Backstory: I (28M) was looking through some old photos at my mothers house a couple years ago and discovered a wedding picture of my aunt (50s/F) and a strange man I’d never met before, who is not the uncle I know.
My mother told me all about my aunts first marriage that she’s kept hidden from the kids because she’s very religious. The husband’s name was ‘Adam’ (fake name, relevant for later)
My cousin (34F) is the daughter of my aunt with the secret first marriage. She is pregnant again and they are picking a girls and a boys name because they want to be surprised.
My cousin wants to name the baby Adam if it’s a boy. My aunt has been saying very negative things about the name, how much she hates it, and how my cousin is ruining everything by naming her first possible grandson that name.
She has kept going on and on. My cousin and her husband really love the name and it would be a tribute to her husbands dad who passed on a couple years ago.
My cousin and I had a play date with our children at my mothers house and she was talking about this whole situation.
She confided in me about how upset she is with everything since she’s so close to her mom, how she’s fallen in love with the name, and how bewildered she is on why her mom hates the name.
This is where I might be the AH. When she told me the name it clicked right away and I told her it was because that was her moms first husband’s name.
My cousin said her dad was her moms only husband and she knows this because her mom said she was a virgin when she married.
I was going to leave it at that but my cousin looked at me funny and asked why I would lie, how if someone lies about little things than you can’t really trust them.
I told her I wasn’t lying and she doubled down saying I was. So I told her to wait and I dug through my mother’s photos and found the wedding picture.
I showed it to my cousin and told her she should apologize because I wasn’t lying. This was her first husband and his name was, Adam.
She went into a tailspin of how much her mother has lied and I told her the only liar her was her mom not me. My cousin was not happy about that.
My cousin confronted her mother and now my aunt is furious with me and my mother for keeping the evidence, my uncle and my cousin is furious at my aunt.
AITA? I was just defending my honor and my aunt didn’t make me promise to keep her secret.
Edit: Clarification: My cousin is the daughter of my aunt and her current husband, the unc... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am currently 42F as is platonic soulmate Betty.
Now that weddings are happening here however with guest limitations the invites are coming in.
I currently have an issue with a friend of mine who has opted to extend a plus one to another friend Lora, who has only been with her boyfriend for <6 months but not to myself so I can bring Betty who I've been living with for the last 18 years. It would have been fine if Betty had gotten a separate invite as she is friends with the bride too but she didn't.
When I received the invite with no plus 1s I was a bit hurt because we've always had the invite extended to us ever since we purchased a house together 16 years ago.
So when I was catching up with Lora, she mentioned that she was bringing her boyfriend to the wedding so I asked if she got a plus 1 and she said yes and then asked me I got one for Betty or if Betty was invited. I said no, there was an awkward pause so I just said, it's hard with guest limits and we moved on.
I ended up RSVPing no however because it's her wedding and I wasn't going to make a fuss. I figured it wouldn't be a big deal but I got a call from the bride asking me for a reason. I kept deflecting but she starting asking if she had offended me or was it because we hadn't kept in touch much during lockdown so I thought I would be honest and tell her it was because Betty hadn't been invited. She pointed out that Betty wasn't my SO and I told her Betty is my platonic SO and had been for 18 years where as Lora had only known her bloke for less than 6 months so he hardly counts as an SO.
She said I was being unreasonable because the SO title was for romantic relationships and weddings are to celebrate romantic unions but I told her I felt it was unreasonable that Betty hadn't been invited. She told me I couldn't dictate her guest list and and I could tell things weren't going to be resolved so I finished the call by telling her that under no circumstance was I wanting her to extend an invite to Betty if she felt her guest list couldn't accommodate it but she should respect that I had RSVP'd no. I also wished her all the best for her wedding day. She was still not happy but accepted the outcome of the call (or so I thought).
I think she's gone and vented to Lora because Lora reached out to me. She said gently, I should go because the bride had basically escaped an abusive marriage and found love so her first wedding didn't really count. I told Lora though that I'm a little over... keep reading on reddit ➡
Bro, I'm 17 and yesterday I played minecraft PVP duels until my finger went numb, and then I PVP'd with my middle finger instead.
Only one girl has ever called me cute, and she's gay.
I'm putting a meme flair because it's funny, but it's all true .
Edit: y'all are commenting too fast for me to reply :|
For the states that have the minimum marriage age set to younger than 18, they all need parental consent. I really think if you are two young to sign yourself away to someone else, you shouldn't be getting married.
Heck, in some states, females can get married as young as 12 and 14 (MA, AK, VT). What 12/14 year old should be getting married if they can't even support themselves economically (OK, unless you inherit a great deal of money, but that's not the majority of the population). And they'd need parental consent to get married, get a job, pretty much do anything? Looking at all the child marriage problem in the world, it essentially ends their childhood, curtails their education, and minimize their economical opportunities. And if sex ed wasn't taught properly it really risks the health of both parties and the risk of teenage pregnancy is much higher.
I did not look into when this law was last changed, but maybe if this was the 1800s the age would make more sense since people did have a shorter life span. But this is the 21st century we are talking about... happy to hear how we can justify the age.
When I was about 9 years old, I realized my mom was having an affair for years on my military dad. I did not say anything as I was really worried what would happen if I said anything. When I was about 12 years old, I found my dad looking at pictures of our family and tearing up and I couldn't take it and I told him about moms affair. Fastforward 5 years and I live full time with dad and his new wife and step sister and our lives have improved so much since leaving mom.
