I (48M) and my wife (47F) both have very well paying jobs. I am a Pediatric Doctor and she's an Attorney, which have allowed us and our kids (20F), (17M) and (15M) to have a more than comfortable lifestyle.
My wife has a tendency to say things like 'Money doesn't matter' and that 'material things don't matter' and she says them all the time, which kinda irks me because she's right, but I was raised in a poor family, and I know that she wouldn't be saying the same thing if we were middle-class. But I haven't said anything up until this morning.
I had made a comment about needing a better watch, and my wife was saying her usual 'money doesn't matter'. I told her that she was only saying that because we are rich and because she has never experienced being without money in any sense.
Predictably, she got upset with me, and now I'm wondering if perhaps I overreacted and went too far.
Don't like it, stop playing, it's the only message they'll hear.
You can post all you want here and rack up tens of thousands of post karma and a bunch of little reddit awards and as long as you're still logging in and playing the game the only thing Bungie sees is another engaged player.
There's no such thing as conditional support, if you're playing the game you're signaling that you're happy by your continued engagement.
That simple.
Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way. I work for a small business who put huge emphasis on everyone being friends and building a strong team, but it just means it hurts more when someone inevitably stabs you in the back. I'm not saying go around and be a dick to people for no reason, but it's better to build relationships outside of work or in places where there aren't any politics or power imbalances.
Edit: Wow I didn't expect this to blow up and there's too many comments now for me to keep up with. It's kind of vindicating but also sad that so many people feel the same or have had similar negative experiences. For the "my workplace isn't like this" and "my co-workers are my family" people - I hope it stays that way for you, I really do, but I'd maybe read some of the stories on this comment thread and be wary. It's better to be safe than sorry right?
Reddit stop the meaningless insults n shit.
The United States government spends hundreds of billions of dollars each year on national defense, including $544 billion on the Department of Defense (base budget), $70 billion on the Department of Homeland Security, and $80 billion on various intelligence agencies. According to the CBO, approximately 1/6th of US federal spending goes towards national defense.
Yesterday, a mob breached the United States Capitol Building while nearly every single member of Congress, the Vice President, and the Vice President-elect were present in the building. The mob overran the building within a matter of minutes, causing lawmakers to try to barricade themselves, take shelter, prepare to fight the intruders if needed, and later evacuate the premises.
What policy and personnel changes are needed to strengthen our national security apparatus such that the seat of government in the United States is secure and cannot be easily overrun?
What steps might we expect the next administration to take to improve national security, especially with respect to the Capitol?
Will efforts to improve security in the Capitol be met with bipartisan support (or lack thereof)? Or will this issue break along partisan lines, and if so, what might those be?
I'm a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.
I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfriend. I've never explicitly told my daughter "the house will be yours" nor has she asked anything about it, but just sort of common sense - that's my daughter. Who else would I give it to?
One important note - There are 2 homes in the neighborhood that are owned by lower middle class people (me and a neighbor who's been here as long as I have). Otherwise, our neighbors are engineers and software developers. The Bay Area is simply un-affordable if you're not in tech. My daughter is a hair stylist.
My fiance Steven and I have been together for 2 years. He has 2 young children (elementary school) he has joint custody of who I adore and I'm excited to help raise them. Steven and I don't have a ton in the bank so a pre-nup seemed silly if it weren't for the house. I told him that I'm ready to combine finances and plan long term with him, but I wanted a pre-nup agreement just for the house. It's a non-negotiable for me that my daughter inherits the house. He wasn't happy with this. He said that $1M split 3 ways is enough for all 3 kids to get a headstart in life. I disagree, I paid 80% of the mortgage by myself and Camila is my only child. She can have her dream life (working as a hair stylist, living in the Bay Area) with this house but will be unhappy (have to move out to a less desirable area) if it's split.
I spoke to Camila about this and she agrees that she should get the house and said she always planned on inheriting it, just like I always planned on giving it to her.
