So, I'll preface by saying me and my husband have vastly different tastes in basically everything. For the most part it doesn't matter, but we clash heavily when it comes to food.
Before we met, I basically never ate out, drank nothing but water and unsweet tea (with the occasional juice) and ate mostly vegetarian, always pretty healthy meals. When we started dating I started eating out a lot more because that's what he always wanted to do and I'm honestly easily influenced. I learned pretty quickly that he doesn't like ANYTHING that includes anything other than a variation of meat, cheese, and starch (rice, bread, pasta, potatoes). Not a single vegetable other than corn, no dairy except butter, no fruits, no grains, nothing. He also hates a majority of seasonings.
I ended up adapting my cooking to suit his tastes, occasionally making myself healthy sides but it bothered him so I mostly stopped. I tried to at least have healthy lunches or choose healthier options when eating out, which was still regularly.
Eventually we had a daughter, and now that she's getting old enough to eat with us, I'm pretty much done with how we eat. I don't like eating like this, I've gained weight and feel out of shape, my body feels awful, whatever. And I don't want our daughter to grow up not eating anything healthy and substantial. So I stopped agreeing to fast food and made him only get it for himself and started cooking nice meals again... which he of course hates. Ive begged him to at least try and find SOMETHING remotely healthy he likes eating (quite frankly, my food doesn't even taste healthy, our friends and family rave about how delicious it is even when it has stuff they normally don't like in it), it really shouldn't be that hard. But he refuses. So I told him he can make his own meals if he doesn't like ours, that I'm tired of eating unhealthy all the time.
He accepted it at first, but he's gradually been getting more upset about it. He says it's not fair that we have these nice meals and he's stuck eating crap. I told him he's free to join, and what he's making himself is literally the same things I'd make him anyways (minus some "fancier" things), and that I'd be willing to still make some of the fancier ones just not so often. But he says its not the same and he wants nice healthy meals like ours and it's not fair that he's being excluded. I told him unless he's willing to let me add spices and vegetables to the meals, I literally CAN'T make him nice he... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit: that’s a lot of notifications! Good to see we’re mostly all managing to keep ourselves fed and hydrated one way or another 💙
Edit 2: I've seen a few people say they're saving this post, which is amazing! I didn't expect this response at all!
I thought it might be helpful to put a little list of some common answers/easy meals here that I've seen if anyone's struggling and needs something minimum effort...
Meal replacement shakes/protein shakes/smoothies/tinned soup
Super quick, gets some nutrients in, ultimate minimum effort!
Beans on toast! A UK staple/easy meal of champions. Add cheese (and Worcestershire sauce/hot sauce) if you're feeling up to it!
Double up cooking when you're feeling good! Stick those extra portions in the freezer and just whack 'em in the microwave
Two tortilla wraps with some cheese (and whatever else you fancy) in the middle, stick it in the microwave and you're good to go
On a fork, on a spoon, on an apple, in a PBJ sandwich, added to a protein shake....just, peanut butter.
I saw a great tip (not sure who from, sorry, but I'll try and find it!) who recommended ordering some extra portions of rice in a takeaway because it's quick and easy!
Pasta! Cook loads at once if you need to. Add pesto, or a jar of sauce, or a tin of tuna, or just some cheese. Whatever you have.
Eggs Easy to boil, peel and eat. Better than nothing!
Or, the recipes that are more trouble than they’re worth. Mine are:
Miso soup - the dashi smell always gets stuck in my nose and ruins it for me. I’ve tried a few instant soup mixes, and they were fine but it’s usually cheap enough to just get this from a restaurant instead.
Anything with aioli.
I’m curious to hear what you all think! If this has already been posted somewhere, please let me know 🙂
While my husband and i were at work my mother in law invited herself into our house without our permission and cooked a 4 course meal for us, cleaned our house and hanged up pictures of herself in my unborn daughter nursery.
She lives about an hour away, my husband defended her while I was telling her how wrong it was for her to just invite herself into our home. He said its normal for his family and that his family is just close and explained how his mom did something similar to his sister
I told both of them i don't care how normal it is for his family, she can not under no circumstances enter our house without our permission or knowledge and explained to his mom to never do this again and that i could press charges on her, she got upset and started crying my husband tried to comfort her but she just moves away from him and said I see I'm not wanted here and left.
Now his side of the family is upset and thinks i cursed her out which i never done anything of the sort I just asked her not to invite herself in my house, my husband thinks i disrespected his mom.
I honestly starting to feel bad was I in the wrong?
