Every year for my oldestβs daughterβs birthday my mom takes her to a fancy tea room. This year was a little different, they arenβt doing normal seating, you can only reserve private party rooms. Since she had to rent a whole room, she said why donβt we include everyone(daughter was fine with that) since there is more than enough space.
My youngest 2 are 5 and 3. They have never been to a fancy tea room or anywhere that fancy honestly. The private room was small, just enough space for the table and chairs really.
my younger kids were getting rambunctious so I decided to take them outside whenever I felt like they were getting a little too energetic. I never let it get to the point that they disrupted tea. We went outside, got some wiggles out, then I reminded them that inside we behave appropriately and calmly, stay seated, inside voices, use manners, etc
The third time I decided to take them out my mom stopped me and said βlast timeβ. I didnβt know what she was talking about so I just kept going. She came outside and reiterated that this was the last βwiggle breakβ the kids would be getting as itβs inappropriate to keep leaving the table like that.
I pushed back that this was their first formal etiquette experience and while they are learning, they need time to get their energy out and be their best when back inside. No one is worried about what we are doing, just leave us be and go back and enjoy the tea with my oldest.
My mom just said that sheβll take note to never do a family tea since itβs clearly too much for us to handle.
I talked to my sister and she sees both sides. She thinks I shouldβve just said ok when our mom decided no more outside breaks since it was her tea brunch that she planned and was paying for. On the other hand, she thinks itβs petty of our mom to make that demand to begin with because it wasnβt hurting anyone
What would you do after? Your wedding ends at 6pm. You probably want dinner. I figure weβll go to our favorite restaurant for dinner (heck yes still wearing my dress!), maybe with the close family? Or would you go just the two of you? Go watch the sunset on the beach (my dress is only $200, I donβt mind it getting sandy)? I like the idea of a day time wedding, but I normally leave weddings half tipsy and go home and go to bed. Iβm just not sure what to do with the rest of the evening or what to encourage my guests to do. Wedding will be in Cambria, CA (beach town about 40 mins away from Paso wine country).
My future aunt-in-law wants to host a βbridal luncheonβ for me and the bridesmaids the day of the wedding. It might be a Southern thing? It wouldnβt be eating out; we would just eat together in a room at the venue.
I think it sounds nice, Iβm just wondering about the timeline with getting ready for a 5pm ceremony. Does anyone have experience with these, or planning your hair, make up, and photos around a lunch the day of the wedding? Is there anything else I should know or expect before talking to the aunts about it? Thanks!
