This morning my neighbors kid knocked on my door. He told me that his he went to school, but didn't know they got shut down again. So, he came back home, but his mom and sister had already left for work and he didn't have a key to their apartment (our landlord has very strict rules about the number of keys).
He said his sister doesn't get home until 2pm and he didn't know what to do. So I tried calling his mom and sister. Neither picked up and he didn't know anyone else to call, so I left them messages about her son/brother being home early.
In the mean time though it was too cold outside for him to wait outside and I was already running late for work. I wasn't comfortable with him alone in my apartment all day, so I asked him if he knew how to start the dryers in the laundry room. He said he did. So I gave him a bunch of quarters to use turn on all the dryers in the laundry room and told him to wait in there. The laundry room doesn't have a heater, but since its so small the dryers really warm up the room. I sometimes get sweaty in there just because it gets so hot, so I knew he would be warm enough. Then I left for work.
When I get home though my neighbor (the kids mom) confronted me. She was really angry that I had left her kid home alone and basically said I was a fucked up person to think it was okay to leave any child alone like that all day in the cold. I told her how I gave him quarters for the dryers to keep warm. She said he couldn't use them because he has some sort of sensitivity to the sound and the dryers are way too loud for even a normal person to handle. I disagree on that part since I've waited around in that room for awhile when it was busy. She said I should have made sure my "little plan" worked and there weren't any problems before I left. Also that I could have gotten him some food (didn't have any food in my apartment) just in case. Lastly she said that a decent person would take care of a child in need and I'm obviously not one.
Edit. I don’t know his age, but he was around 4 1/2 feet tall. I also found out he goes to the middle school that’s a few blocks away.
I just wasted $59 on 6 pair of No Show Extra Low socks from Nice Laundry. I read online that they stayed up, a problem I've encountered with some other (but not all) no show socks. The socks came with a Gamechanger Guarantee ("Love your first pair or its on us"), which is really no guarantee at all. The first pair I tried wearing seemed to stay up (sort of) for the first wearing but they had a stiff feeling to them which I thought was because they were new. I washed them and the other socks hoping they would improve after washing. They didn't. Now, if I walk just a few steps in the socks, the socks fall down in the back from my heel and end up stuck in the bottom of my shoe. The non slip silicone on the back of the socks, allegedly designed to keep them from falling off, is very thin and small. I contacted Nice Laundry about their Gamechanger Guarantee and was told I couldn't return/exchange any of the socks because I had washed them. I haven't even owned the socks for a week. Seriously? To make matters worse, the pair I tried to wear today already have a hole in them near the toe. Worst....socks....ever! Live and learn.
Edit: Wholy crap I didn't realize it'd be this big of a response...I get it for all of you that have kids (I do as well he's just a lil one so I'm not there just yet hahah) But someone else in the comments I think said what I was trying to say in my LPT but much better:
Do all your chores (yes I know thet never end but the ones that seem most pressing) before your weekend, if possible.
TLDR - I’ve organised a “power hour” with my mum 4x per week where we effectively swap being each others “life assistant” for an hour each day, 4x days a week.
I’ve listened to multiple ADHD books that suggest “chore swapping” with a friend. I’ve had this idea to ask my mum if she’d be up for it for weeks but was convinced she would think it’s a stupid idea, but I finally asked her the other day if she’d be up for it and she was!
I have my assessment on Friday (low key terrified I will be told I’m just lazy/anxious/depressed and be prescribed another antidepressant) and my mum is almost has ADHD as well, although is in a little bit of denial.
So I called her the other day and proposed this:
At least 4 days a week, we will visit each other for 1 hour at roughly the same time, pending appointments.
We will not be upset if the other person is late and we only have an hour - if we’re late, we get less time. We will expect each other to be late so we aren’t upset.
We both have to be doing something, even if we don’t feel like it.
We will set a timer for an hour, with a reminder 5 minutes before the timer is up.
At the start of the hour we’ll set “goals” for the hour and keep each other on track.
We can help each other with anything - it’s not limited to cleaning. The example I gave my mum on the phone was that I’ve been struggling to start my tax return, so I just need someone to be there and keep pushing me to do it.
