Emotional Intelligence quotes

Emotional Intelligent quotes

“But feelings can't be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they seem."

  • Anne Frank

"I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them."

  • Oscar Wilde

"Watch your thoughts, they become words; watch your words, they become actions; watch your actions, they become habits; watch your habits, they become character; watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."

  • Frank Outlaw

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

  • Maya Angelou

"Those that will not hear must be made to feel."

  • German proverb

"One ought to hold on to one's heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too."

  • Friedrich Nietzsche

“Empathy does not equal agreement."

  • Chris Voss

"Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions."

  • Albert Einstein

"Apologizing doesn't always mean you're wrong and the other person is right. It means you value your relationship more than your ego."

  • Anonymous

"Care for your psyche...know thyself, for once we know ourselves, we may learn how to care for ourselves."

  • Socrates

"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence."

  • Robert Frost

"Happiness depends upon ourselves."

  • Aristotle

"He only profits from praise who values criticism."

  • Heinrich Heine

"Emotion can be the enemy, if you give into your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions, because the body always follows the mind."

  • Bruce Lee

"He that loves to be flattered is worthy o' the flatterer."

  • William Shakespeare

"Treat your men as you would your own beloved sons. And they will follow you into the deepest valley."

  • Sun Tzu

"The idea that you have to be protected from any kind of uncomfortable emotion is what I absolutely do not subscribe to."

  • John Cleese

"You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you."

  • Walt Disney

"When anger rises, think of the consequences."

  • Confucius

"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."

  • Norman Vincent Peale

"Tact is the knack of making

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How bans work over here

Just in case there's any confusion about how site moderation works over here, let's get a few things straight. First of all, let's make sure we're all on the same page about what site moderators do:

>Reporting a post or a user to a moderator for violating site rules is standard procedure on any forum. If I get unwanted DMs from someone, I can block them. But if I was targeted for harassment (as SGI members routinely do to ex and questioning members), I'd also like to make it a little harder for that harasser to target the next person like me to come along. Reporting an account to the mods can result in a ban that helps protect others as well. I'm also a member of some LGBTQ and trans subreddits that get targeted with hate from time to time. You'd better believe members of those subreddits also contact mods and publicly call out harassers. This is how marginalized people use community to protect each other. And make no mistake, regardless of your own experience with the SGI, the benefits you've gained, or your changed life condition, the SGI is a cult that exploits, abuses, and harasses members and nonmembers alike. Some of the mods and posters on this [SGIWhistleblowers copycat] site can't see it because they benefit from and perpetuate that culture of abuse. That this topic comes up over and over again, always deceptively twisted, is evidence of the manipulative and disingenuous nature of the MITA site. Source

If I remember right, "MITA" stands for "Making Ill-Conceived Twisted Attacks".

>If members of r/sgiwhistleblowers feel they are being pestered or preached at by current SGI members and don't like it, they can let ANY of the sub moderators know (there are several, Blanche is just one of them - albeit one with more time than some others).

For the record, as the mod of the longest-standing experience, I take it upon myself to swing that banhammer for a few reasons:

  1. It doesn't bother me as much as it bothers others (who have not yet had their sensitivity obnoxioused out of them by repeated confrontations with boorish SGI members)
  2. I have fewer fucks to give
  3. The more time passes, the less of a shit I give.

In a situation where someone notifies me that they've been subjected to unwanted contact from someone trying to influe

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$230K/month with a marketing agency started from my porch

Hey - Pat from StarterStory.com here with another interview.

Today's interview is with Darren Magarro (u/mags9626) of DSM, a brand that makes revenue generating marketing strategies

Some stats:

  • Product: Revenue Generating Marketing Strategies
  • Revenue/mo: $230,000
  • Started: March 2007
  • Location: Franklin Lakes
  • Founders: 1
  • Employees: 18

Hello! Who are you and what business did you start?

Morning all, my name is Darren Magarro and I am the founder and president of DSM. We’re a full-service marketing and PR firm in Mahwah, NJ.

I started the company in 2007 with a laptop and some IKEA furniture on my front porch. Since then, we’ve grown to 18 people and moved into a new 6,600 sq. ft. office in June of 2017.

