone else. His best friend is my friend too. I don't know if it is pride or something else, but there's a lot of men that just don't ask for any help, ou talk about their problems.
Here is an example that applies to me
Stereotypically Masculine: Whisky and BBQ
Stereotypically Non Masculine: Musicals and Drag Shows
Edit: Holy crap I love all these answers and did not expect this to blow up as much as it did!!
I (24f) recently started seeing a new guy who waited until we were in bed about to get it on to tell me that he doesn’t wear condoms “on principle.”
He said that he’s used them before for one night stands but not people he “talks to” because it doesn’t feel as intimate or close. I told him that down the line if we got tested and were committed it would be different, but this would’ve been our first time so I was not gonna let that fly (personal/sexual health is not something I am willing to compromise). It led to an argument which ended with him saying girls have never had issues with it before and leaving.
I, slightly hurt and feeling rejected, just took this as a load of f*** boy bs and kicked him to the curb. I talked to other women and found out that it’s not an uncommon phenomenon.
So what’s the deal, men of reddit? Do you wear condoms? If not, what’s your reasoning?
Edit: wow so many responses to get through! For clarification: this was 5 or 6 dates in, but we had not committ... keep reading on reddit ➡
Just that. I was reading a post from yesterday about service workers and the amount of unwanted attention from men women get/ Lo and behold the thread is full of comments such as; well not every guy, and but men are are so lonely give them a break
Fuck no that is exactly the problem. Yes women have to hold all men, every single one, they meet each day to that high standard. Because if they make an exception for one of those poor awkward 'starved for attention' men, then the flood gate is open and women are back to putting up with atrocious behavior just for being nice.
The argument that it's so hard being a man and having to deal with all these 'mixed' signals is absurd since the only mixed signal is the one in your brains convincing you that every interaction with a women can turn into a porno. Let me also say it's pretty traumatizing to women coming to the realization that a lot of men literally cannot control themselves around our very existence.
And any of you 'not all men' type... keep reading on reddit ➡
First off, I have zero issue with women working in any of these fields. If this is what you want to do, fucking get after it - who am I to judge what you want to do with your life.
My issue is with the physical standards for men and women. Where I live in Canada, for the physical tests required to become a firefighter or officer (and maybe soldier?), women have lower requirements than their male counterparts. Women are not required to have the same strength and speed as men.
A fire does not provide smaller victims, because a petite female is responding. Criminals don't take it easier on smaller women. Terrorists will engage in combat with any gender. And so on.
If my 200lb ass is unconscious in a building fire, I want someone that's 6'5" and 260lbs to toss me over their shoulder and carry me out, not some 115lb person (male or female) that can barely drag me on the ground. (*In-line edit: The 6'5"/260lbs firefighter is hyperbole, to drive a point home. I've had multiple people comme... keep reading on reddit ➡
Sparked by a conversation with a younger guy elsewhere on Reddit... I recently responded elsewhere to a younger poster who claimed to be a 15 year old guy who had recently lost his virginity (she was my first kiss, he said) to the 20 year old nanny of acquaintances of his. He'd mentioned that they'd been drinking (3 beers and 3 shots for our young protagonist) and she put the moves on him.
Multiple respondents pointed out to him that this is statutory rape. His general responses were along the lines of "I was statutorily raped, and I loved it." I tried suggesting, as someone with a pretty storied past of my own (I was sleeping with a 34 year old at 20. I was much more likely to offer a 20 year old cab fare home at 34 than to think about getting myself some action.) that his perspectives might shift as he gets older. He insists he's a legend.
Can we discuss the ways in which society conditions men to view their self-worth as directly tied to their ability to obtain sexual... keep reading on reddit ➡
It’s obviously men. Most women don’t even have a dick to get hard. How tf would women be harder if ~99% can’t even get hard.
Robin Hood Men in Tights uses 4th wall breaking and references just enough.
Excellent examples of some of the 4th Wall Breaking
• Slow zoom in to Maid Marian's window resulting in a later shot where a camera breaks through the window
• Teamsters eating donuts and drinking coffee during the sword fight between Robin Hood and Rottingham
• Exit sign above a doorway in the castle
• Robin taking out a script after losing the archery contest
For spoof movies movies, if it's too reference-heavy it can kind of take you out of following the actual story. I will also attribute the film's use of an original score that allows it to feel like a "real movie"
Cultural references at that time (1993): Malcolm X, snapbacks, Home Alone, "the club" steering wheel lock, faxing, Arseno Hall (woot woot woot)