We had our first power hour yesterday and it was AMAZING. When my mum arrived (10 minutes late), I told her I had 5 people I had been meaning to pay back for various things, and that how dirty our laundry was was stressing me out. So she made me sit down and I wrote a list of who I had to pay back while she started the laundry.
She called out to me a few times from the laundry to make sure I hadn’t got distracted.
After I’d finished paying everyone back, I got up to help her with the laundry and she asked where our mop was. I said it was broken and I’d been meaning to order a new one, so she suggested I order it right then and there, so I did!
Once I’d finished that I neatened the entire house. I like to play a game in my head where I pretend I’m a realtor getting a house ready to be inspected but I only have a short time and can’t actually “clean” anything because it’ll take too long, I just have to make each room “look” good from a distance.
When the hour was up, the house was so tidy and the laundry was spotl... keep reading on reddit ➡
My household is just me and my husband, we have no kids. Yet somehow we always have a mountain of laundry, both dirty and clean/needing to be folded.
I’ve tried doing one load a day, which works for a few days, but then if I put it off it snowballs very quickly. My husband would be willing to help, but definitely doesn’t go out of his way.
Has anyone mastered the art of keeping up with their laundry? Any tips or hacks you’ve come across? If so, I’d appreciate any advice!
Edit: thank you for all of the replies! Some have truly made me laugh, because other than working out almost daily, we don’t do anything out of the ordinary. I appreciate all of the tips! My 2021 goal is to get my laundry under control, and I appreciate the advice!
35 yo female 5'7" (170 cm) 180lbs (81.6kg) Caucasian and Native American I have previously had high blood pressure, but as of the last year or so my blood pressure has become very LOW for undetermined reasons, with my most recent reading being 101/60
Primary symptoms: Decreasing general health for the past ~3 years, primarily presenting as severe fatigue, syncope + nausea when overheated or standing up too quickly, needing a minimum of 10-12 hours of sleep every night to feel rested, general malaise.
I have asthma, ADD, MDD. Drink occasionally; previous occasional smoker but quit ~5 years ago. Same for recreational drugs -- on occasion when I was younger, but none for at least 5 years. I had previously been diagnosed with Rheumatic Fever in 2015, which seems VERY relevant here, but every doctor I've tried to discuss it with brushes it off when I mention it.
So, last month I finally got a referral to a cardiologist, after years of trying to get one, and I was given a heart monitor to wear at home for two weeks, and then on Dec 23rd I had an echocardiogram ultrasound done. After trying and failing to get ahold of them by phone, Friday I FINALLY received a letter in the mail with my results. The front page of that letter states that all my tests were normal, and no follow-up is needed.
THEN, that same letter goes on to detail in the next few pages that I have a small left ventricle, sinus tachycardia with an average heartbeat ranging from 90-150 bpm, paradoxical septal motion, mild pulmonary valve regurgitation, a thickened mitral valve, mild mitral valve regurgitation, trivial tricuspid valve regurgitation, and then it states that my "right ventricular systolic pressure could not be estimated due to inability to detect peak tricuspid regurgitation" and that my pulmonary valve stats were also inconclusive due to "poor visualization".
The "inconclusives" I suppose could go either way, and I don't know if those are something I should try to get more testing for to clear up or not. But the rest definitely does not sound "normal" to me, and based on a quick Google search most of those things seem to be more common in someone who has had previous cardiac surgery, which I have not, and/or they usually go hand-in-hand with severe pulmonary hypertension, and as previously mentioned, my blood pressure has been consistently LOW, to the point of being almost abnormally so, for at least the past year.
So, is there anyone who can confirm that all those ab... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m so sick of people in their 20s complaining about how they don’t know how to do the basic task of cooking. Like, most teens now how to do it. You’re an adult, you can do it yourself. I get that not everyone is going to be a 5 star chef, but come on. Google a recipe and buy the ingredients at a store. You don’t need to post to social media about how hard your life is because you couldn’t be bothered to learn and everyday task.
The easiest solution to this would be to fold/hang the clothes back up, but I’m looking for a solution that would help my partner with ADHD.