Our three main digital media (both organic and paid), traditional media and our full-service creative team. DSM has been a passion project that literally started from nothing. When I started, I had no clients or income. Everything that we’ve made has gone back into growing the company to where it is today. To understand the trajectory of our growth, we’ve increased the size of the company by 334% since 2014...and we still have 2 months left in 2019.

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What's your backstory and how did you come up with the idea?

My personal journey to get to where I am today with not direct and honestly if I would have said 13 years ago that I’d be where I am today...I WOULD HAVE BEEN LYING TO YOU ALL. After starting at the University of New Hampshire in 1995, I lost my father 6 weeks into my freshman year.

After finishing my freshman year, I came back home to New Jersey to be closer to my mom and went to work for a semester doing construction in NYC. From there, I decided to get back into school with the help of a mentor. The whole community rallied around me and really helped me get into Lehigh University in Pennsylvania. Fast forward, 3 ½ years later (and a few rugby injuries) to graduating Lehigh with honors and a history degree (a story for another day).

From there...I assume you’re asking how I went from a history degree to a career in advertising and marketing...bluntly, I couldn’t get a teaching job in a tough market back in 2000. I took an assistant media buyer job at Mediaedge: CIA. From there, I worked my way up the

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Retired Flavors: A Kool-Aid and Me Origin Story; TW Child Abuse (physical)

TW: Child abuse

I posted this here instead of my usual subreddit because it's more of a background story that explains a lot of the fundamental issues between me and Kool-Aid, my JNMIL.

TL;DR be kind and forgiving toward yourself if you don't immediately see a crummy person for who they are, even if you're no stranger to crummy people and crummy behavior.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. --Maya Angelou, paraphrased

It's a great concept to cozy up to. There is no doubt in my mind that many people have been inspired to love themselves better after reading or hearing it, but I have mixed feelings about this phrase largely because it has been my experience that we don't always have ability to understand what we're seeing the first time someone reveals one of their less endearing (read: toxic) facets. Often the tools needed to clearly identify the more dangerous personality traits hinted at in this quote come with worldliness, that hard-earned prize of having been around the block a few times, having received our scars, and having "seen some shit."

And sometimes, with some of us, even after we've seen some shit, we still have a hard time making sense of the new shit we're seeing. Maybe it's a defense mechanism, maybe it's the pockets of fog that adult children of abuse sometimes find themselves in when they are confronted by triggering behavior (my own brain still sometimes greys out when someone does or says something that takes me back; it's like I'm hearing and seeing the thing take place from a vantage point just behind my own head, and I can hear my inner voice trying to tell me that shit is wrong but it seems to be speaking through eight layers of cotton...is there a word for this?). And then one day something happens that makes us look back, or something totally unrelated shakes a pebble loose in our brains, and we think, "Oh. That one time. That really told me everything I needed to know about that person. Why am I just now realizing this?"

I have more than a handful of memories that occasionally needle me with that awful "I should have known" feeling, and they tend to fall in one of the two following categories:

  1. I had no idea what I was looking at, no idea that it was a harbinger of bullshit to come. Some of the memories I have that fall in this category are situations that I managed to see the humor in at the time, and if they'd been one-offs I could still be laughing about them now. But when I realize
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XXXtentacion is a great role model and people need to do more research

I know I sound like a die hard fan but the kid, were talking about a child blew up from a very violent song whilst in jail for chargers of assault with weapons etc. He was not in jail at that period for the domestic abuse

The girlfriend actually dropped all charges of the domestic abuse and in fact liked x and refered to him as her bestfriend. She was also caught faking being pregnant. Now I’ts pretty fucked up still what he did. But he was a young child who was abused and had no father, his mother couldn’t look after him and quoted from the xxxtentaction podcast with adam22 he got into fights at school just so he could get shouted at by his mum because he wanted just some attention. He was then filed with tampering with a witness as the ex girlfriend uploaddd photos of them being together hugging when he had a restraining order on her. Even though you could argue he threatened her it just seems like she forgave him and made a legal fuck up. I still am not however condoning the domestic abuse. But have you ever listened to any of his music that isn’t violent? His music where he tries to help his fans who are suffering with anxiety and depression like he is? He helped so many get through issues with their life that no other rapper in the industry will talk about. Other rappers just want clout chains and bitches. I beg that before you make an opinion on his music you try listen to even just a little bit of these 3 songs so you can be educated on the topic https://youtu.be/ak5V00GVD1g https://youtu.be/THdie-5vC-s https://youtu.be/_Wr7cr6ldy0

The last of which he wrote when he was 15 on his laptop.

