One of my (24F) male friends, I’ll call Jack (25M), is a bit of a lad and very good looking. Jack basically thinks that lad points are important, he’s always going on about how many girls he’s been with and how high is body count is. I lived with him in a house share for a while and whenever he bought a girl home, he’d make sure to parade her around by introducing her, spend 15-20mins in his room having sex, then come out and strut around naked or in his boxers..yes he really would. I remember saying a few times why are you out here, you have a beautiful girl in your room and you’re not in there with her?
This behaviour was pretty common for him and even though he was an almighty douche, we were still friends. Anyway after about 8 months of living together, after a drunken night, me and Jack ended up in bed together. Honestly it was terrible and having slept with him I realised something. Jack had a big dick (which I knew because of his strutting) but he thought that having a big dick... keep reading on reddit ➡
Watching yourself lose all of your hair and not being able to do anything about it is an agonizing process and no one deserves to be made fun of for it. It is just as bad as any other form of body shaming and people who do it should be called out on it. If you think making fun of people who are fat, skinny, small, big etc etc is bad, but making fun of bald people is okay, then you are a hypocrite.
I am well aware that Reddit is predominantly male, but still there is a large amount of women who use it too.
It is literally impossible to talk about female related issues, such as rape, sexual assault/harassment, sexism, being a woman in male-dominated space without someone immediately jumping in with "BUT WHAT ABOUT MEN? WE ARE ALSO RAPED AND HARASSED BUT NOBODY TALK ABOUT THAT!" and have 100+ people agree with him
My guy, it is talked about, even though not as much. Most women fully acknowledge the problems and try to help by spreading more information about it. Also, can't a woman just be able to vent for a second? Just to let her frustrations out?
I specifically use the example of infamous cases of female teachers who have "sexual relationships" with their (male) students, i.e. statutory rape. I don't know if it's true that these female teachers get less prison time than male counterparts, but what is true is that these cases aren't taken as seriously as their reverse counterparts (i.e. when it's a male teacher instead). So many men lash out at feminists for this fact: that it's feminism's fault that these male victims are dismissed and their rapes are downplayed. They say whenever this happens to a boy he gets bombarded with comments calling him lucky and that it's a good thing.
But every time someone makes those comments, it's a man. Whenever I read through comments on the news articles reporting on these cases, literally 100% of the people making these comments are men. People who say "i wish that had happened to me when i was his age" - all men. People who say "this shouldn't be a crime, he's lucky" - all men. I've yet to f... keep reading on reddit ➡
Asked a male walk in clinic doctor to refer me to a gynocologist due to chronic vaginal pain I have (on the inside). He then insists that gynos don't deal with that sort of thing and started talking to me as if I'm stupid for thinking they can help me lol. He insists that they only deal with pregnancies and such and then prescribes me an eczema cream which is meant for external skin use (it burned like a mf)
Anyways I've since gone to another doctor who immediately referred me to a gyno. It's just crazy to think some doctors don't know that chronic vaginal pain requires gyno attention??
I’m not a cop that kills innocent people I’m not a slave owner or a descendant of a slave owner I didn’t have financial privileges
I grew up poor. My parents gave me 2$ a week allowance, which had to pay towards my school clothes every year. I had to work at the family business at the age of 13. (Small local deli, not like my parents were getting rich, dad worked two jobs) I’m 40 years old now, I’ve worked for what I have. I went to college for one year and stopped because it wasn’t affordable enough to justify going. I make 35k a year and have to have roommates to survive.
Tell me again how I’m privileged?
Stop grouping all whites together. Stop grouping all cops together. Stop grouping all blacks together. We’re all in this together, just treat each other with respect and go on about your day.
I had an incredibly uncomfortable experience yesterday and a first for me. I'm a trans woman, about 15 months into transitioning. I was getting back from getting groceries, when I notice two men in work clothes staring at me. They're leaning on a car on the edge of the apartment complex, smoking. I looked away and started to bring everything inside. Each time I walked back, they're still watching. They didn't even pretend of hide it. When I came for my last load, they walked ahead of me into one of the apartments in my little cluster. The entire time, including when they were walking directly away from me, they were turned to look. I stood there contemplating staying in my car. I've never been looked at like that before. I've been catcalled and have had pushy men make unwanted sexual comments, but nothing like this. The male gaze has never made me that uncomfortable. Before my transition, if a guy was interested and looking at me, there was some coy back and forth, which was not at all... keep reading on reddit ➡
Here is the twitter thread
Are you for or against this potential outing and which senator do you believe it to be?
Source: Am a Christian, grew up in a Christian household, have Christian friends in similar situations.
My parents have dictated that my sister and I not wear certain clothes around the house, because they can “cause our dad and brother to stumble.” Clothes like leggings, exercise shorts, etc. I have friends who cannot wear t shirts and go braless in their homes, because of their brothers. I was once told to change when I was wearing a muscle tank and sports bra—which completely covered all the important bits. My sister has pairs of shorts she can’t wear outside of her bedroom, or she’ll be told to change.