Edit just adding that I have a peanut allergy which is deadly one of the meals she made happened to have peanuts in it
We have a bubble with one other couple and She's had symptoms since Sunday. Her bf didn't make any preparations before he started showing symptoms last night (4 days later) and now they're both stuck in bed with no energy to prepare anything that would be good for their health.
My partner started showing symptoms late last night as well so I've made enough food and got enough groceries that we won't have to prepare too much and I feel this was the right thing to do.
Good luck out there ✌️
ETA: I'm getting a lot of responses who are misunderstanding my tip so I'm gonna try to clear this up. I'm suggesting getting groceries delivered to your door so that you don't go out and infect anyone, if you don't have this option please opt for curbside pickup and avoid going in to stores or anywhere you could infect people. And I'm suggesting doing it before you show symptoms because there is a very real possibility that once you start to exhibit symptoms then you will be stuck in bed or too exhausted to do anything.
My friend had ample time to make any kind of preparations like food delivery or meal prep and he chose to do nothing and now wishes he also had done something, so I'm providing you his cautionary tale so that you don't find yourselves in this position.
Edit 2: some commenters have added some great ideas for prep: >Preparing some soup and freezing it, or some spaghetti sauce or chilli, order lots of fresh fruit and vegetables that are easy to prepare and eat, get some stuff to help manage symptoms like cough drops perhaps! Frozen food you can put in the oven is quick and simple also. Thank you! U/advice-239400
>The Voila pasta and veggie bags in the frozen veggie section are life savers!! Thanks! U/bleepin_bleep
>For anybody who's curious Walmart has a pretty good deal with "walmart+" which is basically just delivery for food and such at like 10 bucks a month and you can start a free 30 day trial with answering 3-5 questions. Thank you! U/somewhiteguys
>GrubHub and ubereats is always an option too guys if you have the means! Thanks u/supercharged0709
Thank you for everyone's input and suggestions! RIP my inbox there are way too many messages to get through so I'll save it for another day. Happy new year everyone! Happy and healthy wishes to you all, yes even the lot of you who were rude for no reason.
And thanks for the awards!
Some prep advice from u/ajwink [prepare a bug out bag](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/koh... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have been skipping meals to be able to afford food for my kids since they were born seven years ago. 2020 was the first time I managed to go a whole year without doing this.
For me this is a huge accomplishment but I am too embarrassed to share it anywhere else.
Skipped meals over last few years (only started tracking number in 2016 to see how I was doing each year)
2020 - 0 2019 - 45 2018 - 110 2017 - 137 2016 - 184
Kia Kaha to those out there struggling.
Some background. I (18M) have severe germophobia. Paired with my perfectionist tendencies due to my Autism, I tend to clean anything that I touch or will be touching. My parents understand this and they're generally OK with it as long as I'm not bothering anyone.
Today, I went over to my grandmother's apartment with my mother so we could have breakfast with her. I had no problem with that. The one thing I was worried about though, is that my grandmother never washes her dishes or silverware. She just runs them under water and lightly scrubs them with her fingers. In her book, that counts as clean. So when we got there, and I saw that my grandmother already set out food on her plates I was very nervous.
My mother and I talk a little with my grandmother and then we go to eat. The second I sit down, I notice crusty food on the fork and plate. I almost gagged. My mother asked me what was wrong, and I pulled her aside and told her as to not insult my grandmother. My mother then got very angry with me saying things like "she made this meal for YOU, not me" and "you should be grateful, but here you are acting like a spoiled brat". When I still refused to eat the food because I would legitimately vomit if I put the food in my mouth, my mom called me an asshole and told me to just leave. She told me to get an Uber and go home.
So here I am, at home, and I was wondering if I was the asshole in this situation?
Thank you and stay safe.
For example, why should I pay 20% for a plate of Chicken Caesar Salad that costs $10, but also expect to pay 20% for the exact same type of plate but with an expensive steak that costs $100. The waiter in both cases does the same thing, punch in the order, wait for the order, brings it to the table, asks us if we need anything else, gives us water...etc. But in the end I pay $10+$2, or $100+$20 for the waiter basically doing the exact same thing. I just want to understand, thank you!
Why YSK: If you ever need any of these things, just look for the nearest Sikh temple. While you’re there, please respect their culture and cover your hair while you’re in the prayer hall or in “langar” hall. A langar hall is where the food is served. If you like you can also volunteer to help in the kitchen and elsewhere.
Sounds odd, but I’ve been trying to put together a rotation of staple meals that as a person i their 20s, I should know. I like to do a general rotation of pastas, meats and casseroles with the occasional ‘I made an effort, woo self care’ meal thrown in for variety...but now it feels like I’m lacking any variety 😂 What are your week night meals?