If you listen to his music you know he went through a war zone inside his head and wore his heart on sleeve even though he had to make an imagine of being a tough hood rapper, and he at some point obviously found resolve mentally

If you followed him you would know he was very inspired to try use his fame to spread a message of positivity and to people who are suffering they aren’t alone. He wanted to leave a mark that would inspire the generation to do good not flex guns and chains.

https://youtu.be/K3WWXyCtI7Y X used his fame to try and work with charities and start a movement of helping the homeless.

When talking about black lives matter in his interview with skii mask and was asked on black lives matter , he roughly quoted “I’m not apart of black lives matter because we are all equal. If a policeman arrests you and you say it happened because your black you

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Ben Jealous is running to be Governor of Maryland, and he is uniquely qualified to lead

>The Most Important Election of 2018 Might Be Happening in Maryland

>Ben Jealous is taking Bernie Sanders’ revolution down ballot.

>TEXT BY TIM MURPHY; PHOTOGRAPHY BY ANDREW MANGUM JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2018 ISSUE

>Ben Jealous was in a hurry. It was a Sunday morning in early June and he had just addressed a few thousand Bernie Sanders followers at the People’s Summit, a Chicago gathering of lefty organizers. It had been a long weekend of workshops and plenaries and the odd dance party, and Jealous, who is running for governor of Maryland, had helped close it out, speaking on a panel on electoral politics titled “Beyond Neo-Liberalism and Trumpism.” For three days organizers had tallied their victories and studied their setbacks, in an effort to understand where the Sanders-inspired movement was headed. In candidates like Jealous, they seemed to have an answer—the revolution was moving down the ballot.

>Jealous had other things on his mind as he rushed to the airport. The next day, his parents would celebrate the 50th anniversary of Loving v. Virginia, the Supreme Court decision that struck down interracial marriage bans, by renewing their vows at a Baltimore church. But his path to the convention-center taxi stand was blocked by one supporter after another. A twentysomething in a T-shirt that read, “Fuck it, I guess I’m a Democratic Socialist,” wanted a photo. A woman wanted to pass along a book from the author Naomi Klein. A nurse from California just kept saying, “You’re going to win! You’re going to win!”

>The 44-year-old is a difficult man to miss, towering and heavyset with short black hair and a thick goatee peppered with flecks of gray. He is rarely seen in public without suspenders, leaving you with the sense that you are talking to not just the youngest-ever ex-president of the NAACP, but also a lumberjack. In crowds, Jealous doesn’t walk so much as he parts the waters, like a boulder breaking up a rushing stream.

>Finally, he had shed the friendly organizers and the photo-seekers and the man who wanted to have “a couple-minute conversation” about universal basic income. He walked off an escalator, short of breath and sweating a little, into a white-linoleum-floored foyer somewhere in the bowels of the largest convention center in the country. “I don’t know where the fuck we are,” he said. “Do you?”

>It is a familiar sentiment these days. The 2016 election has thrown the Democratic Party and the political left i

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Quotes that an ENFP will relate to!

Taken from Heidi Priebe: http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/11/50-quotes-that-every-enfp-will-instantly-relate-to/

Excuse the crappy formatting!

  1. “It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for your dreams – for the adventure of being alive.”

–Oriah Mountain Dreamer

  1. “Not all who wander are lost.”

–J.R.R. Tolkien

  1. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

–Maya Angelou

  1. “I shall either find a way or make one.”

–Hannibal

  1. “I’m going to find a way to be happy, and I’d really love to be happy with you, but if I can’t be happy with you, then I’ll find a way to be happy without you.”

–Randy Pausch

  1. “You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago.”

–Unknown

  1. “‎I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.”

–E. B. White

  1. “Just once do what others say you can’t do and you will never pay attention to their limitations again.”