Parents who dictate these clothing rules to their daughters IN THEIR HOME create several massive problems for the family, specifically the girls.
First, massively, they ignore the problem of incest within the home that these dress codes imply. If the men of the household struggle with lust to such a great degree that they are sexually attracted to their own FAMILY MEMBERS, ther... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm in a Facebook gaming group that is quite female dominated in terms of population (around 70/30), due to the nature of the group. It has some connections to my Uni and nearby Unis, which are also skewed towards women, and the nature of the games involved are more popular with women so naturally our group skews women.
The Facebook group has its own discord server which we use for voice chat in gaming sessions. I saw a post asking if anyone wants to join a scribble session (drawing game where people guess what you draw) with a link to the discord voice channel. Only 7 people showed up (there were some others but they left quickly). Me, 5 other girls and 1 guy.
I actually didn't know anyone at all since I'm not that active, but I had a very fun time chatting with these people. What I noticed halfway through is that the way we treated each other was the exact same way we treated the sole guy in the group. No one harassed him, asked him for nudes, hit on him, aggressively asked him for... keep reading on reddit ➡
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80% of the time sexual encounters with my partners go something like this (at least initially): I initiate kissing, I progress us further, I undress her but undress myself, she receives oral and then just tells me she's ready and wants to have sex. Sometimes this is enough to get me going, but a lot of the times it isn't. For goodness sake, I'm just asking for something...whip it out, give it a 2 second tug whatever!
I've always been selfless when it comes to pleasing my partners. For them, there's a steady buildup the entire way through. They feel desired consistently throughout. Unfortunately, that's simply not what I experience. I don't feel wanted because they do not initiate or even touch my genitals. There's a big difference between a woman that lets you sleep with her, and a woman that wants you to sleep with her.
Don't get me wrong, some of my partners have been amazing team players--kudos to you ladies! Communication sometimes works for me, but sometimes it doesn't.... keep reading on reddit ➡
Controversy in soccer, tennis, basketball, etc. highlights that most female athletes make less money than male athletes. However, they’re often paid similar percentages of the revenue they generate - the inequality is because women’s sports don’t bring in as much revenue.
Suppose a company made two products: one with wide appeal, say, ice cream, and one with more niche appeal, say, quinoa. The company hires salespeople to sell each product and pays everyone 30% commission. Of course the ice cream salespeople will earn more money because they sell more ice cream because more people want ice cream than quinoa. It has nothing to do with who’s a better salesperson, it’s just based on their market share. No one would say that’s unfair just because they both have the title “salesperson”.
So if male and female athletes in a given sport are paid the same percentage of their organization’s revenue, how is that unfair?
Edit: I regret everything. Ya filthy animals. 🤦♀️😂
Hi all. I’m a huuuuge Dresden Files fan. Probably in the my top 3 (if not number one) of my favorite fantasy series. I’ve found the ‘Male Gaze’ aspect to be a bit corny at times but it’s never undercut my love for the books.
I’ve noticed that this is probably the main criticism of the books as a whole with some (reddit) critics being outright disgusted by it (@menwritingwomen). The depiction of Molly is particularly criticized along the lines of sexualizing a minor.
As a guy it’s never bothered me because, truth be told, it’s something that’s always floating in the back of MY head. You see someone that’s objectively attractive but that’s also inappropriate for you to notice such as a cousin, a minor etc. You have zero intention of doing anything but it’s something that you notice nonetheless. In Harry’s case he is surrounded by supernatural beauties AND, as far as I understand it, he doesn’t jerk off cause of wizard stuff so.....I don’t know I guess that’s how I read it.
HOWEVER,... keep reading on reddit ➡
The same liberal crowd who claims to rage against racism states inane and insulting things such as 'biological sex is a white construct', 'there was no concept of sex in POC cultures' etc. As if we were all brainless savages who never did any scientific inquiry about the biological differences between females and males, as if only white people scienced. And the fact that there are WHITE liberals who claim all this and have the nerve to speak over us and claim better knowledge of our cultures than us, is infuriating. And the way they try to IMPOSE this worldview on us is so reminiscent of white colonialist tactics in the past that 'educated'(read brainwashed) POC
You can feel free to ask me anything this is a throw away since my main account is focused on happier stuff and I want to keep it that way. I feel this ama is important though as it could shed some light on the topic of male abuse victims and as one I think it is something we as males need to discuss more since it does happen.
If anything, the protests happening in the US have woken me up to my privilege even more than I was already aware. I knew I was privileged because of my skin, gender and sexuality, I just was unable to grasp the concept and realize how much.
I really want to fix that.
I’ve just purchased “I’m Still Here” by Austin Channing Brown and “So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo by recommendation.