Posting this here since I wanted to share this achievement. My mom always did everything for me and never taught me basic adulting things, so I had no idea how actually laundry machines worked (25 male). Managed to figure them out in the end, tho I did have a slight meltdown cuz someone moved my clothes when the cycle was done and I thought I had broken some laundry rule everyone knew and had failed at adulting by having my clothes moved. However my friend taught me where I went wrong and I figured operating the drier out on my own. Slowly learning how to adult
this is small one. sorry for any wording/grammatical error, english is not my first language.
for some context: i live with my girlfriend in an apartment with our own washing machine. she's a nurse (but her shifts are normal, no covid-related stuff) and i'm a student, learning for my bar exam and working two small jobs. both jobs are still on, bc one is essential and the other one is ok wo work from home.
because i don't work every day and am home i do most of the laundry. i don't have a problem with that! today i was loading the washing machine when my gf came home from work and said "oh nice, you're washing. let me put some of my stuff in!" to which i replied "sure, but don't overload it".
she was immediately pissed and said "well, but i need to, bc you never wash my stuff".
now mind you: we have a laundry container. we use it together. i put the clothes which are inside of it in the washing machine, i don't care if it's hers or mine. she has a chair, where she kinda "parks" clothes which she's going to wear later again. of course i could look through all that stuff, smell it or something to check if it's ready to be washed, but i actually think that it's not to much to ask that she puts used stuff (which she doesn't want to wear again) in the laundry container?
i just answered, that i'm mostly doing the laundry, so ofc if she doesn't put it in the laundry container, i don't put it in the machine.
anyway, she stomped out of the room and said sarcastically "yeah, i'm so glad i have you. i don't do anything, you do everything."
i was a bit annoyed so i just said "yeah, if you'd do the laundry more often you can check how many of your clothes are inside"
so AITB? she wants me to text her when i'm doing laundry, to know if there's anything outside of the laundry container that needs to be washed. but i think it's stupid: most of the time it takes forever for her to answer, because she literally is WORKING. and bc she (and i sometimes) are working shifts, there's nothing like "we only wash on the evening" or something possible.
My mother in law is nuts. Haven’t heard that before have ya?! Lol!
For the past 15 years, she has been overbearing. Inserting her opinion where it’s not welcome, and I’ve been politely but firmly standing my ground the whole damn time.
My father in law is a professional gaslighter. He intentionally says words incorrectly, and then shames you for saying the word correctly.
Example: He says “covert 19”. When I say “covid”, he corrects me. I point out he’s wrong, he asks Alexa “how do you spell covert 19?”...and being the AI she is, she spells the word covert. I then point out NUMEROUS news pages and articles, etc with covid. He states well, obviously Alexa knows something we don’t. He’s being a douche bag.
Now the fun part.
I have two sons. One is 9, one is 4. They’ve watched and hosted my 9 year old for sleepovers for years, starting when he was 2-3. They’ve never once asked my 4 year old to visit let alone sleepover. Not alone, or with his brother. My four year old is getting to the age now that he understands he’s being left out. We explained to them that he’s feeling left out, and asked that they invite him for a sleepover or a day with them. They declined citing that he is “too young” for them to handle. (My parents regularly watch both boys, separately and together and my parents are the same age as the in-laws). Our response was, okay, then the oldest son isn’t going to be allowed to sleepovers or one on one time either because that’s not fair to our youngest. But we stated we would visit with them both, and they were invited down to visit. We just don’t want one child getting special treatment over the other.
Note: throughout our youngests entire life, they’ve made comments consistently such as “maybe you should’ve only had one”, “hopefully you can handle two”, “the boys are so different...” etc. so it’s been made abundantly clear there is favoritism.
Cue the drama. They absolutely lost it. They sent me photos on text of them crying “because we are devastated over not having (oldest sons name)”. They said nothing about the youngest. They said we were taking the oldest away, we were punishing them, etc.
It’s been going for four days. I’m over it. I said when they can be calm and rational, to talk to us and let us know a good time for us all to visit.
Ugh. I’m so fucking over this bullshit. I told my husband, I’ll be civil but I’m done being nice. I’m not going out of my way to be nice, to talk to them, to play their games. I’ll acc... keep reading on reddit ➡