–James R. Cook

  1. “I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.”

–Agatha Christie

  1. “Impossible is a word only found in the dictionary of fools.”

–Napoleon

  1. “The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.”

–Jack Kerouac

  1. “Genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age.”

–Aldus Huxley

  1. “You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living breathing screaming invitation to believe better things.”

–Jamie Tworkowski

  1. “If you judge people you have no time to love them.”

–Mother Theresa

  1. “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”

–Eleanor Roosevelt

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The Importance of Storytelling and Testimony for Our Basic Income Project

The overall purpose of the Basic Income Project is to educate, raise public awareness and create supportive communities for basic income. This will be done by providing three individuals in different groups grants of $1,500 per month while they conduct a public relations and marketing tour supporting the concept of a basic income through providing education to citizens. The tour will also serve the goal of generating positive public exposure through community outreach.

Since many people are either unfamiliar with the concept of basic income or misunderstand it, the primary means of gaining support will be through educational efforts. Education is to be the chief instrument in explaining the benefits of Basic Income.

The purpose here is to describe what a basic income is and to convey the benefits of such a policy. This will be an incremental process where recipients will be able to speak in person, sharing their own stories and experiences with Angelenos on how basic income can benefit them and their communities.

Why stories and testimonials?

People are incredibly attracted to stories and testimonials. They are so effective that it is no surprise that they are so frequently used in marketing campaigns.

In fact, storytelling is a valuable tool for helping people to connect with the lived experiences of others. By telling their stories, participants of our project will allow others to see their path, the challenges that they have overcome, and those that still lie ahead. Storytelling is a strong way to connect facts with emotional ties, and help others see the passion that lies within us.

> “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

Thus, it is no surprise that storytelling and testimony are some of the most powerful methods for spreading the message about Basic Income. This allows people to begin to associate faces and backgrounds with the concept and see how it can greatly affect the world in a more personal nature. Storytelling and testimony will transform Basic Income from a theoretical concept to a practical experience, within the context of our project, and can create a sense of purpose and drive people towards action.

While showing data is important and effective, telling a story resonates more with people. Storytelling effects on the brain are present even days afterward, indicating the strong result of a well-told story. T

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Brian

Hey.

I don’t know how else to start this other than with the word “hey”. I could say, “Dear My Dearest Love,” or, “To the Love of My Life,” but I guess for now, I’ll just say “hey”.

I’m not on this account for the reasons you might think. In fact, it’s been so long since I’ve been on it that I had to wrack my brain to try and remember the password. I haven’t touched this account since you and I first started talking. Sometimes I wondered if you wondered about that. I can assure you, ever since you came into my life, I never wanted to be in that place where me met again. I completely forgot about it. I didn’t need it. Because I’d met you.

And I’m not here because I need it now. I’m just here to leave a breadcrumb, in the hopes that you will find it.

I can’t say any of these things to you right now. I’ll probably never get the chance. Because we’re in that black void that comes after breaking up. It’s the last day of June, 2016. It’s been a month and a half.

And I want you to know that none of this is being said with malice or out of anger or to be mean; it's just a bunch of stuff I never got to say.

I don’t know if you’ll ever see this. You probably won’t. I just need to put the thoughts swimming in my head into some concrete context where I can see it to make sense of it. I always write too much. I talk too much. I think too much.

I know that listening to me ramble on the phone got tiring, but you did it, even if I was boring or silly or annoying, because you were trying to be a good boyfriend. You endured the word vomit. I know it tried your patience. I never meant to. I know it’s burdensome. I think it happens because I was so ignored as a child. I’ve felt so alone my whole life.

Growing up, and even to this day, people have always told me that I’m “weird”. Others have said I’m “different” or that because I’m not like other people that it makes me “special”. I’ve had boyfriends give me nicknames because of this… one called me “Snowflake” and another called me “Unicorn”, like I’m some rare anomaly.