Well grandpa on dad's side has been pressuring my dad to get a paternity test as he wants to make sure that "I am his grand daughter". This is getting really intense as grandpa may pass away soon and he says he doesn't know if he should leave us anything if he doesn't even know...
Well my dad has resisted this for years and saying it doesn't matter. But now things have changed as I have half sibling on the way. I am totally happy and fine with this, but for some reason my dad has started to change his mind about the paternity dna test thing. He says he is worried that I won't receive help with my college or anything, but im worried he is wondering if he should care about me or just my new sibling.
I am not sure how much money my grandpa has, but he does have a big house and a lot of property so I guess it's important. I would rather just continue with our relationship how it is... but I don't know what to do now and i haven't been able to sleep over this.
What do you think I should do?
TlDR: dad says we should get paternity test for me, but im worried he won't love me if it goes wrong.
Plenty of people would view sex outside your marriage as grounds for divorce because sex is so important but call you trivial and selfish for leaving your spouse if they never have sex with you because come on its not that important.
Not sure how to post image links to FDS. Anyways, this was found on arr badwomensanatomy. Just disgusting. If I were a Indian female, I'd never get married.
So I was on social media the other day when i saw a person in the comments section that claimed that Athiests could not have good relationships with their family, friends, loved ones etc.
We have all heard of the classic christian arguement of " Athiests don't have morals because they don't believe in God." But now there is a person who is saying that we can't have a relationship with other people because we " All have broken relationships with our parents and family. We have nonexistent relationships with others due to the fact we are incapable of loving and caring for other people." The comment was on a video that had nothing to do with religion.
As you could expect, this person got a lot of replies mainly from people saying that everything they said was Bullshit. Unfortunately, there were other Christians who backed them up and even claimed that they were right. I have never seen this much delusion in my life. We went from Christians calling us sociopaths to us immediately having "broken relationships with others" when we say that we are Atheists.
Context: r/ABCDCircleJerk is a circlejerk subreddit based on r/ABCDesis, which is a subreddit meant for South Asians who live in Western countries, mostly the children of immigrants.
The word "fob" stands for "fresh off the boat", meaning recent immigrants.
r/ABCDCircleJerk user u//Grop3rCl3v3land makes a post saying "Arranged marriages in the west need to be banned".
The post ends by saying: Arranged marriages encourage the socially inept, uphold caste, and allows the rejects of society (like incels) to reproduce. It is a danger to our society."
It's worth noting that this user is the most frequent poster on the small circlejerk subreddit, keeping it alive.
A user says: Why is this white dude so opinionated on arranged marriages?, starts a long argument on whether u//Grop3rCl3v3land is secretly white or if they're brown. He claims: "I'm brown. I just like clowning on embarassing brown guys".
Same user replies later on: "I’m not, but this guy is a clear larper. He seems obsessed with pushing this 'brown men are all dumb incels' thing".
Other user says:
The crack whore mother with IQ 75 who shits out 5-6 kids on welfare from 5 different men, or the oh so destructive arranged marriage of fobs who lean a bit more traditional but don't harm anyone and contribute positively to society and the economy.
OP responds by ranting about the types of people who should or shouldn't be breeding.
In another rant (no real drama in this on... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'd like to hear what turns you off about your spouse whether you're male or female.
For me, (28F) its when I have to pick up after, clean, cook for, etc my husband (30M) every single day. We both work full time and have a child. I know people say, "Just ask and men will do it!" Well, asking him never works on the first time and I get to feeling like I have to coax him into or demand responsibility like a child.
I really try to limit the nagging and treat him with respect, but after YEARS of wiping his urine off the toilet, wiping off his excessive crumbs, cooking every meal for him, picking up his trash, etc..... It's hard to find any respect.
Other than this issue, our marriage is great. We don't fight over really anything else. Sigh. 20 mins of his effort each day could save our marriage.
I went through my husband's phone. I saw porn.. (nothing new) I went through his reddit history where he talks about how unattractive I've become. How he's not sexually turned on by me. I found messages with other women. We have both gained weight and I've been working really hard to lose it. I meal prep and workout everyday... I lost 30 pounds and I'm getting closer to my pre marriage weight. He continues to get bigger and play video games all the time.. I confronted him about the other women and he yelled at me and said he didn't want to be with me anymore. He kept getting in my face and grabbing me. I said okay, okay that's fine. I was really calm because I was scared. I told him I would make arrangements. I have no family here... I moved out of state with him 4 years ago. All his family are here. Now he's stomping around the house and being angry. We both work from home now... I keep leaving whatever room he is in. I obviously need to make arrangements but I'm torn. I don't know what to do. Adding pets and children into the mix is the icing on the cake. I need to throw up. I'm so sick to my stomach litterally. I know he will calm down and say he doesn't want me to leave. I'm done regardless. I have a couple grand in my account but not enough to cover everything. I feel like I did this by letting myself go, but what about him? I have to tell him to shower. I'm lost. I've asked for breaks multiple times to go visit my family and he wouldn't let me unless he was there. I've tried to make things work but infidelity I can't deal with. We can't even have a calm conversation without him flying off the handle. Glad I waisted my youth with him. I'll be 29 soon and he's almost 40. I'm an idiot.