I’m looking for more books like these, that speak of the hardships of what people go through that a white, straight, able bodied male cannot comprehend.
Edit - Blown away by the amount of suggestions! Thank you. Looks like I have quite a big to read list after today.
Ok so let me explain lol.
My bf hasn’t been taking quarantine very well, so, in an attempt to try and cheer him up, I’m planning on creating a parody of From The Vault/Secret Lair with the theme of Magic’s best hunks 😂
I already have Kynaios & Tiro and Kresh, the Bloodbraided (the From the Vault: Legends printing, not shards lol) on the docket. What do you guys recommend? I would prefer if we could keep it in the sub $5 range, but I’m open to all suggestions! Even if they’re not legendary creatures, per se.
Edit: y’all I appreciate you, but if I get one more Oko or enthralling victor recommendation, imma flip 😂 jk lol all recommendations are appreciated, but also please take the time to see if yours has already been mentioned if you can 👀
The basic premise behind this is that a lot of women assume that men are treated like women when it comes to emotional issues, so any lack of emotional intelligence from a man is blamed on stubbornness, toxic behavior, or a variety of other reasons. What these people often don't understand is simply how different life is as a man.
To put it simply, men aren't treated like women and don't have the same expectations and experiences that women do. It's much easier to judge someone when your entire life you have (in general) been expected to be emotionally available and socialized to investigate other people's emotional states. In general, living as a man doesn't push development of those skills. Most men are far more emotionally isolated than women, because we are taught to deal with our feelings internally and not express them or ask others about them.
This becomes an incredibly frustrating conversation to have because a lot of women don't understand what that feels like in every... keep reading on reddit ➡
Almost every mod I see benefits only female characters. For example, female armor is a lot more consistent on Nexus and its higher quality than male armor. This goes with other mods too. Animation mods, skin retexture mods, etc. Also, a lot of the armor mods for females is all skimpy or completely nude. It gets boring to just see every page on Nexus filled with female "armor". One more thing that bugs me is that most of the male armors or skin retexture are used to make them so barbaric. Why do the females get the elegant things, and the males feel so primitive? I play as an assassin/archer, but there are no good assassin armors for males. They are all only for Oldrim. As a male, I get why people choose to play as a female with certain mods, but there are also players who like to use male characters, and we are often forgotten. I'd just like mod authors to expand their range of modding to also give players like me what they want. By the way, I am not trying to be sexist in any way. The... keep reading on reddit ➡
I usually post on atb but decided to post here since I thought it'd be a bit less one sided
Basically, do you think women should be paid the same for playing the same sport, for example, WNBA and NBA players being paid the same for playing basketball
I personally think they shouldn't, but I'm curious to hear about other stances
First off, I don't actually know if it's popular or not or if I'm the only one who has noticed this, but it's been bugging me for quite some time and I feel like I just have to let it out.
I notice that a lot of female main characters that are written by male authors are often sexualised in a not-so subtle way even when the book has absolutely nothing to do with sex at all. Like I usually always come across a comment about breasts in general and sometimes descriptions of it which is weird and it totally takes me out of the story because I feel perversed as a female.
I also notice this thing happening in male main characters written by male authors which I don't know why. It's so weird because I've never come across a book written by a female author which makes comments or descriptions about the male genital in a casual way.
So has anyone else ever noticed this? And am I the only one that gets frustrated with this sort of thing?
(This is obviously not taking into account of smutty... keep reading on reddit ➡
So if you're a rising or graduating Senior, this post will either be helpful or veryyy relatable, so please do read carefully
I'm going to argue that attending your state school or a top public university is better than attending an elite ivy league university if you wish to study computer science, and become a traditional software engineer or technical product manager at google, facebook, amazon, apple, microsoft, etc. you get the idea
First off, cost. I get that your parents come from an upper-middle class background and can pay for that, but don't underestimate just how much undergrad costs. For most students who cant get fin aid, it costs around 75k*4 = 300k for an undergrad education.
State schools on the other hand, especially if in-state, might cost around 30k, and can be done in 3 years with AP Credits. So, we're looking at 90k.
You've just saved 210k
Now, you're probably wondering "but, hey! ivies have prestige and lead to a better life and have more op... keep reading on reddit ➡
Heard this song in a 99 cents store today and I'm trying to figure it out. Song is in Bb major and at the crest of the chorus he goes up to a Bb and then down an octave. It's like soft rock/pop if this helps.
Edit: It's "The Remedy" by Jason Mraz
I (24F) have this problem where I still think some handsome stranger is going to sweep me off my feet and we are going to fall madly in love. I work around all women and I live alone, so I don’t have many interactions with men besides the ones in my family. Any time I do talk to a somewhat attractive man, I immediately romanticize the whole interaction. I get nervous and anxious and I start creating scenarios in my head. I feel like I’m living in this fantasy world. I don’t know how to stop, it’s like I’m some little girl still waiting for her Prince Charming. I hate it.