I’ve spent the majority of my life nourishing a vivid world inside myself, feeding my imagination because I have always been so alone. To have someone want to listen for once, made me feel alive. I remember being a child and all I wanted was to be noticed, for my parents to see me, to acknowledge me. I still remember every time I was on the Honour Roll or got an award and standing on the stage shaking nervously, looking out into the crowd, hoping to se

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In Conclusion: Teacher Strikes

Hello, Reddit teachers. Long-time ghoster of such sites, first-time poster . . . (lol).

Congratulations and thank you to the West Virginia and Oklahoma teachers. We in Kentucky had our own successes but there is much work to be done (starting with improving a 5%- 35% voter turnout rate--depending on the county--and then running Governor Matt Bevin out of our state). Hang in there, Arizona!!!!

On April 7, as one lesson-planning web search led to another and another, I stumbled across Reddit and a post by proud Oklahoma teacher u/selliegjo. There I read a flurry of supportive comments from other teachers hailing from OK, AZ, CA, CT, PA, VA, WVa, FL, TN, MO, TX,MA, and even Canada. I never felt more connected to others in my profession.

I'm a public high school teacher with 21 years of youthful experience who has been really apolitical my whole life. But no more. I don't intend to be on Reddit but might poke around periodically now that I've found the teacher forums. I just thought of this group first when I read a few items on my Twitter feed this morning. I wanted to scatter out some info to my fellow educators far and wide.

First, my superintendent shared this link via his Twitter last Friday. It is not my place to share his Twitter handle, but I will copy and paste his Tweet: "Koch Brothers, as a political financier, keeps popping up everywhere to bring harm to teachers. Here's another example" He included a link to an article from www.theguardian.com entitled "Secret right-wing strategy to discredit teacher strikes revealed." People will stop at nothing to tear down our profession. Be prepared, friends. (Disclaimer: I hope not to incite a discussion on relevant/irrelevant sources. There are plenty of people against us, whether they be the local masses or "superior" thinktanks on Capitol Hill.)

Secondly, it's old news now that the weekend has passed, but if you haven't seen what Governor Matt Bevin of Kentucky has said about KY teachers, then his "apology" might appear sincere. Another friend posted his so-called apology on Twitter along with an apt quote attributed to Maya Angelou: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." His apology has fallen on deaf ears, as you can imagine.

Hang in there for the rest of your school year, teacher friends near and far.

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$230K/month with a marketing agency started from my porch

Hey - Pat from StarterStory.com here with another interview.

Today's interview is with Darren Magarro (u/mags9626) of DSM, a brand that makes revenue generating marketing strategies

Some stats:

  • Product: Revenue Generating Marketing Strategies
  • Revenue/mo: $230,000
  • Started: March 2007
  • Location: Franklin Lakes
  • Founders: 1
  • Employees: 18

Hello! Who are you and what business did you start?

Morning all, my name is Darren Magarro and I am the founder and president of DSM. We’re a full-service marketing and PR firm in Mahwah, NJ.

I started the company in 2007 with a laptop and some IKEA furniture on my front porch. Since then, we’ve grown to 18 people and moved into a new 6,600 sq. ft. office in June of 2017.

Our three main digital media (both organic and paid), traditional media and our full-service creative team. DSM has been a passion project that literally started from nothing. When I started, I had no clients or income. Everything that we’ve made has gone back into growing the company to where it is today. To understand the trajectory of our growth, we’ve increased the size of the company by 334% since 2014...and we still have 2 months left in 2019.

image

What's your backstory and how did you come up with the idea?

My personal journey to get to where I am today with not direct and honestly if I would have said 13 years ago that I’d be where I am today...I WOULD HAVE BEEN LYING TO YOU ALL. After starting at the University of New Hampshire in 1995, I lost my father 6 weeks into my freshman year.

After finishing my freshman year, I came back home to New Jersey to be closer to my mom and went to work for a semester doing construction in NYC. From there, I decided to get back into school with the help of a mentor. The whole community rallied around me and really helped me get into Lehigh University in Pennsylvania. Fast forward, 3 ½ years later (and a few rugby injuries) to graduating Lehigh with honors and a history degree (a story for another day).

From there...I assume you’re asking how I went from a history degree to a career in advertising and marketing...bluntly, I couldn’t get a teaching job in a tough market back in 2000. I took an assistant media buyer job at Mediaedge: CIA. From there, I worked my way up the

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